Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat

Welcome back to Knee Deep in Beats, Part 2 — our continued conversation with Sacramento’s very own audio engineers/producers @splashrecordz and @msvameproductions.This episode gets into:What it really looks like to be AFAB & queer in the music industryHow streaming platforms shape who “makes it”The tension between authenticity + capitalismThe renaissance of physical media (vinyl supremacy!!)How queerness shapes artistry, survival, and soundThe cutest queer wife stories you’ve ever heardK.K. Slider collabs that should exist yesterdayOur panel’s current unhinged song loops and feminist anthemsWe also talk about Ms. Vame’s exciting new role with We Make Noise Sacramento, Sam’s shark-tracking side quests, and why community is the real engine behind innovation.Follow our guests & their counterparts:Sam Splash — @splashrecordzMs. Vame — @msvameproductionsComposeHer Collective — @composeher.officialVirgo & Evette Wav — @virgogabrielle & @evette.wavWe Make Noise (Sacramento chapter info coming soon!)Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

In this episode of Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, hosts Cady Moore and Sharilyn Wester sit down with Sacramento-based producers and engineers Sam Splash and Ms. Vame (Vanessa Neves-Jackson) for a deep dive into queerness, feminism, and identity in today’s music industry.They break down what it means to be AFAB behind the boards, how queer artistry has shifted mainstream sound, and why community-centered collectives like ComposeHer are reshaping music from the inside out.You’ll hear conversations about:Overcoming misogyny in engineering and production spacesThe artists redefining genre and performance (hello, Doechii)Authenticity vs. queerbaiting in popHow queerness changed the sound of modern musicWhy femme collaboration—not competition—is the futureThe power of community in uplifting independent queer musiciansPlus, all the GayDHD goodness you expect: ovulation metaphors, historical rants, Naked Brothers Band lore, and even a detour into whale dildos.Follow our guests & their counterparts:Sam Splash — @splashrecordzMs. Vame — @msvameproductionsComposeHer Collective — @composeher.officialVirgo & Evette Wav — @virgogabrielle & @evette.wavNew episodes every other Wednesday.Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

This week, Cady and Sharilyn get knee deep in queer sex ed and are joined by Eva Bloom (@whatismybodydoing) — queer and trans late bloomer coach, inclusive sex educator, and host of Out in Bloom — for a cozy and frankly, charming, conversation about what it means to come into your queerness later in life, how to unlearn compulsory heterosexuality, and why sex ed should be way gayer.Together, they unpack:What “queer sex ed” actually means 🌈Late-blooming queerness and queer imposter syndromePleasure, play, and why scissoring is very real (and very hot)How to flirt without feeling creepyWhy laughter belongs in the bedroomD&D archetypes, sapphic book recs, and the final boss of queerness (spoiler: it’s shame)🛠️ Resources & Links:Eva Bloom: @whatismybodydoing | Out in Bloom Podcast | Late Bloomer Support ClubQueer 🌽 Recs: QueerCrush.com | Pink Label TV | Crash Pad Series |Books Mentioned: Every Step She Takes by Allison Cochran | Can’t Spell Treason Without Tea by Rebecca Thorne - BONUS: Find Eva’s post for cozy sapphic fall reads HERE.Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

What happens when you love your partner but living together just isn’t working? Cady and Sharilyn dive into the concept of de-nesting — choosing to live apart while staying together — and how it can reshape what commitment looks like.Cady shares her personal story of de-nesting with her husband Navarre after nearly a decade of cohabitation, revealing what led to the decision, how neurodivergence played a role, and how they maintain connection and intimacy across two homes.Later, Navarre joins for a candid conversation about how de-nesting strengthened their marriage, improved communication, and reignited appreciation for intentional time together.In this episode:What “de-nesting” actually means (and how it’s not a breakup)How to know when it’s time to consider living separatelyThe intersection of neurodivergence, non-monogamy, and household dynamicsRedefining what “marriage” looks like outside of monogamy and cohabitationWhy intentionality beats proximity in long-term relationshipsMentioned in this episode:Couples therapy & communication practicesEmotional labor and household managementThe importance of chosen family and queer community🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts, and follow us on Instagram @kneedeeppodcast.Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

Welcome back to Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, your favorite GayDHD podcast hosted by Cady and Sharilyn. This week, we’re taking the scenic route through non-monogamy: how we practice it, what it means to us, and how we manage everything from jealousy to joy (and all the chaos in between).💬 In this episode, we talk about:How hierarchy, solo poly, and kitchen-table dynamics actually play out in real lifeWhat jealousy really means and how to turn it into self-knowledgeWhy communication and check-ins are the unsung heroes of healthy relationshipsHow capitalism creeps into our expectations of love and commitmentThe overlap between polyamory, queerness, and kink — and why the Venn diagram can sometimes look like a circleWhat community looks like when your chosen family is your familyYou’ll also hear about our D&D-inspired polycule (yes, there’s a D20 on our imaginary coat of arms), a spontaneous Pokémon metaphor, and why it’s totally valid to both cry over your luteal phase and fight God on a Tuesday.🎧 Listen if you’ve ever wondered how people “make poly work,” if you’ve struggled with jealousy, or if you just want to eavesdrop on two queer femmes laughing their way through love, logistics, and the human experience.Referenced in this Episode:@femmmeowFollow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

It’s officially spooky season, and we’re bringing the chills, laughs, and queer chaos straight to your ear holes! In this “minisode”, Cady and Sharilyn get real about their complicated relationships with horror, swap hilarious Halloween stories, and dig into why spooky season feels so special.From haunted house trauma to legendary costumes (hello, Big Naturals Gandalf!), this episode is part nostalgia trip, part queer nerd-out, and part cultural commentary. We’ll talk about what makes gothic horror so alluring, how true crime can shift from exploitative to empowering, and why D&D is the ultimate way to reconnect with your inner child.What you’ll hear in this episode:📚 The Five by Hallie Rubenhold — reframing Jack the Ripper’s victims through a feminist lens.🧛 Vampire girlies unite: a heated round of F/Marry/Block featuring Edward Cullen, Damon Salvatore, and Matthew de Clermont.🎲 Sharilyn’s first-ever campaign as Dungeon Master, and how D&D can be both healing and hilarious.🎥 Childhood spooky movie trauma (Bride of Chucky, Darkness Falls, The Ring… yikes).👗 Costume history: from bounty hunter fails to Sally Slater from Haunted Mansion.🍬 Candy, witches, vampires, and polycule group costumes - spooky hypotheticals galore.Whether you’re here for the laughs, the lore, or the Halloween vibes, this episode will have you cackling and cringing in all the right ways.👉 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts!And don’t forget to rate, review, and subscribe so you never miss a ride in the passenger seat.Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

In this episode of Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, Cady and Sharilyn welcome Lindy — a powerhouse in the Kansas City rope community and the foundress of the Sisterhood of Artistic Rope (SOAR). Together, we unravel the art of Shibari: its rich history, its role in queer culture, and how rope can be both sensual expression and radical empowerment.Lindy opens up about building safer, more inclusive spaces for femme-identifying folks in the rope scene, shares moving success stories from SOAR participants, and takes us behind the curtain of their newest venture blending burlesque and rope performance.You’ll also hear practical advice for newcomers curious about rope, reflections on community and connection, and plenty of laughs as we tie it all together (pun intended).✨ Whether you’re rope-curious, a seasoned rigger, or simply here for the stories, this episode invites you to reflect on identity, expression, and what it means to feel empowered in your body.NOTE FROM OUR GUEST AND ROPE PRO: Rope can be potentially very dangerous, so it's always recommended to do research, go to classes, etc. before diving in. ALSO, any body can be a rope body, but what each person is capable of may vary and that's ok! Explore safely, y’all!Referenced in this Episode:Sanu the Poly Fairy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sanuthepolyfairy/Shay Tiziano on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/shaytiziano/?hl=enTying & Flying (book) by Shay TizianoShibari Study (paid subscription on app)The Duchy (free & paid content)Rope365ropestudy.com (lots of free content)Connect with Lindy:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hopsandropes/ (Private, but feel free to DM and let her know that you heard her on the pod!)SOAR Instagram: @sisterhoood.of.artistic.ropeSOAR FetLife: SOAR_KCSOAR Facebook: SOAR KCFollow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

