The Regulated Parent

No matter how much you do for your PDA, autistic child, does it never feel like enough? You might be measuring yourself by a standard never made for you.If you're parenting a PDA, autistic or high-needs child, you're likely co-regulating, accommodating, researching late at night and adjusting your whole life. And still, when your child isn't getting better the way you think they should, the thought comes in: "What if I'm not doing enough? I'm failing my child."In this episode, I share the years I tried to be superhuman for my son, the night in the garage when I finally caught the pattern, and what helped me step off a standard that was never meant for a family like ours.In this episode:The pattern so many parents of PDA, autistic kids get stuck inWhy you're carrying an extraordinary load while expecting yourself to function as if you're notWhy "What am I doing wrong?" is often the fight response turned inwardGrieving the life you thought you'd haveThe island: changing the standard, not trying harder to meet it"Am I giving up on my child?"Two practices to help you feel like you're doing enoughRead the written version: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/failing-my-pda-autistic-child-changing-the-standardFREE GUIDES FOR PARENTS All four guides: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast3 Shifts to Make During Your Child's Meltdown: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast7 Truths About Why You React to Your Child: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcast When You've Given Everything and Lost Yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcast When Your Child Is Hitting You: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUP Connect with other parents on the same journey and share what you're taking from the podcast: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/THE REGULATION REBUILD My course for parents of PDA, autistic and high-needs kids. Join the priority list: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priorityABOUT AFSHAN Afshan Tafler is a Nervous System Resilience Coach, host of The Regulated Parent podcast, and a parent raising a PDA autistic teen with high anxiety and OCD.

Am I accommodating my PDA, autistic child, or am I giving in? If you swing between the two and can't tell which is right, this episode is for you.Part 4 of a four-part series on when your PDA, autistic child can't separate from you, and this is the last one.Most of us are not giving too much. What may be happening is that we're giving from survival, or that survival is keeping us from giving enough. And from inside survival, you can't hear your own read of your own child.In this episode:1. The fight my husband and I kept having, and the years I spent looking for an expert to settle it2. The night I typed "pathological demand avoidance" into Google, and what my body did before my mind caught up3. The two survival patterns underneath the swing — we give in because we can't be with their distress, and we push because of what we were taught4. The three nervous system patterns that make your own signal impossible to hear: stuck on ON, pretend calm, and dorsal shutdown5. Story follows state, and why "just trust your gut" is not useful advice for a parent in our situation6. What your child is reading in you while you're making the decision7. How to get to know your survival signature and your own instinct signature, and tell them apart8. What to do with everything you're told, so other people's frameworks become yoursRead the full written version on the blog. https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/am-i-accommodating-my-pda-autistic-child-the-right-wayStart the series at Part 1: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-your-pda-autistic-child-can-t-separate-and-you-just-want-a-breakFREE GUIDES Four free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcastThe 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastThe 7 Truths guide — why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastThe Meaning guide — for the grief nobody names, and finding your way back to feeling like yourself again: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastThe 4 Shifts Hitting guide — for when your child is hitting you: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/THE REGULATION REBUILD My signature course for parents who want to do this work properly. It opens again in the spring of 2027, and the waitlist is how you'll hear about it first: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priorityI'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach and the parent of a PDA autistic teen with high anxiety and OCD.

Your PDA, autistic child can't let you out of the room, not even to go to the bathroom. Here's what's actually happening inside them.If you're in the thick of this, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastFor a long stretch of my son's burnout I sat beside him in our family room for hours a day, barely moving, holding my pee, because every time my attention left him his anxiety rose. We still have holes in our doors from that time.And underneath it all was the question I know you're carrying too. Am I giving too much? And will they ever learn?In Part 3 of this four-part series I go through:• The seven reasons your PDA, autistic child genuinely needs this much from you — a lower threat threshold, monotropism, and autonomy as a survival need, not a preference.• What the research actually says about responsiveness, so you can put down the word coddling.• The three things that can keep your child stuck even when you accommodate well: anxiety, OCD, and the predictive brain.• How to tell whether this is your child, with three questions to ask yourself.• How to hold accommodation and gentle challenge together, in five steps.• Exactly what I did with my son, starting with the bathroom and then leaving the house, with the real timeline and how long it took.Read the full written version, with the research sources, on the blog: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/pda-autistic-child-cant-separate-from-you-part-3Start the series at Part 1: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-your-pda-autistic-child-can-t-separate-and-you-just-want-a-breakFREE PARENT BURNOUT TRAININGThe Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcastThe 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastThe 7 Truths guide — why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastThe Meaning guide — for the grief nobody names, and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastThe 4 Shifts Hitting guide — for when your child is hitting you: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/THE REGULATION REBUILDMy course for parents who want to do this work properly. It opens again in spring 2027, and the waitlist is how you'll hear first: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priorityI'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach and the parent of a PDA autistic teen with high anxiety and OCD.

You give and give all day, and then you snap, and then you feel horrible about yourself. Here are the 7 moves that break that cycle.If that cycle is your day, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastIf you're co-regulating a PDA, autistic or highly sensitive child who can't be away from you, you know how the day goes. The demands. The questions. The needing you to stay right there and not move. You're okay with it for a while, and then something in you runs out.In this episode I tell you about the night I sat on the bathroom floor crying after getting angry at my son again, and what I finally understood about why that cycle kept repeating.Then I walk you through seven moves, one for each of the seven things that get triggered in your nervous system inside this kind of parenting:1. When the urge to get away comes — let it move2. When the NO is stuck — let that move too3. When guilt and self-criticism arrive — meet them with compassion4. When the fear about their future grips — let them be distressed briefly, and repair5. When the grief is there — make room for it6. When you feel trapped — give yourself choice7. Take in nourishment, however smallWe also go into what we're aiming for: building capacity, so you co-regulate from presence instead of survival. And the belief underneath all of my giving, that I should give up all of my needs, and where it came from.This is Part 2 of a four-part series.Read the full written version on the blog: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/the-7-moves-that-make-co-regulating-your-pda-autistic-child-who-can-t-leave-your-side-so-much-easierStart the series at Part 1: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-your-pda-autistic-child-can-t-separate-and-you-just-want-a-breakFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcastThe 7 Truths guide — why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastThe Meaning guide — for the grief nobody names, and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastThe 4 Shifts Hitting guide — for when your child is hitting you: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/THE REGULATION REBUILDMy course for parents who want to do this work properly. It opens again in spring 2027, and the waitlist is how you'll hear first: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priorityI'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach and the parent of a PDA autistic teen with high anxiety and OCD.

Your child can't let you out of their sight — and you're exhausted. Here are the 7 things happening in your nervous system that nobody tells you about.If this episode landed for you, start with my free 7 Truths guide — for the parent who has read the books and done the inner work and still reacts: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastIf you have a PDA, autistic or highly sensitive child who can't separate from you, you know this already. They follow you room to room. They hear the toilet flush and call you back. You can't cook dinner without them needing you every few minutes, even when the dinner is for them.And when you do take a little space, you pay for it afterwards. So eventually you stop taking it at all.In this episode I share the morning I drove away from my house while my son screamed and banged on the car — and why it felt, inside me, like I was dying too.Then I walk you through the seven things that happen in your nervous system inside this kind of parenting:1. Blocked flight energy — the urge to get away with nowhere to go2. Blocked fight energy — the NO you can't say3. Guilt and self-criticism for having those urges at all4. The fear and pressure about your child's future5. Grief, including the grief of feeling completely unsupported6. The trapped feeling all of it piles into7. Your child slowly becoming a cue of danger to your systemWe also go into the meanings underneath each one, where those beliefs actually came from, and the one pattern that makes co-regulation the most exhausting of all — I'm not okay unless you're okay.This is part one of a three-part series. Next week: the seven moves that make co-regulating a child who can't leave your side so much easier on you.PREFER TO READ IT?The full written version is on the blog: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/when-your-pda-autistic-child-can-t-separate-and-you-just-want-a-breakWHERE TO START WITH THIS WORKI have three free guides at https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast3 Shifts — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them so meltdowns settle instead of spiral. https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast7 Truths — for the parent who's read the books and done the inner work and still reacts. What's actually running the show underneath. https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastWhen You've Given Everything to Your High Needs Child and Lost Yourself: 5 Shifts Back to Meaning, Purpose and Feeling Like Yourself Again — for the grief nobody names, the life you thought you'd have, and the version of you that feels lost inside it. https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastIf today's episode landed for you, start with 7 Truths. If the grief section was the part that got you, start with Meaning.🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/

