Biblical Counseling and Unfulfilled Longings / Janet Aucoin | (S5 E13)

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail talk about fashion vs. substance. They spend the first 20 minutes or so talking theory, jumping off from an article by Clint Manley on our desires being mediated by the sight of another person enjoying something. Then they move into the idea of trends, as they relate to clothing, food, worship styles, and culture building. Are trends good, bad, or neutral? How do they work in the church? Are we imitating Christ when we set trends? Who are we looking to ultimately, to discover what is attractive and enjoyable? https://dc.swosu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=3341&context=mythlore

In this episode, Abigail visits with Rachel in Moscow, Idaho. They talk about common temptations for young women, sentimentalism, and facing difficult times as a mother with courage and faithfulness. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly interviews Janet Aucoin, a pastor's wife, mother, and grandmother who has many years of experience in Biblical counseling. They talk about the Biblical counseling movement, discipleship in the church, being the "taste" to others without trying to be the "feast" for them, and living the Christian life with unfulfilled longings. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Abigail and Tilly discuss self-care and connect it all back to (again) marriage. What does self care even mean? What are some principles of sabbath rest and body stewardship that are worth discussing, if we reject worldly claims about self care? What does all this have to do with marriage? They also discussed the very subtle ways we try to control our husband's behavior, and the fears that might lie behind those attempts. How do you build relational capital in a marriage so that your input is actually helpful and functional? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail do another deep dive on marriage. They talk about ways of being a genuine helper, bringing ideas and concerns up in truly helpful ways. They talk about ways of talking about your husband that are helpful to both you and to other women, and matching that honor in the way you speak TO him in private. Why are men drawn to kind women of all ages? When you live in the fullness of Christ's goodness to you, how does that affect your marriage? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail are joined by Dr. Joe Rigney to talk about Lewis's essay The Inner Ring. What is the inner ring and how does it affect our friendships and relationships in the church? How does it manifest differently between men and women? What are the dangers of becoming an "inner ringer"? How should women conduct themselves in the many circles of influence they are a part of? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail talk about ways that a wife can improve her marriage. A wife has immense power in the Spirit to change the atmosphere of her marriage. But how? How specific should we be in asking for what we want? Should we offer input in the form of "helpful" questions? What is the role of thanks and gratitude in the atmosphere of a marriage? What is the role of the marriage bed? What words can we use to let our husbands know we believe he is capable of making decisions and getting things done? Are you ready to try the "three thanks a day" challenge? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

Abigail introduces her friend, Katie Semple, to the Home Fires listeners. They talk about being faithful during a season of unwanted singleness (even when navigating awkward and insensitive comments) and also how married women and unmarried women can serve alongside each other in the family of God with great fruitfulness. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Tilly and Abigail talk about self-worth and women. When people repeat the message "you are worthy" to women, citing this as the reason why Christ came and died for them, what are they trying to do? What is the proper kind of self-worth, self-esteem, self-regard? Is that even the right question? What is it about women that make us feel like we need to tell them about their worth? Bonus: Abigail gives an honest review of the Bosch oven, which may lock itself and refuse to talk to you. Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/ 

In this episode, Abigail and Tilly talk about social media. How do we steward social media, with all its opportunities and challenges? How do we steward our time and attention? What are the blessings that social media have brought to our lives? (Abigail and Tilly's real-life friendship is one.) How do we protect our kids from the harmful effects of early use? Is Tilly right and should we all just opt out and also move our TVs to the garage? Or is Abigail right and we should learn to use these apps on mission? Check out more from Abigail, Tilly, and other Christian women on Canon+: https://canonplus.com/