"You Are A Lot" (an ADHD/AuDHD podcast)

In this episode: I talk about the unique ADHD/AuDHD reality of having difficulty with "being perceived," from how I've experienced it to what the facts are about this not-often-talked about neurodivergent trait.  Research For This Episode:  Being Perceived - Myndset Therapeutics Fear Of Being Perceived - Prosper Health  Show Notes: Half Off Holiday Sale Now!!! Become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Click to sign up for the weekly newsletter. ***Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online!** I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community. It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business.**** **FREE DIGITAL DOWNLOADS & PRINTABLES!** I'm giving away tons of free downloads & printables in my online shop. Get to-do lists templates, brain dump templates, calendars, and more - just click here. Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports Amazon Storefront. Jen's must-haves for self care, journaling, home/office, making life with ADHD/AuDHD more pleasant. **Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods.** Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. **The Big A## Calendar** I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. **Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off** everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. **Brain Based Somatic ReWiring** I have a monthly membership to this incredible online resource where I do daily practices to rewire my brain to nervous system safety. Incredible if you're wanting to increase resilience, work on CPTSD, feel traumatized by being neurodivergent and need some relief! 2 WEEK free trial for you with my link. **Brain.fm —** A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! **Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults.** I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). **Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools!** I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this link and use ALOT10 at checkout! **The Shakti Mat** - I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. **Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10% off.** The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. **UnHide -** Weighted Faux Fur Blankets. I love these blankets!! They have just enough weight to soothe but aren't heavy. They are so soft!! They've got other great squishy and cozy stuff like pillows, socks, backrests, etc. 20% off with my link and code JENNIFER at checkout. **WisprFlow:** It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link!

In this episode: I talk about shame - the difference between healthy shame (a feeling) and toxic shame (an identity), where toxic shame comes from, how it shows up in our behavior, and how to begin to let it go. Become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon at just $7.99/mo or get 15% off if you pay annually.  Research Used: Healing The Shame That Binds You by John Bradshaw - 20% off with my link Unlearning Shame; How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture & Reclaim Our Power by Dr. Devon Price- 20% off with my link Merchandise promoted in this episode: Black classic zip hoodie show logo Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD mug Be Nice To Me I Am AuDHD mug Show Notes: Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Sign up for the weekly newsletter *Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community. It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business.**** FREE DIGITAL DOWNLOADS & PRINTABLES! I'm giving away tons of free downloads & printables in my online shop. Get to-do lists templates, brain dump templates, calendars, and more - just click here. Take Jen's Sunday Scaries Somatic Class or get on the mailing list to find out about future classes! Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports Amazon Storefront. Jen's must-haves for self care, journaling, home/office, making life with ADHD/AuDHD more pleasant. **Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods.** Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. **The Big A## Calendar** I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. **Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off** everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. **Brain Based Somatic ReWiring** I have a monthly membership to this incredible online resource where I do daily practices to rewire my brain to nervous system safety. Incredible if you're wanting to increase resilience, work on CPTSD, feel traumatized by being neurodivergent and need some relief! 2 WEEK free trial for you with my link. **Brain.fm —** A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! **Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults.** I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). **Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools!** I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this linkand use ALOT10 at checkout! **The Shakti Mat** - I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. **Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10% off.** The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. **UnHide -** Weighted Faux Fur Blankets. I love these blankets!! They have just enough weight to soothe but aren't heavy. They are so soft!! They've got other great squishy and cozy stuff like pillows, socks, backrests, etc. 20% off with my link and code JENNIFER at checkout. **WisprFlow:** It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link!  

