Sexually Speaking with Shannon

In this episode, you’re guided through a gentle, grounding Inner Child Meditation designed to help you reconnect with the younger version of yourself who still lives in your emotions, your nervous system, and your unmet needs. This practice isn’t about imagining a literal child inside of you—it’s about using the metaphor of your inner child to better understand your feelings, your patterns, and the parts of you that are still longing for support, safety, and presence.You’ll begin by priming your body for safety with breathwork and box breathing, helping your nervous system soften so you can access deeper layers of connection. From there, you’ll “rewind the tape” of your life—moving from young adulthood, to your teen years, and back to the child version of you. Through visualization, curiosity, and compassion, you’ll explore:✨ What your younger self loved ✨ What made them feel safe ✨ The qualities they naturally carried before the world told them who to be ✨ What they want you to know now ✨ What support they’ve been waiting to receiveYou’ll have moments to offer your inner child love, appreciation, and reassurance—and to receive any messages that arise. This meditation helps you re-parent, repair, and reconnect so you can meet your present-day emotions with more safety, compassion, and understanding.As the practice closes, you'll return gently to your body, grounding into the present moment with mindful awareness. You’re encouraged to journal afterward to capture anything that surfaced—insights, emotions, memories, or messages.This is a beautiful experience for anyone feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or longing for deeper self-support. I’m honored to guide you through it, and I’m cheering you on as you continue building a compassionate relationship with yourself and your inner child.Thank you for being here. Thank you for you.Support the show

Take some time to create safety and space in your system....Recommended: Practice for 5–10 minutes, 2–3 times a day, or anytime you feel dysregulated. This practice retrains your system for rest, safety, and presence.1. Ground + ArriveFind a quiet space and sit comfortably, palms open, feet grounded. Close your eyes or take a soft gaze. Take three slow breaths into your belly.2. Box Breathing – 2 RoundsInhale through your nose for 4 seconds. Hold for 4 seconds. Exhale through pursed lips for 4 seconds. Hold for 4 seconds on empty.3. Tapping + Vagal Toning – 2 RoundsGently tap on your chest or anywhere on your body to wake up sensations. On the exhale, sound the word VOO to activate your vagus nerve.4. Eye + Neck ResetBring your left ear toward your left shoulder and look up toward the upper right corner of your eyes. Take 3 deep breaths while holding the pose Switch sides and repeat.5. Neck MassagePress gently at the base of your skull where the head and neck connect. Breathe slowly as you release tension and allow more flow through your body.6. Anchor AffirmationRepeat to yourself: “I am safe — safe to be in my body, safe to feel, safe to experience this.”7. Body ScanNotice the different temperatures — your feet, your hands, the air as it moves in and out through your nose. Scan your body for what feels safe, supported, or at ease. Allow yourself to soften even more into that. Now scan for any areas that feel tight, constricted, or holding stuck energy. Name and observe those sensations with loving curiosity — maybe notice a color, texture, or shape.8. Orienting to the PresentOpen your eyes and look around your space. Name five things you see that share the same color or shape.Support the show

In this episode, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a licensed psychotherapist, best-selling author, and researcher shares her insight on shameless parenting and our ability to heal while we learn alongside our kids. Dr. Tina and I dig into how sexual shame impacts our ability to form secure attachments and relationships. She shares her experience as a professor and noticing the shift as the first wave of "purity culture" took on a different narrative that was harmful to the students she was teaching. One of my favorite books, Sex, God, and the Conservative Church: Erasing Shame from Sexual Intimacy was powerful in helping me understand how and why shame is rampant in our culture, but often hard to notice.  And she has recently another book called, Shameless Parenting: How to Raise Confident, Shame free Kids and Heal Your Own Shame Too!Dr. Sellers emphasizes the role of parents in fostering shame-free environments for their children, regardless of their family makeup. She encourages open conversations with teenagers, addressing myths and stereotypes about sex, and prioritizing connection and pleasure over obligation in relationships. Dr. Sellers emphasizes the importance of ongoing learning, dispelling myths, and staying on the path of personal growth to lead a fulfilling life.Follow Dr. Sellers on Instagram at @DrTinaShamelessIn this episode:0:02:28 Dr. Tina Shermer Sellers bio 0:08:45 Healing Through Shameless Parenting0:27:26 Importance of Social and Emotional Learning0:32:51 Parenting Insights Beyond Traditional Family Structures0:39:39 Embodying Sexuality for a Fulfilling Life0:42:13 Connect with Dr. Tina on Instagram0:42:37 Dr. Tina's Podcast EpisodesAlthough this will be my last episode, please stay in touch! Check out what I have going  on @shannonhamaker on Instagram!Also on my website: shannonhmaker.com will share the latest and greatest in my offerings through coaching and retreats. Support the show

