What is Healthy Dependency in a Relationship and How Do We Find It? with Nedra Tawwab

Back for another life changing discussion, we have therapist and bestselling author Nedra Glover Tawwab to talk about healthy dependency in relationships – what it is, what's the difference from unhealthy dependency/codependency, and how to achieve it. We discuss how to not lose yourself in a relationship, dating someone who's enmeshed with their family, why our attachment styles aren't fixed and how we show up differently with different people, and the problem with hyper independence. We also discuss friendship enmeshment and when one friend needs space, accommodating friends' boundaries without losing them (and when you might need to cut someone off), navigating your best friend getting into a relationship, and how to understand different peoples' communication styles. We even touch on parenting and codependency with children. Before Nedra joins us, we analyze some wrong number texts Rayna has been receiving, and answer the question 'Can a morning person be with a non-morning person?' Enjoy! Follow Nedra on Instagram at @nedratawwab and preorder her new book The Balancing Act (out February 10). Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Article: Get a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed http://article.com. Liquid IV: Get 20% off your first order at https://liquidiv.com with code GGE.  Revolve: Get 15% off your first order at https://revolve.com/gge with code GGE.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we're talking about: Being snowed in + a devastating event cancellation Alex Honnold climbing a skyscraper live  Sydney Sweeney throwing bras on the Hollywood sign Blake Lively and Taylor Swift's released texts (and a legal breakdown) Winter Olympics crotch enlargement scandal  What's happening in Minnesota and the importance of speaking up Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge. 

If you're wondering how much couples are actually fighting, what they're fighting about, and how they're making up – we got you! We conducted surveys to ask these questions, and are also sharing our own experiences regarding conflict (and conflict resolution), makeup sex, the advice of "never go to bed angry," why you shouldn't fight over text, and how toxic relationships take a toll on your health. And we're discussing couples who say they never fight (ahem George Clooney and Travis Kelce). Before we get into the topic, Ashley pops off about the new iPhone feature she feels victimized by, Rayna shares the one thing about traveling she can't get right, and we have a foolproof tip for getting kinkier in the bedroom. Enjoy!  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your own empire today. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge. Just Thrive: Get 20% off your first order at justthrivehealth.com with promo code GGE.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we're talking about: Kristi and Desmond Scott's divorce and scandal Kyle and Amanda from Summer House divorce announcement Brooklyn Beckham airing his family's dirty laundry  Breaking down the 2016 trend and reminiscing  Tell Me Lies – review of S3 so far and the real life couples on the show Headlines: Euphoria trailer breaks records, Indiana University wins football championship, Luda pulls out of MAGA Fest  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to Shopify: If 2026 is your year, go to shopify.com/gge and make your move. Download the Kitchen Sink app here.

We're kicking off this episode with thoughts on dry January, some life updates from Ashley, Rayna's feelings about starting her tour, and then we're laughing about the hilarious "describe your ex as a store" trend and sharing our own.  Then we have an interview re-release with Mimi Bouchard, founder of the Activations app, to discuss the most effortless way you can start to manifest what you want in life. She shares her story of transforming her life and what led her to start the app (hint: no meditation required), and we discuss things that numb you vs. things that make you feel alive, how to act like your future self even in the smallest moments, reducing your screen time, and our personal favorite, manifesting during sex.   Follow Mimi on Instagram @mimibouchard and download Activations.  Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Activations: For a limited time, get a 14-day trial + a great discount on your subscription at activations.com/gge.  Shopify: Go to https://shopify.com/gge and start building your own empire today. Chime: Bank fee free by signing up at https://chime.com/girlsgottaeat.  Skims: Shop our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com. Hungry Root: Get 40% off your first box and free item in every box for life at https://hungryroot.com/gge with code GGE. Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first order and free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10.

