The Blame Game: Dodging Gaslight Grenades and Sarcastic Sniper Fire

Can you be ghosted by the very platforms designed to spark connections? In today's episode, we navigate the alarming trend of users being banned from dating apps without clear justification. We share real-life stories, including one from a friend who found himself unjustly ousted from the digital dating world, and dissect the phenomenon known as 'revenge reporting.' Is Match.com wielding too much power without accountability? Is the quest for love being unfairly hindered by an algorithmic judge and jury? Join us as we explore the implications of a system where one's dating fate can be sealed by a single, spiteful report. It's a conversation about love, technology, and the quest for justice in the age of the swipe. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

We're peeling back the layers of Tom Sandoval's rumored breakup and the mysterious dynamics with his new flame, while unpacking the Bieber baby news and what it means for Justin and Hailey's public persona. Plus, we're holding up David and Victoria Beckham as the gold standard for enduring love in the limelight. Join us as we dissect the nuances of high-profile romances and ponder the question: Is a cheater always a cheater, or can love truly conquer all? Tune in, subscribe, and let's navigate the complexities of love and fame together. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

It's not just about what you say, but how you say it—tone matters! We're exploring the concept of tone monitoring and how it can deflect from the real issues at hand. From Instagram insights to personal anecdotes, we unpack why your partner's tone can trigger you, and how to handle those moments without losing sight of the actual conversation. Join us as we decode the tone scale, discuss how to address a tone monitor, and reveal how to stay balanced between expressing emotions and maintaining respect. Whether it's a simple request to take out the trash or a deeper sign of relationship resentment, we're uncovering the impact of tone on your love life. So, tune in, turn down the volume of your reactions, and let's get to the heart of what's really being communicated. Whether you're navigating a new relationship or fine-tuning a long-term partnership, understanding the subtleties of tone can be a game-changer. Don't miss this episode of It's Complicated, where we're turning up the insight and dialing down the drama. Subscribe, rate, and share with a friend who could use some tips on tone—it's a conversation you won't want to miss! Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

From the fine line between a playful tease and a hurtful jab to the infuriating prompt to "just calm down," we're dissecting the dynamics that can turn a simple conversation into a verbal minefield. In this episode, we explore the art of navigating through the murky waters of communication faux pas. We delve into expert Jefferson Fisher's strategies on how to respond to "I was just joking" and the slippery slope of gaslighting. Join us as we arm you with the comebacks that could save you from an emotional tailspin and help you hold your ground with poise. Remember, it's not just about the words you choose but how you deliver them. So, get ready to take notes because this episode might just change the way you argue, for good. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

As your trusted village in the realm of dating and relating, this episode is a treasure trove of insights inspired by the hits and misses of Netflix's Love is Blind. We dissect pivotal conversations to have with your partner—from the necessity of location sharing for trust to the weighty matters of handling finances as a couple. Do you need to share your past relationship history, or is that best left behind? And how do you navigate the tricky waters of conflict resolution styles? It's not just about the drama on screen; it's about applying these scenarios to your own love life. Whether it's spotting red flags through discussions about exes or aligning on core values like politics and family planning, we're serving up a reality check that's as entertaining as it is educational. So, whether you're single, taken, or it's complicated, tune in, learn, and laugh with us. And remember, subscribing and sharing is caring—help us grow our village even further by spreading the word. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

Ever wondered how a puppy can influence your dating life or what it's like to plan a wedding while juggling a busy schedule? This week's episode has it all! Rob shares the impact of a dog's "fear phase" on social interactions, Jen reveals the pressure of wedding planning to the importance of self-care, and Lauren updates us on her parents' trip to paradise. And if you're curious about high-end dating apps like The League, Rob's got a loophole that might just get you swiping sooner than you think. We also dive deep into the importance of asking for help and the role of self-care in managing life's demands. Whether it's delegating tasks with your partner or taking a timeout for a glazed donut face, their conversation is a reminder of the importance of balance. Subscribe, share, and join the conversation as we navigate the complicated world of dating and relationships together. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

In this heated episode, we peel back the layers of those dreaded words, "We need to talk," and plunge into the fiery depths of relationship arguments. We're not just talking petty bickering over unwashed dishes; we're discussing the explosive, therapy-inducing showdowns that can leave even the strongest bonds in peril. Join us as we sift through the wisdom of couple therapist Trevor, who shares three game-changing practices to prevent almost every argument before it spirals out of control. From the art of emotional regulation to the power of staying curious, we unpack the tools that could be the difference between a lovers' spat and a full-blown war of words. Whether you're a match-their-energy type or a cool-headed Buddha, we explore the nuances of communication that could save your next date night from disaster. Tune in, take notes, and let's navigate the minefield of confrontation together. Subscribe, share, and add a little strategy to your love language with It's Complicated. Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

We dive deep into the quick unraveling of reality TV's golden couple from The Golden Bachelor post-vows and the allure of televised romance. Does the glitz of the small screen tarnish the sanctity of marriage, or are these quickie divorces just a sign of the times? Join us as we explore the expectations versus the stark reality of love in the limelight. Tune in as we question the motives behind seeking love on TV and the impact it has on the already complex world of relationships. Subscribe, share, and don't miss a moment of the drama on this episode of It's Complicated—because when it comes to love, we're all just trying to figure it out IRL. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

We tackle the age-old question of timing in relationships—when is it the right moment to pop the question? Join us as we dissect the societal pressures, personal expectations, and the unspoken rules of engagement. From the anticipation of proposal season to the intricacies of who should propose and when, we're unwrapping the layers of commitment, love, and the ticking biological clock. Whether it's navigating financial readiness or deciphering the silent screams of an ultimatum, we delve into the complexities that couples face on the road to matrimony. Subscribe, share, and tune in for a candid discussion on the matrimonial countdown and the search for middle ground in the modern dating landscape. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated

Dive into the whirlwind of wedding woes, the trials of postpartum life adjustments, and the ongoing quest to navigate the dating world beyond apps. This episode of It's Complicated unpacks the personal journeys of our hosts as they confront the challenges of planning a dream wedding, embracing a new normal after kids, and the relentless pursuit of romance in the wild. Join us as we dissect the pressures of societal expectations, the intimate struggles of life's transitions, and the unpredictable path to finding love. Subscribe, share, and don't miss a beat of this candid exploration into the complex tapestry of relationships and self-discovery. Keep it Complicated with Jen, Lauren, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our Pod merch - shop here Shop our Amazon store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated