Episode 195: Feeling Flawed with Julie Bjelland and Willow McIntosh

In this episode of the HSP and Neurodivergent podcast, I share insights on managing the tough days that sensitive individuals often face. After recently losing my mom, I’ve realized how crucial it is to have a "Sensitive Person's Toolkit" to help navigate overwhelming emotions, sensory overload, and other unique challenges. I discuss common struggles like emotional burnout, strained relationships, social exhaustion, and grief, offering practical tips and tools, such as the use of cold water and ice for immediate relief, practicing self-compassion, and grounding techniques. I also invite you to join the Sensitive Empowerment Community, where you can connect with like-minded individuals in a supportive, ad-free environment. We’re celebrating our 5th anniversary with a special live chat on September 24th, and I’m excited to announce a new live course, "Nurturing Compassion as a Way of Being," starting September 16th, led by the amazing Gracie King. This course is free for all members and will guide you in cultivating compassion in your daily life. If you're looking for more support, visit sensitiveconnection.com to find resources, book sessions, and explore the tools I recommend for sensitive individuals. Please like, subscribe, and share the podcast to help others find this supportive space. Resources Mentioned in Episode Join the Sensitive Empowerment Community: SensitiveCommunity.com (get free access to the upcoming Nurturing Compassion Course Book Session with Me Course Mentioned: Get 50% off today! The HSP Toolbox Course: Daily tools to balance the sensitive nervous system Product Recommendations for the Sensitive including the essential oils, calming device, and all the products mentioned in this episode. Blog Post: The Sensitive Person's Toolkit for Tough Days by Julie Bjelland, LMFT Free 4/2/7 Calming Breath Technique and get signed up for my weekly newsletter to stay informed of new episodes and resources. Free Webinars: I mentioned the Sensory Overload one and the Sensitivity and Anxiety one. Learn more here Free Meditations on the Podcast: www.HSPpodcast.com and click the meditation button Free Teaching of the 3-Step Self-Compassion Practice I shared Directory of Sensitive and Neurodivergent Therapists, Healers, Coaches Explore all resources on my website: SensitiveConnection.com I’m Julie Bjelland, LMFT, a Psychotherapist, author, and founder of Sensitive Empowerment, specializing in high sensitivity, neurodivergence, and adult-discovered autism in women and AFAB individuals. I love developing tools that balance our sensitive nervous system, reduce challenges, and help us reach our fullest potential so we may excel in our unique talents. I’ve created a global hub of extensive support, including online courses, the Sensitive Empowerment Community—a nurturing sanctuary—a globally top-ranked podcast, articles, free webinars, and more. My passion is helping create a world where differences are embraced as strengths and celebrated. LGBTQIA+ and Neuroaffirming. Learn more at JulieBjelland.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

