1-800-GOAL-DIGGER

What if you are not bad at selling yourself, and the real problem is the picture you have been carrying of what a salesperson is supposed to look like?I was in a session at work watching a senior sales rep talk about the traits that make someone good at this job. What stayed with me was not her list. It was that she saw herself as a salesperson. No question in it, no doubt about it. She said it the way you say your own name. I have been selling for most of my working life and I am not sure I have ever said it about myself with that kind of ease.This episode is about what happens when you let an outside picture become an inside question, and about the frame that finally got me out of it. There is more than one kind of salesperson, in exactly the way there is more than one kind of business. McDonald's and the Four Seasons both sell, both are excellent, and neither one could run on the other's model for a single day. I had been running a Four Seasons and comparing myself to a McDonald's.CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com⁠Instagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠[email protected]⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS:[00:00] She said it like her own name[01:07] A note on the new schedule[02:26] You become who you see yourself as[03:10] When the doubt arrives from outside[04:08] The mold I kept failing to match[05:10] The strengths I never called sales[06:43] Three questions, do not overthink them[07:02] Question one: when something goes wrong[08:12] Question two: a room full of strangers[08:57] Question three: naming your own strengths[09:33] McDonald's or the Four Seasons[10:54] I was comparing myself to the wrong business[11:36] What kind of salesperson do you want to be?[12:17] You defined selling too narrowly[13:02] What problem do I help solve? 13:42] Three lines to finish before you go[14:27] Whose picture are you holding?

What if some of the qualities you think define you, being strong, independent, ambitious, capable, always holding it together, are not simply who you are?What if some of them are who you learned you needed to be?In this special Season 2 highlights episode of 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, I’m revisiting some of the conversations that stayed with me most this season, from the emotional cost of being “the strong one,” to the beliefs we inherit, the armour ambitious women learn to wear, the difference between performing confidence and building self-trust, and what it actually means to become yourself.Listening back, I realized that these episodes were never really separate conversations.They were all circling the same question:How much of who we are is actually us, and how much of it is who we learned we needed to be?In this episode, we explore:➤ why strength can become a survival strategy➤ the beliefs and expectations we inherit before we are old enough to question them➤ why the inner work is part of the professional work➤ how ambitious women can turn even healing into another performance metric➤ the difference between packaging yourself and actually knowing yourself➤ why becoming yourself is an ongoing process➤ and what to do when you want to put something meaningful into the world but are afraid of being seenI also share an important update. Beginning in September, 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER will move to an every-other-week publishing schedule so I can continue creating meaningful episodes while building a healthier balance between the podcast, my career, and my personal life.CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com⁠Instagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠[email protected]⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS:[00:00] Podcast Schedule Update[00:50] Welcome to 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER[01:45] Why This Season 2 Highlights Episode Exists[02:33] The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One[06:23] Who Did You Learn to Be?[07:39] The Inner Work Is the Professional Work[10:39] Stop Packaging Yourself Like a Product[12:30] I’m Still Becoming Too[13:18] What Matters More Than Being Seen?[14:23] Closing: Send This to One Woman Who Needs It

In this episode of 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, I share a relationship from my younger years that looked generous from the outside.He was 23 years older than me, financially successful, owned two businesses, bought me expensive gifts, and took me to beautiful restaurants.But after five years together, I realized something I could not see clearly at the time:He was generous with what was easy for him to give.Money. Gifts. Dinners.What he was not generous with was his time, his emotional availability, his family, or a future with me.This episode is not really about dating a rich man. It is about the difference between being provided for and being truly chosen.It is also about the origin of the name 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER, why I once felt the need to prove I was not a “gold digger,” and what I understand now about love, independence, and the things that actually cost us something to give.If you have ever mistaken material generosity for emotional generosity, this episode is for you.CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.comInstagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠[email protected]⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS:[00:00] The Purse That Made Me Feel Like a Gold Digger[02:10] I Never Lacked Resources, I Lacked Emotional Availability[03:34] Dating a Man 23 Years Older Than Me[05:00] He Was Rich, But He Wasn’t Generous[06:44] When I Realized I Had Chosen an Arrangement, Not a Relationship[07:48] Financial Independence Wasn’t What I Needed Protection From[08:36] What Being Truly Cared for Looks Like Now[09:30] Why I Named the Podcast 1-800-GOAL-DIGGER[10:01] What Are You Accepting Because It’s Cheap for Someone to Give?

A listener left me a voicemail asking what advice I would give someone who has a meaningful project, business, or content she wants to share with the world, but is afraid of being seen.The timing of her question could not have been better.That same week, I had been feeling discouraged about the growth of this podcast. I wanted more people to see what I was creating. She was afraid of being seen at all.But the more I thought about her question, the more I realized we might be struggling with two sides of the same thing, giving other people’s opinions and reactions more power than they deserve.In this episode, I talk about where my own fear of standing out came from, why being seen can feel unsafe, whose opinions are actually worth listening to, and what I learned from walking away from this podcast and eventually coming back.I don't know if I am in a position to give her any advice.But what I do know is to ask some good questions. What do you want to matter more? The thing you want to create, or what other people might think when you create it?CONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com⁠Instagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠[email protected]⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.And if you have a question or story you want to share with me, leave me a private voicemail at 1800goaldigger.com. With your permission, your voice could become part of a future episode.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS:[00:00] Why I’ve Been Feeling Discouraged About This Podcast[01:35] A Listener Who Is Afraid of Being Seen[02:10] Why Are You Afraid of Being Seen?[03:20] Where I Learned That Standing Out Wasn’t Safe[05:20] I Still Struggle With Being Seen Too[06:05] The Real Problem Hidden in Her Question[07:35] Whose Opinion Are You Actually Afraid Of?[09:15] Why Mel Protected Her Business Idea[10:40] You Don’t Have to Eliminate the Fear Before You Begin[12:15] Stop Waiting Until You Feel Ready[13:05] What Happens If You Keep Yourself Hidden?[14:20] Which Discomfort Would You Rather Live With?[15:00] But What If It Isn’t Worth It?[16:05] Why I Came Back to This Podcast[17:40] What This Listener’s Voicemail Reminded Me[18:10] My One Piece of Advice

Mel Grauds never thought she was a gym person.She avoided gym class, did not grow up athletic, and spent years believing fitness simply was not for her. Then she became a personal trainer.In 2020, after burning out as a registered nurse, Mel walked away from a stable healthcare career in the middle of a pandemic and started what would eventually become Melrose Training. She had no clients, no following, no formal business training, and initially kept the decision almost entirely to herself.Six years later, Melrose has grown into a trusted women’s strength-training brand with a team of trainers and a wait list.In this conversation, Mel and I talk about reinvention, two very different experiences of burnout, the financial reality of building a business from zero, why she chose slow and sustainable growth over viral success, and what it took to let go of control as the company expanded.We also talk about the less visible sacrifices of entrepreneurship, including delaying motherhood, navigating serious pregnancy complications, and learning what it means to build a business that can survive without you at the center of everything.At its core, this is a conversation about becoming someone you once believed you were not.Because sometimes reinvention does not begin with confidence.Sometimes it begins with taking one small step before you feel ready.CHAPTERS:[00:00] From nursing to fitness founder[02:02] I was never a gym person[04:47] Loving nursing, but burning out[07:42] When working out became too much[10:51] Discovering strength training[14:26] Leaving nursing during the pandemic[17:47] The financial reality of starting a business[20:09] The first “real” client[21:24] Building confidence through cringe[23:58] When success created a new problem[27:10] Letting go of control and building a team[28:53] What entrepreneurship looks like behind the scenes[29:55] Why Mel never chased viral growth[31:48] Motherhood, pregnancy complications, and business[34:16] What nursing taught her about being a founder[35:49] Nurse burnout vs. founder burnout[37:12] The sacrifice women founders rarely talk about[39:23] What women should know about getting strong[40:28] The power of slow build[41:25] Reinventing yourself before you feel ready[42:46] Everything is figure-out-able[43:56] Where to findMelCONNECT WITH MEL:Website: https://melrosetraining.caInstagram: @melrosetraining @melgraudsCONNECT WITH THE SHOW:Website: ⁠https://1800goaldigger.com⁠Instagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: ⁠[email protected]⁠If this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.

From the outside, Chelsea’s journey looks like an extraordinary climb: an astrophysics degree, more than twenty years in finance and strategic planning, a move across continents, a coaching business, a family she calls her anchor, and a life she says she is deeply in love with. But her story began with a young mother, an abusive home, and two years living in a women’s refuge.In this episode, Chelsea shares how watching the stars with her grandmother gave her a sense of wonder beyond the circumstances around her, why she describes growing up with very little rather than nothing, and what she learned from the women who helped her family find safety. She also opens up about the possibility of contacting the father she has never known, studying astrophysics to remain connected to her grandmother, moving from finance into coaching, and why she treats failure as feedback rather than a verdict.This is a conversation about self-belief, compassion, happiness, and what it means to keep looking up when life gives you every reason to look down.This conversation includes descriptions of domestic abuse and childhood instability. Please take care while listening. If you are in a situation that does not feel safe, reach out to a local support organization or someone you trust.CONNECT WITH CHELSEAWebsite: https://headforhappy.comInstagram: @headforhappyLinkedIn: Chelsea HughesBook: A book about happiness, currently in progressCONNECT WITH THE SHOWWebsite: https://1800goaldigger.comInstagram: @1800goaldiggerVoice messages and stories: [email protected] this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.@1800goaldigger, sharing the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.CHAPTERS[00:00] Where you start does not decide where you end[00:42] Who Chelsea is and the values that guide her[01:44] Looking at the stars with her grandmother[03:23] The final lesson her grandmother gave her[04:24] Growing up with very little, not nothing[07:18] What her mother taught her about equality[09:13] The strength of leaving an abusive home[10:21] The childhood incident she cannot remember[11:42] Whether she will contact her father[13:33] What living in a women’s refuge left behind[16:43] What she would tell the girl she used to be[19:04] “If it is not okay, it is not the end”[20:58] Studying astrophysics to stay connected to her grandmother[21:51] How astrophysics led to a career in finance[23:46] Realizing she had always been a helper[24:36] Leaving corporate life and becoming a coach[27:02] Why women do not need to be fixed[29:03] Coaching, therapy, and moving forward[31:09] Why failure is more useful as feedback[34:21] The stepfather who taught her to think differently[37:40] Building a family that feels like solid ground[39:22] Why she is writing a book about happiness[41:37] There is no single formula for happiness[42:41] What it means to be deeply in love with your life[43:51] The first step when you cannot see a way out[45:12] Connect with Chelsea

When I was younger, I never questioned whether I would become a mother. I assumed it was one of the natural stages of becoming an adult.Twenty years later, I am not a mother, and I am no longer certain that I ever will be.In this solo episode, I explore the question I still have not answered: do I want to raise a child now, or am I grieving the mother I always assumed I would become?I talk about waiting for my relationship, finances, career, and emotional life to feel settled; the fear of repeating patterns from my childhood; the realities of pregnancy in my 40s; and why adoption remains one of the futures I can imagine.This conversation is for the women who live between a definite yes and a definite no. The women who made careful choices, watched time pass, and are still trying to understand what they truly want.I do not have an inspiring conclusion to offer. The story is still open.Visit 1800goaldigger.com to leave me a private voicemail or share your story.@1800goaldigger explores ambition, identity, confidence, womanhood, and the emotional truth underneath the glamour and celebration of success and growth.

When a listener named Mel asked me how to future-proof ourselves in the age of AI and how I stay grounded beneath it all, I thought this was going to be an episode about technology.It wasn't.It became a conversation about fear, identity, and the pressure to keep up in a world that keeps changing.In this solo episode, I reflect on what working in enterprise technology has taught me about AI, why I don't have the same level of AI anxiety, and why I believe future-proofing has less to do with chasing every new tool and more to do with growing deeper roots.Because maybe AI isn't the story. Maybe you are.@1800goaldigger, sharing goal-digging ugly truth. Subscribe for new episodes every Monday.

From the outside, Tiffiny was the woman who had it all handled. A master's degree, a demanding consulting career, a marriage, a body she competed with on stage. On the inside, she was barely keeping her head above water, and the hardest part of her life was the one nobody could see.In this episode, Tiffiny shares the day at her kitchen table that changed everything, the months of knowing before leaving, what it took to rebuild after losing her marriage and her corporate career in the same stretch, and how she got clear on what she actually wanted instead of what she was raised to want. She also shares the exit strategy advice she gives any woman who does not feel safe, and the framework she now teaches other women: The Freedom Codes (@TheFreedomCodes).This conversation includes descriptions of domestic abuse. If you are in a situation that does not feel safe, please reach out to a local support organization or someone you trust.CONNECT WITH TIFFINYWebsite: https://www.tjfambro.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/tiffinyj.fambro/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TheFreedomCodesCONNECT WITH THE SHOWAll links: https://beacons.ai/1800goaldiggerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/1800goaldiggerVoice DMs and stories: [email protected] this episode resonated with you, send it to one woman who needs to hear it. That is how this show grows.@1800goaldigger, sharing goal-digging ugly truth.CHAPTERS[00:00] The promise of milestones[00:42] Who Tiffiny was raised to be[02:12] The consulting years nobody could see inside[04:27] Fitness as the only joy[06:07] The marriage behind the image[08:46] The day at the kitchen table[12:50] Why leaving felt impossible[14:06] The divorce and what came after[16:56] Laid off and starting over[19:53] The routine that rebuilt her[21:13] Getting clear on what she actually wanted[26:06] The Freedom Codes: clarity, confidence, courage[31:16] Inside the Freedom Codes Collective[36:44] The exit strategy every woman should know[39:15] To the woman who almost didn't press play[40:08] One thing for her younger self#1800GoalDigger #TiffinyFambro #TheFreedomCodes #CareerRebuild #womenempowerment

I treated myself like a product to be sold. I did discovery on myself, but not compassionately.In this episode, I unpack what a senior marketer's offhand comment, that personal branding is a little bit contrived, forced me to confront. I talk about Misty, the alter ego I built out of everything I thought I was missing. Why performing is exhausting, because performing is not for the performer, it is for the audience. And the question I was never asking underneath all the positioning: who am I becoming?This is for the woman who has been optimizing the package while secretly wondering why she still does not feel seen.If it resonates, send it to one woman who needs it. Voice DM me @1800goaldigger on Instagram or email me 1:1 at [email protected]. Your voice could become part of a future episode.