One of the most impactful experiences you can have in strengthening your partnership is the understanding of feminine and masculine energy. Most of us understand and embody masculine energy easily without having to think about it. It is the doing, going, and moving forward that most of us learn as valuable in our culture. We learn the social construct that productivity is valued and doing comes naturally to most.But what does feminine energy look and FEEL like?My co-facilitator and friend, Amanda Curry, and I speak from our experiences of why masculine and feminine energy is a powerful concept to understand. We share our moments of learning and how we continue to lean into this concept of “being” in our feminine energy. Amanda Curry is a transformational coach for women who uses the power of somatics, inner child work, and breath to facilitate lasting change. She has been a physical therapist for 12 years and in the self-development world for 15 but only started to support deeper levels in 2020. Amanda is a wife of almost 15 years and a mother of two.Amanda and I discuss personal growth, reflection, and the importance of inner work. We explore masculine and feminine energy, challenge societal expectations, and share our personal experiences. We address the issue of female partners feeling unsupported and offer insights and suggestions. We also mention an upcoming couples retreat focused on effective communication and cultivating extraordinary relationships. Reach out to us for coaching or workshop opportunities.In this episode:0:00:39 Reflecting on growth and partnership in the healing journey0:03:10 The deeper transformation and tools in retreat work0:06:46 Embracing vulnerability and facilitating deeper reflection0:11:31 Embracing the balance of masculine and feminine energies0:13:01 Discerning aligned masculinity from wounded masculinity0:20:27 Embracing both feminine and masculine energies0:23:17 The journey of balancing feminine and masculine energies0:30:24 Couples retreat: extraordinary communication and support0:32:07 Planting seeds of curiosity and compassionSupport the show

In this episode, we explore the world of non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton, a renowned relationship coach. We discuss the reasons why some choose open relationships, different approaches to non-monogamy, managing jealousy, setting agreements, repairing relationships, and providing valuable resources for further support couples in that space.Tune in to gain insights and connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton for coaching and workshops.In this podcast episode:0:03:40 Dr. Joli's journey into the field of non-monogamy0:09:56 Navigating polyamory with care0:13:09 The two extremes of jumping into polyamory or hesitating0:15:20 The need for negotiated and consensual relationships0:17:29 Relationships require effort and willingness to embrace change0:20:28 Embracing different needs and relationship dynamics0:28:25 The complexity of envy and jealousy0:30:55 Unpacking the narrative of jealousy0:37:20 Setting boundaries and honoring agreements0:39:24 Trusting yourself and holding integrity with agreements0:41:39 Relationship check-ins and intentionality0:45:09 Consequences and planning for repair0:47:38 Graduating with a clear relationship choiceFind Dr. Joli Hamilton on:Dr. Joli Hamilton's website - https://www.jolihamilton.com/The Year Of Opening - https://theyearofopening.com/The free salon: https://openeasier.com/Support the show

In this episode, I am joined by Trauma Therapist, Mom, and fellow retreat Co-Facilitator, Heather Pincelli. We discuss our recent transformative retreat experience and the power of group work for healing. We also share personal stories and insights on patterns of behavior, triggers, and the importance of communication and self-care. In this podcast episode:0:02:44 The successful Restore for More Retreat experience!0:10:41 Heather's transformation from her younger self to present-day0:15:34 Understanding personality patterns and overwhelm0:18:23 How personality patterns affect relationships and communication0:23:01 Heather's strategic banana dilemma0:26:17 The banana incident and uncovering past trauma0:32:04 Merging pattern0:36:13 Leaving pattern 0:39:23 Enduring pattern and retreating into one's own space0:42:21 Body types and personality patterns0:44:30 Intimidation of the leaving pattern and sensitivity to conflict0:53:51 The power of stopping and breathing through challengesYou can find Heather Pincelli on:IG - @thattherapistheatherAND her new podcast, Therapy in the Wild, will be on all the platforms!Support the show

