The Peak Of Manhood | Relating to women is serious business...but it's also hilarious. For over nine consecutive years, The Mountain Top Podcast (formerly The Chick Whisperer Podcast) from X & Y Communications has been the gold standard for men's podcasts. Scot McKay and his expert co-hosts talk women, dating, sex, seduction and 21st century masculinity in a fast-paced and highly entertaining style. Visit http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com and get free, actionable tips in your inbox that'll make you better with women starting today. | Subscribe to the show to get updates automatically, and if you love the show definitely rate us (takes one second) and leave a review!
Trailer: Welcome To The Mountain Top Podcast
1:34Nowadays, many of us as men find it more challenging than ever to relate to women. We hear from the media that our masculinity is "toxic", if it even exists as opposed to being a mere social construct. And most frustrating of all? We're not given an alternative. We're simply told to "do better". This is Scot McKay, host of The Mountain Top Podcast for men...since 2007, the definitive podcastfor evolved men of character. My expert co-hosts and I talk women, dating, relationships and 21st century masculinity in a fast-paced, entertaining and often controversial style. Plus, it can be a very funny show, especially when I have female guests on and bring out their playful, feminine nature. Join thousands of men worldwide--current AND future entrepreneurs, captains of industry, professionals, military officers, first responders and other high-achieving men who work hard AND play hard--all of whom have chosen to boldly stand up, take ownership, reclaim virtuous masculinity and--most of all--enrich their lives with feminine women. There's a new fluff-free show every week. Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio or wherever you get your podcasts, or head over to https://mountaintoppodcast.com Also join us on the most positive Facebook group for men of character, The Mountain Top Summit. Be good out there...
Should You Stay Friends With Your Exes? - MTP280
35:38All my exes happen to live in Texas. But does that mean I should remain in contact with them all, let alone maintain friendships with them? I've found the perfect guest to hit this topic with. She's Sabrina Shaheen Cronin, who heads up the Cronin Law Firm in Michigan and has quite an Internet presence in her field. Yes, she's a family law attorney...but FINALLY one who actually puts the interests of all parties involved in her cases at the forefront. We kick it all off by listing potentially good and bad reasons to stay connected with an ex. You know we'll bring up how some of us have a hard time saying 'no', especially if she's hot. Next, we discuss how it's human nature that we generally only think of the good times when reminiscing about someone, don't we? Why do people get divorced and then remarry the same person? Can toxicity only be apparent to one partner, but not to the other? What are some common examples of that? What is the key word that generally decides whether two people can remain friends post-relationship? What has been the effect of social media on people's ability to make good, solid judgments on relationship issues...especially when it comes to exes and co-parenting? If an ex girlfriend resurfaces on Facebook after months or even years, how should you handle it? And OF COURSE you'll get insider tips on how to choose a good, solid, ethical family law attorney rather than one who only has their own financial best interests at heart. Join me for all the free goodies, show notes and more at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
Why It's Hard For Men To Heal - MTP279
40:49Most people think about therapy as healing from the past, and as coaches we think and talk more about setting future-oriented goals and reaching them. But the truth is that healing from the past is a necessary step to forging ahead successfully in the future. The truly sobering part is that we as men can go years--even decades--without acknowledging, or even realizing the psychological and emotional wounds we need to recover from. Nevertheless, if your upbringing, past relationships or other circumstances have resulted in deep insecurities or even rage, then you have the power to turn that around and become the man you want to be. That's the entire point of my co-host Justin Long's latest book. For starters, we talk about how the biggest kiss of death is being too hard on ourselves, and how it paralyzes us from going forward with perceived risk. Next, we cover how the dreaded approval seeking tendencies make things worse, sending us into an even deeper spiral of self-doubt and loss of confidence. And even though none of this is gender specific, how is it that we as men seem to suffer through our psycho-emotional setbacks longer than most women do...and needlessly so? What exactly is Justin's take on 'righteous rage', and how should we as men wrestle with it? When does rage turn negative, and what's the ripple effect on the rest of our mindset? Why is it that victimhood opens wounds rather than contributing to their healing? What is the most deceptively dangerous character flaw we can have that keeps us from evolving and becoming better men in general? If you haven't visited in a while, there are lots of free goodies for you at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
How To Beat Rejection Phobia - MTP278
41:41My guest Avi Lev is a cognitive behavioral therapist and the founder/director of the Bay Area CBT Center. She has spent lots of time considering how both men AND women fear rejection, and talks about it in completely different terms than your garden variety old school PUA would have. In this episode you'll discover how our behaviors actually influence how women respond to u, sometimes in unexpected or even counterintuitive ways. What is the dirty little trick we play on ourselves that often results in feeling 'rejected' when we really haven't been? It's like we're our own worst enemy...often. But hold on a second, Avi and I differ on how much we believe confidence helps in rejection-phobic situations with women. How can that be? Next, Avi offers her own interpretation of deserving what you want and how it directly affects getting over fear of rejection. Then we drop a bomb on the whole conversation when we pronounce being 'impressive' straight up irrelevant to approach and attraction. As you may know, I've talked about approach being a conversation, not a competition of acceptance vs. rejection. But Avi wonders aloud what's so bad about rejection, anyway? After all, if we're so wadded up in self-absorbed fear, we might completely forget to evaluate whether or not the woman we're talking to is even as attractive as we hoped she'd be. By the way, do women really get off on rejecting men rudely? How and when do women experience fear of rejection? How do dating pitfalls such as zombieing, benching, love bombing, etc. fit into this? Never before has fear of rejection been so clearly explained or given a real-world remedy. Start your journey to getting a great woman in your life NOW by talking to me free for 25-minutes. Sign up at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
Are Mere Opinions Killing Your Mojo? - MTP277
37:46After over three decades of coaching, my guest has concluded that when we experience PEACE we are more production with regard to that which we deem most important. This led him to develop the controversial 30-Day Opinion Diet. In his words, 'It's a detox for your mind, not your body. Taking a break from constantly judging every situation in your life can do wonders for your mental health.' Now, we already know Twitter and Facebook are designed to draw us into spontaneous and often toxic debate, which keeps us addicted to their platforms. But the social cost of everyone being their own media outlet--and trolling each other--is harsh. So how does ceasing and desisting from scattering our opinions far and wide help us? And how does it actually make us MORE attractive to women? What damage has the 'pack mentality' associated with the echo chamber phenomenon already done to our collective psyche? How are dating apps particularly insidious when it comes to messing with our heads? Listen in as Matthew describes the four separate components of what he calls the 30-Day No Opinion Diet. What was the primal purpose of having opinions, and why does it not serve us so well anymore in this post-modern world? Is opinionated arrogance literally baked-in to our psychology archetypally? If so what do we do about THAT? Discover how people weaponize opinions in sneak attack mode...often without us even knowing what hit us. How can we avoid that from now on? What happens when we not only break ourselves of GIVING opinions, but 'live and let live' with regard to the opinions of others? What are the two exceptional circumstances that might possibly make your opinions matter? Does the Opinion Diet make us less, well, opinionated? Do we gain a more open mind from it? How does that help? Get in on the newsletter and join all the fun at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
The Successful Man's Guide To Choosing Women - MTP276
32:03My guest today is a long-time Wall Street Journal reporter who has followed the political lives of presidents, senators and governors. Her new book is called, Why They Stay: Sex Scandals, Deals and Hidden Agendas Of Eight Political Wives. Now, I already know you're probably not tuning in to hear tabloid gossip. But Anne's work is immensely valuable to us as we look inside the relationships the most powerful men in the world have with the women in their lives. Wait until you discover some of the golden truths you can readily apply to your own life, as well as many of the potential relationship pitfalls you can avoid. Indeed, this episode is loading to the hilt with 20/20 foresight. For starters, what behaviors and habits do so-called 'power couples' uniquely exhibit? What do wives of powerful men seem to have in common? Do women necessarily marry high-achieving men simply to leech off of them? Or is it they're seeking to ride 'coat tails' in search of their own power, money, fame as opposed to love? Do some women honestly enter into a relationship with a certain man with a belief they'll change the world together? Is that a turn on for them? On the other hand, if a relationship feels purely transactional, can it still ultimately work? What happens if and when a powerful man loses status, or even falls from grace completely? Is it pure coincidence that only one president was a bachelor? Discover Anne's five factors that tend to decide whether or not a powerful man's wife will stick around no matter what. Finally, objectively speaking, what should high achieving men think about when considering a life partner? Which good traits should we be looking for? What are the warning signs? What about you? Have you found your own 'first lady' yet? Join me for a free 25-minute discussion on your future and the woman in it. Sign up at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
Secrets To Success...With Women And In Life - MTP275
42:24How do elite performers get on top of their game and stay there? My guest is the eponymous head of Dominique Brightmon International, a member of the John Maxwell team who has quite literally written the book on the subject. Dom has identified seven secret keys to sustainable success, and he reveals all of them in this episode. Listen in as he talks about the concept of self-leadership, and why it differentiates winners from the 'also-rans'. Why are so many people nowadays lapsing into the 'sheeple' mentality? Could it be because gaining control by weakness has become far too effective nowadays? I mean, in such a context, what is the value of even trying to perform at all, let alone at an elite level? How can we sort out following the herd versus what sounds like good ideas versus what's really going to work for us individually? Why is it that self-awareness is so massively lacking in our culture? What has the habit of instant gratification turned most of us into? What is the real dichotomy between working smart and working hard? Do we really have to get up at 4:30am like Jocko? What about affirmations, meditating and stuff like that? And surprisingly...could it be that big goals and dreams may actually be counterproductive? (What?) One thing is for sure amidst it all, trolling each other on Twitter is generally NOT a habit of elite performers. Uplevel your success with women in record time...starting with a free 25-minute visit with me personally. Get on board at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
Twin Flames: Who Do You Think You Are? I Am! - MTP274
43:48I couldn't help but invoke pro bowler Pete Weber's infamous quote as the title of this episode. After all, we're talking about twin flames...the idea that your very soul is split here on earth and one other specific human shares it with you. I've known about this concept for quite a while, but it took until now to find the right guest. Elle Hari is indeed a world-class expert on the subject, having studied under the now-deceased undisputed twin flame guru. Now granted, I realizes this sounds like a chick thing from Cosmo on the surface, but hang with me here. What do we as men need to know, and how can we relate? I mean, is our twin flame destined to be our 'one and only'? Is she hot? Is she even a 'she'? And wait a minute...isn't this really just the same thing as the time-worn soulmate concept? (Spoiler alert...it's not.) Are you supposed to marry your twin flame? After all, wouldn't procreating with your twin flame be like inbreeding your soul? What if your twin flame is far away? Do they have the same birthday? Are identical twins twin flames? What is a push/pull twin flame? And what in the world is a 'soul family'? How do you find this person out of 8 billion people, anyway? Do they have to recognize you? What if they think this twin-flame stuff is total BS? How come the idea of twin flames dates all the way back to Plato, yet most of us have heard about it only recently...if at all? One thing is for sure in the midst of exploring this truly unique topic. We'll get down to whether this is some sort supernatural new-agey thing, or perfectly natural and just widely overlooked. Do you have one big sticking point that's keeping you from success. The new Giant Leap coaching program is designed to clear that roadblock, once and for all. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/leap === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!edijpHrM0XrGBl87w5TKedijpHrM0XrGBl87w5TKedijpHrM0XrGBl87w5TK
Is Falling In Love Legit? And If So, Is It Worth It? - MTP273
40:53My guest Dr. Gary Salyer is a well-known subject matter expert in the area of attachment theory. That means he has spent a whole lot of time studying how--and why--humans fall in love and the alchemy of relationships. He also knows something about why people fall OUT of love and tend to hurt each other even when they're IN love. His book is called Safe To Love Again, and in this episode we talk about whether or not falling in love is worth it, and if so how to make it last. Why do so many men scoff at the idea of falling in love, as if it's grounds for surrendering one's 'man card'? Is the idea of getting into a long-term relationship with someone specifically because of how one feels toward them legit? After all, it's a relatively modern construct. And what of the confusion among us as men when we're told on one hand to be stoic in our masculinity, while on the other hand being told it's okay and healthy to exhibit more emotion...especially in the context of a relationship? So then, is love a feeling or is it more of a decision? Is it indeed better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? If we indeed lose love, how do we keep that baggage from negatively affecting our next chance at it? And how does Attachment Theory attempt to make sense of all this? If love is the question, this show has the answers. And if you're ready to move past the roadblocks and find a mutually-fulfilling relationship with the woman of your dreams, now is the time to make a bold move to get her into your life. Start with a free 25-minute consultation with me personally--or check out the BRAND NEW Giant Leap coaching program--both of which you can get going on at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!
A Matter Of Trust - MTP272
29:22It's the foundation of every good solid relationship. With it, you and your significant other are set for years of blissful happiness together. Without it, you're likely doomed to failure. We're talking about trust, of course. Emily and I have enjoyed a trusting relationship with each other for nearly sixteen years now, and she finally sat down with me for a deep dive into all aspects of what that trust looks like. What causes men and women to lack (or lose) trust for each other? How do established mindsets wreak destruction on a nascent relationship before it even has a chance? Should two people trust each other at the beginning blindly, or is that earned over time? What is a reasonable amount of suspicion versus simply being paranoid? What do you do when lack of trust becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy? And how can we shake that nagging feeling of unwillingness to trust again after getting hurt over and over...isn't that kind of like not trusting oneself to begin with? And what about the strain that long-distance relationships put on trust? Do prenuptial agreements automatically betray lack of trust right from the beginning? How much does communication really have to do with all of this? Why does Emily enthusiastically support my in-field outings with you guys to practice meeting women? And for the big finale, we cover the three cornerstones of a good, solid trusting relationship that's built to last. So what about you? Are you in a relationship where trust is lacking, and want to either build it up or get it back? Would you like to get into a healthy relationship but find it hard to trust again? Let's get on the phone together and talk about it. Get on my calendar at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!