Anxious Meets Avoidant: How We Used to Break Down in Conflict — and What It Took to Heal

How do you reignite desire and emotional intimacy in a long-term relationship after betrayal, resentment, and emotional distance? In this powerful episode, Sasha Quince joins Yana Fry to share her raw, deeply personal story of navigating a sexless marriage, recovering from infidelity, and learning how emotional connection fuels physical intimacy. Together, they break the silence around sexless relationships, explore the emotional load many women carry, and offer tools to rebuild not just passion—but mutual understanding, communication, and trust.In this episode, you will learn the following:A sexless marriage isn’t uncommon—but it doesn’t have to be the end.Emotional intimacy is the foundation of physical desire.Resentment often comes from unspoken needs and a lack of boundaries.The Law of Mirrors: your relationship reflects your inner beliefs.Healing starts within—and your growth can inspire your partner’s shift.Ready to release old patterns and renew the way you love? Join the VIP Relationship Reset Retreat—available online or in person—and start rewriting your story with conscious tools and deep healing. Save your spot here: https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.comHeal You Heal Your Relationship – the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts: http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships Learn more about Yana Fry:LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/yanafry Instagram: @yanafry TikTok: @yanafry Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does it truly mean to heal beyond just the physical symptoms? In this episode, Sasha sits down with holistic energy specialist and meditation facilitator Vandana Mendonca to explore the deep, layered journey of self-healing. From an autoimmune diagnosis in her 20s to uncovering soul-level wisdom through intuition, Vandana shares how her path led her back to her true self. Together, they unpack what it means to ground in the present, protect your energy, and find joy by listening to your intuition over ego.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:How do you create space to get to know yourself?Do you blame external circumstances or do you take the responsibility to heal what feels uncomfortable?Intuitively, what inspiration came through today for you during this conversation and how do you plan to honor it?In this episode, you will learn the following :Healing starts with intuition and unfolds over time.Grounding means knowing you belong in the present moment.Intuition is quiet but powerful—learn to trust it.Protecting your energy begins with healthy boundaries.True healing is layered and rooted in self-compassion.Ready to release old patterns and renew the way you love? Join the VIP Relationship Reset Retreat—available online or in person—and start rewriting your story with conscious tools and deep healing. Save your spot here: https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.comHeal You, Heal Your Relationship – an 11-week inner work course to transform your relationship with yourself and others. Whether you're partnered or seeking love, this step-by-step journey helps you understand yourself, overcome fears, reprogram limiting beliefs, and create lasting, healthy love. Learn the tools that helped Sasha and hundreds of her clients find peace, joy, and balance in their love lives.Explore the course: Heal You, Heal Your RelationshipsLearn more about Vandana Mendonca: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/graceful_reflections/ Click here to explore energy healing, reflexology, and soul guidance sessions with Vandana: gracefulreflections.biz Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in the same argument with your partner, feeling like nothing ever gets resolved? In this solo episode, Sasha shares how the anxious-avoidant dynamic showed up in her marriage and the patterns that kept conflict looping. She opens up about the turning point that helped her and her partner shift from disconnection to repair.If conflict leaves you feeling overwhelmed, shut down, or afraid of losing love, this episode will offer real tools and relief. Sasha breaks down what’s really happening beneath the surface—and how to navigate conflict with more clarity, calm, and connection.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:When conflict arises, do you chase, freeze, or shut down? What story are you attaching to conflict and where did you learn it from? What did you most resonate with about this episode?In this episode, you will learn the following :Childhood experiences shape how we handle conflict as adults.Anxious partners pursue; avoidant partners shut down during conflict.Taking space is healthy—if it’s used for regulation, not rumination.Conflict isn’t the problem; lack of repair is.Sasha’s 5 R’s: Recognize, Regulate, Reflect, Reveal, RepairReady to release old patterns and renew the way you love? Join the VIP Relationship Reset Retreat—available online or in person—and start rewriting your story with conscious tools and deep healing. Save your spot here: https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.comHeal You Heal Your Relationship – the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts: http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 If you struggle with a deep feeling that men can't be trusted, your partner will cheat or betray you or you have a history of attracting partners who do this to you - this episode is for you or someone you love!Have you ever been so scared of being betrayed that it starts to take over your relationship—even when there’s no real reason to feel that way? In this deeply personal solo episode, Sasha opens up about how her fear of betrayal and past abandonment wounds actually created the very heartbreak she was trying to avoid. She shares how this fear lived in her subconscious, affected her behavior, and how healing it changed everything.If you’ve ever struggled with jealousy, trust issues, or felt like you’re always waiting for the other shoe to drop, this episode will speak to your heart. Sasha gently walks you through where this fear comes from and how to finally release it so you can feel safe, secure, and worthy of real love.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:Are you still bracing for betrayal even when you’re being loved?What do you need to be thinking to trust you’re safe and worthy of commitment, honesty, loyalty?What would shift in your life if you were able to trust?Ready to release old patterns and renew the way you love? Join the VIP Relationship Reset Retreat—available online or in person—and start rewriting your story with conscious tools and deep healing. Save your spot here: https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.comHeal You Heal Your Relationship – the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts: http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is one of the leading fears that sabotages both finding love and keeping it healthy. When we carry a fear of rejection we can't show up as our true self and that leads to resentment in relationships and dating. Our fears create our behaviors and pul us away from love. Learn how to identify this fear or wound and through that awareness lean intoa healing space to better your relationships and chances of finding love. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a special episode where Sasha invites Neli Holistic Mindset and Empowerment Coach where we go unscripted and dive into how to overcome hard things in life and love, we cover mindset management, emotional regulation, healing from chronic conditions, anxiety and fears and how to find your own unique healing uncovering what works and what doesn't when it comes to self healing.Why do we stay stuck in old patterns and how do we finally shift them? In this episode of Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha Quince sits down with holistic mindset coach Neli for an inspiring conversation on emotional healing, self-worth, and the power of choice. From reversing chronic illness to changing the way we speak to ourselves, they explore how aligned action, deep self-trust, and somatic awareness can transform your life and relationships.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What is not going well in your life right now?What do you think led you to this point?What do you want and what can help you get there?Heal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships LINKS:Learn more about Neli Merris: Website: https://nelimerris.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/neli_merris_mindset_coach/ Click here to explore Neli’s 1:1 coaching, sound healing trainings, and transformational offerings to support your healing journey: coaching.nelimerris.com/nelimerrisinfo. Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder why healthy love, rest, or joy can feel strangely uncomfortable? Sasha Quince unpacks how childhood trauma quietly influences our adult relationship dynamics. This deeply compassionate conversation offers insights, stories, and practical tools to help you reconnect with your true self and break free from patterns that no longer serve you.Whether you're navigating dating, partnership, or self-healing, this episode helps you understand the nervous system’s role in love—and how to rewire your responses for more connection and emotional peace.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:Which behavior do you most resonate with that we spoke about today?Who is one person you can share this episode with that you think really needs it?What are you choosing to become aware of as you move forward from this episode?In this episode, you will learn the following :How childhood trauma—big or small—shapes adult relationship patternsWhy we shut down during conflict or pull away when things feel too goodSelf-sabotage as a result of unfamiliarity with healthy loveGuilt around joy and rest tied to early family beliefsOverexplaining and chronic apologizing as trauma responsesHyper-independence as a barrier to intimacyHow holding in resentment slowly erodes connectionTriggers: why the present often reactivates old woundsHow to recognize and unlearn inherited emotional patternsTools for nervous system regulation and somatic healingHeal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipReady to reconnect and reset your relationship? Join the VIP Relationship Renewal Retreat—email [email protected] to save your spot.Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Wondering why it feels so hard to set boundaries without guilt? In this episode of Heal You: Heal Your Relationships, Sasha Quince opens up about her deeply personal journey of healing her inner child while raising her children. Through raw, reflective storytelling, Sasha explores how childhood trauma shapes the way we love, parent, and show up in relationships. From reactive patterns to generational cycle breaking, this episode offers a powerful lens on emotional healing, self-compassion, and conscious parenting. Whether you’re a parent, a future parent, or simply on a healing path, this conversation will help you pass down wholeness.