It's the fear so many parents of PDA and autistic kids carry: that today's aggression means something frightening about their child's future. In Part 3 of this series I gently take that fear apart, and offer a completely different way to understand how our kids actually learn.NEW: my free guide for when your child is hitting, 4 Shifts to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Stop Hitting: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcastIf this is where you are right now, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastYou'll hear why “just stopping” the behaviour doesn't teach, the difference between stopping a behaviour and building the capacity underneath it, how the meaning we attach to our child's behaviour drives our own reactions, and why the most protective thing you can do for your child's future isn't to frighten the behaviour out of them now.Part 1 is the foundation (what's happening inside YOU). Part 2 is what to do in the storm. And Part 3 — this one — is how they truly learn, and how to set the future-fear down and hold real hope.— LINKS —📖 Read the blog version: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/shouldn-t-i-be-teaching-my-child-that-hitting-is-wrong-part-3🎁 Free guide — The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child's Meltdowns: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast🎁 The 7 Truths guide — why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcast🎁 The Meaning guide — for the grief nobody names, and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastThe Regulation Rebuild, my course for parents who want to do this work properly, opens again in spring 2027. The waitlist is how you’ll hear first: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priorityFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/

You don't want to be hit — and yet every option feels wrong. You walk away, they follow. You close the door, they punch it. You stand there, and you're the one getting hurt. There's no good choice, and underneath it all is that trapped, powerless feeling that this will never end.NEW: my free guide for when your child is hitting, 4 Shifts to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Stop Hitting: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcastIf you are in this right now, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown, and how to shift them: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastIn Part 2 of this three-part series on aggression, Afshan shares what actually changed it in her own home — where storms went from five hours of daily rage to about thirty minutes, maybe once a week. It was never the perfect strategy (there isn't one). It was learning to move out of the “trauma vortex” and into a safe-enough state, right in the middle of the storm — and the specific shifts that make that possible, both inside you and with your child.You'll hear why staying “calm” can backfire, the difference between stopping a behaviour and punishing it, what to do when the hitting is aimed at you (or someone else), and how the storms actually get shorter over time.This is the practical one. Part 1 is the foundation — what's happening inside YOU. Part 3, coming next week, is about the fear of the future: what this behaviour means for your child down the road, and why the way they truly learn isn't what we were taught.📖 Read the blog version: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/what-to-do-when-your-pda-or-autistic-child-is-hitting-you-part-2🌀 The Regulation Rebuild — doors open soon, join the priority list: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priority🎁 Free guide — The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child's Meltdowns: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast🎁 Free guide — The 7 Truths, why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcast🎁 Free guide — Meaning, for the grief nobody names and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/

You’ve been told to “just stay calm” while your child rages, hits, or destroys things — and then quietly beaten yourself up when you couldn’t. Here’s the truth: you are not supposed to feel calm in those moments. It isn’t possible — and chasing calm might actually be making them harder.NEW: my free guide for when your child is hitting, 4 Shifts to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Stop Hitting: https://www.illuminateu.ca/hitting-guide-podcastIf you react and then hate yourself for it, start with my free 7 Truths guide — what is actually running the show underneath: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastIn Part 1 of this two-part series on aggression, parenting coach Afshan (mom to a once-five-hours-a-day melting-down kid) walks you through what’s really happening inside YOU first: the survival patterns we fall into without realizing, the nervous-system science that finally takes the shame off, and the shift that changes everything — from “what do I do?” to “how do I be?” Because your own regulated-enough nervous system is the real intervention.This is the foundation. Part 2 gets into what to actually do when the aggression is aimed right at you — including the hitting.→ Read the blog version: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/why-you-can-t-stay-calm-when-your-pda-or-autistic-child-is-hitting-you-part-1→ Free guide — The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child’s Meltdowns: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast→ Join the priority list for The Regulation Rebuild course: https://www.illuminateu.ca/regulation-rebuild-course-priority→ Free guide — Meaning, for the grief nobody names and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/

