I Stayed After The Cheating, But I Can’t Stop Thinking of Their Affair

Is your spouse’s best friend too close for comfort? Does your partner’s BFF get more attention, time and better treatment than you? When you start to question just how close your spouse is to their “best friend” are you paranoid or intuitive? My guest Brent, who is married to his husband Michael ( not his real name) would say the latter. Brent’s world was turned upside down when he was deceived by a relationship that his husband Michael claimed was purely platonic. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!

About two years ago, a guy friend said to me "I know my best friend and he would never cheat on his wife. He just wouldn't do it." Because of this podcast I'm sworn to secrecy, so I couldn't tell him that his best buddy was a flagrant philanderer who had cheated many times with many different women in both emotional and sexual affairs. As wives, husbands, partners, family members, and best friends, we can't imagine that someone we know would ever have an emotional or physical affair. This is why it is not uncommon that I hear from betrayed partners, "I was blindsided when I found out!" This is what happened to my guest Shea. Shea is her real name because with the support of Shea's husband, they decided together that appearing on Cheating: When Love Lies would be a part of Shea's healing. Beth Miller, relationship coach and owner of Soulifywellness is back to share her relationship expertise. Do you think that your partner would never ever cheat on you? Well, so did Shea. @cheatingwhenlovelies @soulifywellness https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link (https://www.facebook.com/groups/ infidelityaffairsupportforwomen/?ref=share_group_link)

You are single and you’re having an affair with someone who is married or is a committed partner. You desperately want to know if your lover is going to leave their spouse to be with you. Alternatively, you’ve been betrayed. Your spouse has broken your vows, or your committed partner has been unfaithful. You too desperately want answers to the question “will my spouse choose me or their secret lover ? My guest today, Martess A Dowling is the author of Is He Ever Going To Leave His Wife ? The Answers to the Questions You Desperately Want To Know. The book helps answer those questions. It is an Amazon #1 Best Setter, winner of the Silver Star- Literary Titan Book Award, and the Five Star - Reader's Favourite Book Award. Dowling’s insight as to why cheaters stay or go is based on her research, and her use of an uncommon and controversial tool. Join me to learn more about the people Martess has helped — and just how she does it! Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you.

For the Labor Day holiday we are bringing back one of our most compelling episodes. It's hard to think of a more demoralizing and debilitating situation than this: your husband has an affair, and his affair partner gets pregnant. But wait - it gets worse because you were pregnant around the same time his lover was pregnant. This is what happened to my guest Carly. Will Carly choose to save her marriage and embrace her husband's lover's child? What would you do? Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen

Tony and Nicole were secret lovers who became a couple after they cheated on and eventually left their spouses. They have that super passionate kind of love that takes you over, and you cannot deny. But what does an affair cost your children and the spouse you've left behind? They say, "he'll never leave his wife" or "she'll never leave her husband" but Tony did and Nicole did - right before Thanksgiving. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenloveslies for highlights from all the shows. Please subscribe like and share with anyone you know who's been affected by infidelity. Thank you!

You meet the man of your dreams and you fall madly in love. He's from another country, and his homeland is far from yours. One day he gets his dream job abroad and you agree to follow him to a foreign country, then back to his homeland to start a family. Years later the relationship starts to fall apart and he winds up having an affair. This is what happened to my guest whom we'll call Susan. When Susan decides she wants to leave her cheating husband, she soon finds out that the worst part about following him wasn't leaving her homeland, her parents or giving up her own career, but something far, far worse than she ever could have imagined. Joining Susan and me is Beth Miller, owner of Soulify Wellness. Beth's 12 week program teaches women how to transform themselves in order to transform their lives and relationships. Using Beth's Soulify Wellness method, Lee and many women explore memories and unprocessed emotions which are often the real reasons for the unhealthy patterns and communication issues in a marriage or partnership. Find Beth at: www.freemarriageguide.com/ www.instagram.com/soulifywellness/ www.facebook.com/soulifywellness/ www.soulifywellness.com https://www.facebook.com/groups/infidelityaffairsupportforwomen Share your own story at Jillianhamilton.online. Follow, subscribe and share @cheatingwhenlovelies Tik tok Jillianhamilton23

Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new car, and you’re driving a 10 -year-old model. Your husband‘s affair partner has a brand new air conditioning system, and you’re sweltering in the heat because your A/C is broken. Your husband seems to have endless resources for his affair partner, and little for you. This is what happened to my guest whom we call Vicky, when she discovered her husband’s untruths, and a multi-year affair partner whom he lavished. What would you do if you discovered your spouse’s affair partner was receiving as much or more emotional and financial support than you? What happens when you discover an affair partner who seems more like your spouse’s main course than their side piece? Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity.

My guest today whom we’ll call Pam, was a pastor’s affair partner. She is married, and so is the pastor. Pam believes that she wasn’t the only secret lover in this pastor’s life. She thinks she is one among many women whom this pastor groomed to become his affair partner. Are Pam’s suspicions correct? How is it that a faith leader whom we trust and look to for moral guidance can carry on an affair? Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23

Could you be paid to keep your affair silent? Would a big fat check keep you from exposing your affair when your married affair partner goes back to his wife? How much would it take to keep you quiet?

Your partner cheats on you with your best friend. Sadly we have heard this tale many times before. But what if instead of being contrite and remorseful, your cheating best friend claims “I did you a favor” by having an affair with your partner. This is exactly what happened to my guest whom we’ll call Clare. Clare’s best friend and her boyfriend had an affair. How could the best friend do this - pretend to be her confidante all while deceiving her. Join me to find out. Be a guest on the show: [email protected] IG @cheatingwhenlovelies for highlights from the show. Tik Tok: Jillianhamilton23 Please subscribe, like and share with anyone whose life has been upended by infidelity. Thank you!