Episode 702: The Reply Is The Job
Somebody reached out to your church this week. A text, an email, a comment on a post. And nobody answered.That was not an inquiry you missed. That was a person offering you a relationship, and your church said no by saying nothing.In this episode Henry starts on a mountain. 1 Kings 18, Carmel, four hundred and fifty prophets on one side and one man on the other. Two altars, same wood, same bull, same crowd, same sky. The only variable in the whole experiment is which name gets called on. And Elijah sets the terms himself. The god who answers, that one is God.Then the turn. Because every week your church is one of those two altars, and somebody reaches out and finds out which one.The core of this episode is a claim worth arguing with. You cannot disciple a stranger. Relationship comes before discipleship, every single time, and there is no version of this where you skip it. Mark 3:14 says Jesus appointed twelve so they would accompany him, and then he would send them out. Accompany comes first in the sentence and first in the sequence. Three years of walking and eating and arguing came before a single one of them preached anything.We built almost every church program in America on the second half of that verse.IN THIS EPISODEThe showdown at Carmel, and why the verdict was about presence and not powerMark 3:14, Zacchaeus, and the woman at the wellThe sequence that does not run in any other order: conversation, relationship, attendance, belonging, discipleshipWhy your membership class does not fill and your small group has the same eight peopleWho you connect with outside the room sets the pace for everybody inside itScripture: 1 Kings 18, Mark 3:14, Luke 19, John 4No unanswered message ever became a baptism. Not one, ever, in the history of the church.Tools do the sending. People do the church.---FREE TRAININGThe Mandate Method. How God-called leaders build growing churcheswith the P3 System. Live and free.https://getchurchsystems.com/landersMANDATE SUMMIT 2026October 21 to 24. Four days for pastors who are done guessing.General admission is $67 through October 1.https://mandatesummit26.com/registerCHURCH SYSTEMS IN A BOXThe systems library, the templates, the workflows, and the Labevery Thursday night.https://getchurchsystems.com/updated-checkout-pageTHE COMEBACK PLANThe book this whole thing started with.https://stuckchurch.com/---Apostolic Insight is the podcast of Simple Systems Consulting. New episode every week through December.Henry Tolbert is the founder of Simple Systems Consulting and an Associate Pastor at The STAR Church. He and Latoya Tolbert help small and bivocational pastors build churches that run on systems instead of exhaustion.getchurchsystems.comthemandateos.com