Designing a Rule of Life: AJ Sherrill at Spiritual Formation Weekend (pt 2) - Deeper Experiences with God, Season 2 Episode 25
How can we shape our daily lives to grow in Christlike character? In this second episode from Crossway’s Spiritual Formation Weekend, AJ Sherrill, pastor of St. Peter’s Anglican Church and author of Being with God, leads a closing teaching on designing a rule of life—not as a set of rigid rules, but as rhythms and spiritual practices that help us become who we hope to be.Rather than starting with a list of habits, AJ invites us to begin with a vision: Who do we want to become? From there, we can name the virtues we hope to cultivate—such as joy, patience, gentleness, or generosity—and choose practices that help make room for the Holy Spirit to form us over time. Pastor Dave closes with reflections on finding joy, calm, and life-giving rhythms amid uncertainty. Takeaways:Character is what runs all the way through. AJ shares the image of a Brighton Rock sugar stick, which shows the same pattern no matter where you cut it. When suffering, conflict, or a diagnosis cuts into our lives, we discover who we actually are. Drawing on N.T. Wright, he reminds us that no one becomes like Jesus by accident. It takes radical intent and a life designed for that to happen.Action: Reflect on a recent time when life “cut” you. What came out, and what does it reveal about the character God wants to deepen in you?Start with the who and the why, before the how. Most of us jump straight to the practices, which AJ warns can quickly default into religion. Instead, he invites us to name who we want to be, get specific about what Jesus was like (the fruit of the Spirit is a great place to start), and notice what we’re tired of (“I’m so tired of cynicism, Lord, make me a person of joy”). Even the negative things we notice in prayer are revelation, not reasons for shame.Action: Ask God, “What is this season for?” Choose one virtue (joy, gentleness, patience, generosity) that you sense He’s inviting you to grow into between now and Advent.Practices are a trellis, and the Spirit gives life. There is no magic in practices; they are simply structures to root us so the Holy Spirit can grow fruit in us. AJ encourages us to choose practices that cultivate our chosen virtue (like gratitude or forest walks for joy, for example), set daily, weekly, monthly, and annual rhythms, and check that our lives include solitude, community, and service to the world, rather than just continuing only in what we’re already good at.Action: Set aside 15–20 minutes with a journal. Choose one or two practices to cultivate your virtue, decide when and where you’ll do them, and notice which of the three categories (solitude, community, ministry) is missing.Dave’s reflection: a vision for your own place and season. Dave shares how the desert fathers and mothers have given him a vision for being a countercultural pastoral presence in New England, and why virtues like joy, power, and apatheia (abiding calm) matter in a world of despair and panic. Guarding a life-giving Sabbath is one rhythm helping him live into that vision.Action: Who do you know that points you toward Christlikeness in a unique way? Consider how their example might shape the kind of person God is calling you to be in your current context.Quote of the Show:“Practices are a trellis... things you can root into and invite the Holy Spirit in to grow.” — AJ SherrillLinks:Website: https://www.ajsherrill.org/ Books: https://www.ajsherrill.org/#buynow Bio: https://saintpeters.me/bioaj Music licensed through Soundstripe.Code: 1XQ3ASJBPJ57NKN3