156. [Bitesize] Forgiving Your Caregivers..Shifting From Blame To Compassion

"Your body is not fighting against you, it's fighting for you."In this episode, Kayla shares an enlightening conversation with Alexis Florentina, a trauma-trained somatic practitioner, to explore the intricate relationship between trauma, the body, and transformation. They discuss the importance of understanding pain as a messenger, the shift from a fixing mindset to being present in the body, and the role of curiosity in self-attunement. They also discuss attachment styles and their impact on nervous system regulation, emphasizing the need for compassion and reparenting in the healing process. Ultimately, they highlight that healing is not just about doing but about creating safety and space for the body to heal itself.TakeawaysThe body is a messenger, not an enemy.Curiosity about our body is essential for healing.Self-attunement helps in recognizing bodily signals.Attachment styles influence our nervous system responses.Compassion is crucial in the healing journey.Healing is a process of slowing down and listening.Capacity for change is always fluctuating.We can find glimmers of hope even in tough times.'You make sense' is a powerful affirmation for healing.Keywordstrauma, somatic healing, nervous system, attachment styles, self-attunement, emotional pain, body awareness, healing journey, transformation, mindfulnessLearn more about Alexis and her offers hereFollow her amazing content here----If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.

"Psychology helps us understand how we became who we are, spirituality helps us remember who we've always been."In this conversation, Kayla and Beatrice explore the intricate relationship between psychology and spirituality, emphasizing the importance of integrating both for holistic healing. They discuss personal experiences with faith, loss, and the challenges of navigating mental health while maintaining a spiritual connection. The episode highlights the significance of community support, daily obedience to God, and the need to balance self-awareness with faith. Ultimately, they encourage listeners to embrace both psychology and spirituality in their healing journeys, fostering a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationship with the divine.TakeawaysSpirituality and psychology complement each other in healing.Healing involves both mental and spiritual dimensions.Daily obedience to God is essential for spiritual growth.Anxiety often stems from a lack of faith.Community support is crucial for personal healing.Psychology should not replace spiritual beliefs.Self-awareness is key to understanding personal patterns.Surrendering control can lead to peace.Real transformation occurs when psychology and spirituality are merged.keywordspsychology, spirituality, healing, self-discovery, faith, mental health, community, personal growth, trauma, surrender----Learn more about Beatrice Cortez, her non-profit, and more!---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.

Honesty Is Your Key To FreedomIn this episode, Kayla shares her personal journey of overcoming struggles with mental health and the importance of honesty in achieving personal growth. She discusses her experiences with therapy, acceptance, and the need for authenticity and attachment in life. Through her three-part framework, she emphasizes the significance of acknowledging one's feelings and the transformative power of being honest with oneself.TakeawaysHonesty is crucial for personal growth and health.The belief about oneself influences feelings and actions.There is a difference between how life looks and how it feels.Acceptance is the first step towards change.Acknowledgment of one's situation is empowering.Building authenticity requires self-trust and expression.Emotional tools are essential for navigating life's challenges.Practicing honesty can lead to a sense of freedom.Setting boundaries is a vital part of self-care.Choosing supportive relationships fosters personal development.Keywordshealth, wellness, honesty, personal growth, self-acceptance, emotional health, habits, mental health, authenticity, attachmentApply for Kayla's One-On-One Coaching HERE---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.

TRIGGER WARNING: DOMESTIC VIOLENCEIn this episode of Habits You Love, host Kayla Fite speaks with Beatrice Cortes, a survivor of domestic violence who has turned her pain into purpose by founding a nonprofit and pursuing a career in psychology. They discuss the various forms of domestic violence, the challenges of leaving abusive relationships, and the importance of self-awareness and support systems in the healing process. Beatrice shares her personal journey, insights on recognizing red flags in relationships, and offers encouragement for those feeling stuck or hopeless.TakeawaysDomestic violence is not always physical; it can be emotional, psychological, or financial.Healing from abuse is a complex process that requires self-awareness.Recognizing red flags early can prevent deeper entanglements in toxic relationships.Support systems are crucial for those trying to leave abusive situations.The two-year mark after leaving an abusive relationship is often the most dangerous.Listening to your instincts is vital in recognizing unhealthy relationships.Resilience can be built through the experiences of overcoming abuse.It's important to have a safety plan when leaving an abusive relationship.Education and awareness about domestic violence can empower individuals.Not everyone is as hurtful as an abuser; there is hope for a better future.Keywordsdomestic violence, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, financial abuse, healing, support systems, advocacy, awareness, relationships, self-awarenessFollow and Connect with Beatrice HEREGet her amazing resources through her NonProfit Project30Five---This episode is sponsored by Air Doctor Pro! Go to ⁠www.airdoctorpro.com ⁠and use code HABITS to save up to $384 on the best air purifier on the market!---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.

