A Good Divorce

In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) talks to Denise Cullington Psychoanalyst and Author of 'Breaking up blues' a practical self-help guide to help people navigate divorce and break-ups based on her own personal experiences, interviews with divorced couples and a long term research study into the affects of divorce.  The second part of this interview focuses on how children are affected by divorce.  Practical ideas for how we can help them in the immediate aftermath of divorce and break-up, behaviours which were shown to have a detrimental impact on children, the long term affects of divorce on young adults, ways we can limit the negative affects and some positive life lessons we can teach our children if divorce is handled in a positive way.  She also talks about the continued importance of Fathers after divorce and how they can become separated from their children and the emotional impact on men of divorce.A challenging and fascinating conversation.  Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Denise Cullington With huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comContact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone!Please subscribe on your favourite podcast platform to get alerts about future episodes and review and rate the show to help it gain greater visibility.

In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) talks to Denise Cullington Psychoanalyst and Author of 'Breaking up blues' a practical self-help guide to help people navigate divorce and break-ups based on her own personal experiences, interviews with divorced couples and a long term research study into the affects of divorce.  Denise provides an emotional map of what people go through when they experience a break-up and divorce.  She gives a reality check (based on the findings of a research study) about how things can turn out without a lot of effort.  She outlines pitfalls many couple fall into and challenges listeners to learn lessons, let go of hatred and own their own part in the breakdown of the relationship.  She also discusses the positives that come from ending a marriage that isn't working.  A minority of couples managed to use their divorce as a 'window of opportunity", Denise explains how to be part of that minority.A challenging and fascinating conversation.  Part 2 of this interview (EP 6) which relates to children (the long term affects on children and how best to help them through divorce) is available now.Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Denise Cullington With huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comBuy Denise’s book Breaking Up Blues here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Up-Blues-Survival-Growth/dp/0415455472/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=breaking+up+blues&link_code=qs&qid=1615400903&quartzVehicle=121-1650&replacementKeywords=breaking+blues&sourceid=Mozilla-search&sr=8-1Contact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone!Please subscribe on your favourite podcast platform to get alerts about future episodes and review and rate the show to help it gain greater visibility.

In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) talks to Child Therapist Melanie Light.  Mel gives supportive, practical tips on how to break the news to your children.  She covers what to say and how to say it, common reactions you might encounter and how to handle them, other support networks available and the importance of prioritising your own emotional wellbeing so you can support your children through this upsetting time. For a list of great books to help children, Mel recommends: https://www.booktrust.org.uk/booklists/d/divorce-and-separation-best-childrens-books/Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Melanie LightWith huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comContact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone!

In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) talks to Thomas about being left by his partner after 18 years and three children together.   With great humour and honesty he talks through the demise of the relationship, the emotions he experienced, reinventing himself after the break up, going from "stay at home Dad" to "weekend only Dad", how to keep things civil with your ex, the importance of prioritising the kids and his tips for co-parenting amicably.   Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Thomas With huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comContact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone!

In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) reflects on what went wrong with her marriage, with leading Couples Counsellor Lucy Cavendish.  They also discuss why so many long term relationships and marriages fall apart, the common mistakes couples make and problems that stem from lack of sex in a marriage,  having children and differing parenting styles.  Lucy gives advice about how to avoid breaking up if it hasn't gone that far yet and also reveals what couples need to do after separating to limit the damage to their children.   Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Lucy Cavendish (https://www.lucycavendishcounselling.com)With huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comContact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone!

This is where the idea for this podcast was born.  This intro to the series explores the thoughts and fears going through podcast Host Rachel's head immediately after deciding to get divorced and her battle plan to get through it in the most positive way possible for the whole family.  About this series:This podcast features real, raw, often funny conversations with experts and people who have been through divorces and separations, to find out practical tips on 'how to divorce amicably', 'how to move on from divorce', 'how to co-parent successfully after a divorce', and answers to common questions like 'will it get better?' and 'can I divorce without hurting the kids?' and all the other burning questions people splitting up or getting divorced want to know the answers to..... Credits:A Mother of Invention Production (2021)Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With huge thanks to:Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guruFelix Middleton - Graphic Design guruMusic by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.comContact:To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!