Victorea Luminary - Courageous Survivor of Two Narcissistic Relationships

Lauren is about 30-years old. Hers is a cautionary tale that needs to be heard by everyone. In high school, Lauren fell in love with Max. She didn’t know what she was getting into. Abusive guys, like Max, become well-practiced at the manipulation and grooming their targets. Lauren mistook his behavior as love. It was not. It was a classic example of dating abuse.Like many innocent young women, Lauren stayed in the relationship far too long. When it ended, she met a man she would later marry. They have two daughters now. You will hear how that relationship turned out as well. It was not good. Set aside some time and listen to Lauren's story. Then invite others to hear what can really go on in high school and after. You probably will want to take notes.Bill MitchellWhenDatingHurts.comAn Opportunity for You: I use a company called Zencastr (it's a weird spelling, I know) to record and host all my episodes on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. I have used their intuitive products for over two years now. They have made the management and delivery of our podcast's messages easy.Podcasting has grown exponentially. There are podcasts on just about everything. And podcasting advertising has been the fastest growing channel in that time.Interested in investing in Zencastr?Go to WeFunder.com/Zencastr to claim your slice of the future of podcasting!This is the perfect time to get onboard with Zencastr. They have made podcasting easy and attractive to podcasters. Why not benefit from their success? 

We met J R Waltemyer in the summer of 2019, and he remains a valuable contact for us at the Office of Victim Advocate (OVA) in Pennsylvania. OVA is the state agency with the authority and duty to advocate for the rights and needs of crime victims.OVA accomplishes their mission through victim services, which includes post-sentencing notifications of offender status and movements within the Department of Corrections and the parole system; restorative justice programs that promote resilience and healing; and they are currently developing new initiatives around crime prevention.OVA envisions a Pennsylvania in which justice thrives. They collaborate closely with fellow state agencies and community groups to develop and promote trauma informed programs. You will find this episode useful if you want to know how the system works to help all survivors of violent crimes. Bill MitchellWhenDatingHurts.comAn Opportunity for You:I use a company called Zencastr (it's a weird spelling, I know) to record and host all my episodes on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. I have used their intuitive products for over two years now. They have made the management and delivery of our podcast's messages easy.   Podcasting has grown exponentially. There are podcasts on just about everything. And podcasting advertising has been the fastest growing channel in that time.Interested in investing in Zencastr? Go to WeFunder.com/Zencastr to claim your slice of the future of podcasting!This is the perfect time to get onboard with Zencastr. They have made podcasting easy and attractive to podcasters. Why not benefit from their success?

I read Janine Latus's 336-page book, "If I Am Missing or Dead", years ago. I finished it in two days. It was that compelling a read. I reached out to her many times since then, and she has always answered me.  She is so special. Janine has been called "...the most compelling speaker on sexual assault and relationship abuse I've ever heard." I believe that is spot on. Why is that? She knows it because she has lived it. Janine has come face to face with domestic abuse starting as a young girl. As much as she tried for this not to happen to her again later in life, she ended up in an abusive relationship that nearly cost her her life. The most-cherished person in Janine's life, her sister Amy, also fell prey to domestic violence. Amy trusted a man who took complete advantage of her. They way Janine tells this will take your breath away. Janine Latus has given countless speeches before diverse audiences. She is nationally-known as a powerful force for bringing lifesaving information to those who need it most. Set aside an hour and listen to this episode with Janine Latus. I promise you it will be time invested wisely. Bill MitchellAn Opportunity for You:I use a company called Zencastr (it's a weird spelling, I know) to record and host all my episodes on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. I have used their intuitive products for over two years now. They have made the management and delivery of our podcast's messages easy.Podcasting has grown exponentially. There are podcasts on just about everything. And podcasting advertising has been the fastest growing channel in that time.Interested in investing in Zencastr? Go to WeFunder.com/Zencastr to claim your slice of the future of podcasting!This is the perfect time to get onboard with Zencastr. They have made podcasting easy and attractive to podcasters. Why not benefit from their success?

One of our well-informed WHEN DATING HURTS listeners sent me an email with a list of things you must do before leaving your abuser. In this episode, you will hear about the kinds of items a domestic violence counselor will tell you while figuring out an escape plan to safety. This is a short episode but one of our most valuable. You might have a pen and paper handy so don't miss anything. Share this episode with friends and family who might need to hear it. You never know when someone is suffering in an unhealthy relationship today and needs to start preparing for a safe escape. Bill MitchellWhenDatingHurts.comAn Opportunity for You:I use a company called Zencastr (it's a weird spelling, I know) to record and host all my episodes on the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast. I have used their intuitive products for over two years now. They have made the management and delivery of our podcast's messages easy. Podcasting has grown exponentially. There are podcasts on just about everything. And podcasting advertising has been the fastest growing channel in that time. Interested in investing in Zencastr?Go to WeFunder.com/Zencastr to claim your slice of the future of podcasting!This is the perfect time to get onboard with Zencastr. They have made podcasting easy and attractive to podcasters. Why not benefit from their success? 