In this episode I read listener emails from newly diagnosed people who finally feel like life makes sense. I also talk about the latest ADHD/AuDHD news out of the UK about the potential "overdiagnosis" of ADHD/AuDHD and why that makes me mad. And I talk about ADHD Coach Kristen Carder's new book "You Are Not In Trouble" and why you need to read it before the holiday season to shore up your boundaries, understand your limits and prioritize the people in your life based on your capacity.  Get the book You Are Not In Trouble for 20% off with my link to Bookshop online. It supports the show as well as independent bookstores.  To join Kristen's Coaching community Focused - use my link to get $50 off of your first month.  🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual membership! Click here to join us! Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Click to sign up for the weekly newsletter. Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community.It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business. Take Jen's Sunday Scaries Somatic Class or get on the mailing list to find out about future classes! Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports Amazon Storefront. Jen's must-haves for self care, journaling, home/office, making life with ADHD/AuDHD more pleasant. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Brain Based Somatic ReWiring I have a monthly membership to this incredible online resource where I do daily practices to rewire my brain to nervous system safety. Incredible if you're wanting to increase resilience, work on CPTSD, feel traumatized by being neurodivergent and need some relief! 2 WEEK free trial for you with my link. Brain.fm A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this linkand use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10%off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. UnHide Weighted Faux Fur Blankets. I love these blankets!! They have just enough weight to soothe but aren't heavy. They are so soft!! They've got other great squishy and cozy stuff like pillows, socks, backrests, etc. 20% off with my link and code JENNIFER at checkout. WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link!

In This Patreon Only Episode Part 2: I talk to my friend Melissa Stephens about our journeys to an AuDHD diagnosis, being literal, being too trusting and needing to stay safe, neurodivergent humor, OCD, panic attacks, and phobias. 🎉 Support me in hititng my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual membership! Click here to join us! Show Notes Mel's comedy special "Sparkles" On You Tube Mel's Instagram Channel Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Click to sign up for the weekly newsletter. Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community.It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business. Take Jen's Sunday Scaries Somatic Class or get on the mailing list to find out about future classes! Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports Amazon Storefront. Jen's must-haves for self care, journaling, home/office, making life with ADHD/AuDHD more pleasant. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Brain Based Somatic ReWiring I have a monthly membership to this incredible online resource where I do daily practices to rewire my brain to nervous system safety. Incredible if you're wanting to increase resilience, work on CPTSD, feel traumatized by being neurodivergent and need some relief! 2 WEEK free trial for you with my link. Brain.fm A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this linkand use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10%off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. UnHide Weighted Faux Fur Blankets. I love these blankets!! They have just enough weight to soothe but aren't heavy. They are so soft!! They've got other great squishy and cozy stuff like pillows, socks, backrests, etc. 20% off with my link and code JENNIFER at checkout. WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link!

In this episode: I talk about passive suicidal ideation in ADHD/AuDHD. I share what the research says about this level of burnout in neurodivergent people, and I recommend some podcasts and articles from mental health professionals on the topic. 🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual membership! Click here to join us! Show Notes Mentioned In This Episode: Divergent Conversations Podcast Episode 134: Navigating Suicidality and Safety for Neurodivergent Minds. Click to listen and read the blog. The Neurodivergent Safety Plan (free!) by Dr. Megan Anna Neff Staying Through The Hard Moments: Notes For A Difficult Season (Holidays) by Dr. Megan Anna Neff Become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon at just $7.99/mo or get 15% off if you pay annually.You'll get to suggest episode ideas as well! Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Click to sign up for the weekly newsletter. Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community.It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business. Take Jen's Sunday Scaries Somatic Class or get on the mailing list to find out about future classes! Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports Amazon Storefront. Jen's must-haves for self care, journaling, home/office, making life with ADHD/AuDHD more pleasant. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Brain Based Somatic ReWiring I have a monthly membership to this incredible online resource where I do daily practices to rewire my brain to nervous system safety. Incredible if you're wanting to increase resilience, work on CPTSD, feel traumatized by being neurodivergent and need some relief! 2 WEEK free trial for you with my link. Brain.fm A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this linkand use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10%off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. UnHide Weighted Faux Fur Blankets. I love these blankets!! They have just enough weight to soothe but aren't heavy. They are so soft!! They've got other great squishy and cozy stuff like pillows, socks, backrests, etc. 20% off with my link and code JENNIFER at checkout. WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link!

🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual membership! Click here to join us! In This Patreon Only Episode: I talk to my friend Melissa Stephens about our journeys to an AuDHD diagnosis, being literal, being too trusting and needing to stay safe, neurodivergent humor, OCD, panic attacks, and phobias. Show Notes Mel's comedy special "Sparkles" On You Tube Mel's Instagram Channel  Become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon at just $7.99/mo or get 15% off if you pay annually. You'll get to suggest episode ideas as well! Prices go to $9.99 on Jan 1st, 2027 - get grandmothered in now at the legacy price! Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Sign up for the every Saturday newsletter *Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community. It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business.**** Get on the mailing list about Somatics Classes with Jen here. Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports (with Discounts) Jen's Printables I created these printables (or write directly in them online as digital downloads) for people who love having fun little extras to add to their systems. I have journal prompts, easy mode to do lists, places to log books you've read/books to read, places to thought spiral and sort, as well as ADHD Guides filled with facts. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this link and use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat - I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10% off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN.

🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! I'm at 255 now. Will you be number 256?  In this episode: I talk about what to do when there's too much ADHD/AuDHD information and you don't know where to start, including this podcast's back catalog. I cover why there's no perfect way to learn, what acceptance really means, an exercise for figuring out how you want to feel, small ways to work through my episodes, and why all ADHD advice comes down to saying the same things over again anyway. Become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon at just $7.99/mo or get 15% off if you pay annually. You'll get to suggest episode ideas as well! Prices go to $9.99 on Jan 1st, 2027 - get grandmothered in now at the legacy price! Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Sign up for the every Saturday newsletter *Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community. It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business.**** Get on the mailing list about Somatics Classes with Jen here. Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports (with Discounts) Jen's Printables I created these printables (or write directly in them online as digital downloads) for people who love having fun little extras to add to their systems. I have journal prompts, easy mode to do lists, places to log books you've read/books to read, places to thought spiral and sort, as well as ADHD Guides filled with facts. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this link and use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat - I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10% off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN.

In this Patreon only episode: I am posting a video/audio replay where answered your questions LIVE on Patreon back in September about all things from what getting caught up feels like, why ADHD humans resist and doubt things at first, somatics, handling eating and meal prep, and how to keep friends. To listen to or watch the entire episode - become a paid Patreon member. You'll get ad-free episodes, video versions, transcripts, a live Q&A with Jen every month and a second ad-free Patreon only episode every Friday - support Jen by subscribing to Patreon at just $7.99/mo or get 15% off if you pay annually. You'll get to suggest episode ideas as well!

