Role Play 101: From Cringe to Craving

Send us Fan Mail97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do.I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play into a game you can actually play with your partner — to figure out why so many of us freeze, and how to finally get started.We get into:What role play actually is (it's broader than you think)The real reason couples who want to try it never doWhy it feels like a performance — and how to turn it back into playThe "cheap knockoff" fear nobody names out loudExactly how to start tonight, no costume requiredFind Emma and Saturday Box at https://saturdaybox.com/ Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMost men have tried to make this happen. Most have done it wrong. And almost none of them understand what's actually going on in her body when it does.This episode covers the real anatomy behind this response, why the technique most men learned from the internet actually works against them, the one thing she's going to say in the moment that most men completely misread, and why relaxation — not force — is what makes this possible.What you'll learn: ✔ The anatomy behind this response that most men have never been taught ✔ Why the most common technique is the reason it's not working ✔ The conversation you need to have before you try anything ✔ The one sentence she'll say that changes everything — and what to do when you hear it ✔ Why what you do after matters just as much as the technique itselfJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou never signed a purity pledge. Maybe you never set foot in a church. But the rules got in anyway — through locker rooms, movies, the way women around you were talked about, the bodies that got shamed. And now they're in your bedroom, quietly wrecking everything.Today I'm talking with Erika Smith — award-winning sexuality educator, 25 years in the field, and creator of the Purity Culture Dropout program — about the specific ways purity culture shows up in men who consider themselves good allies. Men who want their partners to have orgasms. Men who are still, without knowing it, making it impossible for her to ask for what she wants.We get into:Why she can't tell you to stop — even when she wants toThe "good girl/bad girl" split that's killing your sex life right nowHow penis-centered sex became the default (and what it's costing both of you)The porn conversation that's destroying otherwise healthy relationshipsWhere to start if you want to actually change what's happening in your bedroomThis one's for the men who are trying. And the women who love them.Find Erika at: https://www.ericasmitheac.com/the-purity-culture-dropout-programJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou can take her to a regular orgasm. Or you can take her to one she'll be thinking about for weeks. Edging is the difference.In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 moves for how to edge her with your hands until she begs you to let her finish. The four signs that tell you she's at the edge. How to pull her back without losing her. Why each climb gets faster. How many edges actually work. And how to let her finish in a way that triggers a rolling orgasm she's never had with anyone.This episode also addresses something most edging content ignores: what to do with a partner who struggles to orgasm at all. I'm one of those women, and I'm walking through how to build toward edging when she can't easily get to the edge in the first place.We're covering: → The 4 science-backed signs she's about to come → The pull back — and why stopping completely ruins everything → How to bring her back up faster each time → The 3-edge rule and when to break it → The release that triggers a rolling orgasm → How to use toys like the Womanizer Enhance, Womanizer Duo, and We-Vibe Rave 2 to extend the experienceWhether you're doing this with a partner who comes easily or one who's never been able to with you — this episode changes the game.Toys mentioned in the episode can be found at the links below. Use my code ANNETTE15 for 15% OffWomanizer Premium 2: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-premium-2Womanizer Enhance: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-enhanceWomanizer Next: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-nextWomanizer Next Duo: https://womanizer-north-america.sjv.io/vDxxjAWomanizer Blend: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blendJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMost men learned foreplay from porn. And porn doesn't do foreplay — it does a sped-up, skip-to-the-good-part performance that taught an entire generation that touching a woman is just a formality. She's lying there wondering why she isn't feeling it. It's not her. It's the script.Today's guest has spent 17 years collecting real-world data on exactly what porn got wrong — and what women actually need. Cindy Gallop is the founder and CEO of MakeLoveNotPorn, the world's first real-world sex platform, former Advertising Woman of the Year, and one of the most talked-about TED speakers in history.In this episode:Why porn turned foreplay into a formality — and what she actually needs insteadThe 3-word cheat sheet every woman wishes her partner hadWhy lube and toys aren't optional — they're the whole gameHow to talk about sex in bed without killing the moodWhat real-world sex actually looks like versus the porn performanceWhy good foreplay starts way before anyone gets nakedFindy Cindy Here On Substack: https://dearcindy.substack.com/p/yes-you-really-can-ask-me-anythingAll of Cindy's Links: https://linktr.ee/cindygallopJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailMost partners use one move with their hands. There are dozens. And most men have never heard of the deeper spot that changes everything.This episode is a complete guide — how to prep your hands so she actually wants them on her body, the five named techniques that produce completely different sensations, the two internal spots most partners don't know exist, and the combination move that gives her something she literally cannot give herself.What you'll learn: ✔ Why prepping your hands is foreplay (and most men skip it) ✔ How to build her response before you ever go where she wants you ✔ My top 5 techniques by name — circling, figure 8, broadening, cupping, the Hail Mary ✔ The two internal spots and what each one responds to ✔ The combination that gives her something no toy and no other body part can ✔ The finishing rule — and when to throw it out because she told you toJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailAlpha male culture is teaching men to dominate, never ask, never show need — and it is quietly destroying their sex lives. Today I'm joined by James Harris, licensed mental health therapist, US Army veteran, and founder of Men to Heal, who has spent a decade watching this play out in real relationships. He's not here to shame men — he's here to give them what the alpha podcasters never do: the actual truth about what makes women want you.What you'll learn:What alpha culture is actually teaching men about sex — and why it backfiresWhy performing masculinity in bed kills pleasure for both peopleThe difference between sex and intimacy — and why it matters for your orgasmWhat vulnerability in a man actually does to a woman's desireHow to undo the conditioning — starting tonightWhether you're the man in this dynamic, the woman watching him disappear into it, or the partner who's been waiting for him to wake up — this one's for you.🔗 Find James:https://www.mentoheal.com/ Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailYou went soft during sex. She felt it. And the next thing you did probably made it worse.Every man loses his erection. Most panic, apologize, or shut down — and that reaction does more damage than the erection loss ever did. This episode gives you the five exact moves that keep the moment going, keep her turned on, and get your body back without the shame spiral. Plus: why your erection is one of the earliest warning signs of heart disease, diabetes, and hormonal imbalance — and the tool that actually tracks it.What you'll learn: ✔ The move that stops both your spiral and hers at the same time ✔ How to redirect to her pleasure so she barely remembers you went soft ✔ Three sentences that save the moment (and the one she actually needs to hear) ✔ Why the erection that comes back is almost always stronger — and how to let it ✔ The cock ring that keeps you firm during sex and tracks your health between sessions ✔ Why your erection is a vital sign and when it's time to talk to your doctorThis episode features the FirmTech TechRing and RingMate — the tools I trust and would want my own partner using.🔗 FirmTech TechRing + RingMate — https://myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Code: ANNETTE15 for 15% off 🔗 My Full FirmTech RingMate Review —https://youtu.be/xKAvZPN3EXEAnd the Ring: https://youtu.be/n9nCYX3VAZ4Join in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailNobody told us what to do with them. Sex ed skipped them entirely. And somewhere along the way, women just... stopped thinking about them. Until now.Three women sit down and go fully, honestly, hilariously there — what we actually find attractive, what we've been getting wrong, and the moves that will genuinely change what happens in your bedroom tonight.We're getting into:Why so many women are low-key intimidated by them (and how to fix that)The grooming conversation nobody's having — including the Nair tipHow to know he's close without asking a single questionThe cupping trick that speeds everything upWhat we actually want to call them (drop it in the comments👇)This is the conversation your sex ed skipped. Men — take notes. Women — you're welcome.Watch my episode on Ball Busting: https://youtu.be/TIISg3f-O2oJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend 15% Off With my Code Annette15 at myfirmtech.com/annettebenedetti Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!

Send us Fan MailThe Praise Kink episode was one of my biggest videos ever — and your comment section proved you're ready to go deeper.I pulled five questions I kept seeing and I'm giving you the real answers. Research, specifics, and the stuff I didn't have room for the first time around.✔ What to call her when "good girl" doesn't fit — honorifics, worship titles, and why they work ✔ Can you flip the praise kink and use it on men — and what does that look like inside the kink ✔ How to actually build a verbal vocabulary when you've been silent your whole sex life ✔ Why praise kink might be the most powerful tool for women in menopause ✔ How to introduce praise kink — whether you've been together two months or twenty yearsListen to Praise 5 Praise Kink Moves Part 1 Here: https://youtu.be/HW5PQANI09YJoin in my 365 Days of Orgasms Journey Here: https://talksexwithannette.com/365-days-of-orgasms/Watch 365 Days Playlist on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b2D5TFyt2Q8&list=PL9sLRET3FJyVns_2_wXvOoGrBeHyU1DDp📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteSubscribe to my OF: https://talksexwithannette.com/talk-sex-with-m/📩Sign Up for My Newsletter: https://she-explores-life.kit.com/e9760c390c🎧 Subscribe for weekly sex and intimacy how-tos on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@talksexwithannetteGet your subscription for my After Hours audio-guided pleasure/intimate experience here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1692988/subscribeChoose Your Weopon For Masturbation May! All the toys, for all the best orgasms.ANNETTE15 for 15% Off at Womanizer.com : https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer Get 15% Off Blended Orgasms at Womanizer.com with my code ANNETTE15!Go to https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizer-blend Your New Favorite 365 Days of Orgasms Tool! 15% Off with code ANNETTE15 at Womanizer.com: https://talksexwithannette.com/go/sp/womanizerSupport the showWatch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@annettebenedetti Connect with usWe are on all the socials:TikTok: @TalkSexwithAnnetteAnnette's Insta: @Annette BenedettiMy OF: @talksexwithannetteFB: @TalksexwithAnnetteWebsite: https://talksexwithannette.comCheers!