Sex Drunks

Micah joins Pasha and J. to talk relapse, ego deflation, and why honesty may matter more than looking recovered. They wrestle with obsessing over sobriety, chasing outcomes, and turning recovery into another way to feel superior—all while detouring through basketball, fantasy leagues, and “ego masturbation.” Ultimately, they ask what it looks like to stop performing the solution and simply show up for people.

Margie and Paul share how addiction, betrayal, passivity, and the urge to run nearly ended their marriage—and why pursuit, accountability, and recovery changed its direction. They talk about handwritten memory cards, using “old marriage” as a warning bell, and bringing their own ick into parenting classes for families in crisis. Along the way, J. and the crew get tangled up in literal cups, dehydrated humor, and Paul’s suspiciously regimented podcast script.

Luke joins Pasha and J. to talk about fatherhood, flexible recovery, and why checking every box isn’t the same as staying connected to God. They get practical about missed meetings, changing diapers, unloading the dishwasher, and learning to show up for the two girls at home. Plus: sobriety-date trivia, a bizarre podcast pitch, and the surprising power of paying attention to small things.

Pasha and J. talk about honoring a man who died sober, getting right-sized by a newcomer, and finding the deeper fellowship that meetings alone can’t always provide. They unpack phone-call boundaries, post-meeting hangs, and a local WhatsApp community—plus an unexpected sidewalk conversation about time travel.

Shim F joins Pasha and J. to unpack why “recovered” can feel loaded and why tough love doesn’t work if you can’t feel the love. They get into patient sponsors, bear hugs, sobriety-date competition, and the power of simply coming back. Along the way, they ask how fellowship can feel more like hanging out with your people—and somehow compare the podcast to Ritalin.

Molly joins Pasha and J. to talk about entering male-dominated meetings in a giant puffer coat, leaving recovery for ten years, and finding her way back through loneliness and a sketchy alley. They get into fellowship across gender lines, prayer that feels real, and the monk resentment that unexpectedly melted away.

Pasha and J. unpack the retreat high, the lonely crash afterward, and why recovery friends can feel like home. They explore building community beyond formal meetings through chaotic WhatsApp threads, spontaneous group calls, poker nights, and a small winter retreat—with plenty of side quests along the way.

Ash and Catherine join the guys at the retreat to talk sponsorship, relapse, and the relief of not having all the answers. They get honest about dating, shame, surrendering outcomes, and learning to connect with people without lust running the conversation. Along the way, J. questions the relentlessly upbeat recovery meeting, everyone compares criminal histories, and speeding becomes an amends issue.

At the retreat, the guys dig into surrendering what matters most—money, sex, dating, anger, and the illusion of control. Mike shares how a roof repair tested his sense of security, why buying coffee nearly wrecked his serenity, and what it means to let God have the good and the bad. They also wrestle with when to talk openly about sex addiction and why being among people who understand can finally feel like home.

Nicole and Brennan join J. and Pasha to talk about separation, relapse after 90 days of treatment, and why they had to recover apart before they could recover together. They get honest about broken trust, Sunday recovery marathons, learning when to shut up, and the difference between being helpful and trying to control. Plus, an engagement-photo disaster shows just how dark—and strangely laughable in hindsight—the insanity could get.