Welcome to Season 2!! In this episode, Cady and Sharilyn journey into the realm of fantasy. Together, they unpack its origins, representation, and how gender bias has shaped the genre. They tackle the Bechdel Test and shine a light on why romance deserves more respect in fantasy storytelling.The conversation celebrates under-recognized voices, highlighting the importance of diversity, strong female characters, and inclusive narratives. Along the way, Cady and Sharilyn share their own childhood and young adult favorites, reflecting on how those stories shaped their identities. They also explore the transformative role of fan fiction and small creators in pushing the genre forward.Of course, it wouldn’t be Knee Deep without some giggles. The gworls get delightfully silly with a juicy (and mildly unhinged) “hear me out.”Find our book list below!Queer + BIPOC Authors:Iron Widow Xiran Jay ZhaoDaughter of the Moon Goddess Sue Lynn TanEarthsea Ursula K. Le GuinCady & Sharilyn’s Faves:Throne of Glass Sarah J. MaasA Discovery of Witches Deborah HarknessPercy Jackson & the Olympians (series) Rick RiordanProtector of the Small (series) Tamora PierceChildhood Nostalgia:Shatter Me by Tahereh MafiA Great and Terrible Beauty by Libba BrayVampire Kisses by Ellen SchreiberHush, Hush by Becca FitzpatrickBlue Bloods by Melissa de la CruzAnita Blake, Vampire Hunter (series) by Laurell K. Hamilton Vampire Academy by Richelle Mead Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

Buckle up for a season finale ride! In this episode of Knee Deep in the Passenger Seat, your hosts Cady and Sharilyn get personal (per usual) - talking about the chaos of moving, what they’ve learned from season one, and why community really is everything.We dig into the power of storytelling, the harm of medical misinformation, and why centering diverse voices is non-negotiable when it comes to reproductive justice and healthcare. Plus, we break down our top takeaways from the season and our silliest moments. Finally, we treat you to a little tease of what’s coming next - think: neurodivergent joy, non-monogamy realness, and queer history that deserves the spotlight. You don’t wanna miss this one, kids!Follow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!

In this episode, we finish our crucial conversation with Dr. Thalia McCann, an infectious disease specialist, about the power of trust and communication—especially for queer patients navigating the medical system. We unpack the impact of anti-science propaganda on public health and why effective science communication is more important than ever.But that’s not all—we also discuss an exciting new project aimed at educating the public about healthcare and supplements, the representation of women and marginalized communities in both medicine and literature, and the need for strong, well-rounded female characters. And because we can’t resist a little fun, we wrap up with a lighthearted chat about cryptids and some of our favorite (and most cringe-worthy) literary tropes.Join us for an episode full of insights, laughs, and just a little bit of Bigfoot talk. 🎙️✨Referenced in this Episode:Sci-Comm Resources from Dr. McCann:Science Literacy Foundation Resource GuideFactCheck.Org’s SciCheck featureScience vs. PseudoscienceWebsites for Fact-CheckingFollow Us:Instagram: @KneeDeepPodcastTikTok: @KneeDeepPodcastCady: @ageofsexplorationSharilyn: @queerwomenspoetrycollectiveSupport Us on Patreon:Help us keep the conversation going by supporting us on Patreon! 🖤 Send Us Your Questions or Comments:We love hearing from you! Got a question or a topic you’d like us to cover? Email us at [email protected] for tuning in, and don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review!