In this episode, Sensitive Empowerment Community members Carol Huckle and Carolina Mariposa co-host quarterly Intuitive Parenting events, in which members discuss the joys and challenges of parenting as HSP's, while supporting one another in our parenting and caregiving journeys. While these events are not normally recorded to maintain privacy of participants, Carol and Carolina hosted this public Q&A session in which SEC members submitted written questions ahead of time. The themes that arose included how to support our sensitive children with intense emotions, how to stay calm while we support our children, and how to help everyone in the family thrive through the stresses of major transitions and unexpected events. Co-host: Carol Huckle - co-author of the new children’s book series, The Adventures of Niko, the Highly Sensitive Dog and co-hosts “Intuitive Parenting” events inside the Sensitive Empowerment Community to support caregivers of sensitive little ones. As a volunteer Children's Librarian leading pre-K through 5th-grade reading groups, she often wished for books with characters that reflected the unique traits of bright, sensitive children. An introverted child, Carol’s favorite books were her best friends, inspiring the character Buttercup. Buttercup’s passion for research was inspired by Carol’s daughter, whose literary explorations discovered the unique, joyful dance of the blue-footed booby. This inspired the wonderfully extroverted character Blueberry. Carol is thrilled to collaborate with Julie in creating characters that celebrate being their authentic, unique selves! Get the book at https://www.juliebjelland.com/childre... Co-host: Carolina Mariposa - Carolina is an HSP mother of a preschool age sensitive and empathic child and will answer questions related to her specialty of HSP Youth/Therapy/Family Counseling. Carolina Mariposa , M.S., M.I.M., is a licensed psychotherapist and medical intuitive who specializes in working with highly sensitive children, teens and parents.  She is passionate about teaching HSP's to connect with their innate wisdom so that they feel more grounded, joyful, creative and empowered.  While she is endorsed in California as an Early Childhood Mental Health Specialist, she loves supporting children of all ages and collaborating with those who see parenthood as an opportunity for personal and spiritual growth.  You can learn more about Carolina's work by visiting https://www.butterflygrovehsp.com/ Carolina has also featured on the HSP Podcast Episode 153: Strategies to Support Empathic Kids, Teens and Parents Episode 167: Helping our Young HSP Adults Through Times of Transition Julie Bjelland, LMFT - Founder of the HSP and Neurodivergent podcast, a Licensed Psychotherapist, author, and founder of Sensitive Empowerment, specializing in high sensitivity and adult-diagnosed autism in women. I love developing tools that balance our sensitive nervous system, reduce challenges, and help us reach our fullest potential so we may excel in our unique talents. I’ve created a global hub of extensive support, including online courses, the Sensitive Empowerment Community—a nurturing sanctuary—a globally top-ranked podcast, articles, free webinars, and more. My passion is helping create a world where differences are embraced as strengths and celebrated. LGBTQIA+ Affirming. Learn more at https://www.juliebjelland.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

In this heartfelt interview, Rebecca introduces us to the practice of KonMari for sorting through belongings at such a difficult time in our lives. The method is particularly beneficial for highly sensitive people as it gently encourages mindfully letting go while regulating our nervous system with what is manageable and with what resonates with our emotional readiness. The method has a focus on the positive psychology of surrounding ourselves with what brings us joy and inspires gratitude. In this video, Rebecca will walk us through the main teachings of the practice so that we can start sorting belongings with kindness and compassion, rewiring our negativity bias and the need to live by external conditioning. Working with KonMarie principles has also assisted Rebecca and her family in their own consumption habits which is another added bonus to managing things in this way. Guest - Rebecca Jo Rushdy, Founder of Spark Joy & Flow Rebecca Jo Rushdy guides fellow HSPs & Empaths to declutter their hearts, minds and homes into sanctuaries that spark joy and flow. She was the first platinum KonMari Consultant in Malaysia, and in Edinburgh where she is currently based with her husband and two daughters. You can learn more about Rebecca and her work by visiting www.sparkjoyandflow.com Resources Rebecca’s Resources: Website - https://sparkjoyandflow.com/ Guided Checklist & Worksheets - https://sparkjoyandflow.ck.page/8dc7f... Additional Resources Finding Meaning: The Sixth Stage of Grief by David Kessler - https://grief.com/sixth-stage-of-grief/ Growing Around Grief by Lois Tonkin - https://www.sueryder.org/grief-suppor... It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine - https://refugeingrief.com/books/its-o... Andrea Weber is the Business Group and Events Co-ordinator for the Sensitive Empowerment Community and founder of Expansive Happiness at https://expansivehappiness.com/. Andrea provides encouragement and practical strategies for environmental sensitivity management through her self-paced program, articles and posts, helping people navigate the day to day challenges of emf, chemical and mold sensitivity. A love of writing and editing has led to the provision of these additional services for highly sensitive people. Julie Bjelland, LMFT - Host of the HSP and Neurodivergent podcast, a Licensed Psychotherapist, author, and founder of Sensitive Empowerment, specializing in high sensitivity and adult-diagnosed autism in women. I love developing tools that balance our sensitive nervous system, reduce challenges, and help us reach our fullest potential so we may excel in our unique talents. I’ve created a global hub of extensive support, including online courses, the Sensitive Empowerment Community—a nurturing sanctuary—a globally top-ranked podcast, articles, free webinars, and more. My passion is helping create a world where differences are embraced as strengths and celebrated. LGBTQIA+ Affirming. Learn more at https://www.juliebjelland.com/ --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

In this conversation, Julie Bjelland and Willow McIntosh share personal stories and insights about their experiences as highly sensitive people (HSPs). Julie talks about her rescue mission to save a baby seagull and how her sensitivity allowed her to notice and help the bird. Willow discusses his journey of self-discovery and the process of letting go of old patterns to embrace his true self. Both speakers emphasize the importance of embracing sensitivity and intuition and the power of connecting with our inner child. The conversation explores the natural state of humans and animals, the importance of embracing sensitivity, and the power of self-acceptance. It also discusses the creation of resources and programs to support highly sensitive people (HSPs) in their personal and professional lives. Julie’s Resources & Links New Children’s Book for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent: The Adventures of Niko the Highly Sensitive Dog. Visit SensitiveNiko.com One-on-one Coaching and Consultations with Julie Feel safe to be yourself in the world. LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC safe. Join Julie’s private, nurturing community: Sensitive Empowerment Community Free Autism Quiz Helping to Identify Women Autism Assessments for Women in California with Julie Explore Julie’s Courses for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent Explore all our episodes at HSPpodcast.com Find everything at SensitiveConnection.com Willow’s Resources & Links Learn more about Willow's Identity Program: https://inluminance.com/the-identity-journey/ Check out Willow’s free community and join an open facilitation session: https://www.high-sensory-coaching-community.com/ Interested in training to become an HSP coach? Visit: https://inluminance.com/the-coaching-program/ Find out more at https://inluminance.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

In this conversation, Misa Hopkins discusses the topics of fear, doubt, self-worth, and perfectionism. She explains that fear and doubt stem from the separation of consciousness and the belief in unworthiness, abandonment, and rejection. Misa emphasizes the importance of understanding that these experiences do not indicate anything is wrong with us, but rather are a result of consciousness becoming self-aware. She also explores the role of ego in our lives and how it can be embraced and balanced to create a healthy relationship. Additionally, Misa discusses the deep discontent that often arises in our 40s and 50s and how it is a pivotal moment for spiritual growth and leaving a legacy. In this conversation, Misa Hopkins and Julie Bjelland discuss the importance of embracing creativity and curiosity in our 40s and beyond. They explore how fear and doubt can hold us back from pursuing our passions and how to gently work through these emotions. They also discuss the impact of fear and doubt on our relationships and the power of compassion in healing and transforming these dynamics. Misa emphasizes the importance of leaving a legacy and how we can bring spiritual consciousness into the world. They also touch on the concepts of yin and yang energy and the need for balance in our lives. Misa Hopkins is a 6-time bestselling author and a pioneer in feminine consciousness and women’s leadership for over 30 years.  She has appeared on TV, film, and on stages with other conscious luminaries including Dr. Joe Dispenza, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Bruce Lipton, and Marci Shimoff. As the founder of SHE Rising Academy and the Guardian of a 2,000-year old feminine practice in spiritual awakening, she teaches women worldwide how to release the limits of their past and fulfill their Divine legacies.  You can learn more about Misa and her teachings at https://misahopkins.com Misa would love to gift everyone the Holding Guided Meditation, helping people discover the healing and awakening power of self-love.  http://misahopkins.com/holding-meditation-gift/ Please note that while Misa does work mainly with women, anyone can practice the holding meditation and the yin and yang energy Misa talks about is present for everyone. We can often experience an imbalance of these energies which impacts our daily lives. When we understand the ways in which this can happen, it can help our overall wellbeing. Andrea Weber is the Business Group and Events Co-ordinator for the Sensitive Empowerment Community and founder of Expansive Happiness®. Andrea provides encouragement and practical strategies for environmental sensitivity management through her self-paced program, articles and posts, helping people navigate the day to day challenges of emf, chemical and mold sensitivity.  A love of writing and editing has led to the provision of these additional services for highly sensitive people. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

