Advice Unfiltered with Chris and Tony

Your sex life is worth working for. And you never have to feel embarrassed for wanting a good one.Chris and Tony sit down with Dr. Rena Malik, a board-certified urologist, pelvic surgeon, and one of the most followed medical educators online, on the launch day of her new book, The Hard Truth: Everything Men Need to Know for Good Health, Great Sex, and Long Life. Dr. Malik breaks down the myths, the science, and the conversations most couples avoid, with the kind of straight talk that makes it feel less awkward and more human.In this episode:The #1 myth Dr. Malik hears: what actually drives pleasure for a partner (hint: it's not size)Why men feel the pressure to "always be ready," and why they need to be in the right headspace tooWhy men don't talk to each other about sex, and why that makes communication with you even more importantErection changes as an early warning sign for heart health, and why she says not to waitTestosterone therapy: lifestyle first, when it makes sense, and what to know about fertility and side effectsStress, sleep, and testosterone: why the number matters less than how you actually feelLow sexual desire in women: how common it is, the "vacation test," and the options to talk to your doctor aboutMenopause, vaginal comfort, and testosterone for women: what's proven and what isn't yetAntidepressants and sex drive: what to ask your doctorWhy to get blood work before starting any hormone, and why supplements rarely live up to the hypeHow to start talking about intimacy with your partner, even if nobody ever taught you howDr. Malik's closing message: your sex life is worth the work📖 GET THE BOOK — The Hard Truth is out now. Find it on Amazon or at your favorite independent bookstore. Follow Dr. Malik on YouTube: Rena Malik MD.⚠️ This episode is for education and entertainment, not medical advice. Always talk to your doctor before starting any medication, hormone, or treatment.🧠 MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH EVENT — November 14, Monmouth University. Chris and Tony will be there supporting the students.🍳 The Best in You Cookbook is out everywhere.🛑 Reminder: nobody from Advice Unfiltered will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. The only real way to reach us is AdviceUnfiltered.com. Report and block everyone else.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.

Self-care doesn't have to be a huge project. And if someone you've never met asks you for money, it's a scam. Full stop.First, Chris and Tony say thank you: Advice Unfiltered just won at the Signal Awards again — top podcast for relationship, dating, and love, back to back years. Then a raw, funny, honest rant about the impersonators using their names (one woman gave $10,000 thinking she was paying Bon Jovi), and what to do when you feel lonely enough to "kind of know" it's a scam. Then two wellness pros join the show to talk about the Health & Wellness Expo, why women who take care of everyone forget to take care of themselves, and why yoga, Reiki, and meditation are not as intimidating as Instagram makes them look.In this episode:Signal Awards: the thank-you, and why the questions YOU write in steer this show"Invest in yourself" — Tony's 2027 motto, and the $52 Chipotle receipt that made him think about itThe scam rule that protects you: if you've never met them and they ask for money, it's not real"Nobody is reaching out to you." The only way to get to Chris and Tony is AdviceUnfiltered.comWhy lonely people stay in scams they half-know are scamsYoga isn't about being skinny, flexible, or doing a handstand — and why one woman's first pigeon pose made her hear angelsReiki, aura photography, iridology, ecstatic dance, drum circles, and chair yoga: what's actually at the ExpoWhat meditation really is: acknowledge the thought, then let it go"When am I going to hit my goals?" "Never." Why that's the point"Spirituality isn't hippie bullshit" — Chris on why you have to be open to itPlus: Tree Lights update, a 100th episode coming in mid-December, and a very unscientific retrograde debate🌿 THE HEALTH & WELLNESS EXPO — Sunday, November 8 · 12–5 PMVanderbilt South Beach, 300 Father Capodanno Blvd, Staten Island, NYAbout 30 vendors, workshops, chair yoga, ecstatic dance, a drum circle, Reiki, aura photography, nutrition, and mental health support. Tickets are $10 online and $15 at the door: [email protected]. Chris and Tony will be there recording a live Q&A.🎶 MUSIC FOR ALL SEASONS 35TH ANNIVERSARY GALA — November 9, Liberty House, Jersey City. Tickets, sponsorships, and donations: musicforallseasons.org.🧠 MEN'S MENTAL HEALTH EVENT — November 14, Monmouth University. Chris and Tony will be there supporting the students.🌸 SAVE THE DATE — Be Well at Bell, January 24.📱 Join the free Advice Unfiltered Speakeasy for interviews, guides, live Q&A, and a community where everybody's real. Coaching programs for a month, a few months, or a year live on AdviceUnfiltered.com.🛑 Reminder: nobody from Advice Unfiltered will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. The only real way to reach us is AdviceUnfiltered.com. Report and block everyone else.If you've been scammed, it's not your fault. Talk to someone you trust, and consider therapy to work through it, the same way you would after any emotional loss.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.

