The relationship training that destroyed my marriage

I have full confidence that Indiana Jones himself, the character played by the legendary Harrison Ford, would definitely search for, find and flip “The Spiritual Switch”. Here’s why… Did you ever see the absolutely brilliant movie, “Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade”? It’s the one where Indiana’s father, played by the late great Sir Sean Connery, joined Indi on an adventure to find the Holy Grail.

A question came in the other day, from a client who scheduled in a “Personal Breakthrough Session” with me and they were a little bit perturbed. They were going through my online programs like “The Psychological Switch” and “Meet and Marry the One”, but there was something about what they were learning that really turned them off.

A few years ago, I was generously gifted a free ticket to a Tony Robbins “Unleash the Power Within” event. And it was a delightful experience. I went to the event a couple of years after discovering “The Spiritual Switch” (aka. The Psychological Switch) so during the event, I had a deep understanding of where my feelings truly come from – and of the fact that I don’t actually need any “ninja” NLP mindset techniques to feel better.

One morning, a couple of years ago, I was getting my twin boys ready to go to nursery and the older twin who is a whopping three minutes older than his brother was a little bit on the grumpy side. He hadn’t slept through the night and woke me up a couple of times. So he wasn’t in a particularly great mood and to be honest… neither was I.

I once had a female client who was quite frustrated, because after going through the “Meet Him and Marry Him” program, she would end up meeting great guys… but sometimes the guys just didn't know how to interact in any kind of attractive way.  There was one guy she was telling me about who - the first time they met in person - was dressed in a hoodie and really ugly, torn, dirty shoes...

The other day, Rachida and I were having a chat about our goals for 2025. We were talking about our intentions, the kind of energy and experiences we want to share together. By the grace of God, we're in a wonderful phase of life where we're living in Marrakesh… and it turns out this is our dream. It feels like we're on vacation the whole time, even though we're both still working and fully engaging with all the good things in life.

Want to know one of the main reasons why I love doing Jiu Jitsu and how I have the discipline to train daily? It's not because of the mind-body connection. It's not because it's the “gentle art”. It's not because I have some kind of super-human discipline.

Exactly one week ago was “Blue Monday”.  This is statistically supposed to be the most depressing day of the year, for a number of reasons...  

We've all heard about the importance of willpower and discipline when it comes to achieving our goals.  But what very few people talk about is the importance of “Allah will” power.  One of the biggest mistakes people make is they set big, audacious, hairy, scary goals, and then they try to force themselves to be really disciplined and achieve the goal all by themselves. Then, they get stressed, frustrated or give up on it altogether.

Back when I was a single, lonely, divorced bloke I went through a phase of not seeing anyone or considering anyone, which lasted about 9 months.  Then I had a life-altering insight that I wrote about in the book, “Inside the Soul of Islam”.  And after that, I was basically a magnet.