Ask A Sexologist ~ Trouble Shooting Your Tantra Practice

Somatic Sex Educators, Rahi Chun and Ariel Sazbo, join Devi to explore the meaning of “Erotic Intelligence” and how conscious sexual intimacy allows us to rewire our understanding of intimacy, heal the nervous systems, and expand consciousness through the Body.Discover the path from “release” to revelation and expand your understanding of what sex Is for!Learn about:1) The difference between Sex as Performance vs. Sex as Practice2) The 8 Pillars of Intimacy3) Nervous System Attunement as an Aphrodisiac4) Re-patterning habits with pleasure 5) Tracking Erotic Energy6) Playing the Pleasure Scale7) Expanding your Erotic Container8) Sex as a Portal to ConsciousnessAbout Rahi and Ariel:Rahi Chun and Ariel Szabo are certified Somatic Sex Educators and Sexological Bodyworkers devoted to restoring erotic aliveness through conscious touch, deep relational presence, and erotic alchemy.Rahi is internationally recognized for teaching the art of genital de-armoring and understanding how our developmental imprints influence our adult sexual expression.Ariel is recognized for her depth of attunement in somatic and erotic work, her integration of plant medicine and pleasure, and her writing at the intersection of sexuality, power, and liberation.Together they teach from lived experience: from their own practice of erotic devotion, rupture and repair, and the conscious choice of returning to connection. They offer private sessions, couples immersives, and their signature online course at divineunionforlovers.com.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

What many mainstream media outlets don’t tell you is that sex after 50 often becomes more intentional, emotionally fulfilling, and enjoyable than our younger years. It is a time when sex is less about performance and more about pleasure, communication, and intimacy.Midlife sex and relationship expert, Karen Bigman, joins Devi for an honest conversation about what no one tells you about sex after 50. Tune in and learn:Why current scripts around sex and aging are outdatedHow sex & desire don't disappear, but they DO changeThe framework for a healthy sexual relationship in midlifeWhy your sexspan should = your lifespan How men have their own sexual challenges that affect their partnered relationships.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

What does it feel like to come home to your body as a cancer survivor? How do you reclaim pleasure, sensation, and connection to your body after treatment?In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, Certified Sexologist Stacie Steinbock shares their personal story of surviving ovarian cancer, undergoing cancer treatment, and how having cancer and being a cancer survivor has impacted their sexual health and sensual wellbeing. If you are or know a cancer survivor, this is an episode discussing sexual healing and self-empowerment you won't want to miss.Ready to reclaim pleasure and connection? Register now for Stacie's 10-week program for cancer survivors: "Coming Home: Sexual Healing for Gynecological and Breast Cancer Survivors." Spots are limited—secure yours today and begin your healing journey at Golden Thread Tantra.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

“When you dwell in a frequency that feeds you, your frequency will naturally reset your authenticity. Remember, there is a difference between a person who has medicine and a person who is medicine.” ~Malidome Patrice SomeWe are committed to the collective activation of pleasure as sacred medicine. But WHY, why do we need pleasure as medicine, and how does this factor into our communities?Here’s the truth: it is about more than skillful living, it’s about vision. The inner resources we have to make it through without compromising our hearts. So much creative power happens when we come together in a focused liberatory practiceHealing does not mean we are not already whole – in sacred wisdom, it summons us to acknowledge, accept, and become our true selves. Certified Authentic Tantra Practitioners Ahamne Glover and Laurie McCraken join Devi to discuss the potent benefits of communal healing spaces anchored in the embodied experience of Pleasure as Medicine. Listeners will tap into the benefits of learning about the power of non-sexual communal pleasure practices to:Tap into the wisdom of ritual as spiritual attunement and dreaming as expansionHarness your creative power to transform patterns of thinking and beingReceive communal empathy in a world divorced from compassionCo-regulate your nervous system through inner harmony, inner cooperation, and inner authorityReceiving support through focused collective intention and surrender to SpiritJoin Ahmane and Laurie LIVE every Tuesday from April 28th-May 26th  6:30pm - 8:30pm EST for PLEASURE AS MEDICINE COMMUNAL HEALING SPACE ~ FIVE WEEK GROUP ACTIVATION PROGRAM Registration Ends April 20th!Register HERE!Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

Are you sabotaging your sex life by falling into an "intimacy trap"? No, we’re not talking about love-bombing and emotional manipulation, we’re talking about the three biggest intimacy traps that men fall into when trying to navigate the complex landscape of post-pardom, perimenopause, hormonal fluctuations, and SEX.In this week’s episode, Intimacy After Kids expert, Sofia Fortin, and Devi Ward Erickson discuss the three biggest traps men fall into in this relationship stage that sabotage their sex life, what is in their power to control and change, and how to shift the vibe from roommates back to romance, no matter what's going on in their partner's body. Uncover the 3 biggest intimacy traps:- trap number 1 - waiting for her libido to come back. You can create the conditions for desire - trap number 2 - frozen in uncertainty, and cutting off non sexual connection and touch - trap number 3 - talking about it to death and seeking validation ( chasing her is not the vibe) Tune into this week's episode to learn more about how you can show up as an empowered man (not a boy) in the bedroom.Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

In this episode of Sex Is Medicine, we focus on understanding porn addiction—its causes, effects, and the underlying unmet needs that may drive compulsive use.Guest Jeremy Lipkowitz, founder of Unhooked Academy, shares his personal journey of overcoming porn addiction with mindfulness and self-connection. Find out: * How porn rewires the mind to be addicted to novelty and more extreme content over time* The overlap between Buddhist philosophy and addiction recovery (understanding craving and suffering)* Why mindfulness meditation practices are a crucial component of healing from addiction.* The Buddhist concept of the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts and how it relates to modern society's feeling of "never enough."*  The "Rat Park" experiment and what it teaches us about addiction and recovery* Understanding the role of shame in addiction (and how to heal toxic sexual shame)About Jeremy:Jeremy Lipkowitz is a former Buddhist monk, meditation teacher, and ICF-certified executive coach. He helps high-achieving men overcome compulsive behaviors, especially porn addiction, blending ancient wisdom with science for emotional resilience and personal freedom.Jeremy earned advanced degrees in Genetics & Genomics and left academia after confronting his own struggles with addiction, shame, and self-judgment. His time as a monk in Myanmar deepened his mindfulness practice and commitment to growth.As founder of Unhooked Academy and host of the Unhooked Podcast, Jeremy works to destigmatize porn addiction and provide science-based recovery strategies. He empowers men to overcome shame and transform through mindfulness and habit change.For over a decade, Jeremy has taught at universities, recovery centers, and global companies worldwide. His calm presence and ability to connect analytical thinking with inner work make him a valued guide for professionals seeking change.Connect with Jeremy:Website:https://www.unhookedacademy.com/aboutInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/jeremylipkowitz/Spotify:https://open.spotify.com/show/7rdPRXvg3tY93PVE7tleSAThank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

Pleasure, or the lack thereof, can be a vital sign of our overall physical, mental, and emotional wellness. Desire, arousal, and orgasm are not luxuries—they’re biomarkers of health, reflecting blood flow, nitric oxide, oxytocin, vagal tone, and nervous system balance.In this episode of Sex Is Medicine Reboot, Dr. Alicia Newsome weaves science, practical steps, and holistic wisdom to address common questions and misconceptions about hormonal health, helping us anchor pleasure as a vital pathway for hormonal health and sexual wellness.Find out:✅ How desire, arousal, and orgasm are directly tied to hormone balance—and why pleasure is a legitimate, science-backed pathway to healing. ✅ The top hormone imbalances draining women’s energy (cortisol, thyroid, insulin, estrogen/progesterone) and how they hijack libido, mood, and vitality. ✅ Practical, non-pharma strategies to restore hormonal harmony—advanced lab insights, nervous system regulation, mineral repletion, and cycle-aware living-so you can implement these methods in your daily routine for better health. ✅ The difference between stress chemistry and turn-on chemistry—and how to shift from survival mode to embodied pleasure. ✅ A spiritually grounded, body-honoring approach for high-achieving women to reclaim energy, confidence, and connection—without drugs or surgery. Share your questions or experiences in the comments below!Connect with Dr. Newsome:http://www.dralicianewsome.com https://www.instagram.com/dr.alicianewsome/ https://www.youtube.com/@dr.alicianewsome https://www.facebook.com/drali cianewsome Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

