281: Kadeem Alphanso Fyffe – Threading the needle of gay success

Erotic. Pleasure. Being authentically yourself as a sexual being. Some would have us shamed into oblivion for thinking that we deserve to be, being of pleasure. Not today. Joining me is today, erotic and pleasure expert - Ayce Kyptyn. Bringing his full trans masculine gay self to the conversation, Ayce shares his journey to his truth and how it brought him the pleasure of becoming an erotic expert to help individuals enjoy the pleasure of human pleasure. In this episode... Learn why erotic pleasure is so important to our essence as gay men Discover how to lose the shame about sexual pleasure Enjoy Ayce's forthright insights as a gay, transman on sexuality, gender, and erotic pleasure About Ayce Ayce has been in the coaching industry for 14 years! He is certified in the Erotic Blueprints, Bondassage, and is a student of Sexological Bodywork. Their passion has been centered around somatic embodiment and living an erotically liberated lifestyle as a gay, trans masculine individual. Connect With Ayce Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Sex and religion. For many, especially gay men, and even more so for gay men who are religious leaders, the thought of erotic pleasure is a "No, no!" Really? Why is that and who made it that way? Exploring the concept that we are all erotic and spiritual beings who desire pleasure, turns the tables on this kind of archaic thinking. You can be erotic, sexual, have desires, and seek pleasure while still holding sacred your relationship with your faith and God. Repeat Guest Craig Cullinane, coach and Body Electric facilitator, guides us to find the intersectionality of sex and faith in this provocative conversation. In this episode: Learn how to make sex a sacred experience Uncover techniques for releasing religious shame around sex and sexuality Discover how opening the door to erotic pleasure can positively impact all areas of your life About Craig Craig Cullinane (He, Him) is a Body Electric facilitator, life coach, and Sacred Intimate focusing on embodiment, pleasure, and the awakening of the Sacred. You can learn more about Craig at craigcullinane.com. For 6 years, Craig was the Director of Programming for Rehabilitation Through The Arts (RTA), inviting incarcerated people into a process of growth and healing through artistic expression. Craig holds a Master’s degree in Service, Leadership, and Management from the SIT Graduate Institute. Connect With Craig Body Electric 101 - Starts September 19th Healing the Sacred Erotic Connection - (in-person, Nov 19-22, outside Kansas City, MO) Website Body Electirc Website Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Throughout history, all we have heard as gay men is that being gay is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. Yet, we often ask ourselves, "How can we be wrong?" Debut author Max Austin, shares his insights about his life in the '90s amongst the HIV/AIDS crisis and the shame, vile bullying he experienced as a nurse, which led him to constantly ask the question that is the title of his book, "How can we be wrong? In this episode: Learn the horrible bullying the HIV/AIDs crisis brought on our gay brothers and caretakers Uncover how to have the resilience regardless of the battle as a gay man The most important things to do to keep our dignity as gay men in a world of hate About Max Max Austin has many passions: his husband, his two children, his writing and his work as a nurse. Oh, and not to forget the family dog of course! Through his writing and lived experiences, Max wants to give a voice to silenced and marginalised LBGTQIA+ groups. He is honoured and humbled that his biofictional memoir ‘How Can We Be Wrong?’  has found a home with Spectrum Books; a dedicated LBGTQIA+ publisher.  Max has been a keynote speaker at LBGTQIA+ inclusion conferences. For Max, kind inclusiveness in health care and indeed our broader society is as vital as breathing. When not working as a nurse or writing, he loves nothing more than spending time with his children and husband. Most weekends, they can be found covered in mud whilst being led through the park by their rather boisterous but friendly black Labrador! Connect With Max Website Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Daily life is a culmination, in the moment, of all the history that has preceded our lives. For gay men, there is such a rich history of gay men and others in our LGBTQ history that have brought us to these moments. And, as gay men we need to be the flag bearers of continuing to make history for the generations to come. Joining me today is Journalist and author Eric Marcus, founder and host of the award-winning Making Gay History podcast, to discuss our history and our history making that is yet to come as we 40+ gay men continue to fight the good fight for our rights. In this episode... Learn some history lessons of what brought us here as an LGBTQ community Discover how you can best continue to be a light in the world as a gay man Enjoy the Eric's journey in bringing Making Gay History to life About Eric Journalist and author Eric Marcus is the founder and host of the award-winning Making Gay History podcast, which mines his decades-old audio archive of rare interviews to bring LGBTQ history to life through the voices of the people who lived it. Eric is also co-producer of Those Who Were There, a podcast drawn from Yale University’s Fortunoff Video Archive for Holocaust Testimonies. And he is the author and co-author of a dozen books, including Is It A Choice?, Why Suicide?, and Breaking the Surface, the #1 New York Times bestselling autobiography of Olympic diving champion Greg Louganis. Eric is a founding board member of the American LGBTQ+ Museum. Connect With Eric Website Instagram Facebook LinkedIn X- Twitter Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Career, money, success, and rising above our circumstances. There's not to many gay men who have pursued these goals. But what happens when you struggle to get there? Do you give up? Telling us not to give up, Luis Baez, a kick as Sales Coach shares his story of rising out of poverty and his journey to find the career he loves and the lessons he's learned along the way that can help you as a gay man find your path - no fears, no excuses, no apologies. In this episode you'll learn Big mistakes not to make when you decide to go out on your own How to leverage your past to inform your future career goals Discover what to do with that ego when it gets in the way of your dreams About Luis Luis Báez is a Revenue Enablement Strategist +Sales Coach dedicated to serving executives and sales leaders at businesses. In 2017, after years of working in some of the biggest Silicon Valley startups (think LinkedIn, Google, Uber, Tesla, and more), Luis began to teach impassioned business owners how to scale their revenues and impact by creating and selling high-end offers. During that time, he was also invited to speak about leadership and personal branding at business schools across the country including Stanford, UC Berkeley and Bard. Today Luis is a published author through the internationally-recognized Madecraft organization, which includes an incredibly popular LinkedIn Learning course on personalized sales that has been taken by over 20K people to date. When it comes to podcasts, Luis has absolutely brought the beard & baritone to popular podcasts including ¿Quién Tú Eres?, The Online Business Show with Tyler McCall, Brand Master Flash and The Heather Sager Show among others. Connect With Luis Website LinkedIn

