The Trouble with Sex

Join Dr. Tammy and her special guest as they get candid about their experience as a heterosexual man who also enjoys expressing their femininity and gender fluidity by cross-dressing as Britany.*Please excuse the audio glitches on this remote recording.OUR GUESTBritany is a successful psychotherapist and sculptor who has agreed to come on the show to talk about their experience as a cross dresser. Britany identifies as a heterosexual man and is a married father and grandfather.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Do you and your partner have different needs when it comes to intimacy? Does one of you crave emotional intimacy while the other expresses themselves better in the bedroom? Dr. Tammy sits down with therapists and podcast hosts, Laurie Watson and George Faller to talk about how to navigate desire discrepancy, different attachment styles, building a stronger connection, and their book Brave Love, Great Sex.OUR GUESTSLAURIE WATSON, PhD, LMFT, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and ICEEFT Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, has spent thirty-five years working exclusively with couples’ emotional and sexual struggles. Author of Wanting Sex Again: How to Rekindle Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage, she is also the founder/director of Awakenings Center for Couples and Sex Therapy, a group practice in Raleigh, North Carolina, where she offers clinical intensives for couples seeking accelerated change. Laurie is internationally recognized as a leading expert and teacher of sexual attachment.GEORGE FALLER, LMFT, is a renowned trainer of couples therapists in Emotionally Focused Therapy, as well as a sought-after supervisor and therapist. With experience as a New York firefighter during 9/11, George teaches therapists how to stay calm and deescalate high-conflict couples. His online training platform, Success In Vulnerability, has trained thousands of therapists and he travels across the globe providing tactical skills for couples to create the connections they deserve.*Also check Laurie & George's Podcast Brave Love, Great Sex – Couple’s Therapy for Lasting Connection.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with narcissism expert Wendy Behary about the complicated dance between the narcissist and the people who love them—how to recognize the traits and distinguish between other potential issues, change old patterns and find the courage to trust your instincts.OUR GUEST Wendy T Behary is a therapist, author, and internationally recognized expert in narcissism and Schema Therapy, with more than 30 years of experience helping people navigate difficult relationships. She’s also the author of the international bestseller Disarming the Narcissist, now in its third edition and translated into 16 languages.Wendy is the founder and director of The Cognitive Therapy Center of New Jersey and The Schema Therapy Institutes of NJ-NYC-DC. In edition to treating clients, she has been training professionals and supervising psychotherapists for more than 20 years.  She is a founding fellow and consulting supervisor for The Academy of Cognitive Therapy (Aaron T. Beck’s Institute). Wendy served as the President of the Executive Board of the International Society of Schema Therapy (ISST) from 2010-2014 and served as the Training and Certification Coordinator for the ISST Executive Board from 2008-2010. She currently serves as President of the Executive Board for the Jeff Young Schema Therapy Association.Her work industry business speaking engagements focus on interpersonal conflict resolution. Wendy's private practice is primarily devoted to treating narcissists, their partners and the people dealing with them.  Her work isn’t just about understanding narcissists—it’s about understanding the people who love them, live with them, work with them, and sometimes find themselves wondering, “Wait…is it me?”DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

The Trouble with Sex is thrilled to introduce Dr. Tammy's podcast Pair-A-Docs, which she co-hosts with acclaimed OB/GYN, Dr. Sherry Ross.In this episode, the two Docs talk with actors and LGBTQ+ Icons, Kate Moennig & Leisha Hailey about their friendship, their podcast PANTS, their new cocktail BIGYAY, and their life changing experience working on the hit show The L Word.MORE ABOUT PAIR-A-DOCSDr. Sherry Ross and Dr. Tammy Nelson pull back the curtain on sex, relationships, mental health, trauma, men's health, cancer, and everything in between — with the guests you didn't expect and the conversations you actually need.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with Jaiya, the award-winning somatic sexologist and author of Your Blueprint for Pleasure, about how discovering what turns you on can help you take control of your pleasure, have amazing sex, rekindle the spark in the bedroom, heal past trauma, and empower your relationship and your spirit. Re-listen or enjoy for the first time - then take the Quiz to find out your Sexual Blueprint!DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] GUESTJaiya is an award -winning somatic sex sexologist, author of books including  Your Blueprint for Pleasure and co-author of Red Hot Touch.  She also starred in Netflix's Sex, Love & goop about what drives sexual attraction, passion and erotic fulfillment. Jaiya is also the Founder of the The Erotic Blueprint Breakthrough™ . For over three decades, Jaiya has been immersed in the study of turn-ons, ancient erotic rituals, tantric sex, mastery of sensual touch, pure erotic play, kinky dynamics, and the biology and psychology of attraction and sexual fulfillment. She works with all kinds of bodies and sexual orientations, and through observation and clinical research, she discovered the Erotic Blueprint™, a map of arousal that reveals one’s specific erotic language and patterning and helps create a path forward to greater sexual fulfillment. INTERESTED IN BECOMING a CERTIFIED  SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOCHECK OUT DR. T'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!· To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.· Learn more about love, marriage, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New MonogamyInstagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy explores the rise of anxiety in our culture, and its impact on our closest relationships. Learn tools to reconnect with yourself and your partner, communicate better, and find calm amid the chaos.  DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered. THE TROUBLE WITH SEX RESOURCES, REFERENCES & INFOIF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy sits down with psychoanalyst and certified sex therapist Juliane Maxwald to explore the hidden emotional patterns shaping our relationships, why talking about sex can feel so difficult, and how breaking through those barriers can create deeper intimacy, connection, and understanding.OUR GUEST Juliane Maxwald is a licensed psychoanalyst, couples therapist, and an AASECT certified Sex Therapist with more than two decades of experience helping individuals and couples navigate challenges such as low desire, infidelity, anxiety, burnout, and compulsive behaviors. Her work focuses not only on symptom relief, but on uncovering the deeper emotional patterns that shape how we love, work, and connect.Juliane serves on the faculty of the New York Graduate School of Psychoanalysis and the Institute for Contemporary Psychoanalysis, where she teaches, supervises, and mentors clinicians across the country.She is also the author of two recently published books:Psychoanalytic Sex Therapy: Exploring the Unconscious Life of Sexuality - a clinician's guide to working with erotic symptoms, fantasy, trauma, and relational repair; AND Talking About Sex: A Guide to Confidence, Connection and Communication - a practical and compassionate guide designed to help individuals and couples build greater confidence, connection, and communication around sexuality.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

