Savage Lovecast Episode 997

Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy for 1/2 off! That’s just $24 from Dec 1-31.  A recent widow grapples with a surge in her libido. A gay man has been a top for all of his sexual life. Now that's he's a dating a man who wants to top him every now and again, can he learn to like it? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Kelly Foster Lundquist, Author of "Beard." 20 years after her divorce from her closeted gay husband, Lundquist writes about her experience as a "beard." She and Dan discuss how unfair and damaging the closet can be. After 10 glorious days, a straight man got dumped and then ghosted. Which hurts more? Ouch [email protected]. 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Beducated, the leading platform for pleasure-based sex education for adults. Go to Beducated.com and use the code SAVAGE for 65% a yearly pass.  This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From beards to bondage to bisexuality, and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, in these darkest of dark times.

Hear the harrowing tale of the masochist lad who walked into the dungeon and ended up getting flogged...a lot. Did he like it? Would he do it again? Listen and find out. Do you have a tale to tell? Write it up and send it in: [email protected] Do you have a comment for this show? Record it and send it in to [email protected], or call 206-302-2064 It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Who is Dan Savage? Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

It's the Magnum Gift sale Dec 1–31! Gift a Magnum subscription to a friend or enemy at 50% off, just $24! Savage.love/gift. Listen in on Dan's conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she's been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband's ex-lover. A woman loves receiving anal sex so much, that she comes immediately and then needs her husband to get outta there. How can she prolong both of their pleasure? On the Magnum, Mpox cases are on the rise worldwide. Dan brings on queer sexual health teacher Dr. Carlton Thomas to give us the scoop. He was a clear and steady source of information during the first Mpox outbreak, and he's here guide us today. Finally, a middle-aged straight man who "broad"casts his feminist allyship on social media has a gaggle of younger women he's collected from his comments section who all expressed interest in him. He *may* want to try to commit to one of them, but doesn't want to make mistakes from his past. If he chooses just one, how can he "not get bored and fuck it all up?" 206-302-2064 [email protected] This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Blueland. Going eco has never been easier. Revolutionary, refillable cleaning essentials eliminating single-use plastic. Right now,  get 15% off your first order by going to Blueland.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Overload by Maxxm: supplements that leave a lasting impression in the bedroom. For a discount go to maxxm.com/savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

Meet Chrissy, a bisexual woman and self-identified pervert, who went to a sex club for the first time. What happened there? Well, let's just say you may feel...shocked. Want to tell your tale? Write us at [email protected] Want to hear more from Dan Savage? Listen to the Savage Lovecast @Savage.Love. [email protected] 206-302-2064 Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

We know you're struggling. So we brought in the most soothing human on the planet-Therapy Jeff- to offer tips on how to get through Thanksgiving with your nasty family. In short, don't take the bait, find your family buddy, and if you are alone on the holiday, get yourself to a gay bar. Also, a woman who considers herself bad in bed wonders how she can find a "sex teacher." And, a woman wonders if she has her sub drink her pee while she is on SSRIs, will he ingest her meds? "Gobble" it up! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase. This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. This episode is brought to you by Feeld, a dating app where the open-minded can meet the like-minded. Download Feeld on the App Store or Google Play.

On this weeks After Action Report, Dan spoke with Milo, a trans man who tried nipple torture after getting top surgery. This is a joyful tale of sexual recovery. We hope you enjoy it. We would very much like to hear about YOUR freaky funtimes. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to [email protected] with the subject line "After Action Report." We'll get in touch! Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts

She dated her neighbor for a while, until it became clear that she couldn’t enjoy sex with him because his giant, massive, gargantuan penis was too big for her. Now that she is starting to date other men, should she tell them the history of her friendly neighbor 5 doors down? A woman has enjoyed friends-with-benefits relationship with a man where all they do is cuddle and have sex. No outings with friends. No movies. No hikes. Now that he is beginning to get serious with another woman, can they maintain this friendship *without* the benefits? On the Magnum, a very miserable woman considers doing sex work after applying for hundreds of jobs with no results. Dan brings on Ashley Bloomberg- a sex researcher who recently published a paper on the reasons sex workers in Las Vegas pursued their careers. The difference between doing sex work under duress vs. doing sex work out of genuine desire is stark. And, it’s the nightmare scenario: A queer, polyamorous woman dating a trans woman has a 14 year-old son who has gone full conservative Christian on her. The lad thinks that sex outside of marriage is an unforgivable sin. What is going on with him, and how can the caller bring him to a more kind and reasonable mindset? Call with your questions, or you will be banished to the lake of fire. [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Hims, providing affordable access to ED treatment, online. Start your free online visit today at Hims.com/Savage. This episode is brought to you by Aura Frames, the best digital picture frame, and the best gift EVER. For a limited time, visit AuraFrames.com and get $45 off Aura’s best-selling Carver Mat frames by using promo code SAVAGE at checkout. This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From bondage to bisexuality, cuckolding to crossdressing and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage is a cultural force for sex positivity, when we most need it.

For this After Action Report, Dan chats with Ember, a life-long sneeze fetishist. She gets turned on when her lovers sneeze, and thus, stocks up on imported sneezing powder. And although she prefers being a sneezing dom, she also delved into submission and share the details. Hear about her journey. We would very much like to hear about YOUR journey. Write about your new sexual experience and send it to [email protected] with the subject line "After Action Report." We'll get in touch! Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts

A mother's challenge: her 12 year-old son's lesbian friend (who isn't out to her parents,) said that she was into gooning. Right in front of her! The mom wants to be an ally, but also would like them to back off on the oversharing. Sometimes on a sex advice podcast, you have to call a veterinarian. A man's new girlfriend, (a professed "animal lover,") lets the cat hump her leg to completion. He thinks this is kind of gross. Dan brings on a veterinarian from Seattle's Urban Animal to confirm if it is indeed "gross." On the Magnum, we all know that LENGTH DOES NOT MATTER. But what about... girth? Sex researcher Dr. Debby Herbenick is on to talk about the physiology of female pleasure. Also, she and Dan discuss the continuing bewildering popularity of choking. A woman has a fantastic, indulgent, skilled lover. She is loud but non-verbal when she comes. He wants to know exactly when she is going over the falls. How can she let him know without having to say "NOW!" You should ask Dan a question NOW! [email protected] 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by Erika Lust.com -the world’s leading platform for ethical, cinematic adult films. Right now, my listeners get 45% off your subscription when you enter the code SAVAGE45 at erikalust.com. That’s Erika Lust with a k! Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Get 20% off your first order by visiting ForiaWellness.com/Savage This episode is brought to you by Carafem, an abortion and reproductive healthcare provider that offers both in person care in Atlanta, Chicago, Washington DC and telehealth options for abortion pills by mail in 20 states. Carafem’s team of licensed medical professionals provide personalized abortion care options focused on your needs, preferences, and values. Visit Carafem.org to learn more. Subscribe to the Magnum⁠ for the full interviews, chats with Dan, and more! Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From polyamory, to pegging, gay rights to gooning and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

After Action Report #3 Squirting Kira This week, meet a woman who finally, after YEARS of persistence, has learned how to squirt. Practice makes perfect, and now she has mastered the messy art. Hear all about how she got there, what she plans for her squirting future, and "Is female ejaculate actually pee?" Kira ends the controversy definitively. Have you gotten out of (or into) your comfort zone? Write us at [email protected] with the subject line: After Action Report, and we might get back to you. Do you like this? Yeah you do. There's more of this sort of thing at the Savage Lovecast, Dan Savage's advice show. Listen up at Savage.Love or wherever you get your podcasts