On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Beth Holloway, mother of Natalee Holloway, shares the full story of her 18-year search for answers after Natalee disappeared during a high school graduation trip to Aruba in 2005. She recounts the desperate first hours of the search, coming face to face with Joran van der Sloot, the corruption and dead ends that delayed justice for nearly two decades, and the 2010 extortion attempt that ultimately helped uncover the truth. Beth also opens up about the faith that sustained her through unimaginable loss and how she turned her grief into a mission to help young travelers stay safe. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve Trigger Warning: The following series contains discussions of kidnapping which some viewers may find troubling. If you or someone you know is struggling, information and crisis resources are available at www.wannatalkaboutit.com JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:57 Who Was Natalee? 03:30 Childhood Memories And Her Nickname "Hootie" 05:10 Preparing For The Graduation Trip To Aruba 07:15 The Call That Natalee Never Made Her Flight Home 08:56 When a Mother's Instincts Take Over 13:10 Her Day Job Vs. Stepping Into Crisis Mode 14:20 The Private Jet to Aruba & First Suspect Details 17:00 A Strange Premonition 19:08 Arriving in Aruba and Finding Unexpected Support 21:00 Staying Mentally Strong During the Search 22:10 Tracking Clues To Carlos And Charlie's 25:11 Uncovering The Security Video And Joran's Identity 28:17 Confronting Joran At His Residence 33:25 False Leads and Alleged Corruption in Aruba 38:26 Using Media Pressure To Keep The Case Alive 43:10 Finding Strength Through Faith 45:13 The Frustration Of Catch-and-Release Arrests 48:30 Media Blame And Natalee's Safety Legacy 55:03 Touring High Schools To Turn Anger Into Purpose 01:01:51 Joran's 2010 Extortion Demand 01:08:27 Finally Reaching Answers And Closure 01:12:44 A Message Of Resilience And Safety Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay explains why trying to change everything about your life overnight often leads to burnout, and shares a practical 90-day approach to making changes that actually stick. He breaks down how to get clear on what you want your everyday life to look like three months from now, create space for your goals by doing less instead of more, and overcome procrastination with simple strategies like temptation bundling and if-then planning. Jay also shares how to build sustainable habits that keep you moving forward long after the 90 days are over. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan®. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there®. JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:24 The Danger of Changing Everything at Once 01:57 Why a Single 90-Day Focus Works 02:52 Envisioning Day 90 06:38 Identifying True Motivations and Taking Action 07:48 Building Month One Through Subtraction 10:02 Overcoming the Planning Fallacy 12:30 Building Weekly Routines That Actually Stick 15:26 Making Necessary Adjustments in Month Two 18:12 Overcoming Procrastination With If-Then Plans 19:46 Tracking Progress With Simple Records 21:40 Designing a Sustainable Baseline 29:11 Achieving Long-Term Transformation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay takes four listener calls exploring conflict, relationships, and the pressure to constantly prove yourself. He shares why resolving an argument isn't always the same as understanding it, how to stop letting an old stigma define your worth, and what to do when your efforts go unrecognized. From repairing relationships after a fight to finding peace without closing yourself off to love, Jay offers practical advice on speaking up for yourself, letting go of the need for validation, and recognizing the difference between excitement and anxiety when dating someone new. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan®. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there®. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 Reimagining The Nature of Conflict 00:48 Curiosity Vs. Ending Conflict 10:48 Overcoming Stigma And Imposter Syndrome 19:13 Giving Your All When Your Efforts Go Unnoticed 27:20 Choosing Peace Without Giving Up On Love 35:15 How to Stop Carrying Unresolved Conflict Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power and The Law of the Sublime, Robert Greene, joins Jay to explore why so many of us feel unfulfilled, even when we're achieving everything we thought we wanted. He opens up about the life-threatening stroke that changed his perspective and inspired his new book, and shares how reconnecting with our childhood interests can help us discover our true purpose. Robert also explains why boredom, struggle, and confronting our mortality can lead to a more meaningful life, how to turn envy into gratitude, and practical ways to navigate workplace politics, complicated relationships, and the feeling that life has become stagnant. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with the Personal Price Plan®. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there®. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 02:18 Why We Feel Disconnected and Unfulfilled 06:27 Pursuing The Right Goals 11:32 Near-Death Experience And Writing The Sublime 13:13 Uncovering Your Authentic Self 19:51 The Looking-Glass Self 22:20 Overcoming Boredom Through Slow Disciplines 27:38 What is The Difference Between Happiness And Fulfillment? 