What happens when a daughter discovers the truth about her mother's secret past? Dr. Tammy sits down with journalist and author Tracy Clark-Flory to discuss her powerful memoir,  My Mother’s Daughter: Finding Myself in My Family’s Fractured Past. From meeting her sister to peeling back layers of shame, grief, and silence, Tracy shares how reclaiming the past helped to unite her family and heal the wounds they inherited.OUR GUEST Tracy Clark-Flory is a journalist, essayist and author. Her first memoir, Want Me: A Sex Writer’s Journey into the Heart of Desire, was an NPR Best Book of the Year. She has written for Cosmopolitan, The Cut, ELLE, Esquire, Marie Claire, Glamour, The Guardian, The Washington Post, WIRED, Women’s Health, and many others. Previously, she was a senior staff writer at Jezebel and a staff writer at Salon. She writes a weekly newsletter and cohosts Dire Straights, a feminist podcast critiquing hetero love, sex, politics, and culture.  *ORDER MY MOTHER'S DAUGHTER NOW!*Explore More of Tracy's Work: Newsletter I Podcast I Website I Instagram I WANT MEDR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Women’s health is finally a mainstream conversation—but along with it has come access to an overwhelming amount of advice, trends, and misinformation. Dr. Tammy talks with health journalist Meghan Rabbitt about her book, The New Rules of Women's Health, and how women can cut through the social media noise, understand the latest science, ask the right questions, and make informed decisions about their bodies, sex lives and life choices. OUR GUESTMeghan Rabbitt is an award-winning journalist and author of The New Rules of Women’s Health: Your Guide to Thriving at Every Age. She specializes in writing about women’s health and wellness, and her work has appeared in many national publications, including Women’s Health, Oprah Daily, Prevention, Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper. She’s known for translating complex medical and scientific topics into clear, actionable information—and for telling stories that help readers better understand their bodies, their health, and themselves. DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson

Dr. Tammy talks with sensuality mentor and author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark about empowering your sex life, strengthening your relationship, liberating yourself - and all about the 13 Moon Mystery School.GUESTElana Auerbach is a mentor, activist, author, and the founder of Sensuelle: A Woman’s Journey into Sensuality — a transformational program designed to help women reconnect with their bodies, authentic voice, and passion.After building what looked like the “perfect” life — graduating Phi Beta Kappa from UCLA, working on Wall Street, and marrying someone with whom she felt no chemistry, Elana realized she had been living disconnected from herself. In 2001, she made the life-changing decision to leave her marriage and begin a deeply personal journey into sensuality, embodiment, and authentic connection.Since then, she has spent more than two decades guiding women and couples into deeper intimacy, pleasure, and self-awareness. An ordained priestess through the Sanctuary of the 13 Moon Mystery School, Elana taught feminine mystery work for over a decade and has become a trusted voice in conversations around sexuality, relationships, and personal liberation.Her latest book, The Sure Thing, was inspired by her own long-term relationship and the real-life challenges of keeping intimacy alive over time — offering a practical and transformative approach to creating lasting sexual connection.DR. TAMMY WANTS TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS about Sex, Love & Relationship and help you with your Trouble with Sex. Send your questions to [email protected] IN BECOMING A CERTIFIED SEX THERAPIST?Visit ISTI - Integrative Sex Therapy Institute.  If you are already a therapist, find out how to receive your AASECT Sex Therapist Certification. Or, elevate your practice in relational psychotherapy by earning the new Certified Sex and Couples Therapist designation (CSCT).​ AASECT and CSCT renewal and re-certification classes are also offered.IF YOU'RE CONSIDERING OPENING YOUR RELATIONSHIP, CHECK OUT DR. TAMMY'S BOOK - OPEN MONOGAMY!To read more about how to improve your sex life, check out Dr. Tammy's Getting the Sex You Want: Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together.Learn more about love, marriage, infidelity, monogamy and how to redefine your commitment to each other in Dr. Tammy's TEDX talk - The New Monogamy.Instagram @thetroublewithsex and doctor_tammynelson