Episode 099 - Dr. Henry Cloud on TRUST

We are rewinding time with this episode. Matt Brown knew me before most.  We’re talking about a season of my life that most people don’t even know EXISTED. That’s right. I used to be a worship leader / Christian music artist. And it all started at Sandals Church under the leadership of Matt Brown. Over 20 years later, and he’s still there! Matt saw me through high highs and low lows. And he and Sandals are a major part of who I am and what I do today. We’re talking about young Carlos and Matt, our dads, trusting the church again, and Matt’s insight into life with God now.  . . . . . Get a copy of Matt's book A Book Called You here: https://amzn.to/44hzKXS Purchase your copy of my book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! FACTOR: Go to FactorMeals.com/CARLOS50 and use code CARLOS50 to receive 50% off! NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My daughter is getting married, and we are in the THROWS of wedding season.  She had a bridal shower this week, and it was so beautiful to see her surrounded by so many women who have been walking with us for literal DECADES through marriage and parenting and now having adult children who are getting married in 5 weeks! So, I asked them two questions: If you could go back 20 years and talk to yourself as you enter this journey of marriage and parenthood, what would you say? If you could give Brady and Sohaila one piece of wisdom, what would it be? Whether you’re thinking about becoming a parent or you’ve been doing it for 20 years, there’s something in here for you. . . . . . Purchase your copy of my book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE LMNT: Go to DrinkLMNT.com/CarlosWhittaker to get a free sample pack with your purchase! SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/carlos to take your business to the next level today. NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for YOU. Not everyone who is listening at once. Just you.  You know that I go to church, and I love my church. But you also know that I’m not shy about speaking out about how the church has had many missteps over the years. So what do you do when you’ve been hurt by the church but you still want to be part of it? I unpack part of my journey when it came to reevaluating church, and I hope it guides you through some thoughts and questions to ask yourself as you consider re-entering the church as well.  This process doesn't need to feel hopeless. . . . . . Purchase your copy of my book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HUMANHOPE and get on your way to being your best self. ATHLETIC GREENS: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/HUMANHOPE AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The baby of our family is transitioning into adulthood, and I have so many THOUGHTS!! Losiah and I sit down and talk about what we've been through and what's next. My son brings the WISDOM, so grab your pencils because you’re going to want to take notes.  I hope this conversation helps you see your kids differently and maybe prompts some good questions to ask as you walk through parenting your teens. . . . . . Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/humanhope to take your business to the next level today. LMNT: Go to drinkLMNT.com/CarlosWhittaker to get a free sample pack with your purchase! HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is an episode I’ve been looking forward to for a LONG time.  My great friend and the creator of the statement that has changed my life and many others… Mike Ashcraft is in the house! Mike dives into what it really means to not stand on issues and walk with people. Plus we talk about what it’s like to build and lead a church AND taking care of aging parents. Get ready for some deep WISDOM and quite possibly to have a new favorite pastor! . . . . . Find Mike Ashcraft on Instagram here: instagram.com/mikeashcraft/   Get a copy of To Be Concluded here: https://amzn.to/4a955Ou Get a copy of My One Word here: https://amzn.to/3VsU0mS  Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HUMANHOPE and get on your way to being your best self. FACTOR: Go to FactorMeals.com/CARLOS50 and use code CARLOS50 to receive 50% off! NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If it feels like you just can’t catch a break in life, this episode is for you. Today we’re acknowledging the fact that sometimes life just sucks. And it’s okay to admit that! But how do we not get stuck there? I’m sharing what I love to do in those tough seasons… praying promises, feeling the feelings, celebrating the small wins, and so much MORE! Resilience isn't about never falling down. And it isn't even about standing up all the way again. It's about the next best thing you can do. . . . . . Listen to The Effects of Doom Scrolling here! . . . . . Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . WEAR WE ARE: Listen and subscribe to Wear We Are here: https://tinyurl.com/WearWeArePodcast LMNT: Go to DrinkLMNT.com/CarlosWhittaker to get a free sample pack with your purchase! AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/humanhope to take your business to the next level today. HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever created something that you’re really proud of, but when it comes time to share it with the world, you don’t feel like it’s good enough? Or maybe even that you’re not good enough?  