The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

When honeybees outgrow their hive, they need to make a big decision. Here's how they do it and what we can learn from them.Show Notes:Honeybee Decision Making by Thomas D. SeeleyGeneration to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman*Check out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.*This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if you make a purchase.

Learning how to self-define while remaining emotionally connected is the key to setting healthy boundaries. Here's how.Show Notes:The Four Boundaries Nobody Told You to Build by Laura NguyenCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

This episode explores why parents are so annoying to their children from a family systems standpoint. Understanding how to do things differently will make you a better parent and leader.Show Notes:What makes parents so annoying, even to their middle-aged children? by Carolyn HaxCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning go hand in hand. Here’s what that looks like, as well as how you can find the sweet spot that creates healthy emotional space.Show Notes:Check out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn’t) look like.Show Notes:Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen SmithCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

Whether it’s raising kids or leading an organization, a non-anxious leader is interdependent, not independent. This episode covers why that matters and how you can do better.Show Notes:Forget independence. Teach your kids this instead. By Jennifer Breheny WallaceThe Differentiated Leader - The Non-Anxious LeaderCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.

The lessons in "The Friendly Forest" from Friedman's Fables teach the fallacy of trying to be reasonable in the face of anxiety and resistance.Show Notes:Friedman's Fables by Edwin H. Friedman*Check out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.*This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if you make a purchase.

Knowing to move closer to the most anxious and resistant is a key part of doing your family of origin work. Here's how Murray Bowen did it.Show Notes:Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray BowenThe Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious LeaderCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.*This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if a purchase is made.

This episode covers how Murray Bowen remained a non-anxious presence in his family of origin, after he had purposely raised the anxiety level of those in the interlocking triangles that were keeping it stuck.Show Notes:Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray BowenThe Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious LeaderCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.*This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if a purchase is made.

In this case study, I'll unpack Murray Bowen's retelling of doing his own family of origin work. It helps understand how interlocking triangles work and how to rework them.Show Notes:Family Therapy in Clinical Practice* by Murray BowenThe Differentiated Leader – The Non-Anxious LeaderCheck out The Non-Anxious Life, a FREE AI Family Systems Coach.Become a Patron for as little as $5/month.Subscribe to my weekly ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠ email newsletter.*This is an affiliate link. I earn a small commission if a purchase is made.