Welcome to our latest episode, "Feeling Flawed," in which Julie Bjelland and Willow McIntosh share their personal experiences of sensitivity and neurodivergence. They explore the impact of feeling flawed, the importance of self-compassion, and how embracing our unique traits can lead to empowerment and well-being. Join us as we discuss creating supportive environments that celebrate individuality and foster positive change. Julie’s Resources & Links New Children’s Book for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent: The Adventures of Niko the Highly Sensitive Dog. Visit SensitiveNiko.com One-on-one Coaching and Consultations with Julie Feel safe to be yourself in the world. LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC safe. Join Julie’s private, nurturing community: Sensitive Empowerment Community Free Autism Quiz Helping to Identify Women Autism Assessments for Women in California with Julie Explore Julie’s Courses for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent Explore all our episodes at HSPpodcast.com Find everything at SensitiveConnection.com Willow’s Resources & Links Learn more about Willow's Identity Program: https://inluminance.com/the-identity-journey/ Check out Willow’s free community and join an open facilitation session: https://www.high-sensory-coaching-community.com/ Interested in training to become an HSP coach? Visit: https://inluminance.com/the-coaching-program/ Find out more at https://inluminance.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

Summary In this episode, Julie Bjelland discusses the challenges of sensitivity and how they can impact highly sensitive and neurodivergent individuals. She shares her own experiences and highlights the importance of validation, understanding, and self-care. Some of the challenges discussed include sound sensitivity, feeling misunderstood, managing energy levels, sensory overwhelm, travel challenges, negative emotions, medical challenges, feeling different, managing other people's emotions, and social isolation. Julie also emphasizes the need for supportive communities and the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care. Resources Mentioned in Episode Courses Mentioned: Get 50% off today! HSPcourses.com The HSP Toolbox Course: Daily tools to balance the sensitive nervous system Brain Training Course: Reduces reactions and activation of flight/flight/freeze response Join the Sensitive Empowerment Community: SensitiveCommmunity.com Product Recommendations for the Sensitive: https://www.juliebjelland.com/sensory-friendly Travel Tips for the Sensitive: https://www.juliebjelland.com/hsp-blog/travel-tips-for-highly-sensitive-people Explore all resources on Julie’s website: SensitiveConnection.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

Show Notes Julie and Willow discuss the challenges of planning and traveling, the importance of trust and presence, and their love for animals and nature. In this conversation, Julie and Willow discuss the joy of observing sea creatures and the importance of deep connections. They share personal stories of friendship and the freedom of being authentic. They also emphasize the significance of embracing one's unique identity, especially during Pride Month. The conversation concludes with an invitation for listeners to join the Sensitive Empowerment Community and to ask personal questions for future episodes. Julie’s Resources & Links Mentioned in Episode Feel safe to be yourself in the world. LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC safe. Join Julie’s private, nurturing community: Sensitive Empowerment Community New Children’s Book for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent: The Adventures of Niko the Highly Sensitive Dog. Visit SensitiveNiko.com My favorite fidget tool is listed on my product page here: https://www.juliebjelland.com/sensory-friendly Autism Assessments for Women in California with Julie One-on-one Coaching and Consultations with Julie Explore Julie’s Courses for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent: HSPcourses.com Explore all our episodes at HSPpodcast.com Find everything at SensitiveConnection.com Willow’s Resources & Links Mentioned in Episode Learn more about Willow's Identity Program: https://inluminance.com/the-identity-journey/ Check out Willow’s free community and join an open facilitation session: https://www.high-sensory-coaching-community.com/ Interested in training to become an HSP coach? Visit: https://inluminance.com/the-coaching-program/ Find out more at https://inluminance.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