He's not bored of you. He's tired of always being the one to ask.Chris and Tony open the inbox and the questions come in from everywhere, Mexico City to Johannesburg to Northern Ireland. A woman who has never once made the first move. A husband robbed in a strip club parking lot who's hiding it from his wife of 30 years. A secret from 22 years ago. And a lifelong caretaker who doesn't know how to ask for help. It's funny, it's blunt, and it ends somewhere real.In this episode:A 46-year-old listener who has never initiated, and her partner is exhausted: the simple, playful fix (and the weekly mission we gave her)Why a man feeling wanted hits the same as a woman feeling lovedOne partner talks, the other goes silent: how to meet in the middleThe hard truth for the husband hiding a police report from his wife of 30 yearsShould you tell your best friend you slept with her boyfriend 22 years ago?The accidental "she's a six" text that got a very expensive dinnerSleeping with your ex: why it feels great and goes nowhereFor the caretaker who's been "the strong one" her whole life: how to learn to ask for helpThe mirror exercise: look yourself in the eyes and say "I love you." Everyone who tries it cries.Why eye contact with your kids matters, and why the phones have to go downChristian's daily reminder, "You are worth it," and why we keep saying it out loudWords have power: why you decide what they mean💛 If you or someone you know is struggling: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7. You are not alone, and you being here matters.🛑 IMPORTANT: The ONLY official way to work with Chris and Tony is AdviceUnfiltered.com. It's literally just the two of us. Nobody on our team will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. Report and block.🌐 Join the free community (the Speakeasy), book coaching, and see what's new: AdviceUnfiltered.com💬 This episode includes a mention of Rugiet, a telehealth men's health service and paid partner of the show. This is a paid promotion. Always talk to a doctor before starting any new medication.📅 NEXT WEEK: health and wellness expert Christina joins the show.👍 If this one helped, subscribe and share it with a friend. It's the best way to help the show reach the people who need it.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony 🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

You don't have to fix your whole life to start feeling better. You just have to take the first step.Chris is out filming a commercial, so Buzz (Buzzworthy Radio) steps in to co-host with Tony. First up: the co-founder of Music for All Seasons and her daughter Karen — an Advice Unfiltered ambassador — on how a $1,000 bank account and a hospital concert turned into a 35-year nonprofit bringing live music to veterans, kids, and communities healing from trauma. Then Tony, Buzz, Becky, and Karen get real about what it takes to invest in yourself, why setbacks are part of the deal, and why so many of us hide what we're going through.In this episode:How Music for All Seasons started in 1989: nine concerts in 11 days, a first Carnegie Hall benefit, and the day Disney wrote a $25,000 checkVoices of Valor: veterans writing and recording an original song together, and talking about things they've never said in therapyVoices of Change, Voices of Empowerment, and the new Voices of Healing launching in JanuaryThe 35th-anniversary gala: November 9 at Liberty House, Jersey City, chaired by Bo Derek"Life's tough, but I'm tougher" — Becky on why investing in yourself is the hardest first stepTony: how it all happens one degree at a time, and why you don't need your whole life fixed to start smilingBuzz opens up about mental health, relationships, and why fear of judgment keeps people quietChristian on setbacks and the roller coaster of making a changeWhy your old friends may need a little grace when you start changingFriends who tell you the truth: inside the Advice Unfiltered ambassador communityThe Tree Lights update, Buzz's red-carpet stories, and a few surprises🎶 MUSIC FOR ALL SEASONS 35TH ANNIVERSARY GALA & FOUNDERS' TRIBUTENovember 9 · Liberty House, Jersey City, NJTickets start at $275 and sponsorships go up to $50,000. Tickets, sponsorships, and info: musicforallseasons.org or call 908-322-6300. That website is the only official place to buy tickets or donate. Nobody will ever contact you first asking for money.💬 This episode includes a paid partnership with Rugiet, a telehealth men's health service. Use code UNFILTERED for 15% off at rugiet.com. This is a paid promotion — always talk to a doctor before starting any new medication.🏆 VOTE FOR US — Signal Awards: [DROP LINK HERE — DELETE THIS LINE IF VOTING HAS CLOSED]📱 Join the free Advice Unfiltered Speakeasy app for announcements, live Q&A, and a community of people who get it. The $20/month tier adds all the episodes and behind-the-scenes access, and the $50/month coaching tier adds direct access and daily check-ins.🛑 Reminder: nobody from Advice Unfiltered will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. Report and block.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

Starting over after 50 doesn't mean starting from scratch. It means you finally get to do it differently.Chris and Tony sit down with Sandra — a matchmaker for 17 years, founder of When We First, and a veteran of the world's largest matchmaking service — for the relationship-expert showdown you've been asking for. Turns out the "battle of the sexes" has a lot more common ground than the algorithms want you to believe.In this episode:Why you can't feel chemistry from a photo — and how dating apps keep feeding you the same "type"Sandra's 28 dates in 30 days, Chris's 69 dates in 71 days, and her first seven marriages (all blind dates)What women screen for in a man now: emotional intelligence, growth mindset, even what he reads — and what men are still most picky aboutThe four kinds of attraction: physical, status/lifestyle, emotional, and intellectual"No drama. No liars. No cheaters." Why a bio like that is a red flagRomance scam warning signs: the move to WhatsApp or Telegram, the oil-rig and military persona, being isolated from your family, and the money askTexting vs. phone calls vs. voice memos: tell your date how you communicateA viewer's date asked his salary on date two. Red flag?Lying about your age on a dating app: why people do it, and what happens by date threeBackground checks: when they make sense, and whether to confess if you ran oneWhy being single isn't wasted time — the difference between being alone and solitudeShoutout of the week: a woman, 52 and freshly divorced, crying over a rotisserie chicken in a grocery store parking lot — then she bought the red dressIf you've been scammed, it's not your fault. Talk to someone you trust, and consider therapy to work through it, the same way you would after any emotional loss.📣 COMING UPThe Hardcore Synergy fitness app launches November 1The Best in You Cookbook is still selling outThe new AdviceUnfiltered.com is live — you can book time with us thereMusic for All Seasons 35th anniversary gala, November 9 — helping people heal from PTSD, trauma, and loss through music🏆 VOTE FOR US — Signal Awards: [DROP LINK HERE]💘 FOLLOW SANDRA — Founder, When We First: [ADD HER HANDLE HERE]🛑 Reminder: nobody from Advice Unfiltered will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. Report and block.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony 🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