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What did you learn from this episode that really made sense to you? What is a cycle you were raised with that you definitely wanna break after hearing this?What are you feeling most proud of about yourself?In this episode, you will learn the following :Awareness of reactivity allows for conscious change.Guilt can prevent healthy boundary setting with children.Children mirror both your strengths and your wounds.Emotional regulation is learned and teachable.Repair after conflict is just as important as connection.Inner child healing supports not just you, but your surroundings as well.Healing your inner child is essential to breaking generational cycles.Self-compassion is key to lasting emotional growth.Heal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipReady to reconnect and reset your relationship? Join the VIP Relationship Renewal Retreat—email [email protected] to save your spot.Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sasha is breaking down what has been her greatest healing overcoming the abandonment wound and anxious attachment in relationships. It took me years to heal this and I will teach you everything you need to know in less than one hour. If you feel clingy and needy in relationships, fear something bad will happen, find it hard to be apart, stop yourself from expressing your true needs or worry your partner will cheat, this is for you.In this deeply honest and empowering episode, Sasha opens up about her personal journey with anxious attachment and the fear of abandonment—from childhood wounds to relationship spirals and eventual healing. She shares how even after years of self-work, emotional triggers still arise, but what’s changed is how she handles them. Expect real talk, healing tools, and the reassurance that you're not alone if you feel clingy, over-analytical, or in need of constant validation in love.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What did you most resonate with about this episode? (Could have been a behavior, something I said. What made you feel heard or seen?)When you feel anxious or triggered in love, what do you think your body needs to feel safe in that moment? (Is it breath? Reassurance? Or just feeling the emotion?)What would you say to a younger version of you who had learned that love wasn't safe or consistent?(What do you wish she knew back then?)Heal You Heal Your Relationship - the 11 week inner work course to heal you and your relationships. Dive into the self for healthy lasting love, whether you're in a relationship and seeking your life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to understand yourself, overcome your fears, reprogram your subconscious mind, up-level your love beliefs and finally feel peace, joy and balance in your love life. Through teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts.http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipReady to reconnect and reset your relationship? Join the VIP Relationship Renewal Retreat—email [email protected] to save your spot.Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv. Human Design helps break long-held relationship patterns by showing where you overcompensate or suppress your needs. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Curious why some decisions feel so hard—or why you keep repeating the same relationship patterns? In this episode of Heal You: Heal Your Relationships, Sasha Quince sits down with Human Design and Self-Confident Coach Marcia McLeod to explore how understanding your energy blueprint can transform the way you connect, communicate, and love. From breaking free of people-pleasing patterns to finding clarity in decision-making, they unpack the impact of Human Design on emotional health, boundaries, and self-trust. Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What truth did you remember today about who you really are?What part of Human Design made sense to you? What one small shift can you make this week to honor your energy more intentionally? In this episode, you will learn the following :Human Design offers a personalized roadmap to self-awareness and decision-making.Your “authority” reveals how you best make aligned choices.Knowing your “aura type” helps you understand how your energy naturally interacts with the world.Building trust in your own decision-making is key to healing codependency and anxious attachment.Human Design isn’t about labeling—it’s about freedom, alignment, and self-compassion.Heal You Heal Your Relationship - an 11-week course to heal yourself and your relationships. Gain clarity, overcome fears, reprogram your mind, and create lasting love. Learn the steps that helped Sasha and 100s of clients find peace, joy, and balance in love. Join now for a love that lasts.http://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/HealYouHealYourRelationships LINKS:Learn more about Marcia Mcleod: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beingmarciamcleodWebsite: https://www.marciamcleod.com Click here to book a foundational Human Design reading with Marcia and learn how it can support your healing journey: marciamcleod.com/product-page/empower-you-60-minute-readingLearn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach or @healyouhealyourrelationshipWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.