Join me  in my interview I had with Jennifer Kaylo on her podcast, The Open Bedroom (ahem, I HIGHLY recommend!) In this episode, I share my story of moving from a space of confusion, frustration, and shame to growing my confidence and curiosity.  In this podcast:03:00 - My journey09:55 - Stumbling upon a podcast about conscious uncoupling14:50 - From black and white to a colorful marriage life15:00 - Following the breadcrumbs of curiosity19:55 - The clarity of getting to know my sexual self… And knowing that I am not responsible for him, I’m just responsible to him.23:00 - The moment of awakening32:10 - Surrendering and learning to listen to your body is the best thing you can do35:00 - Midlife crisis to midlife magic39:00 - Learning about my erotic blueprint. Erotic Blueprint Quiz47:30 - My husband’s breakthrough51:10 - It all with intention, nothing is by accident54:30 - You don’t have to do it alone… Finding a community to work throughSexually Speaking podcast episode with Jen: Consciously Uncoupling with Jennifer Kaylo RuscinBooks mentioned:Come as You AreThe Power of NowWise PowerSexually WokeHow to Do The WorkFollow Jen for moreJennifer’s podcast: The Open Bedroom PodcastSupport the show

Lindsey Hall is an Intimacy and Empowerment Coach who supports women to deepen their intimacy with self & others, own their power & their pleasure, and live the joyful life they love!Lindsey spent 12 years in the world of corporate accounting where listening to your intuition and prioritizing your pleasure are not exactly encouraged, so now she is passionate about helping women bring more pleasure to their daily lives and peeling back the layers of shame and social conditioning that prevent us from living our fully empowered lives. She hates small talk and elephants in the room and much prefers to dive in deep talking about the things that are maybe scary but ultimately so important and healing to talk about!After going through her divorce during lockdown with two tiny children, she specializes in supporting women emotionally through the divorce process and beyond, including dating and co-parenting - which are both pretty big adventures!In this podcast:03:30 - Lindsey’s story10:50 - Lindsey's healing process12:30 - Learning how to step back and listen more13:00 - Support from a coach17:30 - Self-pleasure class21:00 - The BJ Class23:00 - Lindsey’s experience in divorce and dating25:00 - It’s not my job to look out for every hurt that may come26:50 - Maintaining the work Lindsay has done30:30 - Voicing my desiresLindsey's Website: Lindsey Hall Coaches Support the show

The parts of you who desire a life based in liberation, love, and leadership can find a home in Katrin’s world.Katrin is a sexual liberation mentor who has overcome painful sex and continues supporting women in releasing vaginismus's protective body response. She deeply understands how survival strategies of the mind and subtle protective mechanisms of the body can make the freedom you crave seem out of reach.She has led herself off the beaten path back to her authentic self and now helps you do the same. In sex, love, relationships, and entrepreneurship! Katrin believes that your power is born out of your deepest pain and that the Liberated & In Love Woman within you already has all the answers to guide you in your personal reclamation. She is here to love you as you re-discover your unique signature of play, pleasure, and purpose. She gently calls you into your zone of genius and lifts you up as you bravely build your legacy from that place of aliveness and erotic overflow.In this episode:01:00 - Katrin’s story08:30 - How does Katrin support people who are also going through painful sex11:00 -  Why we should stop using the term sexual dysfunction 16:00 - Treating vaginismus19:00 - The Erotic Blueprints23:00 - Vaginismus is a defense response24:00 - How to practice surrendering in the bedroom28:00 - The physical healing journey33:00 - The show - Sex, Love, and Goop39:00 - Why people may experience vaginismus44:00 - Trauma and vaginismus47:00 - Katrin’s free course about vaginismus48:00 - Katrin’s life after vaginismusKatrin’s free course - Putting Vaginismus in the Past - https://www.katrinwithlove.com/Get your erotic blueprint at: https://missjaiya.com/Support the show

I’d like you all to welcome my new friend Emily Sabo! Emily Sabo is a linguist, a Ph.D. speaker, a TEDx speaker, a dancer, a choreographer, and the CEO of Full Body Feels, a feel-good dance fitness company.Originally from Pittsburgh, we are so lucky to have Emily now in Knoxville, Tennessee, and she's here to celebrate feminine energy through dance, yoga, and community.Hear her story on how she came full circle in using dance as medicine and why she thinks others should too! In this podcast episode:02:30 - What did life look like for Emily before Full Body Feels?12:00 - How many languages does she speak?!15:00 - Emily’s mental health experiences26:00 - Where the magic happens to learn about your body28:00 - Emily’s relationship with her husband and the biggest change in her life34:00 - Movement meditation with EmilyVisit Emily on:emilysabo.comFollow on IG: @fullbodyfeelsSupport the show