352 Epic Relationship Infrastructure

Are you intolerant of how you actually feel? Or are you intolerant of what others believe?  My amazing guest and pal, Africa Brooke, is here to tell us how to get curious and be in the middle with her new book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance, which I think is a much-needed antidote right now.  Africa shares why she believes curiosity is a dying art, how to spark more of it (especially in ourselves), and how we can begin bravely expressing ourselves in the world, one step at a time, without censorship.  Toward the end, Africa also tells us about her own experience of self-sabotage and how this led her to her current body of work.  I hope you enjoy this enlightening conversation as much as I enjoyed having it. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/613

Growing up, my mother, my sisters, and I were all afraid of him.  I didn’t think either of these things was a “big deal” until I connected the dots in therapy and realized how much I was playing out my father wound in my romantic relationships.  Many of you say you think you have a father wound. By sharing my own story, I aim to illustrate a few of the different ways it can present and impact your life. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/612

My amazing guest this week is Kara Loewentheil, a feminist lawyer-turned-life coach. She’s here to tell us how a sexist society gets in our heads and how to get it out with her new book, Take Back Your Brain.  We talk about the messages we absorb from society at a young age, how they shape our thoughts, and how we can slowly replace those thoughts with less crappy ones. If you're a high-achieving woman who feels like you need to do it all and be everything to everyone, this episode is for you. As Kara says: You can't hate yourself into liking yourself!  If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to preorder her book, Take Back Your Brain, releasing May 21! 

Have you ever wondered if your relationship with your father or father figure is normal? Or maybe you know it wasn’t normal, but you’re not sure how it impacted you and your adult relationships. If you suspect you have a father wound, this episode is for you. We’re starting with the basics: what a father wound is, the symptoms and causes of father wounds, and why it is painful.  Healing my own father wound has had a profound impact on my life, and I can’t wait to share more about this with you over the next few episodes. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/610

I am so excited to welcome Dr. Frank Anderson, renowned trauma expert, to the show to talk about his newest book, To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation.  It's both a memoir and a beautiful exploration of healing trauma. I absolutely loved what Frank had to share about the different types of trauma, the healing process, forgiving the perpetrator, forgiving ourselves, and reclaiming our own narratives.  If you've experienced childhood trauma of any type, I think you'll get a lot out of this conversation. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.  Gentle TW: there is a mention of suicide at 21:15. If this is a tender topic for you, please skip forward 20 seconds Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/609

Does Mother’s Day bring up hard feelings for you or give you anxiety? Do you find it difficult or frustrating to find a Mother’s Day card that speaks to your relationship with your mother? Is it a day you’d rather pretend doesn’t exist? If you answered “yes” to any of these, you’re in the right place. I am sharing ideas for how to honor, grieve, mourn, and celebrate on Mother’s Day, no matter what kind of relationship you have with your mother. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/608

I am so thrilled to welcome my pal Lisa Bilyeu back to the show to celebrate the paperback launch of her book, Radical Confidence: 11 Lessons on How to Get the Relationship, Career, and Life You Want.  We talk about the practical steps you can take to build confidence over time, how toxic relationships erode our confidence, and boundaries and family (specifically, the moment Lisa found out her dad disapproved of her marriage plans).  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/607

Do you know what your boundary style is? Are you aware of how boundary styles can impact you and your relationships? Whether we say “yes” when we want to say “no,” or don’t ask for help because we distrust others, our predominant boundary style often prevents us from living authentically.  Curious to learn more? Join me for a deep dive into the differences between rigid and porous boundaries, how they negatively impact the quality of your life, and the transformative power of healthy boundaries.  You’ll come away with a deeper understanding of your boundary style and where you might need to make adjustments. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/606

I am so thrilled to have my pal Case Kenny on the show today to talk about everything: His podcast, “New Mindset, Who Dis?” being in the wellness space, his wildly popular Instagram account, and his book, That's Bold of You. He shares some tips for ending behavior patterns you’re ready to move on from and using movement to cultivate mindfulness. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/605  

Does it ever feel challenging to get through to your partner when you’re in conflict? Do they become endlessly defensive when you raise an issue? Or do they bring up unrelated problems they have with you or the relationship? Are you the defensive one? Many of you have written in to ask about navigating issues with defensive or conflict-avoidant partners. This episode is my answer.  We’ll cover why clean conflict and fair fighting are critical to successful relationships, what this looks like in practice, and tips for having healthier, more constructive conflict. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/604