453: Leading Yourself First

As Founder/CEO of the Intrigue Agency, and the Tongue Fu! Training Institute, Sam helps people create respectful, intriguing, proactive communications that are a win for all involved.  Sam's 3 TEDx talks and 10 books - including Tongue Fu!, POP!, Talking on Eggshells, SOMEDAY is Not a Day in the Week - have been featured in NY Times, Fast Company, Forbes, Readers Digest, TED.com, NPR.  Sam's IKIGAI - and one of her great joys - is helping people crystallize a meaningful message/mission that puts the light on in their eyes and creates a rising-tide LEGACY that adds value for all involved. In this episode, Cindra and Sam discuss:  “Words to Lose, and Word to Use”   Her AIR acronym  What to do when you disagree with someone Tools to deescalate a situation And, why her PLAN tool can help you prepare for any conversation HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT SAM   FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.    

Leading yourself can be very difficult because our brain is hardwired to see what is missing. Instead, you can lead yourself to your own personal vision by remembering: What you think about yourself, you become. Thoughts only have power if you believe them.  You can act independent of how you feel. Chance thinking doesn’t lead to success – instead, make time each day to master your thoughts and lead yourself even more deliberately.   This Week's Power Phrase: “I lead myself today.” Quote of the Week: “Work harder on yourself than you do your job.” — Jim Rohn

Allistair McCaw is recognized as one of the world’s leading figures on team culture, leadership, and mindset. For over 25 years, he has consulted and worked with numerous Olympians, Grand Slam Champions, Fortune 500 companies and NCAA Colleges including LSU, SMU, Duke, and the University of Minnesota.  An author of 7 best-selling books and a keynote speaker, Allistair consults and mentors leaders, coaches, teams and organizations. A 29x marathon finisher and former 5-time World Championship competitor in the sport of Duathlon, Allistair resides in Florida. In this episode, Cindra and Allistair discuss:  7 Types of People You Should Surround Yourself With   The 90/9 Rule  3 Steps to Achievement  The Power of Your Story And, 10 Things You Should Let Go Of    HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE LEARN MORE ABOUT ALLISTAIR   FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.  

Confidence is a choice you make daily. Your belief and trust in your ability is your choice. Don’t overthink the feeling of confidence – you might feel nervous and unconfident when you are trying something new. Keep building the foundational skill of confidence. Intentionally decide today to take control of your confidence. Believe and trust that you can!   Power Phrase this Week: “I choose confidence today!” Quote of the Week: “You don’t become what you want, you become what you believe.” - Oprah  

Much of our happiness can be changed by engaging in daily, intentional activities that impact how we act and think. In fact, happiness also comes from the relationships we develop. This week be even more deliberate about building relationships and being present in them.  This Week’s Power Phrase: “I choose happiness by building relationships around me.” Quote of the Week: "Happiness is not the goal…it’s a by product of a life well-lived.” - Elenor Roosevelt

You can never outperform your self-image. Your self-image is your view of yourself. Be careful what you say to yourself about yourself. To level of your self-image, consider the beliefs you want to hold about yourself to reach all of your goals and dreams. This Week's Power Phrase: “I talk to myself powerfully today.” Quote of the Week: “People are never able to outperform their self-image.” - John Maxwell

Dr. Nick Holton is a Co-Founder of The Antifragile Academy whose work focuses on helping individuals, teams, businesses and organizations become better versions of themselves through the application of the cutting-edge science of human flourishing – a synergistic development of both peak performance and overall well-being and fulfillment.  He also runs a podcast alongside the Human Flourishing Program at Harvard. Nick has also directed multiple large scale implementation projects oriented toward human flourishing for schools and organizations around the globe, and has delivered talks and trainings across the US, Europe, India, Hong Kong, Australia, Uganda, Singapore, Mexico, and South America.  Dr. Adam Wright is a Co-Founder of The Antifragile Academy who is a high-performance and executive coach, consultant, and educator who supports a broad range of elite performers whose craft demands their absolute best in volatile, high-stakes environments. He consults with clients in such disparate performance arenas as the front office of the NFL, MLB, the European PGA, MLS, Hollywood, and Wall Street. As a practitioner-scientist, Adam draws from decades of practical experience as a coach and athlete, as well as lessons learned as a researcher and professor.  Adam currently serves as Major League Mental Performance Consultant for the Washington Nationals.   In this episode, Cindra, Nick and Adam discuss:  What does it mean to be antifragile 4 Thinking traps that get in our way of being antifragile Their “Top Down” and “Bottom Up” approach How to create an antifragile environment in sport, work and at home HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE ANTIFRAGILE ACADEMY  FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.  

Today on the podcast we talk about not taking things personally. When you decide to protect yourself and not take things personally, you avoid needless suffering. You cannot be hurt by others. Your anger, irritation, jealousy, frustration, and conflicts with others lessen. You are happier and at your best more often. Now, does that sound good? Power Phrase this Week: “I care what I think about myself more than what other people think of me.”  Quote of the Week: “Not taking things personally is a superpower.” - James Clear

Speaking, training and leading teams have characterized the past 20 years of Andy’s career. He is a keynote speaker, corporate trainer, coach and consultant. He travels weekly to present workshops on leadership and sales-related topics for numerous Fortune 500 firms as well as small and mid-sized companies, trade groups and associations.  In addition to teaching leadership principles for Concordia University’s MBA program, Dr. Andy published his first book, The Golden Principles: Life and Leadership Lessons from a Rescued Dog, which uses simple lessons learned from a Golden Retriever about living well and leading well. It was honored by Amazon.com with a “Top 100 Best Books of the Year” award. Clients hire him to help them develop their leaders because he is one: He owns several businesses, manages a team of key leaders, and owns the ultimate P&L responsibilities for several million dollars of annual revenues.  In this episode, Cindra and Andy discuss:  The 4 Leadership Necessities  The 10 Golden Principles  How and why you should “fail fast and fix” Strategies to be a high-performing leader How he and his wife built a franchise swim school that provided over 200,000 swim lessons last year HIGH PERFORMANCE MINDSET SHOWNOTES FOR THIS EPISODE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ANDY  FOLLOW SIGN UP FOR THE FREE MENTAL BREAKTHROUGH CALL WITH CINDRA’S TEAM TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MENTALLY STRONG INSTITUTE Love the show? Rate and review the show for Cindra to mention you on the next episode.  

Confidence is a choice you make daily. Your belief and trust in your ability is your choice. Dr. Cindra shares how to intentionally decide today to nurture your confidence. Believe and trust that you can! Power Phrase of the Week: “I choose confidence.” Quote of the Week: “Your success will be determined by your own confidence and fortitude.” - Michelle Obama