That Safe Relationship: The Human Security Blanket

In this revealing episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt explores the deceptive allure of gossip and how it masquerades as intimacy. Brianne delves into the psychology behind why we gossip, highlighting the false sense of connection it creates and the toxicity it breeds in our relationships. She shares personal insights and client anecdotes to illustrate how gossiping stems from a desire to feel part of something, often rooted in dysfunctional family dynamics.Brianne makes a compelling case for distinguishing between venting and gossiping, offering practical advice on how to recognize and avoid the latter. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity and vulnerability in forming genuine connections, rather than resorting to gossip to fill a void. Through introspective questions and exercises, Brianne challenges listeners to examine their habits and consider healthier alternatives for dealing with emotions and forming bonds.Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of how gossip impacts your life and learn how to foster true intimacy in your relationships. This episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to break free from the cycle of gossip and cultivate meaningful connections.🔑 Episode KeywordsGossiping, False Intimacy, Authenticity, Vulnerability, Human Connection, Toxic Relationships, Emotional Support, Venting Vs Gossiping, Self-Reflection, Personal Growth, Dysfunctional Family, Attachment, Cults And Belonging, Boredom And Gossip, Emotional Boundaries, Authentic Relationships, Emotional Intelligence, Self-Awareness, Communication Skills, Personal Development_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Addiction is often seen as an individual struggle, but what if we told you it's a family disease? In the latest episode of the Secret Life Podcast, host Brianne Davis-Gantt pulls back the curtain on the complex web of addiction, revealing how it affects not just the individual, but the entire family system. Addiction doesn't happen in a vacuum. The roles each family member plays can contribute to the creation and perpetuation of addictive behaviors. Whether it's enabling, codependency, or emotional incest, these dynamics can create a breeding ground for addiction. Brianne, with her years of experience in recovery and therapy, explains that healing must involve the entire family. It's about peeling back the layers and addressing the generational trauma that often lies at the root of addiction.The episode delves into the uncomfortable truth that many families face: the addict is often a symptom of a larger dysfunction within the family. Brianne emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and redefining roles to foster a healthier environment. It's not just about getting the addict sober; it's about rewiring the entire family system to support recovery and growth. One of the most powerful takeaways from the episode is the concept of autonomy within the family system. Each member must look at their role and make conscious changes to break the cycle of addiction. Brianne challenges listeners to examine their own behaviors and consider how they might be contributing to the problem.This episode is a must-listen for anyone dealing with addiction in their family. It offers a fresh perspective on recovery, emphasizing the need for collective healing and transformation. Tune in to gain insights and practical advice on how to support a loved one while also taking care of your own well-being. Listen now and start the journey toward a healthier family dynamic._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this latest episode, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the intricate and often misunderstood world of codependency. Drawing from her own experiences and professional insights, Brianne explores the various types of codependent personalities, from the passive to the anorexic codependent, and the challenges they face in their relationships and daily lives. She reveals the destructive patterns of behavior that codependents often fall into, such as people-pleasing, over-scheduling, and boundary issues, and offers practical advice on how to break free from these cycles.Brianne emphasizes the importance of self-care, establishing boundaries, and recognizing one's own worth independent of others. She provides actionable steps to help codependents detach from their need to fix others and focus on their own emotional well-being. Tune in to learn how to reclaim your sense of self and navigate relationships in a healthier, more fulfilling way.🔑 Episode KeywordsCodependency, Self-Worth, Boundaries, People-Pleasing, Emotional Well-Being, Recovery, Mental Health, Relationships, Personal Growth, Self-Care(00:00) Because what codependents do is they get their worth from other people and how other people treat them, how well other people are doing.(00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your Secret, I'll tell you mine.(01:00) After twelve years of recovery in Sex and Love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself.(02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets.(03:00) Today we are talking about dun dun dun. Codependency is a bitch.(Brianne Davis-Gantt) It is something you keep giving to somebody else because you have a void inside and you need there to give you worth, validation.(10:00) The passive codependent secretly buries anger and resentment with a persona of empathy and compassion.(15:00) The active codependent aggressively tries to control and manipulate narcissists.(20:00) Cerebral codependents devour education and transformative experiences to overcome narcissistic abuse.(25:00) Obvious codependents live by the mantra "ignorance is bliss."