Let me tell you something: no matter how many books I’ve written or talks I’ve done or videos I’ve shared, I fear self-promotion.  I’m fearful of what people think of the work itself, but I’m also fearful of what people think of me.  On this episode we’re tackling that fear.  . . . . . Purchase your copy of my NEW book, Get Your Hopes Up: 90 Devotions + True Stories for Young World Changers HERE: https://www.carloswhittaker.com/get-your-hopes-up Fill out this form to receive video resources and a discussion guide for Get Your Hopes Up HERE: https://www.carloswhittaker.com/pre-order-get-your-hopes Purchase your copy of my book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . BETTER HELP: This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/HUMANHOPE and get on your way to being your best self. ATHLETIC GREENS: Athletic Greens is giving you a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Go to athleticgreens.com/HUMANHOPE . INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. AIR DOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! NOTES CANDLE: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I LITERALLY had to hold myself back from saying “oh, that’s good!” every ten seconds during this conversation because it is just SO GOOD. Todd Deatherage from the Telos Group is back again to answer YOUR questions on the Israeli-Palestinian conflict.  Todd’s ability to speak to people from all different points of view is incredible. He brings a nuanced and level-headed voice to this highly emotional topic. And he offers hope amidst a seemingly hopeless conflict.  . . . . . I want to hear from you! Please take 5 minutes to fill out this survey that will help me produce the best podcast for you!! https://bit.ly/428x0Lg Listen to my first conversation with Todd here: Is Peace Possible Between Israel & Palestine? Learn more about The Telos Group here: telosgroup.org Download The Principles and Practices of Peacemaking here. . . . . . Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . AQUATRU: Get 20% off any AquaTru purifier! Visit aquatru.com/HUMANHOPE and use the code HUMANHOPE at checkout. SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/humanhope to take your business to the next level today. HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE NOTES CANDLES: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s been a heavy couple of weeks, so this week I asked YOU what you wanted me to talk about. There were so many great ideas that I couldn’t pick just one. So today is a smorgasbord of thoughts based on your submissions!  I talk about... How to “faith” again when Christian spaces feel hard Whatever happened to the ASL goal? What did I think my life NOW would look like 20 years ago? Robbin School Why pickleball is the BEST My family's experience with eating disorders What happened when I disappeared from social media 2 years ago And how I handle being in the sandwich generation, taking care of my kids and parents at the same time We cover A LOT!!! As always, thanks for listening! . . . . . Buy Walking with God by John Eldredge here. Start learning ASL with Lingvano here. Watch my video on Robbin School here. . . . . . Purchase your copy of my new book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . FACTOR: Go to FactorMeals.com/CARLOS50 and use code CARLOS50 to receive 50% off! AIRDOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! NOTES CANDLES: Get 15% off and free shipping on a custom starter kit at notescandle.com/Carlos with code CARLOS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This is a conversation I’ve been wanting to have for a long time, and I'm grateful to be joined by someone who has been working with Israelis and Palestinians long before October 7th. Todd Deatherage is the co-founder of The Telos Group, an organization dedicated to seeking the freedom, security, and dignity of every human being in the Holy Land. We talk about why this conflict can feel hard to address, historical trauma among the people groups, the role of America(ns), how to be a peacemaker, what you can do to help, and so much more! This conversation is educational, hopeful, and activating! . . . . . Learn more about The Telos Group here: telosgroup.org Download The Principles and Practices of Peacemaking here. . . . . . I want to hear from you! Fill out this survey and tell me your thoughts! Purchase your copy of my book, How to Human, HERE: https://bit.ly/HowtoHumanNotes Let’s keep in touch! Sign up for my newsletter to be the first to hear ALL my updates. https://bit.ly/MasFamiliaNotes Interested in advertising with us? Reach out here. . . . . . SHOPIFY: Go to shopify.com/humanhope to take your business to the next level today. AIRDOCTOR: Head to AirDoctorPro.com and use promo code HUMANHOPE and, depending on the model, you’ll receive UP TO 39% off or UP TO $300 off! INDEED: Need to hire? You need Indeed. Visit Indeed.com/HUMANHOPE to start hiring now. HIYA HEALTH: Receive 50% off your first order at hiyahealth.com/HUMANHOPE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices