Episode 20 • Why Get Married?

As we wrap up our travels through Japan and Korea, we talk about what we’ve learned about beauty standards in those countries. About plastic surgery, and the destigmatization thereof, and the proper response when your partner says she’s contemplating a procedure. Is it “Whatever you want, honey” or “Don’t you dare”?

Do you want your partner to read your mind? To know what you’re thinking and feeling at all times? Do you, really? That’s the question we tackle in this episode, after addressing a pair of emails from our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners. Pull up a chair and join the chat!

At the outset we agree cheapness is not sexy. But that prompts the question, what is yes-sexy? And we’re not just talking about long shapely legs, great cheekbones and a killer rack, all of which Jeff has. What do you find sexy about a person, a lover, a partner? Join us for our take, and give us yours right back!

We’re constantly talking about all the fun we’re having in this beautiful third act of life, but are we… allowed to have this much fun? Guiltlessly? When the world is on fire? When friends are in trouble? What amount of guilt is the right amount, zero or zillions? Tune in for the definitive answer, live from Japan, while we’re wearing yukatas!

From sessions with a child psychologist at nine to couples counseling at forty, we’ve had plenty of experience with “the talking cure,” and in this episode, we talk all about it. Join our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners for fifty minutes at no charge!

It’s been three months since our wedding, but we don’t feel truly married — probably because we’ve yet to build a home together. In this episode, recorded during an LA heatwave, we share feelings about home and safety and control. Tune in for shiny foreheads and flying insects and revelations aplenty!

Okay, gang, you asked for it: a lengthy recap of our wedding. It’s a bonus episode, so don’t expect any of our usual penetrating insights. Just a rundown of our Italian nuptials, from the dress to the wrecking of our hotel room. Hope you enjoy our joy!

We return to the mics and return to our mailbag, answering your questions about dating after widowhood, dating using dating apps, dating to figure out who you are and what you want, and embracing grey hair and baldness. It’s a wide-ranging, hair-raising conversation, so join the fun!

We got married, y’all! Which is weird, because it means we have some new nouns in our lives — both unfamiliar ones, like “stepdad,” and repurposed ones such as “husband” and “wife.” What does that feel like? Tune in as we sort it all out!

Following on “Why Get Married,” we take on the topic of “how.” Specifically, what the ceremony means to each of us, and what ours in two weeks is going to be like. Along the way we discuss P’s wedding dress, our hack through the thicket of Italian marriage bureaucracy, and Jeff’s skin-care regimen. Join us in holy matrimony!