HOLDING A GRUDGE? - How To Release It

As the sun sets on our familiar Southern California neighborhood, my family and I stand on the brink of a monumental transition. We're trading sandy beaches for the historic streets of Washington DC, and in this episode, I take you on our personal journey. It's a tale of new beginnings, as we confront the emotional and strategic complexities of uprooting our children from the only home they've known, all for a career opportunity too good to pass up. I share heartfelt reflections on how this leap aligns with our dreams of being closer to our daughters in the UK, and how we're framing this significant life change as a catalyst for growth and adaptation.Picture yourself stepping into the shoes of your future self—what actions would you take today? This conversation is rooted in the philosophy of 'acting as if', a powerful tool in carving out the reality you desire. I break down the subtle but impactful distinction between career and personal development, while relaying the importance of routines, the embrace of discomfort, and the necessity of self-competition. This isn't just about changing your address; it's about redefining your potential, and I discuss how my wife and I are navigating this journey together, undeterred by the siren call of our comfort zones.Do you feel the gravity of moments slipping by unseized? This episode is a heartfelt call to embrace the challenges that define our legacies. We traverse the emotional landscape of leaving family and the well-known behind, sharing the conviction that life's most rewarding paths often require the courage to change direction. From the practicalities of selling a home to the thrill of conquering new challenges, I aim to ignite a spark within you to maximize your potential and join us in embracing the transformative power of change.(00:02) Making a Major Life ChangeTransitioning to Washington DC for a career opportunity, embracing change, and considering our daughters in the UK.(14:13) Creating Your Reality Through ActionsEmbody desired self, embrace discomfort, self-improvement, self-competition, and taking responsibility for growth and progress.(18:16) Embracing Change and Maximizing PotentialLeaving family to pursue growth, embracing change, and finding meaning through work and accomplishments.(22:48) Anatomy of Big Life ChangeEmbracing discomfort leads to growth and joy, but requires intentional actions and balancing costs in pursuit of dreams.(32:23) Podcast Inspiring Positive Life ChangesTaking action for wealth and freedom, pursuing desires, and pushing through challenges with personal anecdotes and encouragement. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

Unlock the secret to transcending average and tapping into the realm of the extraordinary—will you rise to the challenge? Step into our world as we dissect the life lessons embedded in the journey of Tom Brady and the New England Patriots, exploring the thin line separating unwavering self-belief from arrogance. Edward and I banter on our TV show battles, revealing how even the most reluctant viewer can be converted to a fan when a story like Brady's unfolds—a narrative of a man who went from an underestimated college player to a powerhouse of seven Super Bowl rings. Our anecdotes and debate spark a larger conversation about the transformative power of resilience, and we ponder if it's truly the 'goat energy' that fuels legends like Kobe Bryant to reach the pinnacle of success.This episode is more than just a sports talk; it's an examination of the human spirit's capacity to adapt and thrive amidst adversity. Delving into the spaces between audacity and greatness, we engage in a riveting dialogue about the complexities of celebrating the accomplishments of icons with checkered pasts. We grapple with the moral intricacies of supporting the creative brilliance of controversial figures like Kanye West and R. Kelly, weighing the impact of their personal actions against their professional legacies. Join us for a candid and enlightening discussion that promises to stir the champion within and may just alter the way you approach your own life's hurdles and victories.(00:00) Tom Brady's Remarkable Work EthicThis chapter, I discuss my recent viewing of "The Dynasty," a show highlighting the New England Patriots' era under Bill Belichick and Tom Brady. Despite not being a football enthusiast, the series left me feeling energized and even turning into a Tom Brady fan, admiring his evolution both in skill and appearance over the years. Edward and I debate our preferences in television, touching on slow-burn series and the importance of giving shows a chance to develop. I recount a debate with my friend Marcella, a Broncos fan, about the significance of Tom Brady's journey from an overlooked college player to a six-time Super Bowl champion with the Patriots and how his story can inspire anyone facing adversity. We also reflect on Brady's confidence and the pivotal moment when he assured Belichick he was the best decision the Patriots would ever make.(11:44) Adaptability, Resilience, Self-BeliefThis chapter examines the mental toughness and resilience exemplified by elite athletes such as Tom Brady, Tiger Woods, and Kobe Bryant, emphasizing the importance of preparation, study, and meticulous review akin to analyzing game tape for personal and professional improvement. We discuss the value of adaptability, acknowledging that life rarely goes as planned, and the necessity of expecting and embracing change. Drawing from personal experiences and the analogy of a bakery thriving amidst the pandemic, we underscore how adaptability can transform challenges into opportunities for growth and success.