If he won't video call you, it's a scam. Full stop.This week Chris and Tony go deep on one of the most important (and most requested) topics on the show: romance and impersonation scams — who they target, how they work, and exactly what to watch for before you fall for one. Plus: huge news — Advice Unfiltered is officially a top-5 finalist for the Signal Awards, the new AdviceUnfiltered.com and the Speakeasy app are live, and next week the nation's top matchmaker joins the show for the first-ever relationship expert battle.In this episode:The real target: why scammers go after women ages 35–80, not 20-somethings — and the exact playbook they useThe two tells that mean it's a scam, every time: they move you off the platform, and they ask for money or personal infoA true story from this week's inbox — a woman convinced she'd been talking to Tony for four and a half monthsThe $36 billion scam industry, and why the real number is 10x higher than what's reportedWhy you should watch "The Perfect Scam" on Amazon Prime before you ever talk to anyone online againWe're a TOP 5 FINALIST for the Signal Awards — how to vote once a day for the next two weeks (link below)The only two official ways to connect with the show: the all-new AdviceUnfiltered.com (coaching, book signings, merch) and the vetted Advice Unfiltered Speakeasy appSandra — NYC's top matchmaker, 10,000+ singles interviewed over 17 years — joins us in studio NEXT WEEKAudience Q&A: boundaries with a partner's ex, relationship labels after years together, who says "I love you" first, and moreIf you think you might be talking to a scammer: trust your gut, stop sending money or personal information, report and block the account, and talk to someone you trust. If it's already happened to you, you're not alone and it's not your fault — consider therapy to work through it, the same way you would after any emotional loss.🏆 VOTE FOR US — We're a top-5 Signal Awards finalist. Vote once a day for the next two weeks (link in this description), and while you're there, vote for Buzz / Buzzworthy Radio too.🌐 The ONLY official way to book coaching, book signings, or merch: AdviceUnfiltered.com — nobody will ever message you first asking you to go there.📱 Join the free Advice Unfiltered Speakeasy app for announcements, live Q&A, and the community — coaching-tier access is $50/month.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

"Fine for your age" isn't good enough. This week Chris and Tony tackle the conversation most couples avoid: why men go silent about performance anxiety, and what to actually say to your partner when it happens.Plus: a recap of the AUF Ambassador Retreat (90 weeks in and these people transformed their lives), a reminder about who's actually allowed to ask you for money (nobody, ever), some wild dating statistics for the under-35 crowd, and a full audience Q&A on marriage, intimacy, and the stuff nobody else will say out loud.In this episode:Inside the AUF Ambassador Retreat — 14 ambassadors, 90 weeks, real transformations in weight loss, grief, and family traumaThe one rule that protects you from scammers: if anyone asks you for money, it's not usOnly 30% of people ages 22–35 are actively dating — the real reasons why (it's not what you think)Condom use is falling and STIs are rising — the uncomfortable conversation about safer sexNEW SPONSOR SEGMENT: why men tie their identity to performance, and how to bring up ED with your partner without shameOpposite work schedules killing your intimacy? The fix starts with one conversation27 years married and you've stopped kissing — is that normal, or a red flag?Plus: foreplay 101, GLP-1 weight loss and renewed attraction, and why "all men" or "all women" generalizations are always wrong💬 This episode includes a paid partnership with Rugiet, a telehealth men's health service. Use code UNFILTERED for a discount. This is a paid promotion — always talk to a doctor before starting any new medication.🛑 Reminder: our only real accounts are the ones you see us live on right now. Nobody official will ever message you first asking for money, gift cards, or personal information. Report and block.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

He was loved by everyone. Bernard's baby brother DQ ran seven businesses, held a patent, was the most-requested bartender in the area — and he still lost his battle with depression and suicide on May 18th of this year.This is a special episode. September is Suicide Awareness Month, and Chris and Tony sit down with Bernard — brother of DQ, 20-years-sober founder of Q Effect Coaching — for one of the most honest, hardest conversations this show has ever had.In this episode:Who DQ really was — the guy who showed up for 15 minutes after a 2-hour drive because "you don't not invite David"The hidden toll nobody saw: two hours of sleep a night, running businesses, and why "successful" and "struggling" are not oppositesBernard's 14-year meth addiction, rock bottom, and getting sober on October 6, 2006 — 20 years this fall"I want you to laugh more than you cry" — the message Bernard carries from his brotherWhat to actually say to someone who's grieving a suicide loss, and to someone who's thinking about hurting themselvesTony's own story: a suicide attempt at 19, and the doctor who told him "you're going to have to figure this out"Why men need other men to break the stigma — and why "strong men, please stop posturing" might be the realest line of the episodeBernard's community work — from Allied Forces to Q Effect — and the four pillars of personal growth, health, business, and communityA hard, honest take on the Lindsey Clancy case and why "both things can be true"This one will make you want to call somebody. Do it.💛 If you or someone you know is struggling: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7 — you are not alone, and reaching out matters more than you know.🚶 THIS SATURDAY — The Out of the Darkness Walk at Bar A (where DQ worked and where his memorial was held). Nearly 3,000 people are expected. Help us build a team to walk in DQ's honor — link and details in Bernard's bio: @dquisnj / Q Effect.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.

