Ep. 269 - The Doctor Is In Series - The Fears That Drive Self-Sabotage

Today on the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Security Awareness Series, Chris is joined by Mark Kreitzman. Mark is a seasoned cybersecurity veteran with over two decades of experience building robust security solutions. As General Manager of Efani, he safeguards mobile phone users from the escalating threat of SIM swap attacks. Mark's deep understanding of the evolving mobile landscape makes him a trusted authority on protecting privacy and securing communications in our increasingly connected world. [Sept 16, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:19 - Intro Links: -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                                02:09 - Mark Kreitzman Intro 02:41 - Finding Some Good in the Horrible 07:29 - What's in a Name? 09:18 - Port Swapping: An Overview 14:22 - Let’s Talk Solutions 18:49 - What Efani Does 24:35 - Odd Relationships 32:39 - Find Mark Kreitzman online -          Website: www.efani.com -          YouTube: www.youtube.com/@efani 34:57 - Mentors 38:25 - Book Recommendations -          How to Lie with Statistics - Darrell Huff 40:03 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org

Today we are joined by Rachel Cossar. Rachel is a leader in the field of nonverbal communication and leadership presence facilitation. As a former nationally ranked athlete and professional ballet dancer, Rachel has a knack of translating unique skills into relatable business skills and competencies.   Virtual Sapiens comes as an evolution of Rachel’s combined work as founder of Choreography for Business, a nonverbal communication consulting firm as well as a faculty member with Mobius Executive Leadership and as a leadership presence facilitator with Ariel Group. Rachel has worked with leaders from GE, BCG, Pfizer, Accenture, McKinsey, HBS and more. [Sept 9, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:17 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/ 02:42 - Rachel Cossar Intro 03:28 - From Ballet to AI 05:53 - Getting Camera Ready 08:42 - Getting the Message Across 10:53 - The Hybrid Theory 12:30 - Reflection 16:37 - It Takes Time 18:22 - Coaching in Real Time 20:28 - Whatcha Looking At? 22:29 - Learn The Why! 25:06 - Find Rachel Cossar online -          Website: www.virtualsapiens.co -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/virtual-sapiens 25:43 - Mentors -          Lori Massad -          Janet Macaluso 27:29 - Book Recommendations -          Snow Crash - Neal Stephenson -          Peoplewatching - Desmond Morris 30:25 - Guest Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.   In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Attachment Styles. They will talk about the 4 different types, how they are caused and how to grow from an insecure to a secure style. [Sept 2, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:16 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro 00:49 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                 03:49 - The Topic of the Day: Attachment Styles 05:01 - The Types 05:44 - Secure Attachment 07:32 - Anxious Preoccupied Attachment 09:27 - Primary and Secondary Influences 14:40 - Dismissive Avoidant Attachment 17:42 - Fearful Avoidant Attachment 20:01 - One at a Time 21:09 - Oxytocin Influence 26:30 - The Path Forward 29:51 - See It to Believe It 34:21 - Emotional Well-Being -          Work in Progress - Dr. Abbie Maroño 36:47 - Second Date Sharing 39:19 - Swipe Right 41:15 - Next Month: Judd Shaw 42:12 - Wrap Up & Outro                                              -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online: -          Twitter: @DrAbbieofficial -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd -          Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy     References: Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. N. (2015). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Psychology press. Bifulco, A., Moran, P. M., Ball, C., & Bernazzani, O. J. S. P. (2002). Adult attachment style. I: Its relationship to clinical depression. Social psychiatry and psychiatric epidemiology, 37, 50-59. Davila, J., Burge, D., & Hammen, C. (1997). Why does attachment style change?. Journal of personality and social psychology, 73(4), 826. Feeney, J. A. (2000). Implications of attachment style for patterns of health and illness. Child: care, health and development, 26(4), 277-288. Feeney, J. A., & Noller, P. (1990). Attachment style as a predictor of adult romantic relationships. Journal of personality and Social Psychology, 58(2), 281. Finzi, R., Cohen, O., Sapir, Y., & Weizman, A. (2000). Attachment styles in maltreated children: A comparative study. Child psychiatry and human development, 31, 113-128. Karbowa-Płowens, M. (2023). Attachment styles, coping with stress, and social support among cancer patients. Contemporary Oncology/Współczesna Onkologia, 27(2), 95-100. Levy, M. B., & Davis, K. E. (1988). Lovestyles and attachment styles compared: Their relations to each other and to various relationship characteristics. Journal of social and Personal Relationships, 5(4), 439-471. Mikulincer, M. (1995). Attachment style and the mental representation of the self. Journal of personality and social psychology, 69(6), 1203. Momeni, K., Amani, R., Janjani, P., Majzoobi, M. R., Forstmeier, S., & Nosrati, P. (2022). Attachment styles and happiness in the elderly: the mediating role of reminiscence styles. BMC geriatrics, 22(1), 349. Roisman, G. I., Holland, A., Fortuna, K., Fraley, R. C., Clausell, E., & Clarke, A. (2007). The Adult Attachment Interview and self-reports of attachment style: an empirical rapprochement. Journal of personality and social psychology, 92(4), 678. Salter Ainsworth, M. D., & Bell, S. M. (1981). Attachment, exploration, and separation: Illustrated by the behavior of one-year-olds in a strange situation. In The Life Cycle: Readings in Human Development (pp. 57-71). Columbia University Press. Smith, M., & South, S. (2020). Romantic attachment style and borderline personality pathology: A meta-analysis. Clinical psychology review, 75, 101781.