(30:00) Anorexic codependents starve themselves from normal emotions and sexual intimacy.(35:00) Codependents tend to do more than their share and have a huge fear of rejection and abandonment.(40:00) They apologize to keep the peace, often without genuine remorse.(45:00) They are the worst at keeping and creating boundaries.(50:00) They have difficulty making decisions and are often dishonest.(55:00) They are horrible at communicating their feelings.(01:00:00) Breaking the pattern of codependency involves prioritizing self-care and recognizing one's own worth.(01:05:00) It's okay to admit your childhood was tough and that your parents weren't perfect.(01:10:00) Don't offer advice unless asked, and stop enabling toxic behavior in others.(01:15:00) Don't feel guilty for self-care and alone time. You are enough.____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In our latest episode, Brianne Davis-Gantt challenges the notion that success equates to happiness. Drawing from her own experiences and those of her clients, Brianne delves into the emptiness that often accompanies external achievements. She shares a powerful analogy about the seemingly perfect exteriors of Beverly Hills mansions hiding chaotic interiors, paralleling how outward success can mask inner turmoil.Brianne emphasizes the importance of redefining success from material and external validations to internal peace, connection, and self-intimacy. She provides practical questions to help listeners re-examine their relationships with money, achievement, and recognition. Through this introspective journey, Brianne encourages us to shift from comparison to compassion, from counting to contributing, and from seeking validation to finding contentment in genuine connections.Tune in to discover how to cultivate a more balanced and fulfilling definition of success that truly brings joy and presence into your life.🔑 Episode KeywordsSuccess, Happiness, Internal Peace, Self-Intimacy, Materialism, Achievement, Recognition, Compassion, Connection, Personal Growth(00:00) The raising of the bar, it never stops. There's this never enoughness.(00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your Secret, I'll tell you mine.(01:00) After twelve years of recovery in Sex and Love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself.(02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets.(03:00) Today we are talking about dun dun dun. Success does not equal happiness.(Brianne Davis-Gantt) Even myself, the height of my success was the height of my downfall.(10:00) The outside could look so successful and beautiful, and the mask is beautiful.(15:00) They feel like shit. So they create their beautiful house. Internally they show what they feel like on the inside.(20:00) You have to be happy now with whatever and wherever you are in Life now.(25:00) And Mark's like, when do you have time? Like, where does the bar stop?(30:00) I don't like the word happiness because I think that's like, we all strive for happiness, contentment, right?(35:00) I know that because if I don't do that, it's never enough. And I'm always striving.(40:00) If I gauge my happiness on outside shit, I'm fucked. If I gauge happiness on Mark's mood, I'm fucked.(45:00) So what do you consider successful? I always thought having a house would make me feel successful.(50:00) What can't be taken away is how I feel connected to another, connected to myself.(55:00) How do you define success? How do you want to live a life moving forward?_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this candid episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt opens up about the often overlooked issue of overextending oneself. She shares her personal struggles with balancing a demanding career, motherhood, and personal life, highlighting how saying "yes" too often can lead to self-abuse and burnout. Brianne delves into the emotional and physical toll of constantly being on the go, exploring how this behavior stems from a fear of not being enough and the societal pressures to always be productive.Brianne discusses the importance of recognizing when you're overextending yourself and offers practical advice on how to create healthier boundaries and prioritize self-care. She emphasizes the need for downtime and the benefits of taking a step back to reassess one's commitments. Tune in to learn how to break the cycle of overextending and find a more balanced, fulfilling way of living.🔑 Episode KeywordsOverextending, Burnout, Self-Abuse, Boundaries, Self-Care, Work-Life Balance, Emotional Exhaustion, Recovery, Mental Health, Parenting, Personal Growth(00:00) So this overextending myself, this is never enough, right? It's that emptiness.(00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine.(01:00) After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself.(02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets.(03:00) Today we are talking about dun dun dun. Overextending yourself is another form of self-abuse.(Brianne Davis) I am literally abusing myself right now. I'm overextending myself.(10:00) I have too many clients. I have finished the second book. I'm working on the third book.(15:00) I cannot function on this level. Plus I'm doing videos, and I'm going to have a program.(20:00) It's another way to escape self. And I do it in the name of helping other people.(25:00) I felt empty. Does anybody else out there feel like that lately? Like, depleted and empty?(30:00) I'm so busy. And then I can reset on the weekends, but with a six-year-old now, it's hard.(35:00) I rather be in my house by myself, nobody talking to me.(40:00) You packed your vacation with so many activities, it doesn't feel relaxing and like a vacation.(45:00) You can't just sit and be and you have to keep saying yes to fill your day.