LIVE Q&A // How kids learn, the downside to praising kids, sensory needs, manners + aggression

When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching):✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong✔️Kids hold in their feelings + needs out of fear of shame✔️Kids are more likely to lie, blame, + defend to feel safeWhen mistakes neutrally explored and NOT connected to child’s worth + belonging (unconditional teaching):✨Kids learn to feel safe when they struggle and grow✨Kids learn that conflict can be a safe place to learn✨Kids learn their + others’ needs + feelings matter✨Kids are more likely to communicate, empathize + innovateGah! We’re all trying to give ourselves grace, patience and love for all the “messing up” we’re doing as adults + parents. ✨Can we try to extend those same things to our kids as they learn and grow, too?Rather than instinctually repeating the inherited phrasing that was passed down to us from generations before, we give you permission to lean into your kids’ learning moments with the very skills you hope to teach them: curiosity, empathy, humor + innovation — a concerted effort to focus on the NEEDS vs the BEHAVIORS.Need a little support? Visit our shop + choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable pdf guides for calm bodies, big feelings + sibling conflict✨ 2-on-1 coaching sessions to build a connective plan✨ Grab a spot in our membership community, The Upbringing Collective!The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment on a sliding scale! You’ll receive:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

We're all stressed! Tune in to learn the 3 tools we use for stress de-escalation in the moment and rhe 4 ways we examine stressful situations or conflict to reduce disconnect and meet needs between us and our kids -- to feel. better and do better all around!Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive, strong-willed and/or neurodivergent kid?✨You’re not alone!Happy 1 year anniversary to The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership!! Grab your discounted spot HERE!Enrollment is open at the $25 founder's rate until 10/31! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricing -- unless you enroll before 10/31 for the founder's sale!We can help you:⋓ Understand your kids’ brain so you can stop yelling “WHY?!”⋓ Reduce power struggles and find better flow as a family unit⋓ Learn when and how to set limits + boundaries with confidence⋓ Master critical self-regulation, mediation + communication skills⋓ Nurture connection to laugh + have fun instead of refereeing⋓ Find natural consequences that help kids learn without coercion⋓ Establish family agreements for more collaboration + less chaos⋓ Feel less alone in challenges with your sensitive/strong-willed kid/sReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you. 💚🧡

We loved connecting with friend and colleague, author and speaker Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo about her new book, Parenting Beyond Power! ✨ Tune in to learn more about ways to use connection and collaboration to transform your family — and the world! Visit Jen's website for ways to purchase her book and check below, Oregon folx, for information on her book tour as it passes through at the end of October! 🎉October 28th: Sip & Sign at Circle RoundOctober 29th: Workshop at Living Room RealtyFrom Jen:Parenting is hard. But when we replace conventional parent-child power dynamics with collaboration, family life gets easier today—and we create a better world for all of us in the future. When our children are stalling, resisting, tantrumming, using mean words, and hitting, we want to make it stop.  But discipline methods like time-outs, countdowns, and 'consequences' teach children that it's OK for more powerful people to control others.Research-based parenting educator Jen Lumanlan offers a simple yet revolutionary framework for rethinking our relationships with children.  We can learn to look beneath challenging behaviors to find and meet children's needs, and ours too - perhaps for the first time in our lives.  This approach helps us to find solutions to conflicts that work for everyone - in our families, and in the wider world.

Tune in to hear the 4 magical ways we can work WITH our kids to help them get homework, chores, hygiene, manners, safety, dressing, toileting and bedtime achieved WITHOUT coercion -- independently, completely, consistently and WITH JOY.Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Happy 1 year anniversary to The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership!!Enrollment is open at the $25 founder's rate until 10/31! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricing -- unless you enroll before 10/31 for the founder's sale!Ready to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you. 💚🧡

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The Upbringing Collective! 👇🏽👇🏻👇🏿The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment at its founding members pricing for ONE WEEK in celebration of its 1 year anniversary! You’ll receive:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn the tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid? ✨ You’re not alone!This week only: enroll in The Upbringing Collective, our coaching + community membership– AND get a FREE 60 min coaching call with us when you enroll for the year! 🎉 The membership includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videosLooking for some support for challenges within mealtime, bedtime, hygiene, transitions, big feelings, resistance, screentime, homework, sibling conflict, anxiety, yelling, mean words and more?Work with us to build values and skills around:🌈 Body positivity + safety🌈 Emotional regulation🌈 Non-violent communication🌈 Boundary-setting🌈 Family agreements🌈 Natural consequences🌈 Humor + perspective🌈 Camaraderie + cooperation🌈 Consent cultureTogether, we’ll:✔️ Reframe our kids + our role based on the current research✔️ Learn shame-free, consent-based tools to reduce conflict✔️ Share challenges + wins in community with like-minded folks✔️ Find confidence + joy alongside our sensitive, strong-willed kids✔️ Examine how our childhoods/culture impact our current parentingReady to set your family up for success this summer and move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃 Join us to show up + grow up!CLICK HERE to learn more --  reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you and support your family! 💚🧡

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The Upbringing Collective! 👇🏽👇🏻👇🏿The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The Upbringing Collective! 👇🏽👇🏻👇🏿The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community membership– is open for enrollment! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The Upbringing Collective! 👇🏽👇🏻👇🏿The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membership– is NOW OPEN for enrollment! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone!Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family!✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The Upbringing Collective! 👇🏽👇🏻👇🏿The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membership– is NOW OPEN for enrollment! 🎉 It includes:✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Exclusive, free access to Upbringing’s shop guides, print downloads + upcoming videos✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on challenge, age + temperament✔️ Monthly book circle + other “clubs” you can create based on interest, identity, location, etc.✔️ A sliding scale of monthly / yearly pricingReady to move this party off social media to spot where we can stay connected, build skills and have some fun?! 😃😃Join us to show up + grow up!LEARN MORE HERE, and reach out with any questions…. We can’t wait to meet you.Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.Email us: [email protected] Upbringing on Instagram: @upbringing.coJoin us to explore topics such as: parenting, motherhood, discipline, resistance, RIE parenting, feminist parenting, toddlers, tantrums, potty training, mindful parenting, conscious parenting, evidence-based parenting, positive parenting, respectful parenting, simplicity parenting and positive discipline.