(18:49) Embracing Delusional Audacity and GreatnessThis chapter, we explore the notion of delusional audacity and its impact on achieving greatness, using examples like Kobe Bryant and Tom Brady, who exemplify the 'goat energy' that drives exceptional success. We examine the thin line between confidence and cockiness, acknowledging that a certain level of self-belief is necessary to accomplish what seems impossible to others. Furthermore, we discuss the complexities of admiring a public figure's professional excellence while acknowledging their personal flaws, illustrated by conversations about Kanye West, R. Kelly, and others. We consider the ethical dilemma of supporting the work of controversial figures and the broader implications it has on the many individuals involved in their projects.(00:00 - 00:38) Tom Brady's Patriots Dynasty Discussion(04:27 - 05:26) Tom Brady's Draft Day Determination(07:49 - 08:53) Continuous Improvement and Work Ethic(11:44 - 13:00) Athletes' Mental Toughness and Resilience(15:57 - 17:12) Mastering Adaptability for Success(20:43 - 21:37) Challenging Delusional Audacity and Determination \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

There's a moment every morning when you stand at the threshold of your workplace, taking a deep breath, ready to leave your personal life at the door. But can you really compartmentalize? Tune in as we cozy up in our living room and open up about the intricate dance of emotions in the office. We discuss the challenge of maintaining professional performance while personal issues loom in the background, and how work can sometimes offer a sanctuary from personal turmoil. As we navigate these waters, we also touch on the effect of our emotional states on colleagues and customers, acknowledging the ripple effect of our inner experiences.Through our stories, we confront the uncomfortable practice of comparing pains and the delicate balance between perspective and empathy. This candid discussion weaves through the complexities of validating not just our own feelings but those of others, highlighting the importance of understanding and genuinely supporting one another. We reflect on the powerful connections and shared humanity that bind us all, especially during times of suffering.Closing out our heartfelt discussion, we look at the multifaceted journey through grief and the search for purpose amidst adversity. We're inspired by the resilience demonstrated by figures like Vanessa Bryant and draw on wisdom from thinkers like Malcolm Gladwell to unpack how we can embrace our emotions as part of the healing process. We share personal insights on finding purpose, transforming our perspectives, and moving from a state of victimhood to one of empowerment and action. Join us as we delve into these thought-provoking topics, offering both solace and inspiration for anyone facing emotional hurdles.(00:02) Managing Emotions at WorkManaging emotions in the workplace, compartmentalizing personal issues, and maintaining performance for job security and positive dynamics.(09:49) Comparing and Validating FeelingsIndividuals often prefer their own struggles over others', but expressing gratitude and offering support is important when faced with others' hardships.(21:15) Embracing Grief and EmotionsGrief is a natural and dynamic part of life that can be both healing and meaningful, with no set timeline and a balance between honoring emotions and living a fulfilling life.(25:35) Navigating Emotions and Taking ActionNavigating through grief involves recognizing individual timelines, taking small steps, and balancing responsibilities like caring for others.(29:04) Finding Purpose and Moving ForwardPurpose can be a lifeline in overcoming grief and challenges, through helping others and redefining life's direction.(40:20) Navigating Victimhood and VictimizationNature's impact on feeling invalidated, victim mentality, and the role of validation in conversations for empowerment.(45:20) Shifting Perspectives for SuccessPerspective is powerful in shaping experiences, choose to be the victor, not the victim, and manage emotions constructively. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

Fatherhood hit me like a ton of bricks—the unexpected kind that somehow builds up the house you never knew you needed. My brother from another mother, Lamont Coleman, and I get real about the highs and lows of dad life in our latest podcast episode. We swap tales that’ll make you laugh, possibly tear up, and nod in agreement if you’ve ever been in the throes of parenting. Whether it’s the shock of the first pregnancy or the ongoing quest to be the rock for our kids, we lay it all out there for fellow parents and anyone contemplating taking the plunge.We don’t shy away from the nitty-gritty, like coaching our kids on the realities of career choices and the importance of aiming high. I open up about guiding my son Chris, and how those conversations around expectations and individual aspirations can really shape their futures. You’ll hear how we, as parents, grow alongside our children, evolving emotionally in ways we couldn’t have predicted. The lighthearted banter about withheld family recipes is just icing on the cake—or in this case, the secret ingredient we keep to ourselves to ensure those family visits keep on coming.There’s something raw and beautiful about reflecting on the legacy we’re creating for our children. Lamont and I dive into what it means to be present, crafting memories and traditions that will stick with our kids for a lifetime. From the creative endeavors that leave a mark to the simple acts of love and support, this episode is a testament to the lasting impact fathers can make. Join us for a heart-to-heart on fatherhood that's as much about shaping our children's lives as it is about celebrating the journey that shapes us.(00:01) Fatherhood Reflections and RankFatherhood's unexpected journey sparks personal growth, responsibility, and the need to align life for family.(13:40) Parenting, Motivation, and Career GuidanceImparting financial wisdom, setting high expectations, recognizing unique traits, emotional growth, maintaining family bonds.(28:14) Parental Commitment to Childhood ExcellenceParental presence, capturing memories, childhood joys, acknowledging hard work, and lasting impressions in parenthood.(33:44) Parenting Legacy and Love AdviceCreating lasting memories and legacies for our children through presence, hard work, and understanding their unique personalities.(45:37) Fatherhood Discussion on the PodcastFatherhood-focused episode with guests discussing joys and challenges of being a dad in today's world. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

