Fashion is my Foreplay

Part 2 with Ruben is here 💚In this episode of Fashion Is My Foreplay, we move beyond building sites and Berlin clubs and dive into:• Shopping almost exclusively in charity shops• Why making your own clothes changes how you shop• Falling out of love with creativity (and how to stay in love with it)• Sharing vulnerability online• Body image, insecurity & confidence• Going on I Kissed A Boy and being perceived by the public• What reality TV teaches you about yourself• Dressing for confidence (low-waisted trousers supremacy)• Everything showers to set you up for a good day/nightWe talk about being “perceived,” queer representation, platform vs identity, and what it really means to reinvent yourself publicly.This is the softer, more reflective half of our conversation, and honestly one of my favourites.Follow Ruben:Fashion: https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/Personal: https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/Follow me:@[email protected]⚠️ Content note: discussion of mental health, internalised homophobia, body image, queer identity and reality TV exposure.

This week on Fashion Is My Foreplay, I’m joined by Ruben, creative, designer, body-paint enthusiast and self-described fashion alien.I originally found him on Instagram after a Reel where he talked about working on a construction site while secretly listening to Drag Race in his headphones. Fast forward to painting himself green, building avant-garde queer fashion, and unlearning internalised homophobia, and I was obsessed.In Part 1 we talk about:• Being queer in hyper-masculine spaces (like building sites)• “Performing masculinity” vs performing authenticity• Growing up in a Steiner school (yes… eurythmy included)• Why lockdown changed everything• Drag Race, Bimini & Gottmik’s impact• Internalised homophobia & trying to be “palatable”• From furniture design to Berlin nightlife fashion• Making clothes for queer bodies , without formal fashion trainingThis is about creativity, queerness, identity, fantasy, and the freedom that comes when you stop trying to be “normal.”This is Part 1 — Part 2 drops next week.Follow Ruben:Fashion: https://www.instagram.com/rubenbodower/Personal: https://www.instagram.com/rexyruben/Follow the podcast:Host: @fashionismyforeplayEmail: [email protected]⚠️ Content note: Discussion of mental health, internalised homophobia, queer identity, nightlife culture and brief mentions of anxiety/depression.

This week on Fashion Is My Foreplay, I’m joined by Ben, the creator of Brighton’s brand new monthly queer night: Dirty Talk This episode is a little different, more of an event special, where we talk all about what Dirty Talk is, why Brighton needs more queer nightlife spaces, and what you can expect from the launch night this Friday 6th February at CHALK.We cover:– The vision behind Dirty Talk– Drag, pole, go-go dancers + runway moments– Building inclusive, accessible queer spaces– Brighton nightlife culture – What to wear, who it’s for, and why you should come danceDirty Talk Launch Night📍 CHALK, Brighton🗓 Friday 6th February🎟 Tickets: https://www.fatsoma.com/e/cyajde51/dirty-talk-01Follow the event: @dirtytalk.btnhttps://www.instagram.com/dirtytalk.btnContent Warnings:Adult themes, mild sexual humour/language, queer nightlife discussion.Follow the pod: @fashionismyforeplayGuest enquiries: [email protected]

PART 2 of my conversation with Violet (@imissviolet) goes deeper, into politics, protest culture, trans survival, sexuality, confidence, and what it actually means to build a livable future while you’re exhausted.We talk about:– Protest culture, burnout & why communities turn on themselves– ACT UP, AIDS history & what’s been erased from collective memory– Being trans in the current political climate– Experiencing hate crime & navigating safety– Gray sexuality, desire, communication & sex as “drag”– Confidence, self-love, affirmations & building yourself up– Foreplay as ritual, music, comfort & careThis episode is raw, funny, heavy at times, and deeply human. This is PART 2 of a two-part conversation.If you haven’t listened to PART 1 yet, start there first.Content Warnings (PART 2):Adult themes, sex & sexuality, gender identity & trans experience, hate crime discussion, political content, protest & activism, mental health, medical discussion (endometriosis, HPV), strong language.Follow us:Host: @fashionismyforeplayGuest: @imissviolet Listen on Spotify & watch on YouTube — search Fashion Is My ForeplayGuest enquiries: [email protected]

Welcome back to Fashion Is My Foreplay, and we’re kicking off with Violet (@imissviolet) for a chaotic, honest, hilarious conversation that covers everything from London Fashion Week shows to identity, hormones, dating, and why pretending to be “normal” is overrated.We talk about:– How we met through the Dr Noki /fashion show circuit– Modeling, TikTok, agencies & unexpected fashion moments– Burnout, politics, community, and creating more than you consume– Gender fluidity, pronouns, hormones & the reality of being perceived– ADHD/autism, oversharing, and being real online– Dating, falling fast, open relationships & communicationThis is PART 1 — PART 2 is coming next week!Content Warnings (PART 1):Adult themes, sex & relationships, gender identity / trans experience, body image, mental health, eating disorder mention, neurodiversity discussion, discussion of surgery (FFS), and some strong language.Follow us:Host: @fashionismyforeplayGuest: @imissviolet🎧 Listen + watch: Spotify & YouTube (search Fashion Is My Foreplay)💌 Guest enquiries: [email protected]

I’m back ✨After a short (and very unplanned) break thanks to tech chaos, Christmas, and life doing its thing, I’m finally back behind the mic with a little welcome-back mini episode.In this solo chat, I catch you up on where I’ve been, what’s been going on in my life, why consistency sometimes disappears when you’re doing everything yourself, and what’s coming next for Fashion Is My Foreplay.We talk:– Taking breaks without guilt– Sex, confidence, exes (because of course)– Body image, saggy tits & still feeling sexy– Manifesting, vision boards & New Year “resolutions”– Money, credit scores & getting your shit together (slowly)– Why the pod is my main focus this yearThis episode is messy, honest, funny, and very much a “hi, this is where I’m at” reset, and now that my laptop is fixed, you’ll be hearing a lot more from me very soon.If you’ve missed the pod, I’ve missed you xXx🔗 WHERE TO FIND & FOLLOW MEPodcast:🎧 Fashion Is My Foreplay — available on Spotify & YouTubeInstagram:📸 @fashionismyforeplayTikTok:🎥 @fashionismyforeplayEmail / Guest Enquiries:💌 [email protected] are open. Chaos is welcome. Stories encouraged.

This week I’m joined by Sabry El Klifi (@sabryelklifi), Brighton-based fashion lover, model, stylist and content creator. To talk about style, confidence and why fashion is so much more than just clothes.We chat about how we met over those glasses, building a personal brand on Instagram, and the love, hate relationship with social media. Sabry opens up about growing up in France, moving to London and then Brighton, and how fashion became his daily therapy and creative outlet, helping him through low moments, breakups and rebuilding confidence.We talk about main character energy, compliments, not fitting in, buying with a vision, and why feeling sexy is an energy, not how much skin you show. And of course, we finish with my signature questions, including what makes him feel sexiest (spoiler: an oversized blazer).⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, sex and sexuality, body confidence, social media pressures.Follow Sabry: @sabryelklifi Follow the podcast: @fashionismyforeplay on Instagram & TikTok

This week I’m joined by the incredible Katie France London, the designer behind the iconic heart bags you’ve seen all over Instagram, including my own blue & orange one-off piece.We talk about how her brand began with kids’ clothing, how inclusivity led her to designing bags, and why accessories were can be the first tool for confidence when clothing didn’t feel available. Katie opens up about imposter syndrome, the power of colour, building confidence through dopamine dressing, and how she grew her loyal community online.We also talk about content creation, small business collaboration, vintage fabric sourcing, and how her bags have found their way onto the runway at London Fashion Week.And of course, we finish with the classic questions.⚠️ Content warning: Adult themes, discussions of body confidence and sexuality.📌 Follow & Support Katie:Website: https://www.katiefrancelondon.co.uk/?srsltid=AfmBOortndBJznUtaLdtSjLF1m46UYwUpBdSeQOQB1SPhyrRxpSP2Rh0Instagram: @katiefrance.londonFollow the pod on Instagram & TikTok: @fashionismyforeplay

In this episode, I’m joined by dancer, fitness instructor, and Brighton icon Luke Haley, who opens up about finding their people through dance, discovering their identity, and building confidence through performance.We talk about Luke’s journey from growing up in a conservative area to training at the BRIT School and Laine Theatre Arts, coming to terms with being non-binary, and finding freedom in Brighton’s queer scene.From go-go dancing and thrifted fashion to sex, self-expression, and body confidence, Luke embodies what Fashion Is My Foreplay is all about: owning who you are and turning it into art.Follow Luke - @lukey_haley https://www.instagram.com/lukey_haley?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of gender identity, sexuality, and adult themes.

In Part 2 of my chat with hair artist and author Vicki Lord, we dive even deeper, into dating, ADHD, self-pleasure, and what truly makes a woman good in bed.We talk about her new book "Lets talk... Sex, cuts and blowdries", why dating yourself is essential, and how confidence and connection are at the heart of great sex. From the female orgasm to self-love, this episode is raw, real, and full of laughter.And, of course, we end with my signature questions, “What item of clothing makes you feel sexiest?” and “What’s your favourite form of foreplay?”⚠️ Content warning: Discussions of sex, self-pleasure, female anatomy, dating, ADHD, and adult themes.💇‍♀️ Follow Vicki: ⁠@vickilordhair⁠📚 Publisher: ⁠@byjpmartin⁠🎧  Let's talk... Sex, cuts and blow-dries: Choosing the chair instead of the closet (out October 22nd) – available on Amazon: ⁠https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B0FRRSG1G3?ref=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&social_share=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cso_cp_mwn_dp_8R52FVER59M5TY50F0SY&bestFormat=true&fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAad-7etM9WBCgXsXIspFEt9O85EMfQ8CAjri2-ig1HkYOxIESqQFFJt6ZudwQw_aem_4b-S7nr_ZBhjTElmj1e86w