261. What To Do When Your Partner Isn’t Growing With You (And What I Would Do Differently)

Hey there! Before we dive into today's podcast, let me give you a sneak peek into my chaotic life as a mom wrangling kids for dinner and soccer practice. But hey, this won't be a long episode. I'm thrilled to share that come January, I'm launching a new course, and if you're on the email list, you'll be the first to know, with some exclusive offers coming your way. Today, I'm delving into a topic close to my heart—relationships. I've been thinking about two major hurdles we often face: firstly, not seeing people from the heart, reacting instead of understanding; and secondly, the reluctance to self-reflect when things go awry. Drawing from a recent experience with my son and his teacher, I emphasize the importance of both parties owning up to their roles. So, here's the deal: practice pausing when triggered, understand your own stories, communicate openly, and embrace self-reflection. If you haven't joined the "Resentment Trap '' course, you're missing out—link's in the show notes with a special discount. Lastly, a personal note, Peter and I are sharing a profound story on my new YouTube channel—check it out, share, and tag me. Your support means the world. Love you all and catch you on the next episode!   “We make the unconscious conscious, we speak to the thing that is happening. That's always the starting point is to speak to the thing that is happening.” – Joy Harrington    Reflecting on two common challenges: not understanding people from the heart and avoiding self-reflection. Speak to your feelings and trigger stories to diminish their power and make the unconscious conscious. Encouraging a pause when triggered, emphasizing the need to understand personal stories and open communication for healthier relationships. Don't miss the new YouTube channel; the link's in the show notes. Watch, share, and tag—it's a heartfelt story worth sharing.   Link for the YT channel to watch the video: https://youtube.com/@LevelUpYourMarriage?si=5QmkY1i33kBGB9AJ   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub   Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe     ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur  

In this podcast episode, I share the transformative journey of healing my marriage, marked by infidelity, addiction, and a pursuit of thriving. Outlining ten crucial steps, I stress the significance of seeking external support, individual and collective growth, honest communication about needs, and facing the fear of divorce. Personal accounts include breaking harmful patterns, releasing resentment, and transforming body language. The narrative concludes with the power of seeing one's partner with fresh eyes. I invite listeners to explore additional resources, including the full marriage story podcast episode and a best-selling course, "The Resentment Trap." Gratitude is expressed, with a commitment to future content on marriage dynamics and personal growth.   “I got curious about all the different parts and sides of me including desires that I had, and maybe things about me that before I would have thought were shameful or I would have shunned them or I would have hidden them away forever.”   Discover Joy's transformative journey of healing her marriage. Explore topics such as facing fears, embracing honest communication, and breaking harmful patterns. Explore Joy's best-selling course, "The Resentment Trap," designed to guide individuals in releasing resentment and establishing new patterns for a thriving relationship. Uncover practical steps for personal growth and connection. My New YouTube Channel, link here: https://youtube.com/@LevelUpYourMarriage?si=5QmkY1i33kBGB9AJ   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL   Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur    

Hey there, it's Joy Harrington, and I'm thrilled to have you on the show today. We're tackling a topic close to many hearts – the connection between resentment and libido. On my Instagram, I often dive into how these two aspects, especially for women, are intertwined. Resentment can be a significant barrier to emotional and physical intimacy, often rooted in communication breakdowns. Today, let's focus on practical communication strategies to break down those barriers. From practicing active listening to choosing the right time and place, these steps can make a real difference. Remember, communication is a two-way street, but positive change can start with just one person. For those eager to explore further, my Resentment Trap course is now on a special Black Friday sale – 50% off for those on my email list. Thanks for tuning in, and I look forward to having you back on the show next week.   "In relationships, resentment can act as a significant barrier to both emotional and physical intimacy. By focusing on effective communication strategies, we can break down these barriers and create a space for understanding and connection. Remember, positive change often begins with just one person.”    Explore the intricate link between resentment and libido, especially relevant for women. Understand how resentment is often rooted in communication breakdowns, unresolved conflicts, and a lack of emotional intimacy and trust. Emphasize the pivotal role of effective communication in resolving conflicts and fostering emotional understanding Acknowledge that positive change in a relationship often begins with one person taking intentional steps toward better communication. Learn about the Resentment Trap course, currently on a special Black Friday sale with a 50% discount for those on the email list! Subscribe in my email list! https://www.levelupbabe.com/masculine-feminine-dynamics   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL   Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur  

In this podcast episode, I open up about the pervasive issue of feeling alone within marriages and share my journey in flipping this narrative. Drawing from recent coaching experiences and personal reflections, I explore the common thread of women feeling overwhelmed by the belief that everything is solely their responsibility. I delve into the root causes, pinpointing childhood influences and the impact of societal expectations, particularly the pitfalls of control and perfectionism. Sharing a poignant personal story about a pivotal moment in my own marriage, I stress the significance of letting go and trusting one's partner. Throughout the episode, I introduce the "Resentment Trap" program, designed to identify and replace harmful relationship patterns. I urge listeners to reflect on their own contributions to this narrative and consider joining the Resentment Trap for transformative change in their marriages. The episode concludes with expressions of gratitude and an invitation for listeners to return for more insightful discussions in the next episode!   “Letting go doesn't mean you're not having conversations; it means supporting them through trying and failing. That's how growth happens, and that's how you flip the narrative in your marriage."   Feeling alone in marriage and its causes. Controlling tendencies and wanting change. Moving and decision-making challenges in a relationship. Trusting a partner's decisions despite fears and doubts. Flipping the narrative in a toxic marriage. Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur  

In this episode, I, Joy Harrington, find myself driving to an appointment, lost in thought about that inner narrative we all grapple with – that voice telling us we're messing things up, that we're not good enough, that we've made a mistake. I've realized that this critical voice often emerges when I take a chance on something new, something I truly want, and that's a sign I need to confront deep-seated beliefs holding me back. It's an uncomfortable battle within, where I've learned that retreating or backtracking only keeps me in the same old loop. The key, I've discovered, is to lean into the discomfort, ask challenging questions, and shift those limiting beliefs. Even though it might make you feel like a bit of a hypocrite at times, you don't need to lean in 100% of the time, just 51%. It's about embracing the discomfort, changing your internal narratives, and ultimately reshaping your reality. So, don't give up, and remember, the discomfort is a sign of growth.   “Lean into the discomfort of doubt, and be willing to be uncomfortable. It takes a lot and it takes a lot of discomfort to change things, to create a new belief, a new way of being, a new reality."   I share my personal struggle with self-doubt and how it surfaces when we embark on new ventures. Emphasizing the importance of leaning into discomfort, I encourage listeners to embrace fear and doubt as part of their personal growth journey. Self-reflection and questioning existing beliefs are key to transforming our lives and shifting our narratives. The ongoing battle with self-doubt is discussed, with an emphasis on persisting through discomfort for lasting change.   Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur  

In this episode, I delve into the crucial topic of asking for what you need in your marriage. I begin by sharing a personal story of someone seeking advice on feeling unheard and unfulfilled in their relationship. It's a common struggle, and I stress the importance of open communication to avoid resentment and unhappiness. I highlight the link between self-alignment and personal responsibility, underlining that we have the power to change our circumstances by being true to our desires. Making wise decisions, facing fears, and taking control of our lives are key themes discussed. I also introduce my course, "The Resentment Trap," as a resource for recognizing patterns and living in alignment with our true selves. Join me on this journey towards self-empowerment and personal growth!   “Instead of throwing up your hands and saying, 'Well, I asked for what I need, and I'm not getting it,' take the next step. If they're not giving it to me, then what do I need? Because it's my job, it's my responsibility to determine my life, not theirs.”   Discover how to break free from the cycle of resentment and take control of your life Communication and self-care in marriages. How to live in alignment with your true desires, build healthy boundaries, and find fulfillment in your relationships Facing fears and asking for what's needed in a relationship     Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL     ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur  

In this episode, I dive into what I've discovered as the primary cause of divorce in today's marriages – resentment. I explain how resentment accumulates as stored negative emotions within our bodies over time, often stemming from unaddressed issues or suppressed feelings. As a result, it can lead to communication breakdown, unresolved conflicts, emotional disconnection, and a lack of forgiveness. These factors impact intimacy, trust, and equality within relationships. I offer five actionable steps to tackle resentment head-on, including identifying, owning, and processing it both physically and emotionally. Additionally, I introduce "The Resentment Trap," a course I've developed to help individuals address and release their deep-seated resentment. Join me in this episode if you're looking to transform your relationship dynamics and build a more profound emotional connection.    “Resentment is the number one cause of divorce today. It's an accumulation of unaddressed negative emotions stored within us, and it can lead to communication breakdown, unresolved conflicts, emotional disconnection, and a lack of forgiveness. Addressing and releasing resentment is the key to building a more profound emotional connection in your relationship.”   Discover the leading cause of divorce today: resentment. Understand how resentment accumulates from unaddressed negative emotions. Learn about the communication breakdown and emotional disconnection it causes. Find out how a lack of forgiveness impacts trust and equality in relationships. Get actionable steps to tackle and release resentment.        Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Use this code to get $111 off the price when you pay in full: PAYINFULL     ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur

In this episode, I'm excited to share a transformative seven-step forgiveness process that has had a profound impact on my life and relationships. I learned this powerful method from my coach, who inherited it from her coach, and it's been a game-changer. This process helps you release resentment by addressing the stories and lenses that shape your perceptions. I'll guide you through each step, from listing your complaints as personal stories to identifying the lenses through which you view them. We'll explore empathy, the recognition of unspoken agreements, and the importance of focusing on facts over opinions. By recognizing my own behavior and expressing gratitude for others, I've experienced the liberating power of forgiveness. My challenge to you: consider using this process to heal and enhance your relationships.   “Resentment is always about us. It's showing us what we believe, what we want, what we have an expectation around, what we want a boundary around. That's nobody else's fault but our own, nobody else's responsibility but our own."   Discover the 7-step forgiveness process that transformed my life and relationships. Uncover the stories and lenses that fuel resentment. From listing complaints to finding empathy - these steps will change your perspective. Break free from hidden expectations and focus on the facts, not opinions. Recognize your own behavior patterns and find gratitude in others. Embrace forgiveness and experience the liberating power of clean energy. The Resentment Trap Link: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Get $111 off the price when you pay in full! Coupon Code: PAYINFULL  Connect with me:Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur

In this podcast episode, I reflect on the pivotal moments when I realized my husband had become my safe place and share insights on fostering a strong, intimate relationship. I discuss the importance of shifting perspective, separating facts from interpretations, and the power of empathy through the seven-step forgiveness process. I emphasize the need to avoid diving into logistics upon a partner's return home, advocating for creating genuine connections instead. I delve into releasing resentment through emotional processing and physical practices, acknowledging the role of body language in intimacy. Furthermore, I explore the challenge of letting my inner child be seen without defensive reactions and the transformative impact of unconditional love and acceptance in a relationship. My personal journey and recommended resources offer valuable guidance for building a resilient partnership.   “You have to learn how to process it out of your physical body, because we think just acknowledging it or talking about it will do the trick. But that's not true, because the emotion is felt it's not thought it's felt”   I share my personal journey of realizing how my husband became my safe place, sparking a deep dive into strengthening our relationship. Emphasizing the importance of changing negative narratives and recognizing the power of challenging our assumptions about our partner's intentions. Exploring a transformative process that includes separating facts from interpretations and gaining empathy, leading to a fresh outlook on the relationship. Acknowledging the need to pause and connect emotionally with your partner when they return home, rather than jumping into logistical discussions. Resentment Trap Link: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub   Use code PAYINFULL to get $111 off the price when you pay in full   Listen to this Podcast Episode: 7 Step Forgiveness Process: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/level-up-babe/id1486277372?i=1000458880102 Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.igFacebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe   ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur

In this episode, I delve into the significance of being the director of my own life rather than constantly outsourcing vital decisions. I illustrate this idea with relatable examples, like my visits to the nail salon, where I often grapple with whether to speak up or accept results I don't like.   I discuss the adverse effects of continuous outsourcing, such as feeling lost and building up resentment. I stress the value of having a clear vision for different aspects of my life and making swift decisions while trusting my instincts. Additionally, I emphasize the importance of striking a balance between seeking support and maintaining my role as the director. I invite you to reflect on where you might be outsourcing in your life and consider regaining control of your own destiny.   “Being the director means setting boundaries, knowing what you stand for, establishing boundaries that protect your energy, your happiness, your results, it’s saying no a lot more than saying yes, that’s all part of boundary setting.”   Explore the importance of being the director of your own life rather than outsourcing decisions Understand the consequences of continuous outsourcing, such as feeling lost and building resentment Emphasize the need to establish a clear vision for various aspects of life to guide decision-making Finding a balance between seeking support and maintaining your role as the director of your life A call to evaluate where you might be outsourcing and regain control of your life. Link for the resentment trap: https://www.levelupbabe.com/thelevelupclub Link for the gutpersonal items for listeners to get 10% off: The Healer Pro: https://www.gutpersonal.com/products/healer-plus-pro-probiotic?_pos=1&_sid=ca20ebdc1&_ss=r&variant=42109366861998 The Healer: https://www.gutpersonal.com/products/the-healer-capsules?_pos=2&_sid=ca20ebdc1&_ss=r&selling_plan=1995407534&variant=41584724443310 Connect with me: Email: [email protected] / [email protected] Website: level-up-babe.mykajabi.com Instagram: @joyharrington.ig / @levelupbabe.ig Facebook: Joy HarringtonTikTok: @joyharrington01 YouTube: Joy Harrington - LEVEL UP Babe ————————————————————————————————————————————   Lisa Bilyeu on women’s empowerment:  “Cheer for your girls like you got pom-poms at a pep rally.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on women helping women:  “Choose your life’s board members like you’re building a Fortune 500 company.” - Lisa Bilyeu  Lisa Bilyeu on being a boss:  “Be brave. Fearless. Be badass at 15 years old. Be badass at 80 years old.” - Lisa Bilyeu Lisa Bilyeu on personal development:  “If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” - Lisa Bileyu Glennon Doyle on women’s empowerment:  “People who need help sometimes look a lot like people who don’t need help.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “Every girl must decide whether to be true to herself or true to the world.” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on personal development:  “What if pain - like love - is just a place brave people visit?” - Glennon Doyle Glennon Doyle on being yourself:  “I have met myself and I am going to care for her fiercely.” - Glennon Doyle Mel Robbins on personal development:  “You need to hear this loud and clear: No one is coming. It is up to you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being yourself:  “There will always be someone who can't see your worth. Don't let it be you.” - Mel Robbins Mel Robbins on being a boss:  “You have been assigned this mountain so that you can show others it can be moved.” - Mel Robbins Rupi Kaur on being yourself:  “Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on being a boss:  “How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you” - Rupi Kaur Rupi Kaur on women’s empowerment: “If you were born with the weakness to fall you were born with the strength to rise” - Rupi Kaur