"Rosy" is a listener from London, UK. She first came across our podcast when listening to an episode on the This Is Actually Happening podcast. It led to her listening to the WHEN DATING HURTS podcast and hearing interviews with abuse survivors.Rosy has spent most of her late 20's and early 30's recovering from the dating abuse she experienced. The WHEN DATING HURTS podcast has helped her in understanding her experiences.Rosy was in an abusive relationship (on and off) from the age of 19 until about 26. She found it hard to leave even after experiencing periods of happiness without him. Part of what kept her in the relationship was feeling unable to cut him off due to mutual friends, abandonment issues that stemmed from her childhood, and generally being subject to emotionally abusive tactics. This is Rosy's interview on WHEN DATING HURTS. Bill MitchellWhenDatingHurts.comBTW, if you're a podcast host, or want to become one, here's some advice for you: Go to ZENCASTR.com/pricing and use my code whendatinghurts, and you’ll get 30% off your first 3 months of ZENCASTR professional.I want you to have the same experiences I do for all my podcasting and content needs. It’s time to share your story.

Brenda heard one of my interviews and reached out to me via email. When I learned what she could bring to our listeners, we set a time and created this episode. Brenda's story has twists and turns. You will hear the many insidious ways her abuser would not give up when she expressed no futher interest in him. He was going to maintain control over her no matter what. This WHEN DATING HURTS episode will hold your attention while you learn more about ways to break free from the iron grip of domestic violence. Bill MitchellHey, if you're a podcast host, here's some advice for you: Go to ZENCASTR.com/pricing and use my code whendatinghurts, and you’ll get 30% off your first 3 months of ZENCASTR professional.I want you to have the same experiences I do for all my podcasting and content needs. It’s time to share your story.

This is part two...Lindsey Brisbine's dating violence ordeals tell you all you need to know about how this sort of thing can happen, and how bad it can get. In part two, things get worse. Lindsey's boyfriend, Jay, pushes everything to the limits. He is not only abusive to Lindesy, he turns on her friends as well. His viscious behavior descends into violent acts and stalking. His overwhelming appetite to control is unleashed upon everyone. You can only hope (pray) that someone you care about never meets up with—and begins—a relationship with someone like this. This is part two of two episodes with Lindsey.Bill MitchellBTW, if you're a podcast host, here's some advice for you: Go to ZENCASTR.com/pricing and use my code whendatinghurts, and you’ll get 30% off your first 3 months of ZENCASTR professional.I want you to have the same experiences I do for all my podcasting and content needs. It’s time to share your story.

Lindsey Brisbine's dating violence ordeals in college tell you all you need to know about how this sort of thing can happen, and how bad it can get. This is not easy to listen to, I know, but you will hear how easily young adults are manipulated into dangerous relationships. This can happen to anyone. We often ask ourselves WHY don't people simply leave these unhealthy dating relationships. After listening to both episodes of Lindsey's story, you will know why. This is part one of two episodes with Lindsey.  Bill MitchellBTW, if you're a podcast host, here's some advice for you: Go to ZENCASTR.com/pricing and use my code whendatinghurts, and you’ll get 30% off your first 3 months of ZENCASTR professional.I want you to have the same experiences I do for all my podcasting and content needs. It’s time to share your story.

Gena contacted me after hearing my interview on another national podcast. She was determined to make her story of abuse survival known so current victims might learn what she didn't know when she was a victim of abuse.    Like every survivor I have interviewed, I found Gena to be strong, determined, and a decent human being. Abusers seek out nice, honest people like Gena because they calculate they can manipulate and control them.   Gena's inner strength, which grew mightily during her childhood, overcame every obstacle and saved her life. Victims (and friends and family of victims) can learn so much from this WHEN DATING HURTS podcast episode. Knowledge leads to empowerment.Bill Mitchell  BTW, if you're a podcast host, here's some advice for you: Go to ZENCASTR.com/pricing and use my code whendatinghurts, and you’ll get 30% off your first 3 months of ZENCASTR professional.I want you to have the same experiences I do for all my podcasting and content needs. It’s time to share your story.

J.D. McCabe maintained a loving relationship with his wife for nearly twenty years before their marriage, family, and world began to crumble. Their foundation had been rooted in "trust is the bedrock of a healthy relationship". Indeed, Erin had always claimed that things wouldn’t — couldn’t — work without trust. But Erin became suspicious of his every move. His phone calls, texts, and work emails were turned into proof of infidelity, drug addiction, and a network of lies on his part. She enlisted her mother in her efforts, and together they forged the words of family, trust and honesty beat him into the ground. Their accusations accumulated, twisting reality, and eventually resulting in Danny's involuntary hospitalization. Listen to J.D.'s story. You will not be able to guess where it goes or how he survived.  You can read J.D. McCabe's full story in his memoir, "The Third Gift: My Dance with the Devil (and Her Mother)"