The Line Between Empathy and Enabling

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sitting down with a dear friend, John Scardina. He is a former school psychologist whose current mission is to highlight male vulnerability and connect men with other men. John talks with Em and Jen about breaking negative familial and societal cycles, our relationship with our fathers, masculinity and humanity, anger as a "cover-up" emotion in men, and so much more! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content! John's website Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are helping us differentiate between being kind and being walked all over or taken advantage of. They start the episode by explaining how the feeling of resentment can provide information to help differentiate between the two. Then they discuss the socialization of women to always be kind, why we have this idea that holding people accountable = mean, work boundaries with a boss or manager, in-laws and kindness, asking for what you need, and so much more! The episode wraps with a Dear Em & Jen about a listener's FIL majorly crossing boundaries. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 3 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks Bilt: Earn points by paying rent right now when you go to joinbilt.com/shrinkchicks

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are thrilled to welcome Nedra Glover Tawwab back to the podcast! Nedra is a licensed therapist, a New York Times Bestselling author, and an expert on relationships and boundaries. If you haven’t followed her on Instagram yet, go do it now! They start the episode off by talking about Nedra's new book, Consider This, which just hit shelves last week. Then, Nedra answers your questions about emotionally immature people and boundaries. She covers topics like navigating the emotionally immature parent/child relationship as an adult, how to know if you're the emotionally immature one, setting boundaries with people who say "it's not that deep," appeasing to avoid conflict, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: There is no intro for today's episode - join us right away for the content! Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com Hiya: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/shrinkchicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are sharing the life lessons they've learned throughout the years that have shifted their perspectives. They discuss how helping can really be a way to control, why being clear = being kind, feelings of stuckness and remembering everything is temporary, de-personalizing other people’s reactions, and so much more! Then, Em and Jen share their thoughts and responses to your life lessons. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 5 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks Manscaped: Get 20% off + free shipping with the code shrinkchicks at manscaped.com

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are joined by one of their amazing clinicians from their therapy practice, Dr. Lindsay Haston! Lindsay talks to us about where to begin when releasing control, letting go of control both externally and internally, and why fear can hold us back. She discusses the main modality she uses with her clients, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and what it entails. Lindsay explains some facets of ACT like accepting things as neutral vs. good or bad and how to work to stop negative thoughts in their tracks. We get to hear what Lindsay is calling BS on and why she doesn't like when her clients refer to themselves as a "control freak." You don't want to miss this one! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 4:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Fill out this FORM and request Dr. Lindsay if you are interested in working with her! Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies Ibotta: Ibotta is offering our listeners $5 just for trying it! Go to the App Store or Google Play store and download the FREE Ibotta app to start earning cash back and use code SHRINKCHICKS when you register Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are helping us learn how to take responsibility for our emotional reactions. They discuss the guilt/shame cycle that can occur after an emotional reaction and how to stop it, what a genuine apology looks like, how to communicate when you're hurting, setting boundaries with others who emotionally react to you, and so much more! The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about insecurities following a heartbreak. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 3:30 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Distress Tolerance Episode Book Mentioned: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

Today on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking about what it actually looks like to respond, not react. They discuss the practice of responding and not reacting, identifying and understanding your personal triggers, responding vs. reacting with others AND with yourself, why romantic relationships typically trigger us the most, and working toward not absorbing other peoples’ energy/mood. The episode ends with a Dear Em & Jen about being caught in between a parent and partner. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7:15 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen share tips and tricks to help you build self-confidence and self-esteem. They discuss why doing something new can trigger feelings of insecurity, self-confidence and mastery, how to know if your inner critic is right or wrong, building self-confidence with a core wound of unworthiness, how to validate yourself, when people's opinions matter vs. when they don’t, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are covering a topic that they differ greatly on: when to speak up (what Jen works on) and when to bite your tongue (what Em works on). So whether you are an Em or a Jen - they got you! They discuss questions to ask yourself when debating whether to say something, harming yourself by staying quiet vs. harming the other person by saying too much, honesty without tact, how this relates to parenting, and tips on how to bring things up and how to refrain. The episode ends with a Dear Em and Jen about everyone’s favorite topic: in laws. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 7 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks

This week's episode is a re-release of one of Emmalee and Jen's favorite episodes. They want to model what they often share, which is the importance of resting and taking breaks in order to continue to show up as the best versions of themselves. The topic is one that constantly receives questions: what to do when the people in your life aren't "doing the work?" Whether that's your family member, friend, co-worker, or partner, Emmalee and Jen are answering your questions about the frustrations that can occur when it feels like you're the only one working on yourself. They discuss tangible tips, firm boundaries, their thoughts on being called "too sensitive," passive aggression, resentment and the emotions underneath it, changing relational dynamics, and so much more. Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 6 minutes to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content. Part Two of the "doing the work" episode series: Apple Link Spotify Link Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group! ShrinkChicks on Instagram Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!! Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners: HungryRoot: Go to hungryroot.com/shrinkchicks to get 40% off your first delivery and get your free veggies MasterClass: Get an additional 15% off an annual membership at masterclass.com/shrinkchicks Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order Prose: Get 50% off your first subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/shrinkchicks