My Secret Seduction

Join John and Susan as they flip the script: instead of advice FOR newbies, they're offering advice FOR experienced lifestyle folks on how to actually welcome newcomers into the community. From icebreaker games to respect and communication, J and S tackle why the lifestyle can feel clicky—and how you can be the one who changes that.Game Review - Kinky Land:Discovered at a sex shop in Montreal, this board game holds up to 8 players (4 couples) and features 72 squares with various challenges, truth-or-dare cards, never-have-I-ever prompts, and drinking spots. Unlike typical group sex games that force play-or-take-a-shot, Kinky Land is more about icebreakers and fun without pressure. Think sexy snakes and ladders with actual personality. J and S tested it with a group of friends and had a blast—check it out if you're looking for something beyond the usual card games!Purchase the game by following this linkSexy Storytime:A "tale of two Saints"—the first night packed with people and a stunning Russian woman who knew exactly what she wanted, and the second night with only one other couple (who definitely weren't interested in chatting). Both had their charm in different ways.In This Episode:Why experienced couples can be intimidating (and how to fix it)The difference between "hello" and expectationsWhat newbies REALLY see vs. what they imagineThe importance of mentorship and answering questionsHow to respect different play styles (they're not all the same!)Two completely different nights at Saints and Sinners PhiladelphiaA memorable encounter with an unexpected connectionTeaser: A new show concept for Halloween (Swinger horror stories!)Sponsors:Swing.com Black Thai Honey Special Request:Got a swinger horror story for Halloween? Email [email protected] or leave a voicemail at mysecretseduction.com! Could be awkward, could be terrifying, could be hilarious—we want to hear it!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Telegram - Search: JandSExplorersWebsite: mysecretseduction.comHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #NewbieWelcome #LifestyleCommunity #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #LifestyleTips #LifestyleEtiquette #Mentorship #SaintsandSinners #MySecretSeduction #SwingersAdvice #OpenRelationship #LifestyleJourney #CommunityLove #KinkyLand Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join John and Susan as they discuss the lifestyle habits that grind their gears! From unrealistic expectations and poor communication to awkward ghosting and inappropriate behavior at events, J and S vent about what needs to change in the swinging community.In This Episode:Why assumptions ruin connections before they even startThe ghosting epidemic—why it happens and why it's unacceptableCommunication breakdown: What's really a dealbreaker?Setting boundaries that actually make senseOne unexpected pet peeve nobody saw comingReal talk about what separates good players from the clownsSexy Storytime:Two encounters that show what doing it RIGHT looks like—from a stellar Silver and Spicy hotel takeover to a Sunday night session with a true gentleman who actually understands lifestyle etiquette.Clitorial stimulator Sue spoke about.Sponsors:Swing.comBlack Thai HoneyWicked Fun ClubUpcoming Events:July 18 - Shipwrecked Party (Saturday, 9pm) at Wicked Fun ClubGet tickets and info What are YOUR pet peeves? Email us at [email protected]!Connect with us:SLS | STC | Fetlife | Telegram - Search: JandSExplorers#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #LifestylePetPeeves #Communication #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #LifestyleCommunity #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #LifestyleTips Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

First Time Jitters - A Guide for Lifestyle Newcomers 🎉Join John and Susan as they tackle one of the most-asked questions in the lifestyle: How do you succeed at your first event? Whether it's a club, house party, hotel takeover, or special event, J and S share practical advice on research, expectations, communication, and putting yourself out there.In This Episode:Why "first time" experiences can happen even after years in the lifestyleHow to do your homework before attending an eventThe importance of no expectations (and why it matters)Tips for positioning yourself and reading the roomBest practices for approaching other couplesWhy communication before, during, and after is essentialHandling rejection gracefullyFinding your play style and how it evolvesWhy you owe nobody anythingSexy Storytime:John and Susan recount a recent getaway with longtime friends S&T at an Airbnb—complete with sexy outfits, a daisy chain, and a fun evening that included dining out and reconnecting.Upcoming Events:📅 July 18 - Shipwrecked Party at Wicked Fun Club - Get tickets at wickedfunclub.com📅 June 26-28 - Silver and Spicy Prom (again!) at Scranton, PAGot questions about your first lifestyle event? Email us at [email protected] or leave a voicemail at mysecretseduction.com!