Ten years ago, Chris thought he was a mistake. Today, everyone he loves is better because he stayed.This one goes places. Chris, Tony, and returning friend Buzz sit down for the Emmy Edition and end up having the conversation everybody's been asking us to have — the one about men vs. women, why we can't seem to talk to each other anymore, and what it would actually take to come back together.It's raw. It's funny. It gets real. And with September being Suicide Prevention Month, it might be the most important episode we've done.In this episode:Chris's survivor truth: "I thought I was a burden. The best thing I could do was disappear." — and everything that changed when he did the workA message to anyone who tells a man his emotions don't countMen vs. women: what happens if we stop competing and start building the next generation together?"Your opinion is not your identity" — the line that explains why nobody can have a conversation anymoreThe Lindsey Clancy case: how BOTH things can be true — the system failed AND there have to be consequencesFighting broken family courts to protect your own kids — Tony and Chris get personalDivide and conquer: the Art of War playbook being run on all of us9/11, 25 years later — the last time this country truly came togetherBuzz's 19-year climb: Harrison Ford, the cast of Shrinking, and the moment he finally said "I did it"The news, unfiltered: boomers are having the best sex of any generation (and Gen Z the least), Bumble's AI "wingman," China bans AI girlfriends, and the new testosterone rulesEmmy talk: Abbott Elementary, Janelle James, and — is The Bear actually a comedy?If you're going through something right now: you are not alone, and you being here matters. In the US you can call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), 24/7.🎙️ SEE US LIVE — We're doing a fireside chat at Podcast Movement, Thursday at 2 PM, Terminal Five, NYC. Come hang out, ask us anything. Tickets at podcastmovement.com.📻 Follow Buzz / Buzzworthy Radio — Season 20 is here. Go show him some love.🔥 ADVICE UNFILTERED — The only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. New episodes every Tuesday. Subscribe so you never miss one.📲 Follow Tony: @adviceunfiltered_tony🌐 adviceunfiltered.com

Chef Dominick DeFalco — founder of Whisk Takers (Netflix, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Buzzfeed) — joins Chris and Tony to celebrate the release of The Best in You Cookbook. Dom cooks live on the show (gochujang salmon, homemade "Cheez-Its," dark chocolate almond butter cups), and the guys get real about why cooking is the fastest way to reconnect with yourself, your family, and your people.We talk: why this is NOT a diet book, the 80/20 rule for eating healthy without sacrificing joy, cooking as an act of self-love, the grandmother recipes that shaped all three of us, "poor kid food" (fish sticks, potato pancakes, olive loaf), Dom's 40-lb weight-loss journey, Chris's condition for doing the book, and the one thing that gives you instant gratification the same day you start.🍳 Buy The Best in You Cookbook on Amazon (hardcover + softcover) — and PLEASE leave a review. It drives the algorithm.📺 Follow The Best in You Cooking Show on Instagram + TikTok. Patreon launches October — cook LIVE with Chris & Dom.🎧 Advice Unfiltered — the only podcast with the balls to go raw and do it live. Every Tuesday.#AdviceUnfiltered #TheBestInYou #Cookbook #FoodIsLove #ChefDominickDeFalco #WhiskTakers