And Just Like That... We Found Therapy - A Sex and the City Podcast

Season 4 of Sex and the City "The Agony and the Ex-tacy" opens with Carrie turning 35, an engagement party full of "Congratulations", and a birthday dinner that goes horribly wrong. Andi and Caroline of And Just Like Yap join me to talk about what it really feels like to be on the wrong side of the milestone clock.In this episode:• Why being single in your mid 30s still feels like falling behind, and the family questions that come with it• Carrie's "Dear single" letter, dating apps then and now, and what actually works• Soulmates: found, built, or just your best friends?• Can you be enough on your own, and what is a support network for?• Carrie's midnight call to Big, the Il Cantinori disaster, and why birthdays feel so vulnerable• Miranda, Sheila and the exhausting performance of being fine• Big turns up with balloons: romance or a cop-out by the writers?• Advice to the girls, including what to do when you're thirsting after a friarAll things guest:Andi and Caroline: And Just Like Yap socials (IG & TikTok) and podcastAndi's IG | Caroline's IGGot a Mr. Big of your own? Tell me about him here.Follow along @wefoundtherapypod on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and Substack.Thanks for listening. I love y'all ❣️

Dating coach Sabrina Zohar joins me to wrap up Season 3 of Sex and the City, using the tools from her new book, Why Am I Like This?In this episode:How Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha may each have learned to earn love, prove themselves or keep everything looking perfect“How old did that make you feel?”, the question Sabrina uses to interrupt a spiralA fight, flight, freeze and fawn flash round on Season 3’s biggest moments, from Aidan to the boathouse to Natasha on the stairsSelf-regulation vs co-regulation, and why outsourcing your calm to ChatGPT might keep you in a loopSelf-abandonment, and which dating myth each of the girls falls for (If They Wanted To, They Would, and When You Know, You Know)Whether Big could ever have changed, and why Samantha’s confidence may have an avoidant sideAdvice to the girls: each character’s “bullshit blueprint”, and whether Aidan could have been a corrective experience for CarrieSabrina Zohar is a relationship coach, host of The Sabrina Zohar Show, and author of Why Am I Like This? Break Your Relationship Patterns and Create The Life You Want, out now.Get the book: https://sabrinazohar.com/bookFind Sabrina on Instagram, TikTok and YouTube: @sabrinazoharGot a Mr. Big of your own? Tell me about him: https://www.wefoundtherapypod.com/reachoutFollow along on Instagram, TikTok, YouTube and Substack: @wefoundtherapypodThanks for listening. I love y’all ❣️

We made it — Season 3 finale. Scarlett Plott, co-founder of Lesbian Supper Club and certified menace on a motorcycle, joins to close out the season with Cock-A-Doodle-Doo.Big calls Carrie after the affair, using a fake interior design crisis as a pretext for lunchWhy "meant for you" shouldn't mean "this hard" — unpacking the Big dynamicMiranda draws a boundary with Carrie — was she right, and where did the delivery let her downThe line between loving someone at their lowest and enabling them to stay thereThis episode's genuinely bad trans representation, discussed honestlyTrey's erectile dysfunction, workshopped by a lesbian, as God intendedThat's Season 3. Thank you for every single download, DM, and "this is literally my situationship" comment this season. I see all of it — and it's the only reason there's a Season 4 to make.Find Scarlett and LSC:Scarlett: @_scarlettjpLesbian Supper Club: @lesbiansupperclubpodListen to their podcast hereIs he your Mr. Big? Submit your story.Follow the pod on IG/TikTok/YouTube/Substack @wefoundtherapypod / I love y'all ❣️

Lora Cheadle — attorney, certified hypnotherapist, betrayal recovery expert, TEDx speaker, and host of the podcast FLAUNT — joins me to unpack Sex and the City S3E17, "What Goes Around Comes Around." It's the karma episode, and the cheating is everywhere.In this episode:Charlotte's "harmless" attraction to the gardener and the baby steps that lead to crossing a lineWhy jealousy is rarely about what it looks like it's aboutCarrie and Natasha's lunch confrontation — and why Carrie made it about herIs relationship karma real, or is it a self-fulfilling prophecy?Miranda spiraling with Detective Stevens, and why she can't believe a good-looking man would want herCharlotte and Trey's painful conversation about separatingLora's own story: surviving her husband's 15-year affair, and what healing actually looked likeFind Lora:Her websiteFLAUNT PodcastFree Betrayal Recovery GuideLora's Instagram AccountYouTube channelBooks: FLAUNT! and It's Not Burnout It's BetrayalGot a Mr. Big of your own? Tell us your story here.Find us on IG/TikTok/YouTube/Substack @wefoundtherapypodThanks for listening. I love y'all ❣️

Charlotte almost masturbated next to her husband. Miranda went on a date with a dead man's phone. And Carrie got heckled at the Learning Annex for being unmarried. Season 3, Episode 16 is chaotic, and psychotherapist Jessica Fern is here to make sense of all of it.Jessica Fern is a trauma expert, attachment theorist, and author of Polysecure, Polywise, and her latest, Transforming the Shame Triangle. In this episode we cover:The Madonna-whore complex — why it still shows up in modern marriages, even open onesCharlotte and Trey's bedroom dynamic, and what her lingerie scene tells us about authentic desire vs. performanceWhy women judge each other for not hitting milestones on scheduleWhether it's ever okay to date your best friend's exThe scarcity trap Miranda falls into — and how to tell if you actually like someone or just like that they like youWhere to actually meet people when the apps have broken your spiritGuest links:🌐 Her website📚 Her learning platform📱Her IGIs he your Mr. Big? Submit your story: https://form.typeform.com/to/T6T0HPpsFollow the pod on IG/TikTok/YouTube/Substack @wefoundtherapypod / I love y'all ❣️

What happens when kids can't wait to grow up — and adults can't stop wishing they could go back?Season 3, Episode 15 of Sex and the City is built around one question: who gets permission to play? This week, Isabel sits down with Dr. Nicole Thompson — sex and relationship psychotherapist, founder of The Pleasure Practice, and author of the world's first academic research study on relationship anarchy — to unpack "Hot Child in the City."In this episode:Trey's erectile dysfunction and its real psychological roots (spoiler: it's not physical)The Madonna-whore complex operating inside the MacDougal marriageCharlotte's hydraulic solution and why sliding a piece of paper across the table isn't vulnerabilityThe Yale psychotherapist's nicknaming exercise — and what Dr. Nicole would do insteadCharlotte's Juggs magazine intervention and the classical conditioning logic behind itCarrie dating a man who lives with his parents — waste of time or exactly what she needs?Jenny Brier's bat mitzvah and what rushed childhoods tell us about sexual repressionMiranda's braces removal as an evolutionary fear responseWhy your capacity for play is directly connected to your sex lifeRelationship anarchy, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and neuroplasticityFind Dr. Nicole at modernanarchypodcast.comIs he your Mr. Big? Share your story here: https://form.typeform.com/to/T6T0HPpsThanks for listening. I love y'all ❣️

The girls are still in Los Angeles, and this week Isabel is joined by Aisha Mainwaring — founder of Mane Design and Pontoon, and someone who actually grew up in LA — to break down the city's most iconic episode.Are people in LA genuinely happier, or do the optics just look better? We get into VIP after parties, the Playboy Mansion era, fake Fendi bags in the Valley, and why Carrie's bikini wax-fuelled fling was doomed from the start. Also: Charlotte and Trey, and the question of whether you should really marry someone you've never had sex with.Plus — Aisha's honest take on Raya, transactional friendships, and why finding a good guy in LA might require a one-way ticket out.Find Aisha:Her personal IGPontoon's IG and websiteMain Design's IG and websiteIs he your Mr. Big? Submit your story.Follow the pod on IG/TikTok/YouTube/Substack @wefoundtherapypod / I love y'all ❣️

Can you really run from your problems — or do you just bring them with you on the plane?This week I'm joined by Dr. Melissa Richman, psychotherapist and relationship expert based in Los Angeles, to unpack one of the most thematically rich episodes of Season 3. We're talking Trey's psychogenic erectile dysfunction (yes, we go there), why Charlotte's "fix it" energy is its own form of avoidance, and what Carrie's Hollywood escape really reveals about the stories we tell ourselves.We also get into Miranda's mechanical bull moment — was it liberation or performance? Samantha's unexpected shame spiral when her dildo model tries to take things further. And the LA vs. New York vs. Europe question about sex, superficiality, and whether the wellness industrial complex is actually helping anyone.Dr. Richman calls it like it is — and this conversation does not disappoint.What we cover:Trey's erectile dysfunction: why it's psychogenic, not physical, and what nocturnal penile tumescence actually tells usThe Madonna-whore complex, Bunny MacDougall, and why Trey was never really available for marriageCharlotte's avoidance spiral and why fixing everything kept her from facing the rejectionCarrie escaping to LA — the difference between getting perspective and running awayMiranda in LA: performing sexiness vs. actually inhabiting itSamantha's shadow self — what the Met Gala moment reveals about her real relationship with her own sexualityBig as a potential sex addict, and why Carrie kept going backThe LA vs. Europe lens on sex, desire, and how much the wellness culture is smoke and mirrorsPolyamory and open relationships: Dr. Richman's honest (and probably controversial) takeFind Dr. Melissa Richman at richmancare.com or on Instagram @drmelissarichman.Follow the pod for updates & upcoming episodes @wefoundtherapypod on IG, TikTok & Substack. Have a "He's Not Your Mr. Big" story? Submit via the link. Thanks for tuning in. I love y'all ❣️

This week we're covering Season 3, Episode 12 of Sex and the City — the one where Carrie finally tells Aiden about Big. And honestly? It's a lot.I'm joined by Idit Sharoni, licensed marriage and family therapist, founder of Relationship Experts, and host of the podcast Relationships Uncomplicated. Idit specialises in infidelity recovery, and she brings a perspective I genuinely wasn't expecting — because the answer to "should you always tell?" is not what you think it is.We get into:Whether honesty is actually always the best policy in relationshipsWhat it means when your partner has no idea the affair was happening — and what that says about connectionThe difference between "sufferers" and "explorers" after infidelityHow to disclose an affair (and what Carrie absolutely got wrong about timing)Why women who cheat often feel more vindicated than menWhether Carrie ever really had a chance of making it work with AidenWhat wanting to know every detail is really about — and when it hurts more than it helpsWe also cover Miranda's disastrous speed dating lie, Charlotte and Trey's wedding night, and Samantha storming out of Vera Wang. A full episode.Find Idit:🌐 Website: https://iditsharoni.com/💔 It's Okay To Stay (Infidelity Recovery Program): https://infidelityrecovery.iditsharoni.com/🎙️ Relationships Uncomplicated (Podcast): https://iditsharoni.com/category/podcast/📸 Instagram: @therelationshipexperts📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/iditsharonilmft▶️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Iditsharonicounseling🔍 Is He Your Mr. Big? Submit your story: https://form.typeform.com/to/T6T0HPpsFollow the pod on IG/TikTok/YouTube/Substack @wefoundtherapypod / I love y'all ❣️

Carrie Bradshaw is having an affair. And somehow she's the villain and the victim — often in the same scene.This week I'm joined by Minaa B — licensed therapist and author of Owning Our Struggles — to break down Season 3, Episode 11 of Sex and the City: Running with Scissors. The one where Natasha finds out, a tooth gets chipped, and Carrie delivers the most iconic breakup line in the show's history.We get into the guilt and pleasure duality of affairs, the gendered double standard women face when they cheat, all-or-nothing thinking and why one slip becomes a full spiral, and what Samantha's STI scare reveals about the stories we tell ourselves to feel exempt from consequences.We also talk about how to be a good friend to someone doing something you don't agree with — without shaming them into silence or losing yourself in the process.Find Minaa B:📖 Owning Our Struggles — available wherever books are sold🎙️ This Feels Familiar — on all podcast platforms📩 Substack: All the Hard Things📱 @minaa_b on Instagram