4 Surprising Behaviors That Sabotaged Lasting Love for Me—So You Don’t Have To

Sasha shares the 4 love hacks she wish she knew in her 30s that heal from within and attract and keep healthy lasting love.In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha uncovers the transformative power of self-healing to improve relationships, sharing the four love hacks she wishes she knew in her 30s. These insights stem from Sasha’s personal experiences and her work with clients, offering practical steps to foster growth and emotional connection. Discover how focusing on yourself, regulating emotions, setting boundaries and cultivating appreciation can create lasting changes in love dynamics. Sasha also shares real-life anecdotes and techniques to practice emotional regulation and establish meaningful boundaries that enhance, rather than weaken, relationships. Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:Which love hack did you most resonate with and why?  Where do you need to get better in fostering healthy love, loving relationships in your life? What is one thing you can appreciate about yourself right now?  In this episode, you will learn the following :How self-healing can transform your relationships. Four practical love hacks to create lasting love. The difference between boundaries and requests and how to set effective ones.  Techniques to regulate emotions and strengthen emotional connections. How to shift focus from changing others to changing yourself. Value of appreciating yourself and asking for appreciation from others.  Ways to identify and overcome limiting beliefs about love. Strategies to create a balanced and grounded foundation in relationships.  💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Build The Love That Lasts is here - the 11 week relationship roadmap to healthy lasting love for those in relationships and seeking their life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to feel peace, joy and balance in your love life with the teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts. https://bit.ly/BuildTheLoveThatLastsLINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Here are the 3 steps to relationships that last from the training I shared with 100 women last week. You don't wanna miss this one.In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha breaks down three essential steps to building lasting relationships. She gets real about her own struggles with control and anxiety, sharing how self-awareness and taking responsibility have been game-changers for her. Sasha highlights the importance of emotional regulation, tackling limiting beliefs, and nailing good communication. Plus, she introduces a super practical tool called AVP (Acknowledge, Validate, Permit) to help handle emotions and talks about why setting boundaries and clear communication are total relationship must-haves.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:Do you avoid your emotions after hearing this?What did you learn about managing your thoughts from this episode?What is one goal you want to take into the new year as you commit to healing yourself?In this episode, you will learn the following :Sasha’s personal experiences with relationship challengesImportance of emotional regulation and mindset managementRecognizing and addressing limiting beliefsEffective communication and accountability in relationshipsThe role of self-awareness in fostering connectionTechniques for managing emotions (e.g., AVP: Acknowledge, Validate, Permit)Understanding communication dynamics between partnersEncouragement for personal growth and reflection in relationships💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Build The Love That Lasts is here - the 11 week relationship roadmap to healthy lasting love for those in relationships and seeking their life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to feel peace, joy and balance in your love life with the teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts. https://bit.ly/BuildTheLoveThatLastsLINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Understanding why losing my shit on my partner was a deeper level of dysregulation showing up in my relationship and sabotaging it lasting.In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets real about her healing journey, from dealing with abandonment issues to breaking free from toxic love patterns. She shares how small things in her relationship used to trigger big emotional reactions, all rooted in past traumas like losing her dad and sister. Sasha explains why self-awareness, inner child work, and healing your subconscious are so important for changing your behavior and improving your relationships.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What do you feel from listening to this is still dysregulated in your past? Was there anything that came up? And if so, what? And what can you tell yourself to remind yourself that your current reality is now and you do matter?In this episode, you will learn the following :Understanding emotional triggers and their rootsThe impact of past traumas on present relationshipsImportance of self-awareness and emotional regulationInner child work and subconscious healingThe role of community and connection in healingStrategies for managing emotional responses💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Build The Love That Lasts is here - the 11 week relationship roadmap to healthy lasting love for those in relationships and seeking their life partner. The step by step healing and growth path to feel peace, joy and balance in your love life with the teachings, and tools that got Sasha to where she is today in her relationship and has helped 100s of her clients get there too. Check it out for a love that lasts. https://bit.ly/BuildTheLoveThatLastsLINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're today years old when you find out these behaviors sabotage love.In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha delves into the silent relationship killers that many of us unknowingly practice. From the constant need for reassurance to explosive outbursts, Sasha unpacks five subconscious behaviors that sabotage love. Using her personal journey and insights, she provides practical tools to recognize and heal these habits, enabling listeners to build trust, set healthy boundaries, and foster self-compassion.