Get ready for a sizzling episode of the PUSH Podcast where we dive deep into the art of keeping the spark alive in relationships, no matter what life throws your way. This episode is all about understanding that allure goes beyond the surface - it's the twinkle in your eye, the swagger in your step, and the allure of your actions that make hearts beat faster. We unwrap the secrets of remaining irresistible after major life changes, like becoming a parent, and how to keep the romance sizzling.We're not shy about the essentials either - communication and empathy take center stage as we explore how to evolve together rather than apart. Single or taken, we've got something for everyone, emphasizing how personal development, from staying fresh to staying fit, plays a pivotal role in upping your charm game.And because we love to mix enlightenment with entertainment, we dive into the delicate dance of setting boundaries and why a little mystery can make you even more desirable. Plus, don't miss out on the laughs and revelations as we tackle a game of hypotheticals, showcasing the many shades of attraction.With a blend of personal stories and expert advice, we lay down the ultimate guide to keeping your relationship as exhilarating and passionate as day one. Tune in for an episode that's not just thought-provoking but bursting with tips and tales to keep you and your loved ones thoroughly enchanted.(00:00) Attractiveness Without Losing YourselfAttractiveness in relationships, comfort vs. sexiness, pajama attire, remaining true to oneself while being attractive to partner.(06:08) Maintaining Attraction in RelationshipsMaintaining physical attraction, open communication, and empathy are crucial for keeping the spark alive in long-term relationships.(11:31) Attractiveness and Self-ImprovementAppearance assumptions, hygiene's impact on health and attractiveness, exercise's effect on confidence, and the role of scent.(22:57) Keys to Attraction and Self-WorthAttraction is influenced by ambition, personal growth, self-awareness, and qualities beyond physical appearance.(28:03) Attraction, Confidence, and RelationshipsAttraction, self-worth, humor, confidence, personal qualities, hygiene, positivity, communication, 'bad boy' allure, 'big dick energy', complex decisions in relationships.(34:52) Importance of Boundaries in RelationshipsMaintaining attractiveness, setting boundaries, and avoiding complacency can enhance long-term relationships.(47:35) Relationship Red Flags and Positive TraitsPitfalls in relationships: close-mindedness, dishonesty, selfishness, lack of confidence, poor communication, negativity, hygiene, and the importance of appreciating partners' passions.(51:30) Building and Maintaining Attraction in RelationshipsMaintaining attraction and desire in long-term relationships through seeing each other excel, emotional connection, intellectual engagement, and physical affection.Check out Esther Perel’s- Where Should we begin Game of Stories Conversation Cards for Couples, Friends, & Co-workers.https://amzn.to/3P2Sh3K \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

Navigating the complexities of love and dating in 2024, our guest shares tales that resonate with anyone swiping right in search of connection. We expose the often-unspoken truths of sexual dynamics and delve into how honesty—or the lack thereof—in self-reported data tells a different story than the one we're used to hearing. Gender insecurities, the intricacies of online dating, and the impact of personal stories all come under the microscope, revealing the courage it takes to be authentic in the search for love. It's not just about finding 'the one'; it's about the insightful and sometimes hilarious journey that gets us there. Lastly, we turn inward, reflecting on the pillars that make or break relationships: personal growth, respect, and communication. Through heartfelt anecdotes and the wisdom of experts, we dig into what it means to be an attractive partner beyond the superficial. It's a candid look at the importance of making oneself an asset in a relationship, and the non-negotiable qualities that lead to a lasting, flourishing partnership. Whether you're an empty nester rediscovering love or someone still hunting for that special someone, this episode holds nuggets of wisdom for every stage of the relationship journey.(00:01) Wedding Gifts and Social NormsThis chapter we explore the controversial topic of a wedding invitation that went viral due to the couple asking guests to pay for their own meal instead of bringing traditional gifts. We discuss the various opinions on whether this approach is tacky or practical, considering the social expectations tied to wedding etiquette. We debate the personal feelings that come with such an invitation, the financial implications for the guests, and whether or not this could become an acceptable trend. We also consider how this payment request could affect the decision to attend the wedding and the potential impact on gift-giving norms. The discussion highlights differing viewpoints on the value of presence versus presents at a wedding celebration.