The conversation between Julie Bjelland and Willow McIntosh covers self-acceptance, neurodiversity, sensory experiences, and the impact of personal discovery on mental and physical health. The discussion also delves into the importance of connection, shared experiences, and the significance of rest and self-care for highly sensitive individuals. The conversation covers sleep, neurodiversity in the workplace, children's books, identity, and the importance of creating a safe space for the sensitive and neurodivergent to explore their gifts and abilities. It also delves into the challenges neurodivergent individuals face and the need for acceptance and understanding in society. The conversation emphasizes embracing neurodiversity and creating a supportive environment for sensitive and neurodivergent individuals. Show Notes The conversation between Julie Bjelland and Willow McIntosh covers self-acceptance, neurodiversity, sensory experiences, and the impact of personal discovery on mental and physical health. The discussion also delves into the importance of connection, shared experiences, and the significance of rest and self-care for highly sensitive individuals. The conversation covers sleep, neurodiversity in the workplace, children's books, identity, and the importance of creating a safe space for the sensitive and neurodivergent to explore their gifts and abilities. It also delves into the challenges neurodivergent individuals face and the need for acceptance and understanding in society. The conversation emphasizes embracing neurodiversity and creating a supportive environment for sensitive and neurodivergent individuals. Julie’s Resources & Links Mentioned in Episode Join Julie’s private, nurturing community: Sensitive Empowerment Community Guide: Embracing Neurodiversity in the Workplace: https://www.juliebjelland.com/embracing-neurodiversity-in-the-workplace-a-guide-for-companies-and-individuals New Children’s Book for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent: Adventures of Niko the Highly Sensitive Dog SensitiveNiko.com Autism Assessments for Women in California with Julie One-on-one Coaching and Consultations with Julie Explore Julie’s Courses for the Sensitive and Neurodivergent Explore all our episodes at HSPpodcast.com Find everything at SensitiveConnection.com Willow’s Resources & Links Mentioned in Episode Learn more about Willow's Identity Program: https://inluminance.com/the-identity-journey/ Check out Willow’s free community and join an open facilitation session: https://www.high-sensory-coaching-community.com/ Interested in training to become an HSP coach? Visit: https://inluminance.com/the-coaching-program/ Find out more at https://inluminance.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support

In this episode, Krista discusses the topic of grieving the loss of a parent. She covers the messiness of grief, the factors that influence grief experiences, and the four tasks of mourning: accepting the loss, processing grief, adjusting to a new reality, and finding a lasting connection. She also shares the six needs of a grieving person, including having pain witnessed, expressing feelings, releasing guilt, addressing old wounds, integrating pain and love, and finding meaning in time. Krista emphasizes the importance of healthy boundaries and self-care during the grieving process. In this conversation, Krista discusses the different stages of grief and provides guidance on navigating the grieving process after the death of a parent. She emphasizes the importance of self-care, asking for help, and simplifying one's life during this time. Krista also highlights the challenges of acute grief, including practical tasks and the need for internal and external resources. She addresses the concept of secondary losses and the emotional intensity of grief. Additionally, she explores themes such as conflict, delayed grief, and the fluctuating nature of grief over time. Krista concludes by discussing the significance of creating safe containers for grief and finding meaning in the grieving process. Guest: Krista O'Reilly-Davi-Digui is a highly sensitive human, life partner of 30 years, and proud and affirming mom of 3, including her highly sensitive son, who died by suicide in 2019. She’s also a writer and Joyful Living Educator and lives on Treaty 6 Territory in central Alberta, Canada.  Through story, grief and trauma-informed education, and brave community, Krista’s words and work empower midlife women to befriend their True Selves and (re)claim freedom, health, and joy. https://www.alifeinprogress.ca/ Host I’m Julie Bjelland, LMFT, a Licensed Psychotherapist, author, and founder of Sensitive Empowerment, specializing in high sensitivity and adult-diagnosed autism in women. I love developing tools that balance our sensitive nervous system, reduce challenges, and help us reach our fullest potential so we may excel in our unique talents. I’ve created a global hub of extensive support, including online courses, the Sensitive Empowerment Community—a nurturing sanctuary—a globally top-ranked podcast, articles, free webinars, and more. My passion is helping create a world where differences are embraced as strengths and celebrated. Learn more at JulieBjelland.com Leave comments and explore more episodes at www.HSPpodcast.com --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/julie-bjelland/support