The pursuit of peace-of-mind, serenity, of "Can this crazy life just let me breathe?" As gay men this is the hamster wheel that we struggle with from the time we realize we are gay, to present day - the pursuit of peace. But what changes when we have the tools to slay the "everything, everywhere, all at once" dragons in our lives? We learn to activate mindfulness, choice, and embracing we can only control what we can control. Joining me once again for a lively, fun, and thoughtful discussion is Dr. Wade Maggert, a very astute and insightful Psychologist. In this episode we...  Help you identify how to define peace-of-mind for yourself Guide you through some of our own truths to how we developed peace Give you a five step guide for uncovering peace - don't miss this from Dr. Wade About Wade Dr. Wade Maggert, esteemed mental health expert and advocate, harbors a past as vibrant as his current professional pursuits. Before his doctoral days, the world knew him as DJ Ra, spinning tracks in the most electrifying gay nightclubs across global capitals. His journey through the highs of fame was a prelude to personal transformation. Encountering the consequences of an intense lifestyle led him to therapy, revealing the scars of an anti-gay upbringing. Embracing self-love marked the beginning of his dedication to mental health, inspiring a profound shift from electrifying dance floors to empowering lives in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond. With a Master of Social Work from UNLV and a groundbreaking PhD in Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute, Dr. Maggert has pioneered research into the depths of the masculine psyche. As an educator and a seasoned practitioner, his mastery extends from academia to the frontlines of mental health advocacy. His specializations in advanced therapeutic techniques have revolutionized treatment paradigms. At the helm of three VA mental health programs and at the heart of his private practice, Dragonfly Psychotherapy, Dr. Maggert is a trailblazer for trauma and addiction recovery within the LGBTQ+ community. Beyond his professional prowess, he is a Zen Buddhist adept, weaving the tranquility of meditation into his therapeutic approach and sharing his wisdom at the Houston Zen Center. Dr. Maggert's life's work is not just his occupation, but his offering to the world. Connect With Matt Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

As gay men, we know that many have paved the way for us to enjoy our lives as they are today. But the fight isn't over, and it's always humbling and inspiring to revisit history and the arts that got us here. Today we are joined by writer Christopher Adams who invites to revisit, the re-release of Fritz Peter's Finistère a trailblazing, 1951 published LGBTQ+ novel that is more than just a commentary on homosexuality and forbidden love. It highlights culture clash, class conflict, divorce, child-rearing, and the gaps in the struggle of homosexuality that can provoke life’s greatest pains. As such, Finistère is a transcendent novel that outlasts its historical moment and will appeal to all lovers of great literature. In this episode: Review how the past gay life informs our present gay life Uncover how the struggles have not really changed that much Compare the resilience of the 1950's with the resilience we need today About Christopher CHRISTOPHER ADAMS is a British-American playwright and screenwriter based in the UK. His plays include Cooked (Bread & Roses Theatre, 2015), Antigone (Actors of Dionysus, 2017), and Tumulus (VAULT, 2018 | Soho Theatre, 2019). He currently has a film project in development with Hirsch Giovanni. In his academic life, Christopher holds a PhD in mid-twentieth century queer publishing history from the Institute of English Studies, University of London. He is a co-editor of The Collected Works of John Ford: Volumes II & III (OUP). He is a U.S. Fulbright Scholar. Connect With Christopher Website Instagram Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why....

As a 40+ gay man, he's now living his most authentic life being the ANKRBOY he'd never dreamed hed be in this way. During the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic, his life and career was shattered because of one innocent move out in public. But that didn't stop him from rising to the top of his now delicioous 40+ gay life. Joining us today on the podcast is three-time Emmy® award-winning anchorman and best-selling author - ANKRBOY - turned actor, Mark Pettit, to share his journey of coming into being himself in a world hellbent on telling him he would never work again because of his sexuality. In this episode you'll Hear the moments that most impacted Mark's life to help him live his truth Unlock hatred that existed and still exists towards the LGBTQ+ community Learn how live your truth, anything is possible About Mark Mark is a three-time Emmy® award-winning TV news anchorman and best-selling author turned actor. In his new, heart-wrenching memoir, ANKRBOY (a #1 bestseller on Amazon), Pettit reveals what it was like growing up as a young, closeted TV newscaster trying to make his way during the height of the HIV/AIDS epidemic. His first book, A Need to Kill, also went to #1 in three categories on Amazon. Pettit has worked in journalism for more than 30 years on both the national and local level. A former anchorman at CNN, Pettit also worked as an anchor and investigative reporter at WXIA-TV (NBC), KMTV-3 (CBS) in Omaha, and at CBS46 News (WGCL-TV) in Atlanta (Now "Atlanta News First"). As an actor, Mark has appeared in a number of hit TV series including "True Detective," "Mindhunter," "Mr. Mercedes," "Sweet Magnolias" and "The Game." Pettit is also Executive Producer and appears in the horror film "The Curse of La Patasola" which is airing now exclusively on STARZ and will soon be available worldwide. Connect With Mark Website Instagram LinkedIn YouTube

From finding himself on the streets at a young age to thriving in the military, this former Boy Scout found his wings, gave back to his country, and literally and figuratively learned the power of finding his own gay wings to thrive beyond the chains of sexual abuse victimhood. You're invitied into an intimate conversation where Ron Hunter, author of Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love, shares himself, his story, and his wisdom for thriving beyond your circumstances. Learn how... His will to trust finally got reawakened The ability to go beyond is within each of us Loving yourself is the key to getting your own wings to fly About Ron Ron Hunter was raised in abject poverty in Brooklyn, with 21 siblings, by a schizophrenic mother in and out of mental institutions, and a dad who died when he was just six years old. A local Boy Scouts leader took an interest in young Ron and then violated the family trust, stealing the innocence of a 12-year-old boy. Ron was then blackmailed by this man and forced into prostitution in Times Square. Rather than be labeled a victim, Ron asserts that he is a survivor and is now an active advocate to give voice to others. He reveals this story in a moving and inspiring memoir, Angel Finally Found his Wings: A True Story Of Finding Trust, Hope, Faith, And The Power Of Love. He is a lover of life, a survivor of sexual abuse, and a person of profound faith in the miraculous. Ron resides in Roaring Gap, North Carolina with his husband, Scott, and has a second home in St. Petersburg, Florida. Connect With Ron Website Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies

Yes sir, I'm a farm boy. Yes sir, I'm ready to serve my country. No sir, I'm not gay or do drag - but your not supposed to ask and I'm not supposed to tell. Taking us on his journey to stand up for who he is, virgin author, Jay Claypool shares his life and story about growing up on a rural farm in Georgia and keeping his life as a gay man and drag performer hidden through the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" years. Learn how... His strong conviction to himself kept him going Authenticity has helped him know who he is as a human Uncover his motto of giving people their human rights About Jay Jay Claypool is a 20-year United States Air Force veteran, and freshman author originally from Augusta, Georgia. As a young drag performer, and frequent night-club fixture, Jay strives to be a source of inspiration to anyone with wild ambition, who also may be doubting their sexuality, individuality, and artistic freedom, specifically within the ranks of the military. He currently lives in Washington DC, with his Navy veteran husband Douglas. Connect With Jay Instagram Facebook Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but never do? Then it’s time to get real and figure out why. Join the 40 Plus: Gay Men Gay Talk, monthly chats. They happen the third Monday of each month at 5:00 pm Pacific - Learn More! Also, join our Facebook Community - 40 Plus: Gay Men, Gay Talk Community Break free of fears. Make bold moves. Live life without apologies