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we're talking about: The best (and worst) moments from the Golden Globes  Tell Me Lies is back Celeb mom group drama continues (the dads clap back) Ashley's review after binging Mormon Wives  The murder of Renee Good and unrest in Minneapolis Headlines: Haley and Matt Kalil big dick drama, Cher wants better than Dax for Kristen Bell, Spencer Pratt running for mayor of LA Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge.     AG1: Go to https://drinkAGI.com/gge for a free duffel bag and Welcome Kit with your first subscription order. 

You've probably heard the phrase "Everyone wants a village, but no one wants to be a villager" recently, and we are discussing! We dive into the dynamics of friendship, why people aren't showing up for their friends as much, when boundaries and "protecting your peace" hinder community building, managing conflict with friends, engaging with friends on social media, and tips for being a better villager. We also discuss the sentiment of "you don't have to go to weddings anymore" AND we also put together a matrix to determine the events you do and don't have to attend. Before we get into the topic, Rayna got a jump scare at the nail salon and Ashley had a traumatizing experience in a public restroom. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Rocket Money: Reach your financial goals faster at https://rocketmoney.com/gge. Liquid IV: Get 20% off your first order at https://liquidiv.com with code GGE.   Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box plus free croissants for life at https://wildgrain.com/gge or use promo code GGE.  Helix: Get 20% off at https://helixsleep.com/gge. 

Welcome back to The Snack – a lighter serving of Girls Gotta Eat. This week, we're talking about: Timothée Chalamet's acceptance speech about Kylie  Best/funniest red carpet look for the Critics Choice Awards Movie reviews: Marty Supreme, Housemaid, Is This Thing On?  TV reviews: Emily in Paris, Stranger Things, and a deep dive on Heated Rivalry Ashley Tisdale broke up with her celeb mom group  Headlines: Tom Brady and Alix Earle, Zach Bryan marries his ex's doppelganger, NYC retires the MetroCard Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Just Thrive: Get 20% off at justthrivehealth.com with promo code GGE. Skims: Shop our favorite bras and underwear at https://skims.com.

To kick off the new year, we have the one-and-only Cody Rigsby – beloved Peloton instructor, bestselling author, and podcaster. He opens up about his new relationship, who he's close with at Peloton, how he gets away with being so spicy stuff in his classes, being a Disney adult, his relationship with his mom, and his feelings on marriage (and what the straights are doing wrong). Then we get his advice on how to achieve the 2026 goals our listeners submitted, from being confident, to doing more (and less?) anal, to being more petty (but tactfully). Before Cody joins us, we share our goals for the Year of the Horse, recap holiday highlights (read: appetizer contest), and discuss why this year is Rayna's year and not Ashley's. Enjoy!  Follow Cody on Instagram @codyrigsby, listen to his podcast Tactful Pettiness, and get his book. Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Revolve: Get 15% off your first order at http://revolve.com/gge with code GGE. Article: Head to https://article.com for a beautiful new sofa, dining table, or bed.  Better Help: Get 10% off at https://betterhelp.com/gge.

It's the last episode of 2025 and we are reflecting on the year – the highs and lows, the lessons learned, and if we have any regrets. Then we discuss regrets in general, being consumed by "micro regrets" and three steps for managing it, our feelings on moving to LA and the potential of moving back to NYC, and our audience's biggest regrets of the year (with focus on staying in a relationship or job for too long). We are also sharing our listeners' biggest accomplishments of the year, recapping the holiday show and our favorite "secret segment," and discussing the age we're scared of. Enjoy! Follow us on Instagram @girlsgottaeatpodcast, Ashley @ashhess, and Rayna @rayna.greenberg. Visit girlsgottaeat.com for more. Thank you to our partners this week: Hungryroot: Get 40% off your first box and free item in every box for life at https://hungryroot.com/gge with code GGE. Quince: Get free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order at https://quince.com/gge.  Nutrafol: Get $10 off your first month's subscription plus free shipping at https://nutrafol.com with code GGE10.