(08:52) Relationships, Lies, and DataThis chapter kicks off with a lively discussion about the value of meet and greets, specifically pondering the rationale behind paying $10,000 for a chance to meet a celebrity from OnlyFans. We then transition into the intriguing world of relationships and sexual dynamics among married couples, where I share surprising statistics about the frequency of oral sex. The conversation gets even more interesting as we touch on the topic of honesty in self-reporting sexual habits and preferences, referencing the book "Everybody Lies" and how big data reveals our true behaviors, contrasting with what we claim on surveys. I also bring up some of the most common insecurities among men and women, gleaned from internet search trends, which opens up a candid discussion about gender-specific concerns in sexual relationships.(17:41) Dating in 2024This chapter opens with a lighthearted look at the modern dating scene, as I share anecdotes from a dinner with friends about the fears and realities of online dating. We discuss how my experience as a bakery owner has shown me the success stories of couples meeting online, challenging the skepticism of my single friend. The conversation turns to the practicality of using interview techniques to screen potential partners, emphasizing the importance of situational questions to reveal true character traits. We touch on the viral story of a woman's TikTok series detailing her marriage to a narcissist, pondering the impact of sharing personal stories online and the subsequent community reactions, including feelings of bravery, shame, and solidarity among listeners with similar experiences. The discussion encapsulates the complexity of relationships in today's digital age, the potential for deception, and the need for discernment in pursuit of genuine connections.(30:38) Navigating Communication and Conflict in RelationshipsThis chapter focuses on a fresh approach to dating, where I suggest using direct questions to uncover compatibility with a potential partner more efficiently. We explore the idea of treating a date like an interview, humorously presenting a list of questions that can reveal deeper values such as the importance of compromise, communication, and handling conflict. I share anecdotes to illustrate how responses to these questions can be red flags or signs of a good match. We emphasize the importance of respect and self-control in relationships, considering how vengeful communication can harm the connection between partners. The chapter wraps up by highlighting that understanding a person's true character and their approach to problem-solving is crucial in determining the potential success of a relationship.(43:16) Relationship Perspectives and Deal BreakersThis chapter finds us reflecting on the richness of life as empty nesters and how our relationship has flourished to its strongest point yet, making the thought of loss unbearable. We explore the pivotal role of communication and respect in sustaining this bond, and why these, alongside personal growth, are our top priorities in a partnership. Touching on the complexities of intimacy, we candidly discuss the importance of sexual compatibility, and whether size really matters in the grand scheme of things. The chapter concludes by contemplating the challenging dynamics men may face with insecurities and how these are navigated within relationships.(50:37) The Key to Lasting RelationshipsThis chapter examines the idea that personal growth is key to both finding a soulmate and enhancing existing relationships. We discuss the six dimensions of wellbeing, as recommended by Carol Reif, and how focusing on self-improvement can make one an irreplaceable partner. We touch on the importance of recognizing one's value and contribution to a relationship, and the need to work on becoming an asset. We also reflect on the transformative power of setting aside distractions like sports and video games in favor of engaging more meaningfully with one's partner. Throughout, we highlight that continuous self-improvement and being thoughtful in actions can lead to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship.(56:43) Qualities of an Attractive PartnerThis chapter explores the importance of maintaining personal effort and presentation in long-term relationships, using my grandmother's transformation before my grandfather's arrival as a springboard for discussing why it matters to make an effort for our partners. I reflect on the idea that this practice isn't about outdated gender roles but about mutual respect and desire. We then turn to the six attributes identified by psychologist Carol Reif that make someone an asset in a relationship, including self-acceptance, personal growth, having a purpose, mastering one's environment, autonomy, and positive relationships with others. These attributes resonate with us as indicators of a well-rounded, attractive partner. Additionally, we touch on the significance of how someone treats others, such as service staff or the homeless, as a measure of character and a potential red flag in relationships.(01:02:28) Signs of Healthy RelationshipsThis chapter opens with a personal anecdote about recognizing red flags in relationships, highlighting the importance of humility and respect for others, regardless of one's status or possessions. We explore the essential qualities needed for positive, healthy relationships, including treatment of others, maintaining warm connections, showing empathy, and the ability to be affectionate and understanding. Additionally, I emphasize the concept of making oneself an asset in relationships and the value of situational interview questions during dates to ensure compatibility. The conversation also touches on the significance of sexual compatibility, with a candid mention of the relevance of size. The overall message is clear: personal growth and mutual respect are key to leveling up in relationships. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

When a listener wrote in about her husband's battle with erectile dysfunction, it cast a new light on the silent struggles many couples face with men's health as age creeps in. Our latest episode is a candid conversation that delves into the complexities of men's sexual and hormonal health. We share touching stories from our listeners and discuss how empathy and open dialogue can strengthen relationships and provide support during these challenging times. We also unpack the effects of testosterone on both physical and emotional well-being, dissecting how lifestyle choices can influence hormonal balance.Navigating the murky waters of low testosterone and its ripple effects on intimacy, self-esteem, and overall health, we highlight the significance of a holistic approach to men's aging issues. Without pointing fingers at fad diets or exercise trends, we reveal the profound impact of weight training on testosterone production and the hidden dangers of quick fixes like steroid use. This episode isn't just about the problems; it's about understanding the interconnectedness of our lifestyle choices and our health, and the importance of medically supervised hormone replacement therapy when necessary.As parents, we have a unique opportunity to lead by example, showing our kids the importance of fitness and nutrition—not just for aesthetics, but for long-term health and happiness. Our discussion emphasizes the profound benefits of prioritizing internal health over external beauty, and we share anecdotal evidence from our own lives that underscore this point. Finally, we extend an invitation to all couples to join the conversation and prioritize health within your own relationships, because sometimes, the most critical step toward a healthier life is the willingness to talk about it.(00:00) Navigating Men's Health and AgingThis chapter we tackle the sensitive topic of aging and its effects on men's sexual health, a natural follow-up to our previous discussion on women's hormones and menopause. We share insights from our research into erectile dysfunction, as well as the broader implications on relationships and self-esteem. We highlight a personal story from a listener, who through empathy and communication, navigated the challenges of her husband's erectile difficulties, emphasizing the power of open dialogue in a relationship. Our conversation underscores the importance of understanding and supporting our partners through physical changes and encourages a non-judgmental approach to sensitive health issues.(07:41) Understanding Low Testosterone and Its EffectsThis chapter addresses the common issue of low testosterone in men, its symptoms, and the broader impact on relationships and personal well-being. We talk about how Western medicine often focuses on treating symptoms, like erectile dysfunction, rather than the underlying causes of low testosterone. I highlight the importance of understanding the body's capacity to recover with proper care and prevention methods. We also touch upon how women may internalize their partner's lack of interest in intimacy, which can lead to relationship struggles and miscommunication. The chapter further explores the role of diet, exercise, and lifestyle in the onset of low testosterone, noting that men's testosterone levels typically begin to decrease after age 30. Additionally, we discuss how men's health issues are often undetected and undiagnosed, emphasizing the need for greater awareness and open communication about these sensitive topics.(16:11) Factors Affecting Testosterone Levels in MenThis chapter focuses on the impact of lifestyle choices on testosterone levels and the broader implications beyond erectile dysfunction. We discuss how poor diet, particularly high in processed sugars, can disrupt the production of testosterone and the importance of exercise, emphasizing resistance and weight training over excessive cardio. We explore the correlation between muscle mass and testosterone, debunking the myth that weightlifting leads to excessive bulkiness, especially in women. I share insights on how both men and women can boost their testosterone through specific types of physical activity and the potential negative effects of inactivity and poor dietary habits on hormonal health.(28:27) The Risks of Steroid UseThis chapter addresses the serious issue of steroid use versus natural testosterone production and its implications for men's health. I clarify the misconceptions surrounding steroid use, highlighting the stark differences between synthetic anabolic steroids and the body's natural hormonal balance. We discuss the severe health risks associated with steroid abuse, including liver damage, cardiovascular issues, psychological effects, hormonal imbalance, and infertility. We then transition to the importance of natural methods and medically supervised hormone replacement therapy, emphasizing a tailored approach to individual needs for better outcomes and minimal risk. The conversation also covers the broad spectrum of adverse effects caused by low testosterone, such as mood disorders, fatigue, muscle and strength loss, decreased bone density, and more. We emphasize the need for an active, healthy lifestyle to mitigate the natural decline of testosterone with age and to maintain overall health and vitality.