189 A Deep Dive Into Trauma: A Conscious Perspective on Life's Deepest Pain (and how to resolve it)

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it’s actually a crazy way to live and love.   Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you’re getting into if you’re seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.   The fifth radical relationship perspective is about dealing with our results, the outcomes that we are currently experiencing. When we aren’t getting the results we want, it’s important to discover the root cause. If we misdiagnose the problem, nothing changes. But if we get at the root cause, everything changes. Understanding this radical perspective opens the door to creating the life and love life you’ve always wanted.   This is a very relevant issue, so don’t miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it’s actually a crazy way to live and love.   Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you’re getting into if you’re seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.   The fourth radical relationship perspective is about dealing with thoughts. Are they trustable? Do we act on them? We’re told to “trust our gut,” or “follow our heart,” but should we? Is it wise? Understanding this radical perspective might cause you to reevaluate your interest in mindful relationships.   This is a very relevant issue, so don’t miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it’s actually a crazy way to live and love.   Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you’re getting into if you’re seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.   The third radical relationship perspective is about dealing with criticism. Sometimes called “feedback” or “constructive criticism,” how are we to respond when it’s delivered? If we’re being attacked or accused or judged, what are we to do with that? Understanding this radical perspective might cause you to reevaluate your interest in mindful relationships.   This is a very relevant issue, so don’t miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it’s actually a crazy way to live and love.   Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you’re getting into if you’re seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.   The second radical relationship perspective is about dealing with problems. What is the conscious perspective concerning people or circumstances that are preventing us from getting what we most want? In other words, how do we handle obstacles, problems or even enemies? Understanding this radical perspective might cause you to reevaluate your interest in mindful relationships.   This is a very relevant issue, so don’t miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it’s actually a crazy way to live and love.   Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you’re getting into if you’re seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.   The first radical relationship perspective is about dealing with feelings, especially hurt feelings. How do we handle ours or someone else’s? Who’s responsible for hurt feelings and what do we do about them? Understanding this radical perspective might cause you to reevaluate your interest in mindful relationships.   This is a very relevant issue, so don’t miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

In this current podcast series, I’ve been using the analogy that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.   There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There’s the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?   It’s the same with a relationship. There’s the “purchase phase” (meeting, dating and committing), there’s the “maintenance phase” (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and there’s the “selling phase,” (it’s a lemon, it doesn’t run anymore, time to take the bus.)   Every intimate relationship goes through these phases and it’s important that we know how to navigate each of them—and that’s what this 3-part podcast series is all about.   In this episode, the “ditching phase” is explored. Every relationship ends, sometimes a person passes away (if that’s happened to you, I hope you don’t take offence at my attempt at humor by using “ditch), but other times you discover you “bought a lemon” and it’s time to ditch the thing. As crass as that sounds, we need to talk about when to end a relationship and how to do it consciously.   Don’t miss this playful, insightful episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

In this current podcast series, I’ve been using the analogy that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.   There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There’s the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?   It’s the same with a relationship. There’s the “purchase phase” (meeting, dating and committing), there’s the “maintenance phase” (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and there’s the “ditching phase,” (it’s a lemon, it doesn’t run anymore, time to take the bus.)   Every intimate relationship goes through these phases and it’s important that we know how to navigate each of them—and that’s what this 3-part podcast series is all about.   In this episode, the “maintenance phase” is explored. What type of routine “service” do you need to do on a relationship to make sure it doesn’t break down and cost you a lot of money (divorce, break up)?   Don’t miss this playful, insightful episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

I got to thinking the other day—probably because I have too much time on my hands—that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.   There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There’s the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?   It’s the same with a relationship. There’s the “purchase phase” (meeting, dating and committing), there’s the “maintenance phase” (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and there’s the “ditching phase,” (it’s a lemon, it doesn’t run anymore, time to take the bus.)   Every intimate relationship goes through these phases and it’s important that we know how to navigate each of them—and that’s what this 3-part podcast series is all about.   In this episode, the “purchase phase” is explored. What you will learn is if a relationship has 4 specific “features,” you should “sign on the dotted line” and drive that “car” off the lot.   Don’t miss this playful, insightful episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

The issue of "Trauma" brings up some very important questions, the first of which is, how do you know if you have Trauma (with a capital "T") or just basic baggage/pain from the past and its corresponding neurosis? The second question that comes up is, how do I deal with them? What processes, strategies or support do I need to find freedom from Trauma or basic baggage? These and other questions are the focus of this episode and it's one you don't want to miss.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, but in this, the final episode of the series, there’s a big twist.   Instead of addressing another frequently asked question, as was the case in the previous four episodes, Roy addresses a question that single people should be asking, but usually don’t.   In the final episode of the series, Roy puts the question you should be asking to A.I. (Artificial Intelligence, i.e., ChatGPT) and compares its answers to C.I. (Conscious Intelligence).   This episode’s question is… well, you have to listen to find out!!   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy’s Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   Roy’s Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/   Roy’s 3 Books: ·      Relationship Bootcamp: https://amzn.to/360UsMR ·      Attracting Lasting Love: http://amzn.to/1UnYeYh ·      A Drink with Legs: https://amzn.to/31UBl3K     Roy’s Group Coaching Program: https://coachingwithroy.com/group-coaching/   Roy’s Complimentary 45-min. Coaching Session: To set up an appointment, email him at [email protected] or call his cell 407-687-3387.   The Attracting Lasting Love podcast explores the dynamics of mature and adult dating, delving into the issues of emotional intelligence, the law of attraction, and the quest for a life partner or soulmate, while offering conscious insights and mindful advice on navigating modern relationships.