(50:00) I feel like I'm getting in the way. Like, I keep saying too many yeses for things.(55:00) I need to do it in a way where I'm not burnt out. And as an avoidant or reformed avoidant._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In a world where admitting fault is often seen as a sign of weakness, the latest episode of Secret Life podcast challenges this perception by highlighting the profound strength found in taking accountability. Hosted by Brianne Davis-Gantt, this episode dives deep into the transformative power of owning our actions and words.Through candid reflections and personal anecdotes, Brianne delves into the societal stigma around admitting wrongs and how stubbornness and pride can hinder emotional and spiritual growth. She emphasizes the importance of self-accountability and how it can lead to a more authentic and fulfilling life. Tune in to learn how embracing accountability can empower you and improve your connections with others.🔑 Episode KeywordsAccountability, Personal Growth, Emotional Strength, Self-Reflection, Responsibility, Narcissism, Recovery, Mental Health, Relationships, Conflict Resolution(00:00) You have to be okay saying, here's my part. I am sorry.(00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine.(01:00) After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself.(02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets.(03:00) Today we are talking about dun dun, dun. Taking accountability.(Brianne Davis) People do not want to take accountability. Oh, they do not want to say they are wrong.(10:00) The strongest I have ever been is when I say, you know what? I'm sorry.(15:00) Stubbornness literally kills your soul.(20:00) We all play a part in situations that have conflict. Everybody has a part.(25:00) An unwillingness to say when you are wrong and take accountability.(30:00) The best thing with all my recovery, the 15 plus years of work, the mental health growth.(35:00) When you look at your part and take accountability, it builds this inner strength.(40:00) I don't get to then make people who I deal with sit in front of me and go, now it's your turn.(45:00) The one thing we have control over is accountability for ourselves, not other people.(50:00) When I take accountability, I feel like a stronger human being.(55:00) Thank you for letting me record this podcast for my own journey._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this riveting episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the intoxicating and often destructive world of fantasy relationships. She explores how these relationships, fueled by unrealistic expectations and superficial attractions, can lead to emotional turmoil and self-sabotage. Brianne dissects the behaviors and red flags that characterize fantasy relationships, from love bombing and trauma bonding to the avoidance of real intimacy and responsibility.Brianne also shares practical advice on how to recognize and break free from the cycle of fantasy relationships. She emphasizes the importance of setting realistic expectations, developing a strong sense of self-identity, and seeking support to navigate the complexities of genuine human connection. Tune in to understand the allure and pitfalls of fantasy relationships and learn how to cultivate healthier, more fulfilling connections.🔑 Episode KeywordsFantasy Relationships, Love Bombing, Trauma Bonding, Avoidance, Attachment Styles, Emotional Connection, Intimacy, Self-Identity, Red Flags, Relationship Advice, Emotional Healing(00:00) Because fantasy doesn't last. You compromise yourself, you compromise your values.(00:20) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Tell me your secret, I'll tell you mine.(01:00) After twelve years of recovery in sex and love addiction, I finally found my soulmate myself.(02:00) Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets.(Brianne Davis) And today we are talking about dun dun dun fantasy, fantasy. A fantasy relationship.(05:00) Disney. Somebody coming to rescue the all-important butterflies.(10:00) When you are looking at a dating app, I tell people, read between the lines.(15:00) An affair is fantasy based. You will literally disappear in that fantasy world.(20:00) If you are fighting and then making up, um, passionate lovemaking, you are recreating a fantasy that is not healthy.(25:00) Fantasy is intoxicating. You should not feel intoxicated by your relationship.(30:00) Fantasies are short-lived. Short-lived and fleeting. Whatever burns fast burns out fast.(35:00) Ten signs you're in a fantasy relationship. You ignore red flags. You see them, but you keep ignoring them.(40:00) Ten ways to deal with fantasy. Recognize that, uh, you're in this fantasy relationship. Talk to your partner about it.(45:00) Because fantasy doesn't last. You compromise yourself, you compromise your values.(50:00) If you don't, you're going to go from fantasy relationship to fantasy relationship the rest of your life._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this eye-opening episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt delves into the intricate world of fearful avoidant attachment styles. She explores how individuals with this attachment style desperately crave connection but simultaneously fear intimacy, creating a paradox that feels like nails on a chalkboard. Brianne dissects the behaviors, underlying anxieties, and emotional struggles that characterize fearful avoidants, from their tendency to engage in casual relationships to their difficulty in maintaining long-term bonds.Brianne also discusses how modern technology and instant gratification exacerbate avoidant behaviors, making genuine human connection even more challenging. She provides practical tools and insights for those grappling with this attachment style, emphasizing the importance of inner child work, setting boundaries, and seeking therapy to build healthier relationships. Tune in to understand the complexities of fearful avoidant attachment and learn how to navigate these emotionally taxing dynamics.