Exploring Embodied Intimacy: Why Pleasure, Safety, and Consent are Medicine with Andre LazarusSexual pleasure can be medicine, but only when woven with safety & consent. Unlike mainstream, porn-inspired sex, Embodied Intimacy is a somatic, relational, and healing practice, not a performance or technique. Present, connected, and embodied intimacy restores safety in the nervous system, dismantles shame around desire, and supports deeper connection in relationships. The conversation reframes sex as a form of medicine rooted in presence, consent, and self-awareness, rather than typical, goal-oriented sex. Join Devi and Andre Lazurus to explore:What “embodied intimacy” actually means and why most people have never experienced it Why intimacy struggles are often nervous system issues, not libido or attraction problems How shame and performance culture disconnect us from authentic desire The role of consent as an ongoing, embodied conversation rather than a one-time agreement How touch and presence can be healing without needing to be sexual Common myths about masculinity, performance, and desire that keep people stuck How somatic intimacy supports trauma recovery without forcing disclosure or retraumatization Simple embodied practices listeners can use to feel safer, more present, and more connected Learn More About Andre Lazarus:Andre Lazarus is a Somatic Intimacy Guide and media-recognised voice on relationships, sexuality, and embodied connection. His career has followed an unconventional path: from serving in the U.S. Marines to guiding people through the complexities of intimacy and desire. That breadth of experience gives him a distinctive perspective on courage, vulnerability, and human connection. He is best known for his role on the UK television series Virgin Island, where he appeared as a professional surrogate partner helping participants confront intimacy challenges alongside licensed therapists. The program drew national Attention, and Andre’s presence on screen highlighted how intimacy work is not about performance but about safety, consent, and the courage to connect. Through his practice, Coming Closer, Andre supports individuals and couples across a wide range of needs: men facing midlife performance concerns, survivors of trauma seeking safety, long-term partners wanting to revive passion, and those exploring alternatives such as ethical non-monogamy. Equally, he works with couples committed to monogamy who want to strengthen trust and rediscover each other. His approach, rooted in the Somatica® Method of sex and intimacy coaching, emphasises learning through the body and replacing shame with curiosity. While Andre has also taught workshops introducing kink and alternative practices, he situates them within a broader conversation: how people of all backgrounds can embrace intimacy as part of their wellbeing. His message consistently comes back to honesty, communication, and self-awareness as the foundations for connection. Connect with Andre:Website: https://www.coming-closer.com/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/coming-closer/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/comingcloserwithandre/?hl=enYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@comingcloserwithandreFacebook: https://web.facebook.com/comingcloserwithandre?_rdc=1&_rdr#Media profile: https://www.guestsonair.com/profile/andre-lazarus Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

In Episode 1 of Season 2 Sex Is Medicine Reboot, The Adoptedsexologist, Anna Linde, and Devi Ward Erickson discuss tending and mending the Motherwound within each of us, how it shows up in intimate relationships, and how to use embodied pleasure to nurture our hearts and awaken the wisdom of the body.The Mother wound is a relational wound. Nurturing is the medicine to heal relational wounding. There are times when we must seek the nurturing that we require within our own hearts. We must become our own internal “Mother”, protecting and tending to the tender places within ourselves with maturity, patience, and grace.Learn More About Anna Linde:Anna is a Swedish-Brazilian Sexologist (MSc) and Dance & Movement Therapist whose work centres on sexual liberation, pleasure, and the sacred. As a Certified Sex Coach, she brings playfulness and spiritual depth into conversations around intimacy, embodiment, and desire. Her published research explores the sexual health of international adoptees, from their own perspectives—one of the first articles on the topic in the world. In 2026, she is diving deeper into how The Motherwound and our internalized voices shape our sensuality, pleasure, and capacity for self-love, and how this relates to wealth, success, and money. She also has a strong interest for Somatic Sexology and how our embodied wisdom can lead us in the right direction. Connect with Anna Linde:Website: theadoptedsexologist.com Instagram:@theadoptedsexologist LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/anna-linde-msc-08264692/ Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi 

Sex Is Medicine Reboot will be back Thursday, March 5th, 2026. Make sure you sign up for your weekly dose of Sex Is Medicine and send us your questions at Holistic Sexology Institute 💫Thank you for listening to Sex Is Medicine! We appreciate YOU! :-)Please make sure you LIKE + SUBSCRIBE to Sex Is Medicine REBOOT! And please leave us a comment... we love to hear your thoughts!Learn more about our work at HolisticSexologyInstitute.comWith Love,Devi