Please join me in welcoming Meg Young to the podcast, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who specializes in trauma therapy, anxiety relief, and burnout recovery for helping professionals!In this conversation, Kayla Fite and Meg Young discuss the complexities of trauma therapy, particularly focusing on the experiences of first responders. They explore the importance of validation in therapy, the role of EMDR in trauma recovery, and the limitations of traditional talk therapy. The discussion emphasizes the need for community engagement and the significance of creating safe spaces for individuals to express their feelings and experiences. The conversation also explores anxiety, body-based tools for healing, and the connection between burnout and emotional well-being.TakeawaysValidation is crucial for individuals experiencing trauma.EMDR is an effective technique for processing trauma.Trauma can be a buildup of experiences, not just personal events.Therapy provides a safe space for individuals to express their feelings.The body holds onto trauma, which can affect mental health.Understanding triggers involves recognizing physical sensations.Emotional safety is as important as physical safety.Body-based tools can help manage anxiety effectively.Burnout is closely linked to emotional well-being and requires attention.Healing involves understanding the body's signals and responses.Keywordstrauma therapy, EMDR, first responders, mental health, validation, community events, burnout recovery, nervous system education, therapy techniques, anxiety relief, triggers, emotional responses, awareness, acceptance, acknowledgment, fear of rejection, vagus nerve, body-based healing, emotional safety, childhood experiences, anxiety, burnoutWork with Meg YoungBuy her book: Anxiety Unraveled---Apply for Kayla's One-On-One Coaching HERE---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.

If you're needing the perfect blend of motivation and visualization, go to activations.com/habits to claim your 14 day free trial + listen to this episode with the founder of the transformational app making waves in the personal development space!In this enlightening conversation, Kayla and Mimi Bouchard, founder of Activations, discuss the transformative power of habits and self-image in personal development. Mimi shares her journey from struggling with unhealthy habits to creating the Activations app, a unique approach to visualization that combines guided imagery with cinematic music. They explore the science behind activations, the importance of embodying one's future self, and the role of acceptance and responsibility in personal growth. TakeawaysActivations are a unique blend of visualization and music.Meditation focuses on stillness, while activations energize and inspire.The body plays a crucial role in personal development.Acceptance and responsibility are key to transformation.Being your future self now accelerates personal growth.Clarity about your future self is essential for change.Everyone has the potential to create their desired life.Healing can be a joyful and fun experience.Keywordshabits, personal development, self-image, visualization, activations, neuroscience, manifestation, abundance, future self, personal growthFollow Mimi HEREGet Mimi's book HEREFollow Activations HERE14 Days FREE + a discount HERE---To try Activations FREE for 14 days plus get a massive discount on the yearly subscription, go to www.activations.com/habits. (you'll only get the discount through the link, not the app!)---If you're loving these episodes subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready to incorporate a life-changing habit into your day - without needing extra time!In this episode, Kayla Fite shares the concept of reparenting oneself, explaining its significance in emotional health and personal growth. Kayla provides practical steps for listeners to begin their own reparenting journey, emphasizing the importance of self-validation, setting boundaries, and creating a nurturing environment for oneself. TakeawaysReparenting oneself is crucial for emotional health.Self-awareness is key to understanding unmet childhood needs.Setting boundaries is essential for self-respect.Creating routines can foster a sense of safety.Inner child work involves connecting with your younger self.You can give yourself the love and validation you missed as a child.Reparenting is a practice that takes time and consistency.Healing your inner child can positively impact future generations.Keywordsself-awareness, emotional health, reparenting, inner child, personal growth, therapy, boundaries, self-validation, mental health, emotional intelligence---This episode is sponsored by Air Doctor Pro! Go to www.airdoctorpro.com and use code HABITS to save up to $384 on the best air purifier on the market!---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is for anyone who is... human <3Kayla discusses the essential emotional needs of children: authenticity and attachment. She explains how these two pillars are crucial for emotional health and how their absence can lead to various struggles in adulthood. She covers the importance of recognizing one's own childhood experiences, healing through reparenting, and practical steps to foster these qualities in oneself and in parenting. Lastly, Kayla emphasizes that it's never too late to address these needs and offers actionable advice for listeners.TakeawaysChildren need authenticity and attachment for emotional health.Attachment provides safety and unconditional love.Authenticity allows children to express themselves freely.Lack of these needs can lead to insecurity and disconnection.Healing is possible at any age through reparenting.Practicing authenticity can be done in small steps.Parents should encourage emotional expression in children.Apologizing to children teaches them about humility and repair.Breaking generational patterns is essential for healthy parenting.Keywordsemotional health, parenting, attachment, authenticity, self-improvement, inner child, emotional needs, personal growth, mental health, reparentingReferences:Secure Attachment Episode w/ Morgan McNeill (find the three other episodes on secure attachment in the show notes of this episode) To Be Magnetic (inner child healing work I do)----If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In This HYL Bitesize Episode...Kayla explores the profound impact of our lives on future generations and how we are shaped by those who came before us. She emphasizes that our thoughts, choices, and healing extend beyond ourselves, affecting seven generations back and forward. She highlights the importance of breaking generational patterns and trauma, and how healing can create a legacy of love and safety for future descendants. Kayla encourages listeners to view their healing journey as a collective responsibility, not just for themselves but for those they will never meet.TakeawaysYou are a culmination of the last seven generations.Your life doesn't just start with you.Your thoughts and choices impact future generations.You can stop inherited patterns and trauma.Trauma behaviors can be passed through DNA.Healing can also be inherited.You are the bridge between past and future generations.Healing is a collective responsibility.Your legacy can create a safer world for future descendants.Keywordsgenerational healing, impact, legacy, trauma, emotional wounds, healing, mindset, purpose, lineage, self-discovery--⁠⁠Apply to work with Kayla Here⁠⁠ Limited Spots Available NOW!Follow Kayla for more inspiration:⁠⁠⁠Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠Collab with her ⁠⁠⁠HERELearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Does your life look “good” on paper, but internally, you’re still anxious, still restless, and still trying to prove something to yourself or to someone else?Do you feel like no matter what you accomplish, you can never arrive at that deep sense of peace?Then listen and share this episode with someone you know feels the same.In this important episode, Kayla explores the psychological underpinnings of why many women equate achievement with self-worth and how this can lead to anxiety and burnout. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and shifting the focus from external validation to internal safety and self-acceptance. Through practical insights and reflective practices, she encourages listeners to redefine success and embrace stillness as a path to healing.TakeawaysMoms often feel a push and pull between their roles and personal ambitions.The pressure to achieve can stem from childhood experiences and societal expectations.Success is often equated with love and validation, leading to a cycle of anxiety.Hypervigilance in childhood can lead to adult behaviors of overachievement and anxiety.Recognizing the need for safety over success is crucial for mental well-being.It's important to separate self-worth from achievements and external validation.Practicing stillness and self-acceptance can help rewire the nervous system.Redefining success as alignment with one's true self can lead to fulfillment.Acknowledging the discomfort of rest is a step towards healing.Building a sense of internal safety is essential for personal growth.Keywordsmotherhood, identity, success, safety, mental health, personal growth, achievement, self-worth, nervous system, self-careReferences: Episode 167 with Becky Aste: When Talk Therapy Isn't EnoughApply now for Kayla's High Level Coaching Program "From Patterns to Power" ⁠(Limited spots open)---This episode is sponsored by AirDoctorPro! Go to ⁠www.airdoctorpro.com⁠ and use code HABITS to get up to $300 OFF + a FREE three year warranty!---If you're loving these episodes, please subscribe and leave a review!Let's Connect:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@kaylafite⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@habitsyoulove⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.kaylafite.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠*Kayla is not a mental health professional. Kayla and Habits You Love is not a substitute or meant to be intended to diagnose, treat, or make medical claims. All content is for informational purposes only backed by Kayla's own research.This podcast is brought to you by Cloud10 and iHeart Radio.Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices