Roots of Friendship w/ Dr. Miriam Kirmayer

In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Jessie Gold takes us on a journey into the heart of mental health care—where the personal meets the professional. As the first Chief Wellness Officer for the University of Tennessee System, overseeing five campuses and over 62,000 students, Dr. Gold is no stranger to the pressures faced by healthcare professionals. She’s also an acclaimed psychiatrist, professor, speaker, and author of "How Do You Feel," a book that unpacks the emotional reality and humanity behind healthcare. Key Highlights: Self-Disclosure in Therapy: Dr. Gold opens up about how sharing her own experiences enhances therapeutic relationships. Burnout & Compassion Fatigue: Discover the signs and effects of burnout, plus the emotional cost that mental health professionals often pay. Big Feelings Matter: Why suppressing emotions can be detrimental and how validating feelings is essential for everyone, therapists included. Therapists Need Therapy Too: Dr. Gold emphasizes the importance of mental health support for those in caregiving roles. Writing from the Heart: Her book "How Do You Feel" highlights the often-overlooked emotional needs of healthcare workers and the importance of self-care in the profession. Whether you're a healthcare worker, mental health advocate, or someone passionate about authenticity and self-care, this episode will leave you with valuable insights and a fresh perspective on mental health. Dr. Gold’s words remind us that everyone, even the caretakers, deserves care and compassion. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this compelling episode, we’re joined by Dr. Sheila Nazarian, a highly acclaimed plastic surgeon, successful entrepreneur, renowned television personality, and dynamic activist. Beyond founding her private plastic surgery practice, Dr. Nazarian launched multiple ventures, including NazarianSkin, The Skin Spot e-commerce site, Nazarian Plastic Surgery, Spa26, and Physique26 Weight Management Program. She’s been featured on popular platforms like Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon, E! News, The Doctors, Fox News, NewsNation, and the Emmy-nominated Netflix series Skin Decision: Before and After. Dr. Nazarian brings her courageous voice and unwavering commitment to advocating for Jewish identity, anti-Semitism awareness, and empowering the next generation. Tune in for insights on: Embracing Jewish identity in today’s climate Transforming personal experience into impactful activism Facing fear to mobilize action and truth Preparing the next generation to stand up for their beliefs The role of community, personal safety, and shared responsibility Follow Dr. Nazarian's advocacy journey on Instagram @drsheilanazarian and X @doctornazarian, and don’t miss this inspiring conversation on resilience, courage, and the drive to empower a better tomorrow! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode, Eli Weinstein and Ash Cebulka delve into the transformative power of understanding the subconscious mind. They discuss the differences between conscious and subconscious thoughts, the impact of trauma on our lives, and effective techniques for personal transformation. Ash shares insights on accessing and rewiring the subconscious to foster healing and growth, emphasizing the importance of intuition and self-awareness. The conversation highlights practical methods for listeners to begin their journey of self-discovery and healing, including journaling and visualization. Bio: Ash Cebulka is a world-renowned transformation coach, author, and creator of the My New Chapter journal, with over a decade of experience in the personal development space. People like to say that Ash is the one you call when your life needs a new chapter; Ash's mission is to help you create meaningful and sustainable changes in your life. Her work is based on neuroscience, intuitive practices, and spirituality.  Her work guides you to insights illuminating your conditioning and old programming so you can write a new heart-centered story for your life. A story that you consciously choose to create. Whether speaking on stage, working with creatives on retreats, or working with my private clients, she loves sharing practical and powerful practices you can integrate into your daily life so you can not only change your lifestyle and mindset but, most importantly, have a more resilient, stronger, loving, and light-hearted relationship with yourself. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Judy, a renowned clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, to dive deep into the power of self-talk and how our attachment styles shape our present-day behaviors. Dr. Judy sheds light on the long-lasting impact of past experiences, offering insights into why we act the way we do and how balanced thinking can lead to transformative healing—at any age. Together, they tackle the often misunderstood world of disorganized attachment, uncover practical coping strategies, and provide actionable tips to turn those nagging negative thoughts into empowering positive actions. Whether you're seeking healing or understanding, this episode has something for everyone! BIO: Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN, is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, and a published author, penning “Stop Self-Sabotage,” published by HarperCollins in August 2019; a book detailing a scientifically driven six-step program which has been translated into 7 additional languages around the world. Her second book, which she co-authored with Max Dubrow, entitled "I’ll Give it to Your Straight-ish: What Your Teen Wants You to Know," is published by Flashpoint and contains Dr. Judy's evidence-based tips to help parents raise healthy and resilient teenagers. Dr. Judy’s third book, The New Rules of Attachment, which focuses on healing insecure attachment styles at any age to optimize well-being, career, goal attainment, and relationships with family, friends, and colleagues, was published by Hachette Book Group in March 2024. Dr. Judy maintains a private practice in Manhattan Beach, CA where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological assessments and expert witness work. She regularly appears as an expert psychologist on television, podcasts, and radio and contributes to other media, including print and electronic periodicals. She was a co-host on the syndicated daytime television talk show “The Doctors,” co-host of CBS’s Face the Truth, and host of The SuperCharged Life podcast, which focuses on scientific, tangible tips for physical and mental wellness and strategies for motivation and productivity, produced by Stage 29 Podcast Productions. Dr. Judy Ho is an avid researcher and two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award. She hosts an active research program to improve mental health care for high-need populations and is the chair of the Institutional Review Board at Pepperdine University. Her treatment approaches integrate the scientific principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. She often speaks at national and local events including research, clinical, and corporate conferences and workshops for organizations and schools. Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

In this episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Todd Baratz—therapist, author, and expert on relationships and generational trauma. Todd dives into the power of therapy, the importance of open communication in families, and why 'good enough' relationships might be more fulfilling than we think. He also unpacks the nuances of modern dating and how understanding our triggers can lead to greater self-awareness. Tune in as Todd shares personal reflections and practical advice for overcoming emotional hurdles and fostering healthier connections in your life. Takeaways: Todd Barretts emphasizes the importance of long-term therapy relationships. Generational trauma significantly impacts our understanding of ourselves. Open communication in families fosters emotional intimacy and connection. Modern dating is filled with anxiety and unrealistic expectations. The concept of 'good enough' relationships is crucial for long-term satisfaction. Triggers can provide valuable insights into our emotional states. Acceptance of our feelings is essential for personal growth. Relationships inherently involve challenges and discomfort. Self-awareness is key to navigating emotional complexities. Todd's personal journey informs his therapeutic approach. Bio: Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense. He is the author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Ready to dive into a raw, real, and much-needed conversation on masculinity? This week, Eli Weinstein sits down with Brendan to unpack the emotional struggles boys and men face today. From feeling isolated to fighting societal pressure to “man up,” they dig deep into the loneliness men often keep hidden.Brendan shares eye-opening research on teenage boys, shedding light on why building community and self-acceptance is the key to emotional growth. They get real about why vulnerability isn’t a weakness—it’s a game changer. This episode is all about breaking down walls and embracing emotions as part of being human. Whether you’re a guy, raising one, or just curious about emotional well-being, this is for you! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Frank Anderson discusses trauma and healing in this episode. He shares his personal experience with trauma and how it has shaped his career in helping others heal. Dr. Anderson emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting our responses to trauma and the need for connection and support in the healing process. He also highlights the significance of trusting our own wisdom and seeking corrective experiences. Dr. Anderson believes that healing from trauma is possible and encourages individuals to appreciate their own resilience and capacity for healing. Bio: Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, the memoir To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the co-author of the Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on treating trauma and dissociation, he’s passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons. Follow him at FrankAndersonMD.com and on Instagram at @frank_andersonmd. Takeaways Understand and accept your responses to trauma. Don't blame yourself for how you react. You have what you need inside of you to heal. Trust your own wisdom and seek support and connection. Healing from trauma happens in connection with others. Find healthy and safe relationships that provide corrective experiences. Healing is a process that takes time. Take it one step at a time and be patient with yourself. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 08:01 The Concept of 'Normal' and Self-Acceptance 12:48 Traumatic Experiences and Processing 16:39 Becoming a Chameleon and Opening Up 19:03 Healing Trauma and the Role of Protectors 26:13 The Journey of Healing and Patience 31:55 The Resurgence of Trauma Healing and Integrated Approaches 39:26 Key Points on Trauma and Healing 43:00 Reaching Out and Finding Healing --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Sarah Ann Macklin, a registered nutritionist and founder of the top health podcast Live Well, Be Well, shares her journey from the modeling industry to becoming a nutritionist and mental health advocate. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and self-care in achieving overall wellness. Sarah discusses the impact of societal pressure and comparison on our mental health and offers strategies for cultivating a positive mindset. She suggests naming the inner critic, practicing mindfulness, and writing self-compassionate letters to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves and our bodies. Sarah Ann Macklin is a multifaceted force in the realm of health, nutrition and advocacy. As the founder of the acclaimed podcast Live Well Be Well and the visionary behind the Be Well Collective, she has galvanised change in the wellness landscape. A registered nutritionist, TEDx speaker, international model and esteemed health journalist, Sarah's impact exceeds boundaries. Named by Marie Claire as the Jamie Oliver of the Modelling industry. Her dedication to preventative mental health initiatives led to the establishment of the Be Well Collective, a not-for-profit organization committed to preventable mental health support on a mission for all minds to BE Well. Through her top health and nutrition podcast, Live Well, Be Well, one of the biggest UK health podcasts with exclusive of-the-moment health conversations involving the world’s renowned scientists and health experts, Sarah has publicized invaluable insights and garnered widespread acclaim. Takeaways Self-compassion is essential for overall wellness and involves acknowledging and accepting our imperfections and treating ourselves with kindness and understanding. Societal pressure and comparison can negatively impact our mental health, and it's important to recognize that everyone experiences self-doubt and struggles. Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings and respond to them in a more rational and compassionate way. Writing self-compassionate letters to ourselves can improve body satisfaction and body image by fostering acceptance and gratitude for our bodies. Developing a positive mindset takes time and effort, but it is possible to cultivate self-love and self-acceptance by challenging negative thoughts and treating ourselves with compassion. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Sarah Ann Macklin 01:00 Sarah's Journey into Nutrition and Wellness 03:20 The Impact of the Modeling Industry on Mental Health 08:43 The Dangers of Comparison in the Digital Age 14:45 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Achieving Health 19:49 Balancing Self-Compassion with Societal Pressure 25:31 Cultivating a Positive Mindset and Overcoming Self-Doubt 28:49 Improving Body Image through Self-Compassion 35:23 Strategies for Developing a Healthier Mindset --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Dr. Kat Truitt, a clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, discusses the importance of understanding and working with our brains to improve mental health. She shares her personal journey of struggling with mental health and how it led her to pursue a career in psychology. Dr. Truitt emphasizes the need to break down barriers and make mental health services accessible to everyone. She explains how our brains can sometimes feel like they are trying to hurt us, but it's actually a survival mechanism gone awry. She also discusses the concept of the brain holding the key to our health and wellness and how we can learn to utilize it. Dr. Truitt highlights the power of psychosensory tools, such as EMDR and mindful touch, in healing trauma and promoting resilience. She encourages individuals to prioritize their brain health and engage in practices that strengthen their mental well-being. 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:22 Understanding the Power of Our Brains 08:10 Creating Space for Change 19:27 Rebuilding Core Values 23:44 Viewing Trauma as a Challenge and Opportunity 28:21 Training and Strengthening the Brain 34:21 Healing Trauma with Psychosensory Tools 47:36 Conclusion and Contact Information Dr. Kate Truitt, an award-winning clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, is internationally recognized for her trauma, stress, and resilience expertise. As the founder of the Truitt Institute, she integrates cutting-edge neuroscience into mental health training and seminars. She also leads her clinical team of expert mental health practitioners at Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates. She serves as CEO of both the Amy Research  Foundation and the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles.  As a member of the Goldie Hawn Foundation’s MindUP Scientific Advisory Committee as well as an expert contributor to the Kevin Love Fund and the Girl Scouts of America, Dr.  Truitt passionately advocates for mental health literacy and empowerment globally.  With an impressive social media following of over 140,000 and a combined viewer and readership of over 10 million, she regularly shares valuable mental health insights.  Her voice in the mental health arena extends to her role as a sought-after speaker and expert in media, including features on BBC and Today. Dr. Truitt has delivered keynotes and training at prestigious platforms like the United Nations and the United States  Department of Defense. As the author of Healing in Your Hands: Self-Havening Exercises  to Harness Neuroplasticity, Heal Traumatic Stress, and Build Resilience and Keep  Breathing, she is dedicated to advancing the treatment of trauma and stress disorders,  making significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and fostering resilience worldwide. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support

Julie Manano, a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializes in working with couples using emotionally focused therapy for couples. She focuses on attachment styles, particularly the anxious-avoidant dynamic. A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management. Conflict is an opportunity for growth and bonding but must be managed with emotional safety. Change in attachment style can happen within a relationship, but it requires awareness, understanding, and time. The deeper questions to ask in a relationship involve exploring fears, views of self, and shame. Love languages are not enough to replace emotional bonding. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses his book and the importance of understanding relationships' underlying emotions and behaviors. He emphasizes the need for self-reflection and self-awareness to create positive behavior change. Weinstein also highlights the negative cycles that couples often get caught in and provides examples of how to break free from them. He discusses the importance of recognizing that partners are on the same team and need to support each other emotionally. Additionally, he addresses the challenges of adjusting to changes in a relationship and the importance of patience and growth. Chapter: 00:00 Introduction to Julie Manano and Attachment Styles 01:28 Defining Healthy Relationships and Conflict Management 05:09 Breaking the Ideal of No Conflict in Relationships 08:56 The Role of Repair in Relationships 10:22 Understanding Change in Attachment Styles 13:13 Fear of Vulnerability and Change in Relationships 14:40 The Importance of Attachment Styles in Relationships 16:30 Changing Attachment Styles Within a Relationship 18:24 Balancing Repair and Attachment Style Work in Therapy 21:09 Exploring Deeper Questions in Relationships 23:02 The Limitations of Love Languages in Relationships 24:26 A Different Approach to Love and Relationships 24:54 Understanding the Underlying Emotions and Behaviors 27:18 Recognizing the Complexity of Relationship Problems 33:56 Partners on the Same Team: Emotional Support 37:20 Sympathy over Empathy: Connecting to Feelings 48:28 Breaking Free from Negative Cycles Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support