The Derelict Podcast

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A VERY special episode where we interrupt our regularly scheduled programming to interview, yes, that's right, MY PARENTS!They failed their first marriages. Then made it 40+ years together. My parents open up about gender roles, God, cheating, and what makes love actually last. Raw, real, unfiltered. Share this with someone younger—before they screw it up.

Get your well-crafted story blueprint to create a compellingpresentation: www.freestoryguide.comCheck out Danny's books here: https://amzn.to/4kIcgl2Recommended reading: "Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln" by Doris Kearns Goodwin: https://amzn.to/3IBITDz In this episode of The Derelict Podcast, Josh Tomeoni sits down with Dr. Danny Brassell to challenge what modern culture teaches men about masculinity. They explore why vulnerability is actually strength, how to find purpose after failure, and why respect must be earned. From faith and adversity to powerful storytelling, this conversation will inspire any man ready to step into authentic leadership. ✅ Subscribe for more on redefining masculinity and personal growth.✅ Leave a comment if this resonated with you.Chapters00:00 – Introduction and Connection03:00 – Redefining Masculinity05:39 – The Journey of Vulnerability08:24 – The Importance of Authenticity11:29 – Lessons from Failure14:28 – Finding Purpose in Adversity17:06 – The Role of Mentorship20:04 – Spiritual Growth and Identity22:47 – The Shift in Perspective25:36 – Conclusion and Reflections29:09 – Finding Your Mission and Overcoming Failure30:41 – Lessons from Abraham Lincoln’s Life36:14 – Respect and Disagreement in Relationships41:31 – The Importance of Slowing Down50:33 – Resilience Through Tough Times

Connect with Jessica on Instagram: @jessicalaurenvine!In this engaging conversation, Jessica Lauren Vine and Josh Tomeoni explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on themes of masculinity, femininity, and personal growth. They discuss the impact of divorce, the concept of toxic masculinity, and the importance of communication in fostering healthy relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they emphasize the journey of self-discovery and the influence of external opinions on our perceptions of love and connection.

In this episode, Josh and Chris (www.beentheregotout.com) delve into the complexities of narcissism, abusive relationships, and the journey of healing and resilience. Chris shares his personal experiences with high conflict divorce, the impact of childhood on adult relationships, and the importance of self-validation. They discuss the differences between covert and overt narcissism, how to identify narcissistic behaviors, and the significance of introspection and accountability in personal growth. The conversation also highlights the challenges of navigating toxic relationships and offers resources for those seeking support.Buy Chris' book here: https://amzn.to/4ld1cxrChapters00:00 Introduction to Narcissism and Relationships02:35 Chris's Personal Journey and Resilience06:01 Understanding Narcissism: Covert vs Overt09:24 Identifying Narcissistic Behaviors13:28 Self-Reflection and Narcissism17:04 The Impact of Toxic Relationships19:37 Building a Supportive Relationship21:23 Navigating Post-Divorce Dynamics24:28 The Psychology of Manipulation29:13 Curiosity and Self-Assessment31:11 Navigating Childhood Trauma and Relationships38:29 Building Healthy Relationships After Trauma43:23 Understanding Trauma Bonds vs. Healthy Connections48:41 Overcoming Personal Blocks in Relationships53:48 Helping Others Navigate Toxic Relationships

In this powerful episode of The Derelict Podcast, Josh Tomeoni sits down with Larry Hagner—founder of The Dad Edge (thedadedge.com)—to explore what it takes to become a legendary father and husband. From overcoming childhood struggles to building emotional safety and self-awareness, Larry shares raw insights on parenting, masculinity, and the pursuit of personal growth. Whether you’re balancing work and family or learning to forgive yourself, this conversation will inspire you to show up as your best self.🎧 Listen to learn how validation, forgiveness, and community can transform your relationships—and your life.And watch for Larry's book, “Pursuit of Legendary Fatherhood” coming out September 16, 2025!

💔 What happens when a man loses everything—his marriage, his career, and even his child?In this brutally honest episode, Josh sits down with Jonathon Aslay, dating and relationship coach, to talk about addiction, heartbreak, online dating as a coping mechanism, and the long, messy road to self-love.From numbing with drugs and validation to doing the real work of healing, Jonathon shares the truth about how men suffer in silence and how they can finally break free.Whether you're a divorced dad, a man stuck in the cycle of "overthinking and under feeling", or just someone looking for hope after loss — this episode is for you.🧠 What You’ll Learn:Why most men use dating for validation, not connectionHow trauma bonding can disguise itself as loveThe dark side of online dating for divorced menWhy your pain isn’t your fault—but healing is your jobThe real path to rebuilding after a complete life collapse▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 Key Takeaways:1️⃣ Online Dating Wasn’t Fun—It Was TherapyJonathon reveals how he used dating as a way to dump emotional pain and avoid real healing.2️⃣ Most Men Don’t Heal—They NumbFrom cocaine to casual hookups, many men avoid therapy and instead chase validation to escape their wounds.3️⃣ Overthinking Isn’t the Problem—Avoiding Action IsJosh and Jonathon break down how getting stuck in thoughts blocks growth, while taking messy action opens healing.4️⃣ Relationships Fail Because We’re Unhealed, Not UnluckyThe patterns we repeat in love are often trauma reenactments—until we choose to face ourselves.5️⃣ Healing Starts When You Say: ‘Maybe It’s Me’Change begins not when life falls apart, but when we stop blaming others and ask, “How am I contributing to this pain?”⏱️Timestamps:00:00 – 03:00Intro: Jonathon’s journey & Josh's praise of his book03:00 – 09:00Self-love, overthinking, and nurturing your inner child09:00 – 15:00Writing the book after divorce, job loss & emotional collapse15:00 – 22:00Cocaine, alcohol, online dating as coping mechanisms22:00 – 28:00Addicted to validation: emotional dumps as fake therapy28:00 – 34:00Why men ghost: shame, sabotage & the dysfunctional moonwalk34:00 – 41:00Hookup culture, marriage burnout & emotional exhaustion41:00 – 47:00The collapse of commitment & why men are checking out47:00 – 53:00What men really want post-divorce (but are afraid to say)53:00 – 59:00The epidemic of emotional immaturity in modern dating59:00 – 1:05:00How to start healing: therapy, reflection & emotional honesty1:05:00 – 1:13:00Final truth: You're the problem — and the solution

🔥 Tired of feeling stuck, unmotivated, or like you’re never enough?In this fire-packed episode, Josh sits down with Samantha ultra-marathoner, mindset coach, and all-around badass, to talk about what it really takes to feel hot AF — in your body, mind, and entire life.This episode isn’t just about fitness — it’s about rewiring your thoughts, breaking free from self-sabotage, and learning how to show up when you feel like doing anything but.If you’ve ever struggled with confidence, stress weight, or feeling like you’ve lost your spark... this one's for you.💬 DM “JOSH” to Samantha on Instagram @samanthanivensto claim a FREE 30-min coaching session on body, mindset, or relationships. No strings attached.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 5 Key Takeaways 1️⃣ Your Mindset Is More Powerful Than Any WorkoutSamantha reveals that your thoughts create your reality. Before you ever build a “hot AF” body, you have to build a hot AF mindset — with daily intention, not just affirmations.2️⃣ Don’t Chase Weight Loss — Chase JoyInstead of focusing on “losing baby weight,” Samantha set goals that brought her joy (like races). As a result, the weight came off naturally. Joy fuels discipline better than shame ever will.3️⃣ Stress Is What’s Actually Holding You BackEven with perfect diet and workouts, many people struggle with progress. Why? Chronic stress and negative self-talk sabotage results more than most realize.4️⃣ Your Goals Must Be Yours — Not Just What You “Should” WantIf your motivation feels forced, it won’t last. Samantha explains how to discover your authentic desires through tools like “intuition walks” and journaling.5️⃣ Confidence Isn’t Earned — It’s PracticedYou don’t get confidence from results. You get results by practicing confidence — even before you believe it. Saying “I am that b*tch” isn’t ego, it’s rewiring.Chapters:00:00 – 03:00Intro & Samantha’s “Hot AF” philosophy03:00 – 09:30Why most mindset work fails09:30 – 17:00Journaling: brain dump & intentional thoughts17:00 – 24:00Exercise for mental health, not abs24:00 – 33:00Stress-free weight loss after babies33:00 – 41:00Finding real motivation (without “shoulds”)41:00 – 48:00Belief gap: from self-doubt to self-worth48:00 – 55:00Build your support circle55:00 – 59:00Final thoughts & free coaching offer

