Ep. 143 Do You Have The Courage To Cheer Yourself On? Ft. Mel Robbins

Find Jerry HERE and make sure to check out his book ⁠RETURNING ⁠ . "For nearly five decades, I lived with the palpable pain of unhealed trauma and shame. Growing up in a house filled with poverty, substance abuse, and physical, sexual, and emotional abuse left me with profound wounds.  The trauma and abuse started as early as I can remember and so did my use of drugs and alcohol. At age five my parents began giving me alcohol to reward me for chores. At 9 I began using drugs with family members, and by the time I was 14 I was in rehab for drug and alcohol abuse. At 17, I decided to change and devoted my life in service to God, I served as a pastor for 13 years, and spent 16 years serving the poor. None of this removed the shame. The pressures and failures of trying to be a “good Christian” and to “please God” only filled me with more shame.  By my mid-forties the never ending need to try and prove myself turned me into a workaholic, wrecked my nervous system and led to severe burn-out. I was emotionally numb, suicidal, having constant anxiety and panic attacks, and was drinking myself to death. Finally it all fell apart. Over a two-year period, I had a heart attack, open heart surgery, a stay in rehab, a second divorce, and another visit to rehab. My last stay in rehab opened my eyes to the unhealed trauma and deep shame I was living with. I saw how my drinking and destructive behaviors were my best efforts to survive the pain I was in.  On my final day of rehab during my last group session, I spoke the words, “I am worthy of my own love.” When I said those words something tangibly shifted deep inside me.   For the first time in my life, I realized that the source of my suffering wasn’t just the pain of trauma but a separation from love, my own love. I decided at that moment I was going to learn what it meant to love myself, and how I could heal my life.Since that day, I have been researching and experimenting with the ways we heal. A journey that has taken me around the world and into places and spaces I never dreamed I would have ventured into. I’ve explored sources of suffering and the science and spiritual practices that heal us from within. Dissecting how trauma, toxic religious beliefs, unhealthy relationships, and society can contribute to a deep sense of shame, suffering, and addictions for many of us. I became a student of how mindfulness, meditation, self-examination, traditional and non-traditional therapies, self-love, and self-compassion help us rewire our systems and heal.  I discovered that we are the healers that we have been looking for all along. I began to see how we can awaken to our own ability to heal ourselves, how we can remove roadblocks that we have in loving ourselves, and the practices we can use to heal ourselves. Ultimately it is about healing our relationship with ourselves, and that relationship begins to heal when we give ourselves permission to love ourselves" ------------- Work with me, your host,  here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

⁠Shirin⁠ is a dedicated teacher, facilitator, and guide specializing in mindfulness and mindset. She has been featured as a wellness expert on the Today Show, The New York Times, Shape, and Cosmopolitan Magazine. After a decade as an award-winning opera singer, performing at prestigious venues like the Metropolitan Opera and Carnegie Hall, Shirin was burnt out and unhappy. This experience taught her that true fulfillment comes from within, not from external achievements. Through the practices of mindset and mindfulness, Shirin rediscovered her joy, resilience, and motivation. Now, as a coach, she helps others achieve both inner and outer fulfillment as they pursue their goals. She believes that we all have the power to heal, teach, and lead ourselves, and her mission is to empower women to reconnect with their inner wisdom. Shirin is certified by the International Coach Federation and integrates her background in meditation, spirituality, and the arts into her holistic approach to transformation. She has even developed her own coach certification program ⁠Wholehearted Life Coaching Certification: A decolonized approach to heart-centered coaching.⁠ A captivating speaker, she has presented at various events, including ALT Summit, Ignite Women Summit, Well Summit, Heal Haus, and the Assemblage. Additionally, she is the co-founder of The Glow Up and Brown Girl Brunch and hosts two podcasts, Wholehearted Coaching: The Podcast and Two Girls Talking Shit. ___________ Work with me, your host,  here: ⁠Thelovelyalea.com⁠  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at ⁠thelovelyalea.com⁠ Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.⁠patreon.com/thelovelyalea⁠ Follow me on Instagram ⁠instagram.com/thelovelyalea⁠ ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at ⁠Spiritualshitschool.com⁠ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