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What resonated most with you from this week's episode? Which behavior feels most relatable?Which of these resonates with you the most: doubting someone’s love or commitment, feeling anxious that something bad will happen, isolating or reacting defensively, struggling to set boundaries, or having explosive outbursts?Do you think you might be subconsciously self-sabotaging love? And what would you like to work on?In this episode, you will learn the following :Building inner confidence to reduce dependency on external validation.Tips for self-reflection and daily affirmations to cultivate self-trust.Techniques to identify whether doubts are rooted in past trauma or present reality.The role of trust and vulnerability in creating a secure relationship dynamic.Recognizing when people-pleasing behaviors mask true needs.Tools for establishing boundaries that respect personal needs and prevent burnout.💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Join Our Free Training: Master the 3-Step Relationship Roadmap to Create a Healthy, Lasting Love! Learn powerful strategies to strengthen your connection and build the foundation for a fulfilling, lifelong partnership. 👇🏽https://welcoming-snow-52053.myflodesk.com/e77hmtfia6LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hear the real life stories of women like you and me who are healing and attracting healthy love both on dating apps and of them.In this heartwarming episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives into real-life success stories of healing and self-growth. Sasha shares the journeys of three inspiring clients—Susan, E, and M—each of whom worked through deep-rooted emotional challenges to attract healthier, more fulfilling relationships. From overcoming fear of abandonment and loneliness to building boundaries and emotional resilience, these stories reveal the power of inner healing.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:Which story out of the three did you most resonate with and why?How are you feeling after hearing the stories of these three women?Who will you share this episode with?In this episode, you will learn the following :Susan: Overcome boundaries issues and abandonment fears, leading to a healthy, committed relationship.E: Learned to connect with her emotions and found an emotionally available partner in a new country.M: Built self-trust and resilience, enabling her to date outside her comfort zone and attract meaningful connections.💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Join Our Free Training: Master the 3-Step Relationship Roadmap to Create a Healthy, Lasting Love! Learn powerful strategies to strengthen your connection and build the foundation for a fulfilling, lifelong partnership. 👇🏽https://welcoming-snow-52053.myflodesk.com/e77hmtfia6LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How my client healed herself to save her relationship, welcoming my 3rd guest to the show.In this heartfelt episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha sits down with Erika, a former mentee who recently completed a 24-week Conscious Love Mentorship. Together, they talked about Erika’s transformative journey from feeling overwhelmed as a young mother to rekindling intimacy in her marriage. Tune in as Erika reveals how she confronted deep-seated feelings of abandonment, learned to manage emotional triggers, and reconnected with her inner child.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week from Erika: What would you like to change right now? Be it something about yourself or maybe a goal in life. And it can literally be anything: relationships, career, health and fitness.Where do you feel it in your body? Does it have a texture? Does it have a color? Is it heavy? Is it light? Does it have a shape?What aspects of Erika's journey resonated with you the most in today’s episode, or what insights stood out to you?In this episode, you will learn the following :Addressing past traumas and self-sabotaging behaviors to foster healthier, lasting relationships.How Erika managed the pressures of parenting young children and a high-stress job to find calm and stability again.Sasha’s unique coaching includes the feelings wheel, parts work, and a model for understanding emotional triggers.How inner child healing helped Erika rekindle “butterflies” and deepened her connection with her partner.Why feeling emotions in the body, not just the mind, is key to healing and managing triggers.💞 Only 2 spots left for 1:1 Conscious Love Mentorship in 2024! Ready to deepen your journey? Email [email protected] to reserve your place today.Join Our Free Training: Master the 3-Step Relationship Roadmap to Create a Healthy, Lasting Love! Learn powerful strategies to strengthen your connection and build the foundation for a fulfilling, lifelong partnership. 👇🏽https://welcoming-snow-52053.myflodesk.com/e77hmtfia6LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha Quince delves into seven signs of childhood emotional neglect and how they influence our adult relationships. She explains how common childhood roles, like caretaking or perfectionism, shape patterns of behavior and beliefs that can block love and connection later in life. Sasha emphasizes the importance of awareness, which she calls “50% of the journey,” as the first step to breaking these patterns and fostering healthier connections.  Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What childhood pattern did you most connect with today?  How does that childhood pattern show up in your adulthood relationship?  What is the first step to break any cycle?In this episode, you will learn the following:How childhood roles affect adult relationships. Seven signs of emotional neglect in childhood. The impact of caretaking and perfectionism on love. Why self-awareness is crucial for change. Steps to break unhealthy relationship cycles.Practical tools for building lasting, healthy love. Join Our Free Training: Master the 3-Step Relationship Roadmap to Create a Healthy, Lasting Love! Learn powerful strategies to strengthen your connection and build the foundation for a fulfilling, lifelong partnership. 👇🏽Email marketing and digital sales tools that bring your brand to lifeLINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagram  For more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationship, Sasha dives into the oh-so-common habit of picking fights with our partners and how it ties back to our attachment styles. She gets personal, sharing moments where she’s caught herself wanting to start a fight, and how she’s learned to pause, reflect, and manage her emotions. Whether you tend to feel anxious or struggle with trust, this episode helps you understand why we sometimes feel the urge to stir things up—and how to stop! It’s all about learning to heal those deep-rooted fears of abandonment, build self-trust, and create lasting love.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What about this episode did you most relate to? Which attachment style do you most relate to?What is one reassuring statement you can tell yourself right now that can be used when you're struggling to feel safe or trust within?In this episode, you will learn the following :How picking fights in relationships often stems from unresolved attachment issues,Importance of self-awareness in recognizing when you're dysregulated.Learning to trust oneself,  as the foundation to a secure and healthy relationship.Open communication and simply asking for connection or reassurance instead of starting a fight.How to manage conflicts by tackling issues directly without reverting to past grievances.LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationships, Sasha shares personal insights on managing emotional hurt, particularly from a partner and avoiding patterns of overthinking. She discusses the importance of acknowledging feelings, expressing needs, and setting boundaries to foster healing and understanding. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own stories and relationship dynamics. Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What did you most resonate with from this episode?Which of these four steps to let go of her are you gonna try?What about this feels triggering, like, you know, trying to understand if this is really like a one-time thing or is this salt on the wound type of situation, and asking yourself, what about this has really, really hurt me? In this episode, you will learn the following : How to recognize and manage emotional triggersThe importance of naming and acknowledging your emotions How to feel and process emotions in a healthy way Steps to express your needs and set boundaries Techniques to shift your perspective and rewrite unhelpful storiesLINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of Heal You, Heal Your Relationships, Sasha dives deep into the complexities of wanting to change your partner and how that desire often stems from unresolved inner wounds. She shares her personal experiences of trying to control her husband’s behavior and the realization that true change can only come from within. Sasha emphasizes the importance of focusing on healing yourself first and how that can positively influence your partner and relationship dynamics. Finally, she highlights the transformative power of acceptance and learning to let go of control for a healthier, more authentic connection.Here’s our episode Soulful Trio Reflection questions for the week:What did you most resonate with?What is the only thing you can control when it comes to changing your partner or a man you desire? What is one thing you can shift in your mindset in regards to accepting the person you love or accepting a certain man that you're involved with or accepting yourself?What is one mindset shift you can make to get there? What's that most generous interpretation? In this episode, you will learn the following : The impact of controlling behavior on relationships. Why focusing on changing yourself first is key. How acceptance fosters healthier connections. Strategies to shift your mindset and let go of control. LINKS:Learn more about Sasha Quince:LinktreeInstagramFor more insights and guidance, reach out to [email protected] or connect on Instagram @SashaquincelovecoachWant to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.