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Join Chris as he discusses topics and news pertaining to the world of Social Engineering. [Aug 26, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:20 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                                 04:11 - Story 1: Keytronic Attack 05:46 - Story 2: CrowdStrike Aftermath 06:41 - What You Can Do 10:11 - Story 3: Apple Intelligence 12:19 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online -          Chris Hadnagy -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy

Today on the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Security Awareness Series, Chris is joined by Kimberly Sims. Kimberly is the Deputy CISO, Director of Cyber Operations and Cloud Security for American Century Investments. Kimberly has over 17 years’ experience in the Financial Services sector. Prior to joining American Century, Kimberly ran the Information Security Program for the second-largest capital market’s desk in the world, responsible for securing systems that process a trillion-dollar debt portfolio.   Kimberly is an advisory member, and IT lead for the Charter for Veterans, a non-profit organization assisting recovering combat wounded veterans. She is an advocate for mentorship and coaching across the security industry and participates in several industry groups. [Aug 19, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:22 - Intro Links: -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                                03:01 - Kimberly Sims Intro 03:49 - Inspired by a Book 05:32 - Making a Giant Leap! 06:59 - Biggest Mistakes 09:14 - Lessons Learned 11:07 - Security Ambassador 13:23 - Overcoming the Fear 15:20 - Executive Order 17:06 - People, Process, Technology 18:38 - Back to Basics 20:11 - Resiliency Programs 23:14 - The Take Home 24:47 - Jump In! 25:46 - Book Recommendations -          Blink - Malcolm Gladwell -          Pitch Perfect - Bill McGowan -          Permission to Screw Up - Kristen Hadeed 27:49 - Mentors 29:12 - Find Kimberly Sims online -          LinkedIn: in/kimberly-sims-733510/ 29:26 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org

Today we are joined by Adam De Micco. Adam is best known as the NJ Native who is the guitarist for the band Lorna Shore, which has risen to fame recently, bringing a new genre of music into the spotlight. [Aug 12, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:16 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/ 01:54 - Adam De Micco Intro 06:23 - Being Open 08:46 - Recognizing the Depths 11:34 - Changing Perspective 14:16 - Practicing Gratitude 20:31 - Remember Empathy 27:42 - Starting a Song 28:45 - Building Pain Remains 32:05 - Interpreting Emotion 34:04 - Lyrical Content 35:58 - Music Visuals 41:15 - Catharsis 45:23 - Find Adam De Micco online -          Instagram: @adamdemicco -          Website: adamdemicco.com 46:44 - Book Recommendations -          The Art of Living - Epictetus -          The Laws of Human Nature - Robert Greene -          The Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle -          A New Earth - Eckhart Tolle -          Depth Psychology and a New Ethic - Erich Neumann -          The Creative Act - Rick Rubin 56:16 - Books as Mentors 1:02:51 - Guest Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.   In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Self-Sabotage. They will talk about the different ways people keep themselves from moving forward and how you can try to realign this misguided way of thinking. [Aug 5, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:17 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro 00:44 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                 04:57 - The Topic of the Day: Self-Sabotage 05:35 - Definition & Types 09:09 - Fear of Failure 11:13 - Fear of Success 13:55 - Low Self-Esteem 17:11 - Fear of Scrutiny 19:22 - Avoidant Personalities 23:27 - Help! 26:21 - Fighting Back 30:13 - Write Away 33:55 - Wrap Up -          The Doctors Corner 35:18 - Next Month: Attachment Styles 35:44 - Outro                                                                     -          Work in Progress - Dr. Abbie Maroño -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online: -          Twitter: @DrAbbieofficial -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/dr-abbie-maroño-phd -          Instagram: @DoctorAbbieofficial -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy     References: Balkis, M., & Duru, E. (2018). Procrastination, self‐downing, self‐doubt, and rational beliefs: A moderated mediation model. Journal of Counseling & Development, 96(2), 187-196. Ferrari, J. R., & Díaz-Morales, J. F. (2007). Perceptions of self-concept and self-presentation by procrastinators: Further evidence. The Spanish journal of psychology, 10(1), 91-96. Martin, A. J., & Marsh, H. W. (2003). Fear of failure: Friend or foe?. Australian Psychologist, 38(1), 31-38. Pappo, M. (1983). Fear of success: The construction and validation of a measuring instrument. Journal of Personality Assessment, 47(1), 36-41. Peel, R. (2020). Relationship sabotage: an attachment and goal-orientation perspective on seeking love yet failing to maintain romantic relationships (Doctoral dissertation, James Cook University). Peel, R., & Caltabiano, N. (2021). The relationship sabotage scale: an evaluation of factor analyses and constructive validity. BMC psychology, 9, 1-17. Peel, R., McBain, K., Caltabiano, N., & Buckby, B. (2017, January). How is self-sabotage presented in romantic relationships?. In 16th Australian Psychological Society Psychology of Relationships Interest Group National Conference (APS-PORIG). University of Southern Queensland. Rippo, M. (2016). Minding the mind/body connection in moving beyond self-sabotage and resistance to change. Journal of Heart-Centered Therapies, 19(2), 39-62. Rosner, S., & Hermes, P. (2006). The self-sabotage cycle: Why we repeat behaviors that create hardships and ruin relationships. Bloomsbury Publishing USA. Rosner, S., & Hermes, P. (2006). The self-sabotage cycle: Why we repeat behaviors that create hardships and ruin relationships. Bloomsbury Publishing USA. Vennes, H. (2022). Overcoming Self-Sabotage: The Self-Sabotaging Behaviors that Impact the Career Development of Female Charter School Superintendent/CEOs (Doctoral dissertation, University of Massachusetts Global).