(32:59) Maintaining Testosterone Levels NaturallyThis chapter tackles the struggle of aging and the associated physical and mental decline, highlighting the frustration of not being able to live with the same vitality as in one's youth. We discuss the importance of maintaining an active lifestyle to preserve health and prevent cognitive decline, with a focus on practical tips to boost testosterone levels naturally. I share insights on the benefits of vitamin D from sun exposure, including an unconventional tip about sunbathing for improved testosterone. We emphasize the importance of exercise, particularly compound lifts, for testosterone production and provide guidance on starting resistance training safely. Additionally, we cover the role of diet in supporting testosterone, stressing the inclusion of healthy fats and zinc-rich foods. Finally, we touch on the significance of reducing stress, getting adequate sleep, and minimizing alcohol consumption to maintain overall well-being and hormonal balance.(46:52) Setting a Healthy Example for KidsThis chapter focuses on the importance of parents maintaining their own health and fitness as a model for their children. We discuss the inevitable judgment people face regarding their health choices and the critical role parents play in shaping their children's attitudes towards fitness and nutrition. Acknowledging the challenges parents face in balancing their time, we stress the need for a plan to prioritize health, which not only benefits personal well-being but also sets a positive example for the kids. We share our personal experiences in establishing fitness routines, introducing our children to the gym, and incorporating activities like using kettlebells, yoga, and cycling to instill healthy habits from a young age. Our conversation underlines the long-term impact of parental behavior on children's confidence, lifestyle choices, and the ability to maintain a healthy weight into adulthood.(51:54) Prioritize Internal Health Over External BeautyThis chapter emphasizes the importance of focusing on internal health rather than just external appearances. I share personal reflections on the significance of exercise, proper nutrition, and hormone health as part of a holistic approach to wellness. The conversation highlights the tendency to invest in superficial beauty enhancements like Botox and manicures, and contrasts this with the more substantial benefits of addressing internal health issues. I stress the value of prioritizing health, not just for immediate benefits but for long-term quality of life, touching on my own experience with expensive hormone therapy and the decision to invest in my well-being. The key takeaway is the metaphor of not putting "lipstick on a pig," encouraging listeners to nurture their inner health rather than masking issues with cosmetic fixes.(55:13) Prioritizing Health in RelationshipsThis chapter we explore the importance of investing in our health as a way to improve our overall well-being and potentially save our relationships. We touch on the benefits of spending money on activities like going to the gym, getting facials, and even the more unconventional idea of tanning your balls. Recognizing the impact of hormonal changes on our relationships, we suggest getting hormones checked and promise to bring experts to discuss this further in future episodes. We also stress the significance of communication with partners and encourage sharing educational episodes like this one, as well as those on vaginal health and erectile dysfunction, with friends and family. By informing each other, we aim to lead healthier, happier lives. I remind listeners to send in comments or emails, with details provided in the show notes, as we sign off with encouragement to take charge of your health transformation. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

We weave through personal stories and the often-unspoken truths of women's health, tackling the complexities of menopause and the way these changes ripple through our lives. From empty nesters striving to maintain vitality to understanding how menstrual cycles impact decision-making, we open the door to a dialogue that's long overdue. Our journey doesn't stop at women's experiences; it extends to men's roles in supporting their partners and even their own hormonal transitions. We challenge stigmas by addressing the decision-making behind vasectomies and explore how male fertility and masculinity are intertwined in societal misconceptions. With candid anecdotes, we highlight the power of mutual understanding and the critical nature of self-advocacy in navigating the healthcare system, especially when it comes to conditions like heavy menstrual bleeding and the road to a hysterectomy. As we wrap up our discussion, we delve into the neglected reproductive rights of women, contrasting them with healthcare protections for men, and emphasize the profound toll menopause can take—emotionally and physically. We're not shying away from the taboo topics like 'manopause' and its universal impacts, including mood swings and decreased bone density. By lifting the veil on these issues, our hope is to empower our listeners to take control of their health and contribute to a more understanding and supportive community. Join us for this enlightening conversation that's sure to spark important conversations and maybe even ignite a push for change.(00:00) Exploring Women's Hormonal Changes and MenopauseThis chapter, we explore the complexities and curiosities surrounding aging, specifically focusing on hormonal changes and their impact on both men and women as they reach their 40s. We share our own journey as empty nesters looking to maintain our health and vitality during the second half of our lives, and touch on societal attitudes towards aging in America compared to other cultures. We also examine the importance of understanding women's menstrual cycles and the implications it has on everyday life, including sexual intimacy, decision-making, and communication. Our conversation sheds light on the gaps in education regarding these natural bodily processes and emphasizes the need for open dialogue, as I recount a personal story that highlights the lack of information and the resulting confusion and misconceptions about puberty and periods.