Most men don’t realize they’re in high-conflict marriages… until they’re drowning in a brutal divorce. In this powerful and raw episode, top divorce coach Karen McMahon breaks down the emotional chaos men face, the myths around masculinity and vulnerability, and why most men don’t seek help until it’s almost too late.We talk about:- The truth behind “high-conflict” divorces- Why therapy alone won’t save you- How most men abandon themselves to keep the peace- The difference between being vulnerable and being weak- Why self-love is the most courageous thing a man can doThis one’s not just about divorce—it’s about reclaiming your identity.👉 If you’re a man going through hell, keep going. This episode might be your turning point.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📌 5 Key Takeaways 1. Most men in high-conflict marriages don’t even know they’re in one—until it’s too late. They normalize emotional neglect and verbal abuse.2. Divorce isn’t just a legal battle—it’s emotional survival. Attorneys don’t protect your heart. Coaches like Karen do.3. Being vulnerable doesn’t mean being weak. It means being authentic—and real men need that more than ever.4. Divorced men have the highest suicide rates. Not because they’re broken—but because they go through it alone.5. Every upset is a setup. Divorce can break you, or it can transform you. Choose to grow.⏱️ Timestamps:00:00 – Why This Divorce Coach Works With Men01:20 – Difference Between Coach, Therapist, Mediator & Attorney04:50 – The Real Role of a Divorce Coach07:30 – Financial Mistakes Men Make in Divorce12:30 – Why Men Feel Alone and Misunderstood17:15 – Redefining Vulnerability for Men24:00 – Trauma Isn’t What Happens. It’s What Stays With You29:30 – Building Trust in Male Friendships33:10 – Why Group Work Is Harder for Men38:00 – What Really Makes a Divorce “High Conflict”?44:20 – The Silent Abuse Most Men Don’t Recognize47:00 – Self-Love Feels Selfish—But It’s Survival53:00 – The Trap of Repeating the Same Relationship57:30 – Taking Radical Ownership & Moving Forward1:00:00 – “The Obstacle Is The Way” and Just Doing the Work1:04:00 – Awareness → Acceptance → Action (Karen’s Framework)1:05:00 – Why You Can’t Do Divorce Alone

Men today are more confused than ever—about love, identity, masculinity, and purpose. In this raw and eye-opening episode, therapist and men’s coach Chuck Chapman joins us to dissect the crisis modern men face: the collapse of masculinity, the trap of being “too nice,” and the emptiness of chasing success without self-love.We talk about:- The myth of toxic masculinity- What an “integrated man” looks like- Why most men are either numb, climbing, or broken- The hidden costs of not loving yourself- Echoism: the dangerous opposite of narcissismIf you’re a man feeling stuck, alone, or unseen—this episode might just change your life.✍️ 5 Key Takeaways1. Most men are stuck between two extremes: the “nice guy” who suppresses himself, and the “too much man” who's ego-driven. The real answer? Becoming an integrated man—authentic, humble, and courageous.2. The phrase “You’re doing your best” is often a lie. Real growth comes from radical honesty, not soft encouragement. Men need direction, not pity.3. We confuse perception for truth. Like counting the bouncing basketballs and missing the gorilla in the room, our minds filter reality through past wounds and biases.4. Self-love is not narcissism. A man who truly loves himself becomes a source—not a taker. He has more to give because he's not running on empty.5. The deeper path beats numbing or climbing. At a midlife crisis, you can climb harder, go numb, or go deep. Only one of those paths leads to lasting peace.▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👇 SUBSCRIBE HERE:https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelict𝐖𝐚𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬...?▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬👍 Like the video (it helps a ton!)💬 Comment below to share your opinion!🔗 Share the video with anyone you think might help :)▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬📧 For Business Inquiries: [email protected]▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Follow us on social media:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JoshTheDerelictTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@JoshTheDerelictInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshTheDerelictLinkedin: /**Josh Tomeoni, CFP®, ChFC®, CLU®, RICP®**https://www.linkedin.com/in/joshuatomeoni/▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬And also our website:https://www.thederelict.biz/podcast▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬▬Timestamps:00:00 - Intro: Therapist or Coach?01:26 - Men in Crisis: What Changed?05:20 - The "Too Much Man" vs "Nice Guy" Trap08:10 - The 8 C’s of the True Self (IFS Framework)12:00 - Emotional Triggers and Internal Narratives17:00 - Integrated Masculinity Explained21:01 - Why Perception Is Not Reality25:15 - Gorilla Test: How Focus Blinds Us28:20 - Real Grace vs "They’re Doing Their Best"33:30 - Conflict in Relationships: The Real Root35:10 - Zero-Sum Thinking Destroys Relationships38:15 - Religion, Identity & Self-Love41:00 - Echoism: The Opposite of Narcissism44:00 - Why “Nice Guys” Attract Chaos46:50 - Addictions & Avoidance Patterns in Men50:20 - The Three Paths at Midlife: Climb, Numb or Go Deep54:10 - The Love Machine Analogy56:00 - Final Words on Becoming an Integrated Man