🔑 Episode KeywordsFearful Avoidant, Attachment Styles, Anxiety, Fear of Intimacy, Emotional Regulation, Trauma Bonding, Casual Relationships, Ghosting, Inner Child Work, Therapy, Boundaries, Relationship Challenges, Emotional Healing(00:00) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Today we are talking about dun dun dun(01:54) Fearful avoidance is an attachment style where you crave intimacy but fear intimacy(09:37) There's a pain from childhood that keeps you from fully connecting to another_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting, molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In this compelling episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives deep into the intricacies of dismissive avoidant attachment styles. Exploring how this challenging attachment style manifests in relationships, Brianne dissects the behaviors and underlying fears that drive dismissive avoidance. From the initial love-bombing phase to the eventual emotional withdrawal, she explains how dismissive avoidants prioritize independence and suppress their emotions, making it difficult for partners to connect on a deeper level.Brianne also contrasts dismissive avoidants with fearful avoidants, highlighting the distinct ways they handle intimacy and relationships. She provides valuable insights on recognizing the red flags of dismissive avoidance and offers advice for those entangled in such relationships. Tune in to understand the complexities of dismissive avoidant attachment and learn how to navigate these emotionally taxing dynamics.🔑 Episode KeywordsDismissive Avoidant, Attachment Styles, Fear of Intimacy, Love Bombing, Emotional Withdrawal, Relationship Challenges, Avoidant Behavior, Emotional Suppression, Trauma Bonding, Codependency, Narcissism, Inner Child Work, Trauma Healing, Emotional Independence(00:00) One of the hardest ones to work with is dismissive avoidance(01:20) Welcome to Secret Life podcast. Today I'm pulling back the curtains of all kinds of human secrets(01:52) Dismissive avoidance is one of the worst attachment styles to work with(03:11) A lot of people are having characteristics of dismissive avoidance when dating online(09:26) Two people I'm working with are dating dismissive avoidance(15:27) Excessive need for communication, assuming how they're feeling, jumping to conclusion__________If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Have you ever found yourself on the brink of growth, only to revert to old, destructive habits? If so, you're not alone. In the latest episode of the Secret Life podcast, Brianne Davis-Gantt dives deep into the topic of self-sabotage, exploring how our fear of the unknown often keeps us stuck in familiar, yet harmful, patterns. She shares her personal journey of overcoming sex and love addiction, emphasizing that real growth comes from pushing through discomfort and doing the hard work, even when it feels unbearable.Brianne also discusses the concept of internal family systems, explaining how different parts of our psyche, like the “firefighters” determined to disrupt our lives, can lead us down paths of self-destruction. She highlights the importance of small, consistent actions—whether it's journaling, making a gratitude list, or attending therapy—as key steps in overcoming self-sabotage. This episode is a powerful reminder that while the journey of self-improvement is challenging, the rewards are immeasurable. Don't let self-sabotage rob you of the life you deserve.🔑 Episode KeywordsSelf-Sabotage, Personal Growth, Fear of Unknown, Toxic Relationships, Emotional Evolution, Brianne Davis-Gantt, Secret Life Podcast, Overcoming Addiction, Generational Trauma, Therapy, Mental Health, Self-Improvement, Inner Work, Emotional Healing(00:00) People don't like unknown. They like to know what it's gonna look like(00:34) Welcome to the Secret Life podcast. Today I'm pulling back the curtains of human secrets(01:50) Self sabotage is happening all around us, and people are not seeing it(10:20) I was doing all this stuff, and I was like, I am done_____If you or anyone you know is struggling with addiction, depression, trauma, sexual abuse or feeling overwhelmed, we've compiled a list of resources at secretlifepodcast.com______To share your secret and be a guest on the show email [email protected]_____SECRET LIFE’S TOPICS INCLUDE:addiction recovery, mental health, alcoholism, drug addiction, sex addiction, love addiction, OCD, ADHD, dyslexia, eating disorders, debt & money issues, anorexia, depression, shoplifting,  molestation, sexual assault, trauma, relationships, self-love, friendships, community, secrets, self-care, courage, freedom, and happiness._____Create and Host Your Podcast with the same host we use - RedCircle_____Get your copy of SECRET LIFE OF A HOLLYWOOD SEX & LOVE ADDICT -- Secret Life Novel or on Amazon______HOW CAN I SUPPORT THE SHOW?Tell Your Friends & Share Online!Follow, Rate & Review: Apple Podcasts | SpotifyFollow & Listen iHeart | Stitcher | Google Podcasts | Amazon | PandoraSpread the word via social mediaInstagramTwitterFacebook#SecretLifePodcastDonate - You can also support the show with a one-time or monthly donation via PayPal (make payment to [email protected]) or at our WEBSITE.Connect with Brianne Davis-Gantt (@thebriannedavis)Official WebsiteBrianne’s Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterConnect with Mark Gantt (@markgantt)Main WebsiteDirecting WebsiteMark Gantt Coaching WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/secret-life/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy