105. Stop Giving Men The Benefit Of The Doubt

If you’ve ever felt confused by men who say the right things but never show up with the same energy, this video will help you recognize real kindness, emotional maturity, and integrity — the kind that doesn’t fade once he gets what he wants.I’ll share how to spot: • The difference between genuine and performative kindness • Signs he respects your boundaries • How truly good men behave when they don’t get their way • Why peace might feel “boring” if you’re used to chaos • And what to do when you finally meet a good manThis one’s for the women who are tired of bare-minimum love and ready to experience peace, reciprocity, and the kind of connection that feels safe.📖Get the book: https://amzn.to/4phcByD✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

Too many women get stuck in toxic dating cycles because we give men the kind of love we wish they would give us, instead of paying attention to the love they’re actually showing us.In this video, I break down why women need to:Stop projecting their love onto menStart using discernment (judgment is not cruelty—it’s protection)Stop handing out endless ‘benefit of the doubt’And start treating men according to their character, not yoursIf you’ve ever asked yourself, ‘Why do I keep attracting the same type of man?’ this video will shift everything about the way you date.📚Book Link: https://amzn.to/425rj1W💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜1:1 Coaching (non-subscription): https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule/a9f6a971💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

So many women are trapped in relationships because of a wounded ego. When your ego is in survival mode, you beg to be chosen, over-give, and confuse a man’s validation with your worth. But true power comes when you retrain your ego—not to beg, but to protect.In this video, I’m breaking down in concrete steps how a woman can reclaim her power, heal her wounded ego, and step into her divine femininity. You’ll learn how to stop proving yourself to men, stop personalizing rejection, and start using your ego as a bodyguard instead of a beggar.It’s time to stop chasing and start choosing. It’s time to walk in your worth, reclaim your crown, and embody your feminine power.If you’re ready to step into your highest self, this video will give you the mindset shift you need.📖Get the book: https://amzn.to/4phcByD📝The journal: https://amzn.to/3VGXS2n✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

Walking away isn’t always about heartbreak—it’s about self-respect. In this video, I share the truth about what it means to leave a man who will never get it. Too often, our ego tricks us into thinking we need to prove ourselves to him, when really, our power comes from letting go.This is about retraining your ego to work for you—to be your bodyguard, not your beggar. It’s about no longer chasing validation from a man who cannot see your worth, and standing firm in the truth of who you are.If you’ve ever found yourself trying to “make him see,” this message is for you. You don’t have to beg for love—you are love. 💫📖Get the book: https://amzn.to/4phcByDThe journal: https://amzn.to/3VGXS2n✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.netAuthors page: https://www.amazon.com/author/kindalld💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

ALIGNED DATING VS DATING GAMESTired of dating “rules” that feel like games? This episode flips the script. You’ll learn 10 healthy dating rules that help you align with emotionally mature men—plus the ALIGN Checklist, a tool you can use after every date to stay grounded and choose better.So much modern dating advice teaches women to perform for validation instead of aligning with partners who actually fit. But good men don’t play games—and they won’t stick around for them either.In this video, I’ll show you:✅ Why scarcity of good, mature men is real (and how to filter better)✅ 10 aligned dating rules that create clarity instead of confusion✅ The ALIGN Checklist (Authenticity, Lifestyle, Integrity, Growth, Needs)✅ Scripts and post-date questions to keep anxious attachment in checkWhether you’re dating again after heartbreak, navigating the apps, or simply tired of situationships, these rules will help you stop auditioning and start aligning.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

There’s a difference between a man who consumes you and a man who commits to you. In this video, we break down wanted vs valued and consumption vs commitment—how to spot the signs, why we confuse intensity with intimacy, and what real commitment actually looks like. If you’ve felt like “something is missing,” this is your confirmation to trust your intuition and choose love that builds you, not love that drains you.Healing Sundays ONLY on my YouTube channel can be found here:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwGugZ7M2WXmeERAHpePYJzNimNl_3ZLH&si=0D3RBNDvIyA1rBbs✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

We give men like this way too much credit—and we fault ourselves unfairly.He was never going to commit, no matter how loyal, loving, or patient you were.Because commitment was never his intention to begin with.This video is your wake-up call.To stop blaming yourself for how a man mishandled you.To stop romanticizing his potential.And to finally see that his inability to commit had nothing to do with your worth.He had plans to consume you, not commit to you—and the moment you accept that is the moment you set yourself free.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

How to Trust Men Again (Without Betraying Yourself) 💔➡️❤️In this video, I open up about my personal journey of learning how to trust again—starting with trusting myself.We’ll explore:✨ How to rebuild trust after heartbreak✨ Why self-trust is the foundation before trusting anyone else✨ How childhood experiences taught us to ignore our intuition✨ The real reason it feels scary to let your guard downWhether you’ve been hurt, betrayed, or just feel guarded—this conversation is for you. Healing is possible, and trust doesn’t have to feel like a risk when it starts within.🧠 Mindset shifts💡 Real-life reflections🩷 Soft but honest truthsHealing Sundays ONLY on my YouTube channel can be found here:https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLwGugZ7M2WXmeERAHpePYJzNimNl_3ZLH&si=0D3RBNDvIyA1rBbs✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (151K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (42.7K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (35K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

If you keep finding yourself staying with men who don’t value you the way you know you deserve to be valued—this video is your wake-up call.It’s not just about them—it’s about what you believe you’re worth, and why you keep negotiating with people who can’t see your value.In this video, I break down: • Why you keep staying too long • How to stop tying your worth to a man’s treatment of you • What it looks like to stand in your value, even when someone else can’t • The emotional shifts that change everythingYou don’t need to prove your worth to anyone. Especially not to a man who can’t even recognize it.✨ You are the prize. Now start acting like it.✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:YouTube: https://youtube.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?si=ztPs0PVePJP-q6VrI’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)

So many of us have normalized emotional unavailability, confusion, and inconsistency in relationships… and then we wonder why we’re exhausted, anxious, and constantly second-guessing ourselves.But there are emotionally safe, mature men out there—men who communicate clearly, take accountability, and make you feel seen, not silenced. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what that kind of man looks like, what emotional safety feels like in love, and why you should never settle for anything less.If you’re healing, growing, and protecting your peace—this one’s for you.Watch this video on YouTube next:“Be with a man that loves you more than you love him.”https://youtu.be/gxH8IJZ-HfY✨ Let’s connect:💜1:1 coaching &BONUS podcast episodes https://www.patreon.com/Ivebeenthatgirl💜books, coaching and more:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net💜MY SOCIALS:I’ve Been That Girl, too Instagram: (146K followers) https://www.instagram.com/ivebeenthatgirltoo/TikTok: (37.2K Followers) https://www.tiktok.com/@ivebeenthatgirl?_t=8s8vdJSMVZv&_r=1Threads: (33.1K followers) https://www.threads.net/@ivebeenthatgirltoo?igshid=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==Business Inquiries:https://linktr.ee/ivebeenthatgirl.net(Click the envelope icon at the top of the site)