🎉 Help me hit my end of year Patreon goal of 400 paid subscribers! Only $7.99 a month or take advantage of my Special October sale 31% off of an annual membership! Click here to join us! In this episode: I talk about how to soothe yourself and talk to yourself after a failure. I share research on why self-compassion is harder for adults with ADHD, Kristin Neff's three components of self-compassion, Sharon Saline's steps for soothing failure and rejection, and how to reframe your ADHD project graveyard. Referenced In This Episode: Link to Episode 63: What Is Empathy Burnout? & 7 Ways To Cope The Mindful Self Compassion Workbook: Kristen Neff Fierce Self Compassion: Kristen Neff Show Notes: Want to get a weekly wrap-up of the "You Are A Lot" ADHD/AUDHD Podcast with special offers and tips? Sign up for the every Saturday newsletter *Join Jen's New Co-Work Community online! I started something called ☕️The Co-Work Community. It's an online co-working (aka body doubling) space & community for neurodivergent humans! There are other online co-working spaces but where else can you do your work, tasks, or chores with other neurodivergent people and ME, every single day for ONLY $15 a month? Answer? Nowhere! You'll help yourself AND you're supporting a neurodivergent solopreneur woman-owned start-up business.**** *Take a somatics class with Jen! Click here. Get on the mailing list about Somatics Classes with Jen here Shop Jen's ADHD/AuDHD Merchandise Store Get the ADHD To Do List Coffee Mug The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuDHD Primary Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The Be Nice To Me I'm AuADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnets, socks, hats, pillows) The Be Nice To Me I Have ADHD Pastel Colors (totes, tees, magnet, socks, hats, pillow) The You Are A Lot Podcast logo collection (totes, tees, magnets, hats, socks, stickers) Shop Jen's Favorite ADHD/AuDHD Supports (with Discounts) Jen's Printables I created these printables (or write directly in them online as digital downloads) for people who love having fun little extras to add to their systems. I have journal prompts, easy mode to do lists, places to log books you've read/books to read, places to thought spiral and sort, as well as ADHD Guides filled with facts. Brain.fm — A Focus Tool I Use Every Day I listen while I work and I can feel my brain lock in. It's not AI. It's science-backed sound made by musicians and scientists for ADHD brains. I want you to try it for 30 days free, with my link! WisprFlow: It's a talk to text app that helps me as a person who needs to verbally write sometimes, whether it's a brain dump journal entry or composing an episode of this podcast. It types very fast and always understands my words perfectly. Get 25% off with my unique affiliate link! Hugimals — Weighted Comfort for Kids/Adults. I own Hugimals, give them as gifts, and love that they're made by a neurodivergent founder who understands nervous system needs. These weighted stuffed animals and pillows help with anxiety and overwhelm, and you can get 15% off anytime using my link and code JENKIRKMAN (it never expires). Bookshop (dot org) You get 20% off everything with my unique affiliate link. Browse my curated recommended book lists for ADHD, Autism, mental health, women's health, and more. Every purchase supports your local brick and mortar bookstore. Little Ouchies - Self Regulation Stim Tools! I LOVE my Little Ouchies. I use them daily when I'm working, writing, thinking, and it really helps me to stay in the moment by regulating my nervous system. I tend to ruminate with Imposter Syndrome when I'm in deep work. It's also just fun and feels good, so even watching TV or other mindless activities are made more stimulating by rolling one in my hands. Get 10% off with this link and use ALOT10 at checkout! The Shakti Mat - I have found it to be a feel-good experience to lie down on a mat full of prickly plastic spikes. It's that simple. It feels good. Lying down on Shakti spikes activates hundreds of acupoints to promote circulation, release tension, and naturally restore the energy that flows within you. Use my unique link and/or code JEN10 at checkout for 10% off. The Time Timer - a Cute Visual Time Tool! I use my Time Timer every single day to help me visualize time during work blocks, and to gamify chores. There's no discount, but when you use my link I earn a percentage that goes directly into supporting this podcast. The Big A## Calendar I have the Big A## wall calendar that maps out the entire year and the Big A## personal planner with 365 days in one view, dry erase markers, color coded labels. With my unique link you can get 10% off of your order. Appointed — Planners, Notebooks and Desk Goods. Appointed notebooks are my go-to for my spiral notebooks, day planners, calendars and Le Pen pens for list-making, journaling, and planning. Save 15% off with my link and code JENKIRKMAN.

Monday Sept 28th at 730pm! I am doing a LIVE Q&A on Patreon! To join go here:  https://tinyurl.com/JenLiveMonSept28Patreon More Live Q&A's coming in October, November, December too! All of this plus video episodes, and bonuses for $7.99 a month. The price goes up to $9.99 in January so join now!  It's webinar style - meaning your cameras are off and you can ask me anything in chat! Ask for advice, things I recommend, if I have any new ADHD news, anything about my life with AuDHD, or share something that you want everyone to know! The event will last 45 minutes with the option to roll to 60 minutes if we need to wrap up. And the replay will be released as the bonus Patreon episode on Friday October 9th.