I have always wondered, "What is the point of earth? " Why do we come here and what are we coming here to learn? That the experience many of us have had here has been a little less than savory if you know what I mean. So I have been exploring this for many years and had a revelation or remembrance is what I'm calling it, that finally gives me the answers that I've been looking for to make sense of all this madness. Maybe it will help you too? Work with me, your host,  here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Matt Kahn is an incomparable spiritual teacher, highly attuned empathic healer, powerful speaker, and captivating author. He enriches people’s lives by providing heart-centered solutions that ignite, delight, and unite! Matt wrote the highly acclaimed books Whatever Arises, Love That, Everything Is Here to Help You, and The Universe Always Has a Plan, which have been translated into more than a dozen languages. His second book, Everything is Here to Help You, was featured in the “Be Kind” box by Ellen Degeneres. His newest book, All For Love: The Transformative Power of Holding Space, won a Gold IPPY Award (Independent Publishers Award) and an Ommie Award (World Vision category), and is topping bestseller lists. Matt has become a YouTube sensation with his healing and often humorous videos. With 22+ million YouTube channel views, followers are finding relief from the challenges of daily life through his heart-centered messages. Among his honors, Matt was named one of the top 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People by Watkins magazine, alongside the Dalai Lama and Eckhart Tolle.  You can access his documentary at  Matt's  website and check out the Trailer  Link. Work with me, your host,  here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Pamela Aaralyn is a world-renowned Trance Channel, Mystic, Spiritual Teacher, Oracle, Remote Viewer, and Galactic Historian. She is also a Sound Healer, Musician & Writer. Pamela is currently a Ph.D. student writing her work in the field of applied consciousness and practical mysticism. Pamela has been channeling and working with Angels, Ascended Masters, Galactic Beings, and Adepts since age five.   Pamela shares her insights gleaned from many years of devoted practice as a working wife and mother because she is aware that a continued, consistent practice must be efficient, practical, and “as easy and apparent as Grace”.   “Grace is a gift that we already are”. ​ Whether you are a beginner or an adept, whether you have 3 minutes or 3 hours available for daily practice, time or experience is not of the essence. It is the quality of your devotion that produces results. ​ Find her spiritual teachings at https://www.patreon.com/PamelaAaralyn or get your own reading or mentorship at https://www.PamelaAaralyn.com Work with me, your host,  here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Meet Zoey Greco. Zoey has had her intuitive ability her entire life, as well as her gift for healing. Able to describe her past lives and experiences in the beyond as an infant, all through her childhood she was able to "see" what wasn't there and to "hear" what wasn't said. Renowned psychics instantly recognized her as "gifted" and prophesied that she would one day have a powerful impact on the world.In her college years, her abilities seemingly expanded to a bit of an overwhelming degree, and though it was not her life plan, she felt that it was time to make an inevitable shift into healing as her life’s calling.After many gratifying years in private practice serving a global client base of thousands, Zoey began to recognize a thread of connection that wove through her sessions with clients. She felt as though each person was living a different version of a similar story, and was seeking the same thing...a way to be connected to Spirit, and consequently, a way to feel more connected to themselves and to life itself.Through the Mystic Rebel Podcast, her Intuition Activation Mentorship, and through her twice sold out Mystic Rebel Oracle and Crystal decks, Zoey helps others experience healing, discover community, and feel far less alone in their spiritual and personal journeys. She teaches others that we all have the power of intuition and can develop it with the use of many spiritual tools and modalities to manifest a life of endless possibilities. Through sharing real client sessions as well as spiritual lessons and guest interviews with other incredible practitioners, Zoey hopes to introduce spiritual novices to the world of healing, and facilitate deeper growth and expansion for life-long seekers. She wishes for nothing more than to help guide souls back home to Truth and Love.  ___________ Work with me, your host,  here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Join us in this episode as we delve into the world of spirituality, quantum physics, and energy with Adeyemi Adeyosoye. With over 11 years of experience in these fields, Adeyemi brings a unique perspective, blending his background in Mechanical engineering and the Business world with his deep spiritual journey. Adeyemi's passion for spirituality has driven him to read countless books, attend retreats, and invest in courses to accelerate his soul's development. He believes that tapping into our quantum potential is the fastest way to create the reality we desire. Through years of refinement, Adeyemi has developed an energetic formula to help his clients manifest their deepest desires in the shortest time possible. If you're ready to unleash your potential and create the life you desire, this episode is for you. Find Adeyemi at https://adeyemiadeyosoye.com/ _____________________________________________ Work with me, your host, here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Episode 3: Embracing Discomfort Introduction Host: Welcome to the final episode of "Embracing Discomfort." In this episode, we'll examine the role of discomfort in our personal growth, how gratitude plays a crucial part, and whether discomfort is antithetical to happiness. Segment 1: Growth Through Discomfort Host: What would a life of only comfort look like, and how does discomfort contribute to our personal growth? We'll ponder the idea of growth through adversity and how discomfort can be a catalyst for positive change. Imagine a life of perpetual comfort – what aspects of personal development and growth might be lacking in such a scenario? Can you identify specific instances where discomfort has been a key driver of positive change or personal evolution? Segment 2: The Role of Gratitude Host: How does gratitude play a role in navigating discomfort? Can practicing gratitude bring awareness and focus to other areas of our lives, overshadowing the discomfort we may be experiencing? How does practicing gratitude influence your perception of discomfort? Can gratitude act as a tool for reframing challenging situations? Reflect on a time when gratitude played a significant role in helping you navigate through a particularly uncomfortable period. Segment 3: Understanding Discomfort Host: What is discomfort, and why is it so challenging for us to deal with? Is discomfort inherently opposed to happiness, or can the two coexist? We'll wrap up our series by exploring the nuanced relationship between discomfort and our overall well-being. What cultural or societal beliefs contribute to the notion that discomfort is inherently negative? In your personal experience, has there been a moment when discomfort and happiness coexisted or even complemented each other? Host: Thank you for joining us on this journey of "Embracing Discomfort." We hope these discussions have provided insights and tools to navigate the challenges that discomfort brings into our lives. Remember, discomfort is not the enemy – it's an opportunity for growth and self-discovery. Work with me here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Episode 2: Confronting Discomfort Introduction Host: In this second episode of "Embracing Discomfort," we'll focus on how we perceive discomfort and our responses to it. Let's delve into the ways we view and cope with the challenges that arise. Segment 1: Defining Our Perspective Host: How do you see discomfort in totality? Is it merely inconvenient, a distraction, or perhaps even the villain of your life? We'll explore the different lenses through which we interpret discomfort. How do cultural or societal influences shape your perception of discomfort? Can discomfort serve as a catalyst for positive change, challenging your perspective on what is truly valuable in life? Segment 2: Sitting with Discomfort Host: When faced with discomfort, what can we do to sit with it instead of escaping? We'll discuss strategies for embracing the discomfort and explore what we feel when we allow ourselves to fully experience it. What strategies have you employed in the past to sit with discomfort, and how effective were they? Can you recall a specific instance where fully embracing discomfort led to personal growth or a positive outcome? Segment 3: Empowering Ourselves Host: Do we tend to feel like victims when confronted with discomfort? Is this victimhood stemming from external sources or internal struggles? We'll explore ways to empower ourselves during moments of discomfort. Explore situations where you felt like a victim in the face of discomfort. Are these feelings more rooted in external circumstances or internal narratives? How can you proactively shift from a victim mentality to an empowered mindset when confronted with discomfort? Work with me here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support

Thanks for coming back to Spiritual Shit! Welcome to "Embracing Discomfort," a three-part podcast series that dives deep into the various facets of discomfort and how we can navigate through it. In this first episode, we'll explore what discomfort means to us and begin to unravel the complexities surrounding it. Segment 1: Defining Discomfort Host: When you hear the word discomfort, what comes to mind? Is it a physical sensation, an emotional state, or perhaps a combination of both? To kick things off, let's delve into our personal perceptions of discomfort. What specific memories or experiences come to mind when you reflect on times you've felt discomfort? In what ways do you distinguish between physical discomfort and emotional or mental discomfort? Segment 2: Identifying Causes Host: Discomfort can stem from various sources – desires, conflicts, relationships, illness. What's causing your discomfort? In this segment, we'll explore the multifaceted nature of suffering and consider how different aspects of our lives contribute to it. Can you pinpoint a particular aspect of desire, conflict, relationships, or illness that is currently causing you discomfort? How do these various sources of discomfort intersect and influence each other in your life? Segment 3: The Triggers Host: What is triggered within us when we experience suffering? Are these triggers unique to a particular situation, or have we encountered them in other areas of our lives? We'll explore the interconnectedness of triggers and how they relate to our original sources of discomfort. Reflecting on the triggers associated with your suffering, do you notice recurring patterns or themes? Are there instances where triggers from one source of discomfort have unexpectedly surfaced in unrelated areas of your life? Work with me here: Thelovelyalea.com  Get my free MAGIC MENTOR guide at thelovelyalea.com Become a Patreon Member to get behind the scenes, extra content, and workshops.patreon.com/thelovelyalea Follow me on Instagram instagram.com/thelovelyalea ( Remember I will never DM you for readings - watch out for Scammers ! ) Check out my workshops at Spiritualshitschool.com --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thelovelyalea/support