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Telegram - Search: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #FirstTimer #LifestyleAdvice #LifestyleCouple #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #NewcomersGuide #LifestyleTips #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #LifestyleCommunity #CommunicationMatters Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jealousy in the Lifestyle - A Couples Conversation Join John and Susan—plus special guests D and J—for an honest, in-depth conversation about jealousy in the lifestyle. From pre-lifestyle insecurities to discovering compersion, this episode explores how trust, communication, and confidence shape your swinging journey.In This Episode:The difference between jealousy and compersion in the lifestyleWhy having a solid relationship foundation matters before you startWhen "disrespect" becomes jealousy (and vice versa)Communication rules: What works for group texts vs. solo contactSpecial guests D and J share their perspective on trust from day oneWhy the lifestyle isn't a fix for relationship problemsLearning new techniques from watching your partner playThe importance of moving at the slowest person's comfort levelSexy Storytime: J and S recap their recent weekend getaway with D and J, featuring separate rooms, open doors, and everyone feeding off each other's energy. Plus: new techniques discovered, favorite toys introduced, and why the divan bench deserves more credit!Upcoming Events:April 18 - 2069: A Sex Odyssey (Sci-Fi Night!) at Wicked Fun ClubMay 8 - May MILF Madness (Friday night with select single guys) at Wicked Fun ClubComing Soon - Dungeons & Debauchery? Stay tuned!Get tickets at wickedfunclub.comWhat's YOUR take on jealousy vs. compersion? Email us at [email protected] or leave a voicemail at mysecretseduction.com!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Telegram - Search: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #Jealousy #Compersion #LifestyleCouple #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #LifestyleTrust #Communication #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #LifestyleCommunity #RelationshipGoals Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join John and Susan as they tackle a listener-suggested topic that's been causing confusion in the lifestyle: What's the difference between hotwifing and stag/vixen dynamics? Spoiler alert—they're NOT interchangeable! J and S break down the distinctions, share their own experiences, and explore where they fall on the spectrum.In This Episode:* Understanding the key differences between hotwife and stag/vixen dynamics* The role of power, control, and compersion in different lifestyle arrangements* John and Susan discuss their own dynamic and preferences* Would solo play ever be on the table? The cheese stick negotiation!* Sexy storytime from recent Wicked Fun Club adventures* BIG NEWS: Saints and Sinners Atlantic City is coming back!What's YOUR dynamic? Are you hotwife, stag/vixen, or something else entirely? Email us at [email protected] or leave a voicemail at mysecretseduction.com!Please take a moment and fill out our survey on the podcast. Your comments could help shape future shows.Upcoming Events:📅 March 14 - Erin Go Bra-less 2: Wail of the Banshee at Wicked Fun Club📅 April 18 - 2069: A Sex Odyssey (Sci-Fi Night!) at Wicked Fun ClubGet tickets at wickedfunclub.comConnect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Telegram - Search: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #HotWife #StagVixen #LifestyleCouple #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #SaintsAndSinners #LifestyleDynamics #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #LifestyleCommunity Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

New Year, New Play - Lifestyle Resolutions for 2026 🎊Join John and Susan as they head to IPG's New Year's Eve hotel takeover in Scranton, PA! But before the party starts, J and S get real about their lifestyle resolutions for 2026—from being more outgoing to better communication at events. Plus, they hit the party floor to ask other couples about THEIR sexy resolutions, and the answers might surprise you!In This Episode:🎯 J and S's Resolutions:Being More Outgoing: John admits he can be a wallflower at events and resolves to step up his game without being aggressive. Time to ask those couples to dance!Mastering the Flirt: Sue wants to work on her flirting skills and that transition from friendly conversation to sexy suggestionBetter Communication: The big one—talking to each other IN THE MOMENT at events instead of asking "did anyone catch your eye?" afterwardsSelf-Care & Confidence: Both commit to better diet and exercise habits (after the holidays, of course!) to feel their best💬 Resolutions from the Party Floor: Hear from real lifestyle couples sharing their 2026 goals.The IPG New Year's Experience:🎉 What IPG Does Right: John breaks down why IPG events are worth every penny—from trivia and speed dating to Swingo, comedians, magicians, and that epic New Year's ball drop with LED accessories, champagne, and non-stop entertainment🏊 Pool Party Perfection: Clothing-optional volleyball, "eye candy" ball retrieval, heavy petting, and connections that last all weekend🎤 Karaoke & Courage: Sue conquers three songs (including "Kiss Me Deadly" with backup singers), John finds his liquid courage for two performances, and everyone closes with "Closing Time"Sexy Storytime - Triple Play:The real magic happened after midnight when J and S had not one, not two, but THREE incredible play sessions:🔥 Session 1 - JNS: Back in their hotel room, things finally clicked with friends they'd been flirting with all weekend. Full swap, amazing chemistry, and Sue conquering her 69 anxiety!🔥 Session 2 - The Six-Way: BNG's room turned into a party with a spontaneous six-way featuring multiple couples and discovering that the "side position" is their secret weapon🔥 Pool Time Almost: Would've been a perfect triple with I&I in the pool, but everyone was happily exhausted by 2am💡 Pro Tips Revealed:The Side Position: John and Sue's favorite finishing move that not enough people know about—ladies on your side, legs spread slightly. Game changer!Edibles Done Right: Half a gummy instead of a full one = perfect mellow vibe without being too zoned outMorning Reconnection: The importance of that special wake-up call to reconnect and reassure each otherUpcoming Events:📅 February 14 - Cupid's Shaft (Valentine's Party) at Wicked Fun Club📅 March 14 - Erin Go Bra-less: Scream of the Banshee (St. Patrick's Party) at Wicked Fun Club📅 Early April - 2069: The Sex Odyssey (Sci-Fi Night) at Wicked Fun Club📅 May - MILF Madness (third time's the charm!)Plus: Potential Friday night watch parties and planning for Naughty in New Orleans!Get all the details and sign up at wickedfunclub.com - one-month memberships and single-day passes available!Sign up for our monthly newsletter at mysecretseduction.com to stay updated on all our comings and goings!Got questions or want to share YOUR lifestyle resolutions? Email us at [email protected] or leave a voicemail on our website!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | TelegramSearch: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #NewYearsResolutions #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #IPGEvents #HotelTakeover #LifestyleGoals #SwingersAdvice #LifestyleCommunity #SwingersLife #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #OpenRelationship #LifestyleTips #NewYearsEve #SwingersClub #AdultLifestyle #FullSwap #BlissCruise #LifestyleParty #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #SexPositiveResolutions #LifestyleConnections #CoupleGoals #SwingersNewYear #PoolParty #HotelTakeover2026 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ghost of a Chance - Why Ghosting Hurts the Lifestyle 👻Join John and Susan for a real-talk episode about one of the most frustrating experiences in the lifestyle: getting ghosted! From no-shows at planned meetups to communication that suddenly goes silent, J and S break down why this behavior is so damaging to the community—and share their own ghost stories that'll make you shake your head.In This Episode:👻 The Ghosting Epidemic: John and Susan's personal experiences with being ghosted—not just radio silence during chats, but full-on no-shows after making concrete plans to meet. Hear about the couple who left them waiting at a bar in the city and the recent hot date that never materialized despite confirmed arrangements.🤬 Why It's So Damn Rude: Whether it's the lifestyle or a job interview, basic courtesy matters. J and S explain why ghosting is worse than just changing your mind—it's about respect, communication, and treating people like actual human beings.🔍 What's Really Going On?: Are they picture hunters? Is one partner communicating without the other's knowledge? J and S explore the possible reasons people ghost—but emphasize that NONE of them excuse failing to send a simple "sorry, can't make it" message.💡 Pro Tip - Day Use Hotels: Quick recommendation for dayuse.com if you're looking for affordable hotel blocks (4-5 hours) for daytime meetups. Perfect for those afternoon adventures without breaking the bank!Sexy Storytime - Sadie Hawkins Success:After a week's delay (they were too busy enjoying their afterglow!), John and Susan dish on their incredibly successful Sadie Hawkins party at Wicked Fun Club! This ladies-choice event featured games, prizes, and some seriously hot encounters:🔥 Sue's Adventures: From oral play with gorgeous single guy R (who definitely knew how to do the "hello"!) and friend A to a private room session with R that left everyone satisfied🔥 John's Surprise: Despite not planning to play, John got seduced by a friend who knew exactly how to push his buttons (literally!). Missionary, doggy style, and a five-way that had the whole club buzzing🎮 The Perfect Mix: Veterans and brand-new couples mingling naturally, confident single men who approached correctly, and enough chemistry to light up the whole clubUpcoming Events:📅 December 13 - Secret Santa/Sexy Santa Christmas Party at Wicked Fun Club📅 December 30-31 - IPG New Year's Eve celebration in Scranton, PA (2-day event with clothing-optional pool!)📅 January 3 - Swinger Match Game Night at Wicked Fun Club (Newlywed Game, Match Game, Win Lose or Draw - plus J and S's birthday celebration!)Coming Soon: Sci-Fi Night, Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's Day, MILF Madness (May), possible Friday night watch parties, and planning for Naughty in New Orleans!Check out all the details at wickedfunclub.com - one-month memberships and single-day passes available!The Bottom Line: DON'T GHOST! Even a polite excuse is better than leaving people hanging. Be honest, be respectful, or at the very least—make up a decent lie. The lifestyle is built on communication and respect, so let's all do better.Got questions, ghost stories, or topic ideas? Email us at [email protected] our website at mysecretseduction.com for all episodes, blog entries, and to leave us a voicemail!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Saints and Sinners | Wicked Fun Club | Club4PlaySearch: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #Ghosting #LifestyleEtiquette #SwingersAdvice #Communication #LifestyleCommunity #SwingersLife #LifestyleEvents #SadieHawkins #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #OpenRelationship #LifestyleTips #SwingersClub #AdultLifestyle #RespectMatters #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #LifestyleParty #ClubLife #HotDate #NoShow #LifestyleRules #SwingersEtiquette #BeARespectfulSwinger #DontGhost Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Hello - Breaking the Ice in the Lifestyle 🎙️Join John and Susan for an honest conversation about one of the most crucial (yet often overlooked) aspects of the lifestyle: simply saying hello! Fresh from hosting a meet and greet in New Jersey, John and Sue break down why that first introduction matters so much—and why some people struggle with it more than others.In This Episode:💬 The Power of "Hello": Why the simple act of introducing yourself is the foundation of every connection in the lifestyle—whether it leads to friendship, play, or just a great conversation. Remember: Hello doesn't mean you're entitled to anything; it's just a greeting!🎉 Meet and Greet Mastery: Behind-the-scenes insights from hosting their recent New Jersey event with Passions Playhouse. From the couples who instantly connected to those who stayed frozen in the corner, John and Susan share what they observed and how they helped facilitate introductions.😬 Breaking Through the Awkwardness: Understanding why saying hello can feel intimidating (especially for newbies!) and practical tips for pushing past that initial discomfort. Spoiler: Complimenting someone's shoes works wonders!🤝 Etiquette Matters: The right way to approach couples in the lifestyle, why it's important to greet the man first, and how to avoid coming across as aggressive—especially for single men.💭 No Expectations Rule: Why going into any lifestyle event with zero expectations is key to actually having a good time. Not every hello leads to play, and that's perfectly okay!Sexy Storytime:Sue shares the story of their first hotwife party and how one gentleman—we'll call him "C"—did the hello just right. From that initial friendly conversation to their recent fifth meetup (featuring some creative coconut oil usage!), this is a testament to how genuine connection starts with simple respect and good manners.Upcoming Events:📅 November 15 - Bucket and Suckin' Cowboy Birthday Bash at Wicked Fun Club📅 November 22 - Sadie Hawkins Party at Wicked Fun Club (ladies, YOU'RE in control!)📅 December 6 - Slumber Party hotel gathering with Passions Playhouse in Fishkill, NY📅 December 13 - Sexy Santa Secret Santa party at Wicked Fun Club📅 December 30-31 - IPG New Year's Eve celebration in Scranton, PAGet all the details and sign up at mysecretseduction.com - check out the blog, take our podcast survey, and sign up for our newsletter!Got questions, comments, or topic ideas? Email us at [email protected] - we'd love to hear from you!Connect with us:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Saints and Sinners | Wicked Fun Club | Club4PlaySearch: JandSExplorersHashtags:#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #SwingersAdvice #MeetAndGreet #LifestyleEtiquette #NewbieAdvice #LifestyleCommunity #SwingersLife #HotWife #LifestyleEvents #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #OpenRelationship #LifestyleFriendship #CommunicationSkills #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #PassionsPlayhouse #LifestyleTips #SwingersClub #AdultLifestyle #LifestyleConnections #SadieHawkins #HotelTakeover #LifestyleParty #CoconutOil #NoExpectations Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Playing Catchup - Our Most Recent Adventures 🔥Join John and Susan as they catch up their listeners on their most recent adventures in the lifestyle! From club takeovers to hotel takeovers, these two are spilling ALL the tea on their experiences as they bounced from Connecticut to Pennsylvania and back again.In This Episode:🎮 Sweatpants & Leggings Party at Wicked Fun Club: John and Susan hosted My Secret Seduction's cozy-yet-sexy party at the brand NEW Wicked Fun Club in Connecticut. Their fun, flirty games heated things up and led to an unforgettable five-way with another couple and a unicorn! Talk about a perfect night!🏨 Club4Play Hotel Takeover - Connecticut: After a two-year hiatus, J and S returned to Club4Play's hotel takeover and it did NOT disappoint! Hear about their reunion with a couple Sue had played with before (chemistry for the win!) plus Sue's wild ride on the sex swing that left everyone breathless.🎃 IPG's Halloween Hotel Takeover - Pennsylvania: This two-day extravaganza was EVERYTHING! From clothing-optional pool shenanigans to a sexy card game that escalated quickly, John and Susan had the time of their lives connecting with friends old and new. Halloween costume play never felt so good!Upcoming Events & Parties:📅 November 8 - Mingle and Connect gathering in Mahwah, NJ📅 November 22 - Sadie Hawkins party at Wicked Fun Club📅 December 6 - Slumber Party hotel gathering in Fishkill, NY📅 December 13 - Secret Santa party at Wicked Fun ClubGet all the details on upcoming lifestyle gatherings and how YOU can join the fun by visiting our website - mysecretseduction.comGot a story to share? We're all ears! Drop us a line at [email protected] - we're dying to hear your adventures!Connect with us across the lifestyle:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Saints and Sinners | Wicked Fun Club | Club4PlaySearch: JandSExplorers#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #HotelTakeover #ClubTakeover #LifestyleTravel #SwingersAdvice #OpenRelationship #LifestyleCommunity #AdultTravel #LifestyleEvents #CNM #ENM #SexPositive #RelationshipPodcast #AlternativeLifestyle #CouplesGoals #LifestyleTips #SwingersLife #LifestyleParty #SwingersClub #AdultLifestyle #LifestyleStories #OpenMarriage #ConsensualNonMonogamy #HalloweenParty #LifestyleHotelParty #SwingersParty #UnicornLife #ClothingOptional #SexSwing #LifestyleFriends #MySecretSeduction #WickedFunClub #Club4Play Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hotel Takeover Takeaways: Essential Tips & First-Time Lifestyle Couple ExperienceJoin J and S as they share insider tips from their recent New Orleans hotel takeover experience! Whether you're a seasoned lifestyle enthusiast or curious newcomer, learn what to pack, how to navigate clothing-optional amenities, and handle those awkward moments when you need to contact the front desk while half-naked guests fill the hallways.In This Episode:Essential packing list and preparation tips for lifestyle hotel takeoversNavigating clothing-optional pool parties and public spacesReal talk about hotel etiquette in adult-only environmentsPlus: Hear about J and S's unforgettable Bronx house party where they helped guide a nervous new couple (the Cheesecakes) through their first lifestyle experience. This heartwarming story of connection, communication, and sensual exploration left everyone wanting more!Upcoming Events & Parties: Catch J and S at these October events, including their exclusive Sweatpants and Leggings Party at Wicked Fun Club in Connecticut! Get all the details on upcoming lifestyle gatherings and how you can join the fun.Ready to share your own adventures? Drop us a line at [email protected] - we're dying to hear your stories!Connect with us across the lifestyle:SLS | SDC | Fetlife | Saints and Sinners | Wicked Fun Club | Club4PlaySearch: JandSExplorers#LifestylePodcast #SwingingLifestyle #EthicalNonMonogamy #LifestyleCouple #HotelTakeover #NewOrleans #LifestyleTravel #SwingersAdvice #OpenRelationship #LifestyleCommunity #AdultTravel #LifestyleEvents #CNM #PolyamoryPodcast #SexPositive #RelationshipPodcast #AlternativeLifestyle #CouplesGoals #LifestyleTips #SwingersLife Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.