It was 1 a.m., and Alma Galván was in tears. Both of her sons had severe autism, ADHD and sensory differences. Doctors told her to institutionalize her oldest son, and daily two-hour meltdowns had become normal. She remembers thinking, *"This isn't life."*If this is landing for you, start with my free 7 Truths guide — what is actually running the show underneath when you react: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastWith no internet or roadmap, Alma spent seven years searching for answers. What she discovered changed everything: gentle developmental movements that helped build the brain's lower centers, reducing chronic survival responses. Her sons, who were both non-speaking until after age six, are now adults in their 30s who are working and thriving.But the biggest surprise wasn't just what happened to her children—it was what happened to her. As she practiced the movements alongside them, her own nervous system began to settle for the first time in years.That experience led Alma to create **Alma Integration**, a program designed not just for children, but for parents.In this episode, we explore:• Why movement reaches the brain when reasoning and rewards can't• The role of the pons in survival, sensory overwhelm and meltdowns• Why a regulated parent is part of the intervention—not just the support• Why play and connection are essential for lasting change• How to tell whether your child is leaning in or pulling away• Alma's remarkable healing journey after 21 days in the ICU• Why healing happens in spirals, not straight lines• Two simple practices you can begin today—for you and your childIf you're parenting a PDA, autistic, ADHD or highly sensitive child and feel like you've tried everything, this conversation offers hope for both your child—and for you.🎟️ ALMA'S TWO FREE SUMMITS — I'm speaking at both🔗 FIND ALMABrainWorx — her work with children, families and educators.Alma Integration — her coaching practice, thought streams, and the work of returning to your original blueprint. Alma Integration on YouTube — her songs, which are layered little lessons in disguise. My son's favourite is the one on gratitude and we play it on repeat.📖 READ THE BLOG VERSIONThe full write-up, including both practices written out step by step so you can come back to them.🎁 FREE GUIDE — 7 TRUTHSAbout Why You React to Your Child (Even When You Know Better) What It Actually Takes to Regulate Your Nervous System and Feel Okay Inside a Life That Feels HardThe real reasons you keep getting hijacked — even after all the mindset work — and the 7 shifts that actually change it.Nervous system regulation for parents of hypersensitive, reactive kids (Autism, ADHD, PDA, OCD, ODD, Highly Sensitive).Download it free here 👉 https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcast FREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/

If I could offer you one tool that took my PDA, autistic son's aggressive behaviors from 5 hours of daily meltdowns and destruction, to less than 30 minutes a few times a week — would you want it?If the talking is the part you cannot stop, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled into during a meltdown: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcastIt's four letters. W.A.I.T. — Why Am I Talking.In this episode, I'm walking you through the single most powerful strategy we ever used to help my son regulate — and it wasn't a script, a technique, or the right words. It was learning to stop talking altogether.I share the real story of what this looked like in our house during my son's burnout, the two kinds of talking I used to reach for that both backfired every time, what I came to understand about why verbal processing is so hard for kids like ours in an activated state, and exactly how to practice WAIT yourself — including what to do with your own fight-or-flight energy instead of directing it at your child.This one is close to my heart, and it's the answer I give every time a professional or doctor asks what helped my son the most.🎧 Prefer to read? Catch the full blog version here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/blog/the-1-regulation-tool-that-cut-my-autistic-pda-child-s-meltdowns-by-95-2.📘 Want a place to start today? Grab my free guide, The 3 Shifts To Make During Your Child's Meltdowns (So You Can Stay Calm Instead of React) — how to see your trigger loop, interrupt it, and respond, instead of holding it in or exploding. A nervous system guide for parents of highly reactive kids (ADHD, PDA, Autism, OCD, ODD) to regulate their own nervous systems first. Download it free here: https://www.illuminateu.ca/3-shifts-free-guide-podcast.Free guide — The 7 Truths, why you react even when you know better: https://www.illuminateu.ca/7-truths-free-guide-podcastFree guide — Meaning, for the grief nobody names and finding your way back to yourself: https://www.illuminateu.ca/meaning-guide-podcastFREE GUIDESFour free guides for parents of PDA, autistic, ADHD and high-needs kids: https://www.illuminateu.ca/free-guides-podcast🌿 Free parent burnout training, The Perfect Storm: the 12 nervous system shifts that help you feel okay again, whether you’re snapping and drowning in guilt or holding it all together and quietly falling apart: https://www.illuminateu.ca/parent-burnout-training-podcastTHE REGULATED PARENT FACEBOOK GROUPHave a question about this episode or one of the guides? Come ask it in my free, private Facebook group, a place to share, ask, and be with parents who truly get it: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2697621097228817/