I wanted to create a space where ordinary men can speak their minds and hearts without judgment. Men aren't allowed to express how they feel or think and thus create a generation of men who are unavailable. We need to break this cycle to be better men to ourselves and those around us; we, they deserve it. I'm not here to thrust my beliefs onto you, I'm here to have an open conversation about the direction men are taking now, and what can we do about it. If you want to be a part of this movement, come join me and start some conversations.
43:50Well, this one was an unexpected long episode, hopefully, it was helpful! Though here are some helpful links I've found on my little researching escapade.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/angerhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/what-your-anger-may-be-hidinghttps://www.apa.org/topics/anger/recognize★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
42:34Here's the article from the website psyche.co that I'm subscribed too, would encourage you to check out more of their material too! https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-be-a-man-who-has-inner-strength-and-emotional-resilienceCNN piece: https://www.cnn.com/videos/tv/2021/04/20/amanpour-mens-mental-health-andrew-reiner-michael-mccarthy.cnnMen's app "Tethr" trying it out personally right now, I'll let you know how it goes. https://www.tethr.men/Men's groups: https://evryman.com/https://mensgroup.com/https://mankindproject.org/Hope these help you and please if you're considering suicide give the national hotline a call: 800-273-8255 for the U.S. I'm not sure in your own country, might need to double check. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
31:13Here's some links I've found out perspective-taking that could be helpful for you!Remember! Be responsive, not reactive. Look to understand first before being understood.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-personal-narrative/201906/the-power-perspective-takinghttps://ampcreative.com/what-is-perspective-taking/#:~:text=It%20has%20been%20defined%20as,and%20emotionally%20to%20the%20situation.%E2%80%9D★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
37:53"Be your authentic self." What does that even mean? I'll be sharing my own thoughts about being my authentic self.
37:58Here's the link to the psychology today page on trauma: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/trauma★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
Therapy Update #4
33:44Here's the link: https://www.psychologytoday.com/usPut in your zip code and find a therapist near you! I had some specific filters on because I wanted someone who can understand what I've experienced in life and would encourage you to do the same. Find a therapist who cares and is willing to be there for you, therapy is a sacred space and you should feel heard and seen in there if you're not you need to find a new therapist. Don't forget to ask if they do a sliding scale to help those who may not be in the best financial situation.Also, check out mental health apps, I personally tried them first to see if I liked it but ended up finding that the time and money was better spent on in-person therapy, it could be different for you but you never know unless you try. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
41:25RULER - Recognize, Understand, Label, Express, Regulate.Here's the book I mentioned in the episode: https://www.amazon.com/Permission-Feel-Emotional-Intelligence-Well-Being/dp/1250212839/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=permission+to+feel&qid=1624855755&sr=8-1If you ever want to check out the mood meter simply googling "Mood Meter" the pictures will show you the 4 quadrants I mentioned.Here's also a link to the app if you want to download it and track your mood on your phone. https://moodmeterapp.com/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
35:23Talking about some of my personal values in today's episode in hopes to get you thinking about your own.
37:15Here are the three articles I've found that could explain a little more on Body Dysmorphia Disorder.1) https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1121529/#:~:text=Men%20with%20body%20dysmorphic%20disorder,or%20shape)%2C%20or%20genitals.&text=The%20preoccupations%20are%20difficult%20to,consume%20many%20hours%20each%20day.2) https://americanaddictioncenters.org/male-eating-disorders/body-dysmorphia3) https://bddfoundation.org/muscle-dysmorphia-body-image-in-men/★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★
41:19Here's the book that I'm currently reading if you're interested in reading it youself.https://www.amazon.com/Big-Little-Man-Alex-Tizon/dp/1328460142/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=big+little+man&qid=1621231821&sr=8-1First autobiography of an Asian male that I've read, might not be the last tbh.★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★