(07:30) Hormonal Changes and Vasectomy PerspectivesThis chapter explores the often vague and secretive nature of conversations about women's health, specifically the transition into menopause, and why it's important for men to be involved and informed about these changes. I discuss my own experiences with menstruation and how it contrasts with others, such as my sister's severe cramps, highlighting the need for better support for young girls. We also talk about the impact of hormones on both women and men, and the importance of not facing health issues in isolation within a relationship. Additionally, we touch on the topic of vasectomies as a responsible choice for family planning, addressing the stigmas and misconceptions surrounding male fertility and masculinity. Throughout, I emphasize the importance of mutual understanding and support between partners when it comes to health and well-being.(14:02) Advocating for Yourself in MenopauseThis chapter unpacks the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare, particularly in women's health issues. I share my personal journey through years of heavy menstrual bleeding and the lack of satisfactory medical explanations, highlighting the frustration with treatments like the D&C procedure and the eventual recommendation for a hysterectomy. I emphasize the necessity of asking questions and challenging doctors, underscoring the notion that medical professionals are constantly learning and may not hold all the answers. We touch on the decision to keep my ovaries during the hysterectomy to avoid premature menopause, only to experience unexpected symptoms later, possibly triggered by a phenomenon where women's menstrual cycles sync up. I conclude by considering the onset of menopausal symptoms at an age considered younger than average, further stressing the need for greater understanding and advocacy in women's health.(26:30) Hormones and Women's Health ImpactThis chapter addresses the significant impact of hormonal changes on women's health, particularly the overlooked symptoms and consequences of early menopause. We discuss the correlation between hormone imbalances and various conditions such as osteoporosis, Alzheimer's, and brain fog. The conversation emphasizes the importance of awareness and early detection, especially for high-achieving women in their 20s and 30s, who may face severe challenges during menopause in their 40s. We explore how these hormonal issues can affect personal identity and relationships, highlighting the need for better medical diagnosis and increased funding for women's health research. The chapter also touches on the emotional strain of symptoms like vaginal dryness and the societal tendency to dismiss or underestimate the severity of these issues, underscoring the importance of advocacy and research in understanding and addressing women's health concerns.(31:32) The Neglected Reproductive Rights of WomenThis chapter tackles the disparity in healthcare laws that protect men's reproductive rights compared to the lack of similar laws for women, particularly focusing on the treatment for erectile dysfunction versus the challenges of menopause. I discuss the emotional and physical toll of menopause on women, highlighting the high rate of female suicide linked to this life stage and the societal normalization of dismissing women's hormonal struggles. We touch on the need for advocacy and better healthcare support for women, drawing parallels with the importance of hormone therapy for both men and women, especially as it relates to libido, energy levels, and overall well-being. Additionally, I cover the often overlooked issue of male hormonal changes, sometimes referred to as 'manopause,' and the broad impact of low testosterone on both genders, including mood swings, weight gain, and decreased bone density.(44:35) The Impact of Menopause on WomenThis chapter we explore the significant yet under-discussed impact of hormonal changes on women's health, particularly during menopause, and its correlation with diseases such as Alzheimer's, dementia, and osteoporosis. I discuss the necessity of hormone therapy and the importance of raising awareness about the disproportionate effects these changes have on women compared to men. Highlighting the need for societal and legislative action, we touch on the stigmatization surrounding women's aging and how it hinders open conversations about menopause. Additionally, I share personal anecdotes to emphasize the need for education and dialogue about the 'third puberty' and its implications on women's lives and relationships.(50:53) Men and Women's Health AwarenessThis chapter focuses on the importance of discussing often-ignored health issues that affect both men and women, emphasizing the need for better awareness and support. I highlight that while there may be discomfort in addressing topics like genital health, it is crucial for individuals to be informed and to not dismiss potential health concerns. By fostering an open dialogue and creating a supportive community, I hope listeners feel more comfortable seeking help and taking care of their bodies. Thank you for joining me in this conversation, and remember to take care of yourselves. 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Ever wonder how cheating on a spouse could be considered too much effort? Join Janelle and Edward Copeland as we share a hearty laugh over the complexities of infidelity and recount the bewildering story of a double-dealing doctor. Our candid conversation doesn't stop at marital mishaps—we're also taking a nostalgic look back at the schoolyard, where bullies were just a part of growing up. We dissect how the concept of bullying has morphed, with personal tales from handball court alliances to the surprising outcomes of standing up to the schoolyard tyrant. You're in for stories that weave the amusing with the shocking in the tapestry of life's unpredictable escapades.Strap in as we confront the darker side of the digital playground, where bullies have traded punches for pixels. Remember the good old "stand up to your bully" advice? We're examining if it's past its expiration date in the age of cyberbullying, with a side glance at the Senate Judiciary Committee putting the heat on the likes of Mark Zuckerberg. Our reflections on the evolution of bullying will have you questioning whether the rules of engagement for parents and kids have truly changed. And as we delve into the controversial terrain of TV show ratings and parental supervision, you'll hear our take on the parental perils of managing what kids consume in this wild west of media.To cap things off, we're stirring the pot on capitalism and its role in fostering entrepreneurial giants such as Elon Musk. We debate whether the accumulation of wealth in the hands of a few should be vilified or celebrated, and consider how regulations can both protect and potentially stifle innovation. This episode is packed with polarizing discussions you won't want to miss, inviting you to weigh in with your own thoughts. So tune in for a dose of laughter, a touch of controversy, and a whole lot of real talk with the Copelands—where life's oddities meet the lessons we learn from them.(00:00) Bullying and Funny StoriesBanter about marriage, a deceitful doctor, bullying, and personal anecdotes make for a humorous and reflective episode.(04:52) Changing Definition of BullyingBullying has evolved from physical confrontations to online trolling, and perceptions and definitions have changed over time.(17:21) Bullying and Responsibility in Social MediaReflecting on past attitudes towards bullying, discussing impact of social media, and addressing adult forms of bullying.(31:16) Controversial TV Shows and Parental ControlOpen communication, parental responsibility, government regulation, technology's impact, and fast food folly are discussed in this chapter.(45:25) Capitalism, Regulation, and Controversial DiscussionsEntrepreneurship rewards, capitalism support, regulations in new industries, importance of discussing multiple perspectives, upcoming episode on sexual preferences. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected] 

Ever felt like despite all your efforts, happiness remains one step ahead, like a shadow you can't quite catch? Well, that's exactly what we, are tackling in our lively discussion about 'The Five Thieves of Happiness.' With Dr. John Izzo's eye-opening book as our guide, we're peeling back the layers on how certain behaviors—control, conceit, coveting, consumption, and comfort—might be stealthily plundering your joy. We get real about emotional expression, or the lack thereof, and how expanding our emotional vocabulary can shine a light on the subtle ways we're being robbed of happiness. Remember the last time a flat tire or a similar hiccup had you fuming? We've all been there, and that's why we're sharing our own comical tales of life's curveballs and how the art of letting go can turn a party disaster into a night to remember. We're swapping notes on finding balance between acceptance and throwing in the towel. It's all about embracing the unpredictable, sprinkled with a bit of wisdom from ancient philosophies and modern-day mishaps. By the end of our chat, you'll be ready to face life's little glitches with a grin and a game plan for keeping your joy intact. But hold onto your hats, because we're not stopping at just letting things slide. We're also exposing the traps of an overinflated ego, the envy that eats away at us when we play the comparison game, and the false security blanket known as the comfort zone. Janelle and I confront the challenges of overconsumption, both material and informational, and how stepping out of our cozy corners can catapult us into a life of true fulfillment. So, buckle up for a journey out of the comfort zone and into a world where happiness isn't just stumbled upon—it's a conscious choice, fueled by mindfulness and a dash of daring. Share in our adventure and let's chase down joy together!(00:00) The Five Thieves of HappinessConveying happiness through our voices, we explore the 'Five Thieves of Happiness' and the impact of emotional illiteracy on joy.(12:30) Letting GoAcceptance allows us to let go of control, adapt to situations, and preserve happiness in the face of inconveniences.(19:32) Negative Impact of Self-Image and CovetingExcessive self-involvement hinders growth, humility is important. Beware of envy and competition, balance self-development and community.(28:08) Dangers and Avoiding Overconsumption, ChallengesAttachment to material possessions and comfort zones hinder personal growth and fulfillment; taking action and embracing challenges lead to true fulfillment.(36:50) Choose Happiness Through MindfulnessMindfulness is like a muscle that requires practice to cultivate happiness, which is a choice that can be actively pursued. \- [We are the Copelands Tiktok](https://www.tiktok.com/@wearethecopelands) \- [**The Pusher Society**](https://wearethecopelands.com/) \- [**Janelle's website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/) \- [**Join the Cake Cents FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/cakecents/) \- [**Join the Push Podcast FB Group**](https://www.facebook.com/groups/PUSHpodcast/) \- [**The Push Podcast's official website**](https://www.janellecopeland.com/podcast) \- [**Cake Mamas Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/thecakemamas/) \- [**Eddie's Instagram**](https://www.instagram.com/copewitheddie/)Email: [email protected]