I Don’t Want To Talk About This

This conversation comes with a trigger warning - we discuss one woman's experience in and around domestic violence. Please, if you feel you could be triggered, skip on.Every 30s, the police receive a call regarding Domestic violence in England and Wales. 25% of women will experience DV in their lifetime. DV can lead to depression, homelessness, and suicide. 41% of girls ages between 14-17 will experience sexual violence in some form (Refuge).The facts are staggering but, sadly, not surprising. I'm so grateful to have got to have this conversation, to challenge my own thinking and understand that leaving a DV situation doesn't mean the experience ends there - especially when there's children involved!So my ask is to listen with compassion and empathy rather than any kind of 'I would have done this' type judgement. It's easy to zoom out when you're not 'in it'.If you're in need of help, please reach out to the freephone, 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline08082000247Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind.Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

I sat on this conversation for just over a year. I left it feeling a little uncomfortable and I wasn't sure why. Perhaps it was the vulnerability so clearly on display?Eventually I returned to this conversation and listened again and I wasn't uncomfortable this time, I was left feeling like people could be potentially screaming at their device telling her to value herself more, perhaps RUN!This is a conversation about going from being in-love to just love. Is it enough to sustain a relationship? How do maintain intimacy when you've been reduced down to what essentially is a parent?So my ask is to listen with compassion and empathy rather than cold judgement. It's easy to see the wider picture when you're not 'in it'.Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind.Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

Seriously, I'll scream if I read one more dating profile that says 'looking for open communication'. Slight exaggeration but WHAT DOES THAT EVEN LOOK LIKE TO YOU? Can you even do the bit where you have to receive that communication and respond? OR are you stuck at the verbalising your own needs part? A different style of just me rambling my thoughts with a sprinkling of stories in there because I needed to get it out of my brain and what better things to do when you're procrastinating on other things. Enjoy. Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠ https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

If you’re not here for a quick unexpected ADHD and consistency rant, skip to minute 1:50. Otherwise, hi! I sat down with Stacey to talk about her journey through IVF and becoming a single mother. What actually happened is that we found her non-negotiable, her red line, her in or out subject (which I feel most of us like to think we have but don’t in fact act on). It’s a story of two parts with motherhood weaving through it all. How did she go from a long-term “he was my soulmate” relationship to single motherhood and a guy popping up 10 years later who may or may not be “The One’? M’am I have follow up questions ✋ Anyway... Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠ https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

I was told I needed to talk to Laura because she's moving around the globe and still dating as she goes. Curiosity peaked! What's it like to date in other countries? How do you navigate different cultures? If you're always moving, how does dating even fit into that? The guys to date? It may surprise you 😏 But also, we explore attachment styles, from anxious avoidant to secure. Disclaimer - we're no psychologists, of course. Book recommendations ⁠Attached by Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.⁠ ⁠How To Do The Work by Dr Nicole LaPera⁠ Anyway... Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠ https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠ TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

I have a 'said too much' hangover and it lasted since part 1 dropped! However, I don't want to be a hypocrite where I'm asking people to open up to me and tell me their stories without ever giving something of me. Fran and I get into my past relationships then somehow it swings around to sex. And I wasn't very honest WITH ANY OF THEM! Why's it so hard to talk about! Anyway... Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

Who the fuck am I? I just thought if you listened to the conversations I'd given enough away to know who I am and where I come from. Apparently not! I sat down with my dear pal, Fran, so she could fire the questions at me this time. We talked for so long, I've made it a two parter...you're welcome. Spotlight is on me and I don't make it easy but I've genuinely tried open up in an authentic way. We talk about my previous dating experiences and what I felt when watching my twin give birth to her second son. If you learn anything, you'll probably never take relationship advice from me in the future. Enjoy part 1. Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

People have been asking me what I've learned from having these conversations so far. I learned a lot and been challenged a lot - the way I see things, my biases, my experiences or lack there of colouring my point of view. I have learned a lot, from mental health and how to approach someone who is struggling to communication. But don't get me wrong, communication might be key but it's not a walk in the park! Looking back love isn't easy, it doesn't seem like it's supposed to be but it's also not always actually there. It's about loving yourself, respecting yourself, and respecting the other person. You might even have to be the bad guy in the relationship. Overall, there's strength and courage in the people that I have spoken to. I hope that it's challenged you or that you've learned something too along the way. Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

Do we really go into relationships thinking about how we'd feel and what we'd do if the other person got sick? Lou has been with her wife for over a decade and had to navigate changing health issues from Fibromyalgia to Functional Neurological Disorder while also going through the collective trauma of Covid-19. It's a lot. It got me thinking...how do you put your trust in the other person to want to stick around for the hard parts? That they're not secretly wishing for a way out? Lou provides what is a subtle masterclass in how to move through hard times and I'm taking notes! But it's not all about the struggles, we get a glimpse into how Lou met her wife and why sex isn't as smooth as what you may see on your screens. Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ ⁠https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat⁠ ⁠Instagram⁠ ⁠TikTok⁠ Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks

One of the biggest questions is - do you love yourself? Can you answer that honestly? Do you like the answer? Naomi chats to me about how she quit all dating sites back in 2016 and decided to be single for a while to work on herself. Don't get me wrong, this is no Eat, Pray, Love moment. Looking inwards can be hard and messy but Naomi found a whole lot more! She's now on a mission to help empower more women to find their happiness and health in midlife with Wellthy Evolution. It's not an easy story though, join us and challenge yourself while you listen. To know more about Naomi go to her website and follow her on Facebook and Instagram Got questions, comments, or feedback? I'm all ears, just keep it kind. Maybe even hit that subscribe or like button 😉 ------------ https://lnk.bio/JojoWhat Instagram TikTok Music by Nicolas Bennahmias: Pizzy Walks