REPLAY (Original Air Date Sept 25, 2023) Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Chris will be joined by his co-host Patrick Laverty as they discuss topics pertaining to the world of Social Engineering.   Today, Chris and Patrick are joined by Shane McCombs. Shane leads the ILF with more than 25 years of experience in the tech industry, including more than a decade of experience in C-level roles. He led enterprise-wide initiatives within project management, customer relationship management and acquisition, policies and procedures, process improvement, and infrastructure. Shane is also an accomplished public speaker and trainer focused on change management, professionalism, social engineering, and corporate security. In the past, he volunteered for the Autism Hope Alliance and currently donates his time to businesses and non-profits as a trusted advisor. [Sept 25, 2023]   00:00 - Intro 00:22 - Patrick Laverty Intro 01:31 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/ 06:30 - Shane McCombs Intro 07:33 - Intro Chat 09:07 - Today's Topic: How to Protect Your Kids from Online Dangers 09:51 - ILF Overview 11:19 - Can children protect themselves? 12:26 - Tips for Non-tech Savvy Parents 13:55 - Communication is Key 15:32 - Who is the bad guy? 17:06 - Rules for the Ages 20:47 - How it Happens 23:54 - The Truth of Stranger Danger 25:00 - The Long Con 27:14 - The Importance of Trust 28:28 - The Next Step 29:44 - Stability is Critical 32:27 - Stop. Block. Don't Delete!                                                             33:59 - The Power of Belief 35:09 - ILF Updates -          ILF Videos 38:47 - Helping the ILF 43:33 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online -          Chris Hadnagy -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy -          Patrick Laverty -          Twitter: @plaverty9 -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/plaverty9

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The SE Etc. Series. This series will be hosted by Chris Hadnagy, CEO of Social-Engineer LLC, and The Innocent Lives Foundation, as well as Social-Engineer.Org and The Institute for Social Engineering. Join Chris as he discusses topics and news pertaining to the world of Social Engineering. [July 22, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:22 - Intro Links -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                                 03:28 - Story 1: Dynamic Phishing Link Attack 05:07 - Story 2: Crown Hack 06:12 - Story 3: Small Town Scam 07:06 - What Can Be Done 10:42 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org   Find us online -          Chris Hadnagy -          Twitter: @humanhacker -          LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christopherhadnagy

Today on the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Security Awareness Series, Chris is joined by May Brooks-Kempler. May is a cybersecurity expert who has transformed her early curiosity, hacking 90’s computer games, into a distinguished cybersecurity career. As a board member of ISC2, an educator, a CISO and the founder of the Think Safe Cyber community, she is dedicated to making the online world a safer place for everyone. [July 15, 2024]   00:00 - Intro 00:19 - Intro Links: -          Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/ -          Managed Voice Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/vishing-service/ -          Managed Email Phishing - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/se-phishing-service/ -          Adversarial Simulations - https://www.social-engineer.com/services/social-engineering-penetration-test/ -          Social-Engineer channel on SLACK - https://social-engineering-hq.slack.com/ssb -          CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/ -          innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/                                                03:17 - May Brooks-Kempler Intro 03:55 - Twist of Fate 05:10 - A Moment of Silence 05:51 - Blame Grandma 08:15 - An Unclear Path 11:34 - It Takes a Village 13:40 - Considering the Other Side 16:10 - Start with "Why" 20:41 - "It's Never Personal -          CyberWise Parenting Course -          Listeners get 20% off with the coupon SOCIAL -          TEDx – Think Cyber 27:47 - Lifelong Learning 30:50 - Going Public 32:57 - Find May Brooks-Kempler online -          LinkedIn: in/may-brooks-kempler -          Instagram: @cybermaynia 33:46 - Mentors -          Avi Weissman -          Oren Bratt -          Itzik Kochav 35:54 - Book Recommendations -          Human Hacking - Christopher Hadnagy -          Countdown to Zero Day - Kim Zetter -          Do You Talk Funny? - David Nihill -          Start with Why - Simon Sinek 37:17 - Wrap Up & Outro -          www.social-engineer.com -          www.innocentlivesfoundation.org