The Hardcore Therapist 58- Justin Vela

A listener of my recent podcast asked, “How do you help a teen coregulate, especially if they don’t want to be touched or think you’re judging them because of your facial expression?” Helping a teenager coregulate involves offering emotional support while modeling healthy regulation strategies. Teens often experience intense emotions and benefit from a parent’s calm presence and empathetic communication. It’s important to respect their boundaries, use a nonjudgmental tone, and reassure them through active listening. Creating a safe space where they feel heard and understood can make a significant difference in fostering emotional connection and helping them navigate their feelings.

On this episode of The Hardcore Therapist. Today we have legendary photographer Danielle Dombrowski. Since the 1990's Danielle has documenting hardcore shows and festivals all over the Northeast and beyond, creating an unparalleled visual archive of this powerful subculture. From every iconic venues, her work has captured the intensity, passion, and community that define the hardcore scene.ig: @hairdesignbydanielle845ig: @danielledobrowskiphotography

In this episode I am going to give a synopsis of the best therapy books I have read or listened to this year and a few other books that have been important in my own personal development. The book selection is in no particular order and I am going to give a brief synopsis and who I would recommend the books to.Gaslighting Recovery Workbook https://a.co/d/fU5pkGvGaslighting Recovery For Women https://a.co/d/5hMX7XoWhat My Bones Know https://a.co/d/e9BOrpbSex Talks https://a.co/d/0Ue4CAlAttached https://a.co/d/aQac9h4It Didn't Start with You https://a.co/d/bXR0jxbThe Recovering Materalist https://darshanpress.com/shop/the-recovering-materialist-a-memoir-by-tuomas-makinen-gurunistha-das/From Punk to Monk https://a.co/d/8IIQH9yCircle of Friends https://darshanpress.com/shop/circle-of-friends/

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist I had Chris Ruffini, from the iconic Long Island hardcore band Overthrow. Overthrow was onTriple Crown Records in the '90s, are back and set to release their new album, Setting the Price, in the first quarter of next year. Beyond the music, Chris serves as an Assistant Principal and heads the guidance department at his high school—a role that speaks to his dedication both on stage and in education.

Anxiety is a natural response to stress that can be beneficial in helping us stay alert and prepared, but when it becomes overwhelming, it can lead to conditions like Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) and Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). While both involve excessive fear or worry that disrupts daily life, their focus differs. SAD centers on a fear of social situations due to concerns about being judged or humiliated, while GAD involves persistent worry about a wide range of everyday events or activities. SAD is triggered by specific social interactions, such as public speaking or meeting new people, often leading to avoidance behaviors and physical symptoms like blushing or trembling in those settings. In contrast, GAD is characterized by ongoing, generalized worry, with physical symptoms such as fatigue, restlessness, and muscle tension. Despite these differences, both disorders share similarities, including emotional distress, physical symptoms like sleep disturbances, and chronic impacts on quality of life.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, Sarah talks to Gene Meyer about therapy, music, growing up, his first CD at 5 (Rage Against The Machine), being in a Grindcore Band and a therapist.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I answer questions about discussing sex with your partner and how to approach it so you can feel comfortable with open ended questions.

In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist I spoke to Jon Sinko (Backlash and Unrestrained). We talked about being human, being a good quality friend, life as a Global Executive at multiple brands and being a leader.

The science behind coregulation is deeply rooted in our biology and psychology, highlighting how interconnected we are as social beings. Let’s explore the scientific principles that explain why and how coregulation works. Then let's talk about how we can help kids coregulate and teach them emotional resilience.

On todays episode I talked to Justin Vela the hardest working 17 year old in Hardcore from the bay area. He is in Silenced, ANGEL, Stand Tall, and Famine. Justin is the lead singer of Stand Tall and plays guitar in his other bands. We talked about the pressures of having a dad in hardcore, high school, and wanting to focus on whats important.