32:15 Resisting Modern Culture And Embracing Difficulty 36:08 Building Confidence Through Small Steps 41:03 The Anxiety of Feeling Behind in Life 48:00 Connection To Others vs. Chasing Wealth 51:17 Turning Envy Into Gratitude 55:12 Real Fulfillment Beyond Financial Success 58:32 Money As Oxygen, Not Fulfillment 01:00:13 Workplace Politics And Power Dynamics 01:02:46 Why We’re Drawn to People Who Send Mixed Signals 01:04:53 Breaking Out of Repetitive Life Patterns 01:07:23 Confronting Mortality To Feel Alive 01:14:45 Transcendence, Evolution, And Spirituality 01:19:37 The Anti-Sublime Vs. the False Sublime 01:25:02 Robert On Final Five Episode Resources: Pre-order The Law of the Sublime https://sites.prh.com/lawofthesublime Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/robertgreeneofficial YouTube | https://youtube.com/@robertgreeneofficial Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay explores why we can have plenty of time to rest and still feel completely exhausted. He shares five practical shifts to help you break out of the cycle of constant busyness, set healthier boundaries, and understand what your mind and body actually need to recover. Jay challenges the pressure to always be productive and explains how to let go of the guilt around slowing down so you can finally feel rested, not just take time off. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Why Rest Doesn't Always Feel Restorative 03:30 Give Your Day An Ending 09:15 Rest From What Actually Exhausted You 13:10 Make Yourself Temporarily Unavailable 19:30 Do Something You Never Have To Get Better At 23:05 Stop Justifying Why You Need Rest 27:45 Reclaiming Choice Over Your Time Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode with Trisha Paytas was filmed on September 28th and set to release on October 28th Trisha Paytas opens up like never before about the experiences that shaped her life, from childhood trauma and her complicated relationship with her father to stripping and the years she spent chasing fame and validation online. She reflects on the rise and fallout of Frenemies, the intense online backlash that followed, and how therapy, DBT, and meditation helped her rebuild her life. Trisha also shares how her marriage to Moses and becoming a mother have changed her perspective on success, happiness, and what truly matters. In her upcoming memoir, Crying on the Kitchen Floor, she reflects on her complicated relationship with fame, her mental health struggles, and the journey that brought her into a new era of healing. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Trigger Warning: The following series contains discussions of suicide which some viewers may find troubling. If you or someone you know is struggling, information and crisis resources are available at www.wannatalkaboutit.com Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:50 Warning Lies Ahead! 03:00 Finding Identity Through Motherhood 03:51 Blurry Childhood And Early Exposure 06:12 Seeking Her Father's Approval 08:20 Fears Of Raising Daughters 11:54 Growing Up Without Guidance & A Teacher’s Hurtful Comment 16:26 The Importance of A Mother's Protective Love 18:37 Invented Personas And Her First TV Appearance 21:23 Media's Romanticizing of Age-Gap Relationships 23:32 When A Teacher Crossed the Line 27:45 Advocating Against Power Imbalances 29:14 Moving To LA And Entering Sex Work 33:45 Fear Of Her Husband's Judgment 36:50 Past Lifetimes Vs. Present Spiritual Peace 38:41 From Sex Work To Internet Trolling 43:32 They Don’t Hate Me, They Hate The Persona 44:40 The Real-Life Cost of Your Online Persona 48:20 The First Time Trisha and Jay Met 49:30 Letting Go of Judgment Through Monk Training 52:44 Apologizing To Past Beefs 54:11 The Boy Who Cried Wolf And Police Wellness Checks 56:30 What Are The Vows of a Monk? 01:00:13 The Pitfalls Of Public Relationships 01:00:57 Balancing Public Content With Privacy 01:05:49 2019 Cancellation And Hitting Rock Bottom 01:09:41 Her BPD Diagnosis And DBT Therapy 01:11:40 Peak Success On The Frenemies Podcast 01:16:48 Frenemies Fallout, And The Unreleased Finale 01:19:32 Relentless Harassment And A Severe Psychotic Break 01:24:10 Meditation And Fertility Success 01:29:54 Perspective On The Ethan Klein Feud 01:35:20 Reflections For Her Children 01:36:44 Realizing Love Outweighs Fame And Money 01:39:08 Trisha On Final Five Episode Resources: Pre-order her book | Crying on the Kitchen Floor Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/trishapaytas TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@trishlikefish88 Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/share/1MGw2nnnrf/?mibextid=wwXIfr Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Communication expert Vinh Giang joins Jay to share practical tools from his first book, Before We Forget How to Connect, to help you become a more confident communicator and build deeper, more meaningful connections. Vinh explains how to become a better listener, avoid common communication mistakes, and speak so people actually pay attention. From sounding confident when you're nervous to speaking up in meetings, navigating difficult conversations, and making a great first impression, Vinh shares simple techniques to help you communicate more effectively and connect with people in every area of your life. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 Before We Forget How To Connect 01:52 The High-Low Buffalo Icebreaker 02:45 Sharing Personal Highs 05:15 Sharing Personal Lows 11:40 Sharing Personal Buffalos 13:40 Escaping Small Talk 16:10 Overcoming Self-Judgment 17:58 Sharing Wins Without Sounding Arrogant 19:50 Communication Beyond The Script 20:40 Gen Z's Communication Struggles 23:20 Last Word, Last Letter Game 27:20 The Four Modalities Of Listening 29:50 The Three Follow-Up Questions Rule 35:50 How Do You Make A Great First Impression? 40:10 Reading the Room, Not Formulas 44:10 Finding Your Unique Voice 49:00 Life As A Book: New Chapters 50:40 Building Executive Presence 53:20 Fix Your Resting Blank Face 58:30 Filming Yourself For Self-Awareness 01:02:20 When Your Mind Goes Blank 01:06:10 The Power Of The Pause 01:09:30 How Can You Sound Confident When You’re Nervous? 01:14:40 From Texting Chemistry to Real-Life Connection 01:18:40 How to Communicate Better During Arguments 01:20:20 Learning to Speak Up In Meetings 01:25:45 How to Join a Conversation Without Feeling Awkward 01:28:20 Leaving A Conversation Gracefully 01:31:4 Embracing Vulnerability Episode Resources: Book | https://vinhgiang.com/before-we-forget-how-to-connect Website | https://vinhgiang.com/ YouTube | https://youtube.com/@askvinh Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/share/1CCPX1ChrP/?mibextid=wwXIfr LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/vinhgiang Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay shares five unconventional mental exercises to break out of autopilot and strengthen parts of your mind you rarely use. From mapping out an imaginary place and sitting in silence without distractions to mirror gazing, reverse journaling, and spotting patterns in everyday life, he explores how these simple practices can sharpen your imagination, self-awareness, and attention. Jay explains why actively challenging your mind can be more powerful than passive learning, and how just 10 minutes a day can change the way you see and experience the world around you. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 00:25 The Cost Of Familiarity 02:23 Redefining Mental Growth 03:28 Lucid Mapping 05:30 Strengthening Your Imagination 08:16 Training Internal Awareness 09:38 Overcoming Overstimulation And Boredom 11:45 10-Minute Sensory Reduction 13:24 Becoming More Aware of Your Thoughts 14:53 Observation Before Correction 17:07 Reverse Journaling 17:47 Reverse To-Do Lists 21:55 Pattern Hunting And Training Attention 23:17 Recognizing Behavioral Patterns Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jay takes four listener calls exploring the different ways we experience grief, from caring for a child with chronic illness and losing a close friendship to mourning a parent who's still alive and fearing the loss of someone you love. He shares practical ways to navigate uncertainty, make peace with relationships that have changed, let go of guilt, and stay present with the people you love instead of living in fear of losing them. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve TRIGGER WARNING: Some of the content in this episode contains sensitive conversations covering suicide. Viewer discretion is advised. If you or someone you know is struggling, please call or text 988 (US & Canada), or call 116 123 (UK). JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What I Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:04 Finding Purpose Amidst Uncertainty 07:02 Navigating Inconsistent Friendships 09:30 The Radius Of Respect 15:40 How Do You Grieve Someone Who Is Still Alive? 16:47 Understanding Ambiguous Loss 21:48 Coping With Anticipatory Loss 23:37 Learning to Appreciate What You Have Before It's Gone Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ezra Frech shares the mindset, discipline, and determination that have shaped his career and led him to win two Paralympic gold medals. From turning heartbreak in Tokyo into motivation to using visualization and meditation to perform under pressure, Ezra reveals how he prepares for the biggest moments of his career. He also opens up about competing on Dancing With the Stars, breaking down misconceptions about disability, and founding Angel City Sports to make adaptive sports more accessible to the next generation. Instagram Teen Accounts: Built-in protections for teens. Learn More. At https://chase.com/sapphirereserve JAY'S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe here: https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00 Introduction 01:20 "Pressure Doesn't Exist" 02:51 The Day Ezra Was Born 06:24 The 15-Hour Surgery At Age 3 11:15 The Kindergarten Letter 13:29 Learning To Handle The Stares 16:21 Overcoming Stigma And Bullying 23:18 Falling In Love With Sports 27:00 Changing Culture & Looking Ahead to LA 2028 31:09 Mentorship From Pau Gasol 33:56 A Message From Novak Djokovic 36:53 How Do You Define Confidence? 40:43 The Moment That Inspired His Paralympic Dream 44:35 Making Team USA At 14 48:41 How Running Blades Actually Work 52:09 Tokyo Heartbreak & "The Man In The Arena" 58:53 Visualizing Paris Gold Every Morning 01:04:50 Protecting His Good Leg 01:11:33 Winning Double Gold & The 20-Minute Rule 01:17:00 Meditation Under Pressure 01:20:34 A Lifelong Dream to Compete on Dancing With the Stars 01:24:14 Inside the Dancing With the Stars Family 01:27:19 Learning To Dance On A Blade 01:30:12 Pressure Is A Privilege 01:32:10 Making Adaptive Sports Mainstream 01:37:10 Ezra On Final 5 Episode Resources Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/ezrafrech/ TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@ezrafrech Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/teamezra05/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices