Dating Is Not Charity Work - SFTS91

Co-Host Ada Gore (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gore) My first-time guest Ada Gore is a brave--and terrific--woman. Despite angels themselves fearing to tread upon today's topic, she boldly goes there. What you're about to get, gentlemen, is the definitive guide to understanding women's monthly cycle. Now, I know what you're saying...what does this have to do with me? Well, if you want to successfully relate to women and navigate your relationship with her like a champion, this is one of those details you have GOT to get right. The problem is, according to Ada many women don't even understand what's going on there, let alone men. So first off, what qualifies Ada to be the woman to tell us all of this? Next, what difficulties did she and her husband have as a couple before they wrapped their heads around the issue? Ada teaches something called the Four Inner Seasons framework. What's up with that and how does it give crystal clarity to the topic? And what about us as men? Do we have "seasons" of our own that we go through? (Hey, don't knock it 'til you try it.)  On another note, what exactly is PMS, anyway, and how can we make it suck less for us as men?  What actually are the biggest mistakes we as men make when coping with women's "time of the month"? And how are women not off the hook here (no excuses!) Next, what's the "women work different" framework? And what has happened over the last century or so to, if anything, decrease how well men and women understand each other? And most of all, what's up with all the '60s music references? Have you checked out the power of VAMANOS yet? https://vamanos.chat  === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === I get it. We all want to be a woman's hero. But should we really be her straight-up savior? And do we really owe that to women we've just met, or aren't even dating, in particular? The "captain save-a-ho" scenario has been talked about for years in pickup artist circles. As cynical a concept as it is, it's rooted in hard truth every man should recognize. Unfortunately, our logic tends to go out the window when "clouded by beauty-vision". Here's how to recognize when you're falling into the trap, and how to be the great guy you are without sacrificing your dignity OR your hard-earned resources. And yes, here's the proper mindset to help you rise above the entire topic itself, once and for all.  Have you checked out the VAMANOS chatbot app? https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host George Dubec (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/networker) What if you could leverage your entire social network to find women to date? Or even your future wife? We're not talking about your aunt Gertrude setting you up with her friend's "nice" daughter here, for sure. My first-time guest George Dubec has developed what he calls the Referral Matchmaking System, and it's like being a "connector" on steroids. While talking about that is way too much fun in and of itself, we kick off the episode with war stories from when George was a classic ladies' man, long before the PUA movement was even thought about. He had the Saturday Night Fever clothes and the Smokey And The Bandit car. How much of his "old school" strategy still applies today? More than you think. For example, wait until you hear his answer to women showing up on dates with a bunch of endless Q & A. And what about chemistry? George has an interesting definition for that, as far as male/female interaction is concerned. Next, George talks about what he calls "The Love List". And it looks like we just coined "The Wingman Workshop" right after that. Next, we talk about the weirdest version of "approach anxiety" that's very real, but which nobody ever talks about...and yes, it has everything to do with social networking. And who exactly should we let "network" us into a date? There's a clear answer to that one. Have you checked out the official X & Y Communications dating advice chatbot yet? https://vamanos.chat === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Where you get advice on women, dating, relationships and being a better man matters. How do you decide what to listen to? Well, over the years, I've had my fair share of emails challenging whether I'm the right guy to sit in this chair or not. As my life has changed, so have the emails. Ultimately, track record matters...but there's something that matters EVEN more. Looking at the lighter side of this discussion, this brief episode gives you the real way to hold the advice you hear up to the light to make sure it's genuine. What? You haven't checked out the substack channel, yet? It's right here: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it? Why does being "nice" disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement? Finally, what if you're actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a "one hit wonder"? Check out https://mountaintoppodcast.com and get in on the daily newsletter and tons of other goodies. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!  

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Today's topic is an unpleasant one, but this has to be said. Too may of us as men are letting women get away with a vicious double-standard. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she should be allowed to treat you poorly in ways no man would ever get away with. And she's certainly not above the law. What are the situations where this is especially devastating to men? And here's an even better question: How did we get to the point where we let today's empowered women do all of this to us without any penalty whatsoever? Get in on my Substack channel at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

Co-Host Dr. D. Ivan "Doc" Young (mountaintoppodcast.com/ivan) We're all realize we're men biologically, but how are we at manifesting the masculinity within us? Yeah, on the surface it's a question that feels like it shouldn't have to be asked. But my guest, "Doc" Young is The Reality Check Doctor, and his practice as a behavioral neuroscientist often focuses on empowering men to be more self-aware in their masculinity. Right off the bat, Doc launches into the mindset of true masculinity versus merely being "macho". How did we get swindled into thinking that was what it's all about, anyway? He's got some ideas you've probably never considered before What's the real reason why there's really no female equivalent of "macho"? What's the real reason why under-evolved men don't attract women? If you're dating a "trophy woman", you may be making her feel NO differently than if you were still living at home with your mommy. Here's why... And what does Doc mean when he says a lot of men are looking for an external solution to an internal problem? What are the advantages of being a truly self-aware man, especially when it comes to developing traits that women are attracted to? How much of self-awareness comes from within as opposed to environmental factors around us? Next, discover why self-awareness isn't only about masculinity, it's about maturity. How do you become the respected patriarch of your entire family? How do our past experiences impact our current level of self-awareness, and how can we take back control? How is comparing ourselves to others the enemy of that? And finally, what does self-awareness have to do with your quality of live, and even your very longevity itself? Get more out of your success with women. Check out https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!  

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === The phenomenon I'm talking about today isn't new. But the Internet, then social media, virtual assistants and now AI have caused it to be more obvious.  It goes like this...when shielded by the "anonymity of the Internet", many humans have a tendency to, well...start talking to people in YouTube comment sections like they're not really human on the other side of the computer. Or worse, the "buffer zone" offered by the Internet empowers them to say things they wouldn't have the balls to say to anyone IRL. And when smartphones--and Siri--came along, the downward spiral continued. People started treating a simulated human horribly. Now, with so much AI, we find ourselves talking to soulless robots more than red-blooded humans sometimes. Where is all of this transhumanism really taking us...and what's the big deal, anyway? And what does this have to do with getting better with women? As it turns out, everything. Get in on my Substack channel at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack

Co-Host Owen Marcus (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/meld) My first-time guest Owen Marcus is a proponent of Polyvagal Theory, which is about how our body and brain work together to respond to stress, be that everyday annoyances or more significant trauma. It has a huge impact on how we as men carry ourselves physically. So you can easily figure out how understanding this theory and the somatic awareness that comes from it would make you more attractive to women. After all, when you gain mastery over your body in the way Owen talks about, your physiology is less likely to, well...sort of betray you. That may sound complex, but Owen describes it all in a way that not only makes perfect sense, but its practical and actionable. For example, this concept finally makes the concept of "emotional availability" more tangible, and even influences how we find ourselves being "Mr. Nice Guy". What is "co-regulation", and why is that social/physical phenomenon central to the whole theory? How does understanding Polyvagal Theory assist us greatly in the quest to make women feel safer and more comfortable with us? What are some physical manifestations of us not being in tune with really feeling what our bodies are telling us? (HINT: A lot of guys make themselves look like dorks without even realizing it.) What does Polyvagal Theory have to do with either you OR her feeling something is just a bit "off"? And how does it finally help us understand what it really means to "relax"? Next, there's fight or flight, or something WAY worse...and we as men do it ALL the time. Meanwhile, how does Polyvagal Theory contribute to being more charismatic? How can it help us not only mesmerize and attract women, but make more male friends as well? Get in on the new Substack and download Sticking Points Solved for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!

=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === It's the nightmare scenario. You're out and about, minding you own business...and then BOOM, there she is. Your ex. What do you say? What do you do? Is it useless to try to avoid her? What if she's with another guy...or worse, you're with another girl? Does it matter who broke up with whom? Does it matter if you were on decent terms vs. it being a knock down, drag out dramafest? Well, in this brief episode we'll check off all the boxes covering lots of scenarios, including what to do if you know in advance you're likely to see your ex somewhere. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/substack === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!